David Morin

8 years ago, I committed to build my social confidence and become great at connecting with people.

Hundreds of books and thousands of interactions later, I'm ready to share with the world what I’ve learned.

The interest in my findings has been beyond my dreams. We now have 30 000 members taking our courses. Perhaps you’ve seen my writing in magazines like Business Insider and Lifehacker.

Follow me on Twitter or Read more.

8 years ago, I committed to build my social confidence and become great at connecting with people.

Hundreds of books and thousands of interactions later, I'm ready to share with the world what I’ve learned.

The interest in my findings has been beyond my dreams. We now have 30 000 members taking our courses. Perhaps you’ve seen my writing in magazines like Business Insider and Lifehacker.

Follow me on Twitter or Read more.

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  1. Anonymous

    Absolutely amazing..thank you

  2. Cam

    Also for step 2 I might have misunderstood, but is it saying a bad listener talks about themselves instead of reflecting the question back to the person you’re talking to? Isn’t it a good thing to mix attentive questions as well as talking about yourself so the conversation doesn’t feel awkward like a one way interrogation?

    • Viktor Sander

      It’s quite a complex issue. But in the example there, it would in most cases have been better to let them end their story properly first. And then, when they’re done with that one, you can relate to it if you want to. When you try to relate back too early, it feels more like you interrupt them and take their moment. Give them validation and show that you fully hear and understand them before you start talking about yourself.

  3. Cam

    This web page and video make a lot of sense to me and I think it is well presented and captures useful and valid information. The question I have is this: It seems like there are too many pointers mentioned in this article to focus on at once during a social interaction. What should people do about that?

    • Viktor Sander

      Great question! Start by just focusing on one thing and practice that. Just becoming better at one of these things will make a big difference in your life.