How to Get Past Small Talk (Video of Conversations Between Strangers)

 

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  1. Feel like it takes forever to make friends (or it never happens)
  2. Feel like people won’t be interested in what you have to say (or that you aren’t interesting enough)
  3. Get stuck in your head because of self-consciousness or social anxiety
  4. End up beating yourself up for stupid things you’ve said
  5. Feel uncomfortable about being judged if you open up
  6. Feel like people will think you’re weird if you talk to them
  7. Don’t know what to say
  8. Get stuck in small talk

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  1. I’m an introvert through and through, but when I’m conversing with somebody else, I’m super loud and talkative and laugh a lot to sound lively. Does that make me look like I’m really having a good time or can people see right through me?
    Just so you know, I feel 110% awkward doing that, it does not feel good at all and I just want to hide under a blanket, how do I fix my life??

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  2. I know how to make a conversation going but always the person I talk to just wants the conversation to end and leaves idk y but it’s a thing that has made me feel really bad about myself and btw it really awkward too I felt is there something wrong they see in me??.

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    • Hi noah,
      I’m normally the one who’s always trying to leave conversations, like the people you talk to.
      The reason I do that is not because I see something bad in the other person, or because I don’t enjoy our conversation. I leave because I’m so insecure that I’m afraid that the OTHER PERSON will see something bad in me, or that they don’t enjoy our conversation.
      I think that’s the reason why the people who you talk to tend to leave the setting. The truth is, they’re just as insecure as you might be.
      The way to fix this is just to be open when you talk to them, but take care not to get too close until you’re sure that you’re both comfortable. You can check by watching their body language. Make the other person feel as if you genuinely want to spend time talking with them. And if you’re still being left alone, be patient and wait for them to come to you.
      This is advice I wish people I talked to would hear. I really don’t mean to make you feel like you’re doing something wrong, I just need that encouragement. So do those people.
      I hope this helps.

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  3. Something I would like to be better at when it comes to conversations is starting a conversation. I struggle with this because I just don’t know what to say. And I fear judgment.

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  4. I guess I can relate to people easily, but whenever someone asks me a question I don’t immediately respond because I get flustered and nervous and a little self conscious. I don’t know how to easily reply to the person and make that into a conversation. As a result, people just look at me this way and think I’m weird.

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  5. Trying too hard to think of what to say and then get anxious and tense when I can’t think of anything. I want to be able to let the conversation flow more naturally, and in turn bond with more people. This would make me feel more connected with myself and the world.

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  6. I want to be able to think of things to say that will interest people in talking to me. I do not like one-sided conversations where I had to do all the talking and I’d feel like a fake.

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  7. Hi,

    I would like to have longer conversations than a few minutes without the need of thinking that I will run out of topics or things to say. Just the idea of ending the conversation creates a bad feeling (sometimes a bit anxious). I can’t stop to put a kind of smiley face just so that I look kind and not just stupid and boring.
    1 to 1 meetings are the worst ones since it is much more difficult to “hide”.

    Thanks!

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  8. I can’t make a two minutes speech in a conversation, I run out of breathe, i feel my voice is not likeable. I feel this personality has made grow up without confidence.

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  9. I’d like to become better in handling a conversation with out panicking. Being able to give precise and instant answers. Asking relevant questions such that the next person is not bored.

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  10. What would you like to be better at when it comes to making conversation?.

    I would like to be better at holding my exciting comment in the middle of someone’s else’s story .I get so into what they are saying I’m excited curious or confused. So commenting during etc…is so just second nature. I dislike it so badly.

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  11. Hi david in answer to your q i wanted to tell i am very boring and quiet i want to be talkative and expresss my ideas and be interesting and fun to talk to

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  12. Yo David!

    Thanks for the great post! I feel like I can put this into practice. Very solid. Now for those 100 fails to get the win, right?

    In answer to your question, hmm. I’d like to know…how to socialize when you feel like crap, but still need to get out there. Either depressed, or angry, or ‘with an external locus of control’ attitude and so on. I confess I have a hard time hiding my emotions, which is great for authenticity, but also horrid for…inauthenticity, haha. I may just wall off emotionally, or come off as really fake. I’m sure you know the drill. I, for one, would be interested in a post covering that, and how to not hurt friendships, or even grow them, while in the pits.

    Hope that returns some value. I appreciate what you’ve shared. Stay solid man!

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