How to tell if a guy likes you: 38 signs he has a crush on you

How do you know if a guy likes you? He may be acting friendly and flirty towards you, but how can you know if that’s just his personality? You want to know if he has a crush on you rather than just being someone who hits on every other woman he meets.

It can be pretty hard to figure out if the attention a guy is giving you is genuine. Hopefully, this guide can give you some clarity.

Sections

  1. Signs a guy likes you
  2. How can you tell if a coworker likes you?
  3. Does your best friend like you?
  4. How to be sure whether or not a guy friend likes you

38 signs a guy likes you

When a guy has a crush on you, his behavior towards you will usually change. However, it can be difficult to figure out. He may be acting nervous because he’s shy or flirty because he’s friendly and outgoing.

Here are the best signs to help you tell if a guy has a crush on you or not.

1. He stares at you

You probably know how hard it is not to look at someone you like. Prolonged eye contact without talking is a big tell that a guy likes you.

But to be fair, it’s common for guys to stare at any girl they find attractive. And it’s an easy way for him to show his interest without having to approach you. But who knows, he might even have a secret crush on you.

2. He mirrors you

Mirroring means that his body language, posture, or even what he’s saying reflects what you said or did.

Examples of mirroring:

  • When you take a sip of your glass, he also takes a sip of his glass
  • When you cross your legs, he crosses his legs
  • When you get very animated/passionate in a conversation, he also gets animated
  • When you lean in, he also leans in
  • When you laugh, he laughs

Note that mirroring is done subconsciously when he has a good rapport with you. But it can also be done consciously if he wants to impress or bond with you. It’s a great sign either way.

3. He added you on social media

Adding you on social media means he wants to keep in contact with you and might be interested in you. This is also good because now you can more easily start a conversation with him online.

4. His texts are longer than yours

If his texts are about the same length or longer than yours, that’s great. It’s especially good if they’re longer than yours.

If he usually gives short answers compared to you, that’s a bad sign. When you’re giving him long replies but not getting the same in return, it means you’re probably too eager.

In that case, it’s good to step back a bit and try to match him better. Keep in mind that some people are naturally better at others at texting.

5. He teases you

Most forms of teasing (even mean teasing) are usually a sign he’s interested in you. It means he’s trying to create a flirty vibe between you and that he wants a reaction from you.

Have fun with it, and don’t be afraid to tease him back! 😉

6. He’s leaning in

If he’s leaning in toward you, that shows he wants to get closer to you (or he’s really passionate about what he’s saying). When a guy has a crush on you, it can feel like he’s magnetically drawn to you.

7. He’s getting physically close to you

If you’re in a conversation and you feel like he’s edging closer to you, or as if he’s almost uncomfortably too close to you, that’s a good sign. He may be attracted to you and wants to feel physically and mentally closer to you.

Note that different cultures have different “personal spaces.” So, if he’s from a different culture than you, see how close he gets to others to see if it’s just you.

8. He offers you a massage

This is one of the most obvious tells that a guy likes you. Offering a massage is a nice thing to do, but it’s also a smooth way for a guy to get you both touching each other. (Remember to offer him one back if you like him!)

9. He smiles at you

If he’s smiling toward you from afar, that’s an invitation to approach him. (I’m assuming you didn’t just forget to put your pants on when leaving home.)

If he’s smiling toward you when you’re in a conversation, that’s a sign he likes you. Especially if he has a light smile while you’re not even joking.

10. He’s giving you mixed signals

Mixed signals are really tricky to interpret and can make anyone confused. But in most cases, they do mean he’s interested in you. Here are the most common reasons why he’s giving you mixed and confusing signals.

Nine reasons why he’s giving you mixed signals:

  1. He doesn’t want to come off as too eager
  2. He’s shy
  3. He’s nervous and insecure
  4. He’s afraid of seeming desperate
  5. He’s afraid you’ll reject him
  6. He’s inexperienced in flirting
  7. He’s following some weird rules or pick-up tips he’s read
  8. He’s just flirting with you (because flirting is all about giving mixed signals)
  9. He likes the attention or validation he gets from you but isn’t really interested in you

Giving mixed signals may mean a guy likes you, but it doesn’t mean he’d make a good partner. If someone sometimes ignores you or is mean to you, you should avoid dating even if you have a mutual crush on each other. You deserve a partner who won’t have you second-guessing yourself.

11. He compliments you

Getting a compliment from a guy your age is a good sign. If he’s giving you compliments about how pretty you are, it’s an even better sign.

It can be hard to tell a friendly compliment from a romantic one because they can sound exactly the same. To know for sure, look for other signs he’s also giving you or describe your situation in the comments below.

12. His pupils are large

If his pupils get large when you’re in a conversation, you’re doing something right. This one is quite subtle because pupil size is primarily determined by light levels, but secondarily attraction can also increase pupil size.

13. He makes eye contact with you

When a guy has a crush on you, it can be so hard for him to keep his eyes off of you. You can notice this if he’s holding eye contact with you for slightly too long.

It can almost feel a little weird or intense when it happens. And that’s great (if you like him).

14. He looks at you with open body language

This sign is most useful at a place with some background music, for example, at a bar or a club.

If he’s moving in rhythm with the background music and at the same time looking at you, that’s a sign he’s attracted to you. Dancing like that and looking at you is an inviting form of body language. That tells you he wants your attention and is trying to get you to make a move.

15. He straightens his posture

Is he straightening his back and standing up more straight? It means he’s a bit self-conscious when hanging out near you and wants to make a good impression.

It’s not a strong sign because most single guys want to make a good impression on attractive girls. But if you see it together with many other signs, it means more.

16. He faces you in group situations

If he’s facing you more often than he’s facing others in a group, that’s a sign he’s into you and values you more than others in the group. This is especially telling if you’re not the one talking the most in the group.

17. His feet are pointing towards you

If his feet are pointing toward you, that’s a sign in the same line as if his body is facing you. He’s subconsciously focused on you, which makes his feet point toward you.

18. He fiddles with his clothes or accessories

This could be because of nervosity, but it can also be because he wants to look good in front of you. It’s a classic sign of attraction.

19. His palms face you

If the palms of his hands are pointed in your direction, he might be interested in you. It’s a small sign, but it’s still positive because it’s part of his open and welcoming body language toward you.

20. He touches you when you touch him

For example, if you touch his arm, does he touch you in a similar area later on in the conversation? If he does reciprocate your touch, that’s a great sign.

If he’s shy or inexperienced, he might not feel comfortable touching you back, even if he has a crush on you.

21. He is extra touchy with you

A good tell he likes you is if he’s touching you unusually much compared to others.

Common areas to touch are arms, shoulders, back, hands, or thighs. Hands or thighs are usually more intimate if he touches those.

22. You have “peripheral physical contact”

Peripheral physical contact is when some parts of your body are in contact with each other when you are doing something else.

A good example is when you’re both sitting down, and your thighs barely touch each other.

This kind of passive physical contact means a lot and can build a lot of suspense and attraction. It’s the best feeling being close to someone you got a crush on.

23. He gives you more of his attention than others

The more attention he gives you, the more interested he usually is in you. Compare this to how much attention he gives to other girls also hanging out with him or in the same group as you.

For example, If you’re in a group and he seems to direct most of his attention toward you. It could be that he’s asking you lots of questions or that he’s laughing more than others at your jokes. Or just listening more intently to you.

24. He blushes when you talk or make eye-contact

He might just be shy, but he’s probably a bit extra self-conscious around you because he likes you. This makes him blush around you.

Social anxiety can also cause blushing. But it’s still a great sign.

25. He seems to look in your direction from far away

Guys can be a bit sneaky when they want to check you out. They can make it seem like they’re only looking in your direction or just grazing you with their eyes. And if he has sunglasses, it’s even harder to know if he’s checking you out.

So if he’s looking in your direction, especially if he does it several times, he’s probably checking you out.

26. He keeps the conversation going

What happens when there’s a pause in the conversation or if you stop talking? If he seems eager to get the conversation going again, that’s good. If he lets the conversation die out or excuses himself, he may not be that interested (unless he’s just shy).

If you have problems with the conversation dying out, check out this guide on keeping the conversation going with a guy.

27. He quickly replies when you text or message him

A quick reply is a good sign he likes you. Also, if he replies with several texts to your one text, that’s even better.

However, if he likes you, he may also delay his replies to avoid seeming needy or desperate. But as long as he replies, it’s all good. If he’s slow to reply, it could just mean he’s busy, or he doesn’t like texting, so don’t read too much into it.

28. He texts or calls first

Is he the one initiating contact, or are you? If he is, that probably means he’s interested in you.

But if he never calls or texts first, that shows a lack of interest. In that case, it can be good to take a step back to see if he will take initiative. If you’re always so quick to take initiative, he might never even have a chance to do it first.

29. He texts you often

Compare this to how often you text him. He’s eager if he’s texting more often than you, and you’re more eager if you’re the one texting more often. If he’s sending you several texts in a row without a reply, it’s a stronger sign.

30. He becomes awkward in a conversation with you

Does he stammer, stutter, or otherwise become awkward with you? This could mean that he feels shy or self-conscious around you. When a guy likes you, it’s common that he gets a bit extra flustered when talking to you. That’s because he gets uncomfortable and doesn’t want to mess up in front of you. It’s kind of cute, isn’t it?

31. He doesn’t back off if you get a bit too close

If he doesn’t even flinch when you get a bit too close to his personal space, that’s a sign he wants you close to him.

If you take a step closer, and he backs off by a step, that’s a sign he’s a bit more reserved toward you.

32. He talks about things he wants to do with you

Planning or mentioning things he wants to do with you in the future strongly indicates some sort of interest, romantic or platonic.

Example: If you’re talking about a newly opened restaurant, they say “We should go there someday!” or “I’ll show you how amazing that place is!”

33. He’s happy to discover you have something in common

If he’s happy, that’s good. This sign is extra strong if it’s something very trivial, such as you living in the same part of town, being the same age, or you both like pizza. For more tips, check out this guide on how to talk to a guy you like.

Example: You discover that you both grew up in the same city, and he gets really excited about it even if it’s no big deal.

34. He asks you personal questions

Personal questions are telling you that he wants to know more about you and is interested in you. The more he asks, the better.

Example: Asking about your plans for the future, your childhood, or your favorite food.

35. He asks you about your plans

Asking about your plans for the day or weekend might just be empty small talk, but it could also be him trying to open a window where you can meet again and hang out. It’s more likely it’s a sign of interest if he brings it up near the end of the conversation.

36. He tries to make you jealous

This is a strong sign he’s interested in you. But it’s also a sign he’s emotionally immature and manipulative. I would avoid someone acting like that. You deserve to be treated with respect.

37. He’s told his family about you

This one is most relevant once you’ve already started dating. But it’s such a huge sign of interest (and approval) that I think it’s worth mentioning. It’s even bigger if he’s from a culture where approval from the family is important.

If he’s told his family, it means he is visualizing and planning a future with you. Congrats!

38. He stays to talk with you even though his friends have left

This is a big tell. If you’re in some sort of group conversation with him and his friends, and all his friends leave, but he stays – he’s probably into you. It still might not be a romantic interest if you just have a great conversation and have lots in common.

An example could be when you’re at a party, and all his friends leave to get a bite to eat, but he stays with you.

How can you tell if a coworker likes you?

At work, It can be hard to tell if a coworker is flirting with you or just being friendly. Usually, guys play it safer at work because he doesn’t want to create any awkward situations if he would be rejected. So, he might be probing to see if you like him before he gives you any clear signs of interest.

Six ways to tell if a coworker likes you:

  1. He comes over to talk with you as often as possible
  2. He often teases you
  3. It seems like he’s flirting, but you’re not really sure
  4. He tries to hang out near you when possible
  5. He tries to be funny when he’s near you
  6. He’s eager to do any work tasks where you work together
  7. He goes above and beyond to help you out at work
  8. He gets weird or stiff when he’s near you, but he’s normal with everyone else

How do you know if your best friend likes you?

Here are seven signs your best friend might have started liking you as more than a friend:

  1. He’s acting differently from how he usually behaves
  2. He seems jealous or dismissive of other guys you might like
  3. He’s suddenly extra touchy-feely
  4. He seems unusually interested in your interests
  5. He seems extra needy
  6. He’s told you he has feelings for you

If you’re still unsure, let me know about your situation in the comments below, and I’ll do my best to help.

How do you know for sure if a guy friend is interested?

You can’t know for sure if a cute guy is interested based on a sign on this list. But there are a few questions you can ask yourself:

  1. Is he regularly showing you signs of interest?
  2. Does he act differently to others than to you? (So he’s not just flirty with everyone.)
  3. Has he shown any particularly strong signs of interest?
  4. Can you see any patterns in his behavior toward you?

Are you still unsure if he likes you?

Write down your situation in the comments below in as much detail as possible. That way, others can help you out by giving their opinion. I also expect you to help someone else by replying to their comment. We need to all pitch in and help each other.

Viktor is a Counselor specialized in interpersonal communication and relationships. He manages SocialSelf’s scientific review board. Follow on Twitter or read more.

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  1. There is a guy that I have been friends with for over 5 years. Sometimes it seems likes me and other times no. 3 days ago, for the first time, he invited me to go somewhere with him. It is a place that is abandoned that closer a long long time ago. We had a blast. Didn’t drink or anything. Even climbed a fence and onto a roof. He was so impressed and so excited that I actually did that. He told me that none of the other girls(now ex girlfriends, friends) he tried to get to do it would do it because they were too scared. He was amazed, blown away, so happy, etc. Does any of this indicate that he likes me?

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  2. There is this guy at work, we have became friends and I have become to really like this guy. Some of my coworkers tell me that they can tell we like each other but I have always been bad at figuring this kind of thing out. He gets really talkative with me even more when it is one on one. I have noticed that his voice sometimes gets higher when he sees me and starts talking to me. He jokes and teases me alot, sometimes about sexual things and I will joke and tease back. I started touching his arms and standing a little closer to him and he doesn’t move away. When I’m teasing him I will sometimes call him hon, sweetie or honey and he will play along calling me names like that right back. He told me once that he hopes I keep the same work schedule as him. I have caught him staring at me, the other night when another guy was talking to me I saw him watching us. My guy friend also stood up from me with my boss saying that he would help me get a task done. He always helps me when I ask and sometimes he comes around were I’m working to check up on me. He has started to open up to me about his friends and family. He seems like he gets mad when someone makes me sad. He smiles whenever he sees me and most of the time we are talking he is smiling. One of the only things that throws me off is that he doesn’t really text. He does every now and than but sometimes when I text him he doesn’t reply. Sometimes if it was a question he will wait to answer it face to face. If anyone can help me decode this it would be a really big help. Thank you

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    • He stares at me but immediately looks away when I look at him….he is.married and I work as a househelp so last night he knocked my bedroom door just to ask me about his phone and asked me to call him…he like making funny jokes and glance at me

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  3. Hello,

    I first met this boy at the orientation for the musical that we are trying to perform. He is responsible for the background and the film. I am one of the dancers for the production. When we first met in early December, he had a girlfriend (I think). We did not even talk to each other that day. But, when I met him for the second time in late February, he started talking to me and asked about myself and whether I remember him. When I told him I did remember him, he seemed happy and told me that he was glad I remembered him. Later that day, our club decided to go eat dinner together. And when our club decided to carpool to the restaurant, he sat next to me in the car and when we arrived, he also sat next to me and kept on giving me meat (we went to a Korean BBQ place). It also seemed like he was showing off his cooking skills because he cooked the whole time. Also he asked for my phone when we got to the restaurant saying that he might need to contact me regarding the filming for the musical. So, I tried to give him my number, but he asked for my phone to put in his number and so I gave him my phone. After he was done saving his phone number on my phone, he called himself with my phone to get my phone number. That day, he was also very kind to help me carry my bag (it was heavy and I had a lot to carry). However, he never contacted me…

    After that day, he was always very nice to me whenever I went to practice (every Saturday). He smiled and waved hi when I arrived at practice. He always opens door for me, helps me carry my bag, and walks at the same speed as me when we walk somewhere together. He always sits and stands right next to me. He offers me his cold drink when I am sweating and seem tired. He faces me when he is talking to other girls, but he seems shy or uninterested when he talks to me, especially when there are a lot of people around us. I don’t know if it is because he doesn’t want to talk to me or he is shy, but he does try to talk to me whenever I am on break. However, he does not linger around when he says goodbye and he never contacts me first when we are not together. When I contacted him first, he responded back and we texted back and forth and he told me that we should go out and eat sometime. But then, he stopped texting me after three days of texting together. So I texted him first again after 2 days of no contact and he responded, but we went silent again. I called him “accidentally” after a month of no contact and he answered, but the call was pretty dry. I don’t understand, I thought he was interested in me. Now, I am not sure at all. He seems like he is interested in me when we are together, but he seems uninterested when we are apart. Is he not interested in me anymore or is he just shy to contact me first? What should I do? Should I just move on? Am I chasing him? Please help me

    *Btw, we only met like 3 times in total due to the Coronavirus…

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    • I forgot to say, when we were at the Korean BBQ place, someone asked us if we were a couple. He said that we weren’t and that he break up with his girlfriend and that he is single now.

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  4. There’s a guy I work with im totally into.We talk and joke alot.He opens up to me as if we known each other for years.He constantly stares at me even in group conversations his eyes is on me only.He always find a reason to touch me and its nice.He knows that I like him and he stills act the same towards me.I read some of the signs posted but im not completely sure if he likes me back cause he wont say it.He always looks out for me and asked me to trust him and I do.He told me he trust me with any and everything as well.We confide in each other and can talk about everything.He seem to love wrestling with me every chance he get and a few weeks ago he walked by me smiled and winked at me.He is really different than the usual guys i date and its so
    much to this man.He even told me about his future plans.Am I reading to
    much into it?

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  5. There’s this guy I really have a crush on. He’s new to our group of friends; we’re not very close, but he is close to my other guy friends. I’m not sure if that’s just the way he is, but he would reply to my tweets from time to time. However when I reply, he doesn’t reply back. There are several times that I catch him looking at me, and there are times that when I’m laughing I would see him smiling at me. There were also times that I’d pass by him and he would stare directy into my eyes. There was one time that we were in a crowded place. I didn’t know that he was behind me, then suddenly he just gently put his arm on my shoulder while I was fixing things the group needed.
    Despite this, there are also many times that he just ignores me, and doesn’t look at me the whole day.

    I don’t get this guy. Is he just friendly?

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  6. There is this guy that is a very close friend of one my closest friends. I could immediately feel that he was into me when we first met. But I was not interested back then so I was just trying to ignore his attention and try to become friends. As time passed and I got to know him, I started to grow feelings on him. I can still feel that he is interested in me. For example, he compliments me a lot, he returns my messages so quickly, he makes me feel happy when we talk, our conversations are just so smooth all the time, he teases me all the time etc. However I still can not be sure of his feelings because he sometimes talks about other women being hot or beautiful..

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    • I have a similar situation. I think he might like me but I’m really not sure because he talks to me about his fictional crushes and also like you said mentions other girls being sexy although they’re always celebrities.
      He has also said he has a crush on so and so but texts me more than once everyday and flirts with me. He asks me deep questions and says he wants to know me and if I make an offhanded comment he always asks what happened.
      Haha I’m a little confused.

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  7. My friend I know has been crushing on me for a while. We work together and his friends would tell me how much good he talks about me. He is constantly teasing me and playing around with me at work. We use to go out every weekend but that stopped. He recently got out of a breakup a few months ago, it was a 1 month relationship and has stopped hanging out with me but he never changed at work. He keeps playing and teasing. He calls me every morning before work to talk to me but leaves me alone on the weekends. I even try to invite him and he straight up tells me no. He even talks about how good looking other girls are and checks them out when we are together. My co workers confronted him without me knowing and asked if he would ever date me and he said he would be so lucky to date me but he is scared. He even said we have different backgrounds. But his friends say he still talks about me all the time. I ended up writing a letter to him about how I feel and he refuses to read it. He told his friend he was gonna read it when he was ready.

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  8. So I have a crush on this guy. We’re in the same class in university. I think he likes
    me too but I’m not sure.
    I first met him in a class field trip. It was the first time meeting my new classmates so I was checking everybody out. Our eyes met like three times.
    There was a time in class when he suddenly left his seat and sat down next to me but he didn’t strike up a conversation. His friend made a comment, he said ‘so you left your seat just to sit with a girl’. He left after that.
    The first time we actually talked was when we were sitting next to each other and I said hi. He became more open and asked me questions about myself. We had a really nice conversation and it was then I started to like him. After that, I usually greet him whenever I see him and he replies. Sometimes he acts as if he’s ignoring me but that might just be in my head but most times he says hi whenever he sees me.
    There was a time I thought he was going to ask me out because of how his friends were behaving around me but he never did. He always stares at me in class and looks away whenever I catch him. There was a time a met him in a shop and he paid for my drink. Sometimes when I’m around his friends would tap him to let him know I’m there.
    In our lab classes, he always positions himself opposite me so he can stare. There was a time he was staring at him and one of his friends tapped him and was like stop staring. Sometimes he intentionally comes close to me pretends to touch me casually.
    Recently, he added me up on social media. I accepted immediately and texted him. We had a nice conversation but he didn’t text me again till after 3 weeks when I decided to text again and we talked. After 2 weeks he actually texted me and we talked again. 5 days later I texted him again but it’s been 4 days now and he hasn’t replied yet. All the times we’ve texted he usually replies late. Sometimes he doesn’t even reply for a whole day. I know he’s not a person that likes to text because I actually heard him telling his friend that he’s really bad at texting. But still it worries me a bit. I keep wondering why he hasn’t made a move yet because I’m pretty obvious about liking him myself. I always say hi and smile at him whenever we see each other. If we’re in a group I make sure to greet him specially and I always strike up a conversation whenever I can.
    I really like him to be honest so I’m scared as to why he hasn’t made a move yet. Does he like me or not?

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  9. Hello! So my name is ally, and I would like to know if my crush is even interested in me. So I’m in a private college where all students share the same building/classroom but we’re split in half from each side of the room. My crush and I have never talked and all I know about him is his name and face, but recently he’s been passing by my desk area and I’ve recently seen him glance in my direction so i can’t say for sure he was looking at me. There was this once where we were both in the break room and we were standing right next to one another but the whole time he kept his head down and looked to be in a hurry for his food to finish heating up and then he quickly left. So that got me thinking he probably doesn’t like me or I make him uncomfortable. When comes around with his friends who sit a couple of rows behind me he’ll stand facing my direction and he’ll turn his head to talk to his buddies. Not too long ago when we would have lectures, he would sit at the back of the class with his friends and then one day he sat by me…. again we never talked and neither of us made a move to talk but I don’t want to initiate conversation because I don’t want to look desperate or let him know I’m into him.

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  10. So last year I left a comment on this site, to get an idea if I guy I was crushing on at work, like me too. He was playing hot/cold, and showing signs. I was told he showed signs of likely me, but something was holding him back. I lent back, see what will happen, he seemed to play hot cold. Finally a mutual friend who is also in a relationship of his own, decided to tell me what was going on……so as a update I thought I would let everyone know. The mutual friend told me he’ll definitely string me along. He is a player, plays victim to get your empthany and validation. Pretends to be interested and likes U. He plays women, and on Australia Day long weekend I was told he was planning to catch up with a married Asian women for a booty call. More than likely message her on a dating site, he knows she was married, and didn’t care. In meantime he was leading me on, he knew I wanted to catch up outside of work. He knew how I felt. The moral of this story ladies, if U come across a guy who is hot cold…….run!!!! Run like the wind. Be careful ladies, players are stepping up their game to be more cold to get what they want. A guy plays hot/cold………Run like the wind, because a guy if he truly likes U, will never give an opportunity to loose U. Make him work hard to prove himself.

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  11. I have one about a coworker. I don’t know if he likes me or is just being nice, so he’s a manager I’m a crew member, I’ve noticed him being around me more often then other times, like today I was doing the dishes and he kept passing by me, a coworker of our came by and said is (Let’s call him Jay) “jay’s passing by here a lot” I shrugged my shoulders then another coworker was going to do something that involved passing by me a lot he said I’ll do it, I was like okayyy that’s weird then he kust kept passing by me, another time him and another coworker looked at eachother he told him something the other coworker looked and me then looked back at him smiling then he left. I was so confused by that, then I’ve noticed he’s been trying to talk to me more,I’m a really shy person, and I’ve noticed he’s been trying to talk to me more and work by me more. I don’t know please help me I don’t want to think something and it’s not that , please some reply and help me I would greatly appreciate it.

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  12. Currently I’m a sophomore in college. Well, last year there was this guy, who I kinda thought was attractive but, i was in a relationship at that time and did not pay any interest to him. Well, now I am single and I’m going through somethings so I’m really sensitive right now and I try not to be but, I have recently gone back to hanging out with my friends, which are also his friends. A few days/weeks ago, he kept on making comments “I want a kiss from you”, “When am I going to get that kiss”, or “If we win the game or if I do great will you give me a kiss” (And everytime he would see me he would always ask this)and he sometimes makes moves to were he hugs me from behind and he also asked me randomly “how many kids do I want” and one time our friend was giving him something to throw away and our friends arm was in the way of my computer so I go to take the plate and then that is when he decides to grab the plate in the exact same place I grab it and he “holds my hand” for a few seconds. This normally happens around our friend group and he does not do any of these things to the other girls in our group from what I see. I just do not know what to think if I’m being honest. I got really flustered when this happened. I just want to know if he has an interest in me from what I have typed

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  13. So my coworker and I have been friends for about 4 years. We met when I worked at mcdonalds in the town we live in and he was a police officer in the same town. He would come through and if I wasn’t in the drive thru window he would have who ever was there to come get me as he wanted to talk to me and would tell me about his day. He transferred to a police station about 30 minutes from the town we live in about a year after we met yet would come by.
    It was at the end of my employment there when he was telling me about an opening at the station he worked at and he said he would make sure my application was at the top of the list and he was even like I laid down the ground work for you . He personally called me up to let me know that I would be getting a call for a interview.
    Well I’ve had seen him for the first time since I had started he was working the same shift as me and he came in touched my shoulder and was like hey all happy to see me. After that I was suppose to do my ride along with him and we went to the supply closet to get me a bullet proof vest and he made the comment you can either wear it on or under your shirt(as all the officers wear their under their uniforms) then made the comment dont worry its just the vest I’m not really fat.
    I eventually admitted I like him and he put a shocked emoji on the message and I asked why he did that and he was like oh it was by accident.

    Since then when we worked overnight together he would come into the dispatch room to just say something random then walk back out he did this countless times. One day he came in and was like you can stop crying I’m here now and I was like huh what. Then one night he came into the dispatch room and our eyes locked and he never looked away I of course did with a smile on my face and he then started talking just to get my attention back.

    Now he does call me little one never my name. It’s so sweet. Now he will only do any of this when we are alone never when anyone is around.
    Now today I was there as well as another dispatcher and he came in twice with a glance towards me but wouldn’t say anything.

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  14. okay so i like this guy, and he used to be really nice and sweet to me but after i texted him i liked him he stopped talking to me and avoids me. i didnt know he had just gotten out of a relationship and its really confusing me. before he would give me high fives and smile and talk to me, now its just like nothing. and he blocked me twice because i was “annoying” when i asked to forget it and be friends again. i dont understand. he gave me his number willingly and got mad when people gave me the wrong number. hes giving mixed signals and ive tried to act like i dont care and not bother him but its really bothering me….

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  15. I know this guy who is talking to one of my friends, we had kissed once. couple of years ago but nothing ever escalated. fast forward a couple of years we become friends again, at first everything was friendly. almost no physical contact and not much flirting either but now, a few months after reuniting. hes been extremely touchy, more than usual. a few examples of how he touches me is putting his arm around, leaning his forehead against mine, resting his hand on mine, resting his hand on thigh while picking up something, hugging me every time we part ways, once he even brushed his fingers against my lips. I thought this was all just a way from him to show how friendly he was to me until he walked me home a few nights ago. the whole walk he had his arm around me. he then told me that if he wasn’t with his girlfriend he would have chosen me and that he wanted to make a move on me but of course couldnt due to the circumstances. only problem was in the moment he was drunk, I asked him if he meant it despite him drinking. he said yes but we havent talked since. so im not sure if he actually likes me. please help?

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  16. I am right now doing my internship. I have a crush on one of my classmates. I really don’t know what to call it as. Because, it is kind of, I want to share all my views, sorrows, happiness with him. So don’t know what term to give to it exactly. And I also have a clue that he likes me. But I am not at all sure about it. He stares whenever he sees me. And will be waiting in the cafeteria till I come. As soon as I enter he starts combing his hair and do other gestures. Till today we haven’t spoken but once he only did. He just asked if the guy who sits next to me went after class. And that statement I will recall again and again. Coz, that was the only tiny conversation we had. I don’t know if he also has same feelings on me. I feel like i really need him. I should talk to him for hours on various topics. Please help me to find out if he likes me. And if he does, how to make him approach me sooner. Coz my internship ends in a month. So within that I should make him vome and propose me. Kindly help me with this

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  17. I like someone, so I gave them a note. They just wrote “no comment” on it. I’m guessing this means he’s not into me, but just want an expert opinion

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  18. So I told this guy that I liked him today this is what I said:
    My friends wanted me to tell you that I liked you for two week. His respose was Oh ok. And everytime I look at him I think he is smiling at me but I do not know. Can you please help me with my situation please?

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  19. I have a huge crush on a guy at work and often i feel that he feels the same. I feel at times some real magnetism there, then some days he’s distant. We stare into each others eyes deeply and smile and laugh a lot. We spend most breaks and every lunch together (in a group though). He’s a very nice guy to everyone including other females, and he’s nentioned how he’s flirtatious and some women think he likes them when he doesn’t.
    Everytime i talk about a giy flurting with me he will make a comment like they’re just being nice ect. Honestly when our eyes connect i definately feel it and thats when i think he feels it as well. He remembers details about things i tell him after only telling him once.
    He hasn’t initiated anything outside of work with me and i would really like to spend time with him out of work to see if we are compatible.
    We both have children but i should mention, i am 13 years older than him but we look the same or close enough.
    I told him jokingly (but meant it) that i was giving up on him making a move and “us” in general, and he actually asked me why?
    What do i do here? Do i make a move and risk humiliation and rejection? Or wait for him to give me clear signals?
    Please help. I’m no spring chicken but have never dated. My first hubby i was 15 to 28 yo and 2nd relationship was 28 to 42. So i am inexperienced with these situations…..
    HELP please. I really am interested in this guy.
    Felicia

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  20. I really like this guy i work with ive liked him for two years then got over him but now i like him again recently hes been saying hes leaving work which is really annoying me and i said this to him i was like i dont want you to leave and he doesnt even say anything its like hes trying to hurt me part of me doesnt understand why i like him but i do he teases me all the time,he mocks me we have a laugh but it means more to me than it probably does to him the thing is with this guy is he lies i believe hes lying about leaving work but he wont admit it, last week this girl was mentioned that he might be seeing i was really upset cause he said it wasnt going anywhere its whenever he says it is and a girl we work with said she was his special friend the other girl not the one who said that which makes me think there friends with benefits plus when he said this i was standing around the corner and he looked to see if i was there but then the next thing people are saying he hasnt asked her out yet but he said she has a kid and he said he didnt want to get tied down or settle down he was like im still young so i dont get whats changed i hate the thought of him with her plus i heard that she didnt want him going out with his mates and was a bit pyscho i dont know what to do i feel im finding it hard to hide how i feel part of me thinks he knows i like him and thats why he thinks he can say hes leaving to get a reaction out of me i really wish he liked me we hug we get selfies together we message each other although its mainly me messaging him he stares at me sometimes but its weird staring plus he can be nasty like cursing at me he says hes joking and im like you better be a customer called me a princess and he was like she is plus people we work with have said ive been flirting with him but he doesn’t say anything and a girl we work with said have you two thought about getting together and said young love in front of us and he was like tell me about it but i dont know if hes serious and he lets me ruffle his hair and ive massaged his shoulders and he just lets me at our Christmas dinner 3 years ago we got a photo and he put his arms around me i didn’t want to let go and i think i kissed him on the cheek that night and he kissed me on the cheek one time as well do you think he is just playing games with me i really hope not

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  21. Hi! So there is this guy I am in theater class with and I think he likes me but he already has a girlfriend. However, my situation is tough because I like him and he seems to like me, too. He always asks to sit with me on the bus and during our theater class, he gives me hugs. Today I was in theatre and he comes up and hugs me from the back. Usually, this is a good thing, right? That what I thought. Of course, before this he had done the same thing to his girlfriend which is also in theatre with me. His girlfriend and I are friends so she didn’t give me a look and it’s complicated because nobody suspects anything because I’m good at hiding my feelings. Anyways after he hugs me we talk a little and sometimes he gives eye contact but he doesn’t really look at anybody so it’s kinda different. He shows some of these signs and we hug a lot. He seems to be more comfortable with me lately. We talk and sit very close to each other on the bus and ever since the hug from the back I’m torn because I don’t want to ruin his relationship but I really think he likes me but does any of this make sense? Let me know pleaseeee.

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  22. Ok so my name is laura gardner there is this guy friend that I like well I have a crush on him but he looks at me every time I go to his house but I am married and my crush just got married but fixing to get a device and me to and I keep having dreaming of him and me I want to know if his in to me

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    • I don’t know of he is into you, but can you take a moment to think why you got married to the one you are with now
      Do not let things of the past destroy your marriage
      Lastly you can always pray to God because he alone have the answer to all things.

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  23. Hi OK well there this guy that he always makes a point in sitting next to or across from me in the pub and he’s always smiling at me he copys me as in if I fold my arms or cough he does its alot of little things like that he even asked if he could buy me a drink anyway I’m in my 30s never had a boyfriend anyway I just want advice if he likes me

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  24. There is this guy at work who would always compliment that I was good at work and when I left the department where we worked together because I was only a temp subbing for someone on maternity leave he tried to help me find another job by asking his connections and told me over the phone. Now mind you we are not close friends or have a relationship beyond work collaborations and when he did it he asked me on the phone if I would be interested and told “please so we can still work together” after awhile I went to the interview but found out that the position will support a very difficult person and so I called him up saying I do not think this position is good or suitable for me. When I sent out my farewell email he replied saying “i am happy for you my dearest and then my name.” 10years I transferred to a new job and lo and behold he is part of the team that I recently joined in. A few days after I started he came up to me and said “hi it’s been 10years and told me he first time he saw the email announcing I joined he thought “what a great asset” because he has always complimented my work performance and ethic-to be honest I don’t see it any special as my other co-workers. After new year he passed by with a colleague and I greeted him a happy new year and all of a sudden he leaned and gave me a short hug but the tip of my ear slightly touched the side of his face. He said nothing no small talk like a happy new year too (just hugged) or how was your holidays -nothing! And the other day I saw him out and he just nodded and left without saying anything else. Mind you I was behind him but upon entering the building he looked slightly side ways to my direction meaning he knew I was behind him! This guy is giving me mixed signals?! Acts too nice one minutes and then acts like he does not even know me the second. Would say nice compliments but does not make any small talk when I see him in at a hallway at work. What is up?

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  25. Hello
    My crush is my senior in the university, i have crush on him for three years , we are friend on Facebook but we never had a conversation in real or media live.
    On 31december of 2019 i but my photo on Facebook story he saw it and on the first day of new year he sent a message for the first time he introduced him self and so did i , but he didn’t ask to meet in the university, and its now almost two weeks he never sent a message.

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  26. Hey there!

    My crush and I used to talk all the time during 7th and 8th grade. Now, we’re freshmen in high school and we have one class together so we almost never talk.

    Last May, I decided to tell him how I felt but he didn’t respond and I was really confused with how he felt for me. We didn’t talk very much after I confessed my feelings for him either.

    We stayed friends and he showed some of the 43 signs above but our relationship is still confusing. I ended up getting his phone number a few months ago and when we first started texting, he seemed very happy about. Now, we rarely text and when I try to start the conversation, he doesn’t answer.

    I asked him what he would say if I told him I still liked him and he responded, saying that he likes me a little bit but we never talk anymore. I told him how I feel annoying when I talk to him first and how he never seems to want to talk. He said that he would talk to me more but this happened in October and the only thing we’ve said to each other since then is “Hey” in the halls at school.

    Sometimes he shows these signs that he likes me, but sometimes he makes me feel like there’s no possible chance he could like me. I hope you can help.

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  27. hi i’m in high school and i really like this guy in one of my classes. in eighth grade he and i were friends and he would send me cute animal videos and buy me dark chocolate that i loved. in ninth grade we didn’t see each other very much. we have never seen each other out of school not in a big group setting. this year though he likes to hang out with me and my friend in math. he never teases my friend but he always teases me about my height and the other language i speak. he writes my name on my teachers white board whenever we finish our work and i always try to erase it whenever he writes it. on monday it started getting physical with him and he kept pushing me and laughing and blocking me from the board and it was hilarious and really fun. before that i was playing a game on my computer with my friend and he came and pushed me out of my seat playfully saying he wanted to play. i kept trying to push him out of my seat but eventually we ended up sitting on the same seat and playing the game together. my friend has a boyfriend and i feel like every time i’m having fun with him in that class by the front whiteboard everyone thinks something is going on including her. i don’t know how to interpret whether or not he likes me because i really like him

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  28. Hi Viktor!

    I met the guy on a coincidence through mutual male colleague (my colleague is attached). This guy behaved exceptionally gentlemanly, brought chair for me, cleaned up the table and poured my drinks. He asked if its common for me and my colleague to hang out like this (not sure if just to test the waters). I also noticed the shift of his body during the drinking session, he started to face me with his legs wide open and placed his foot on my chair.

    After which, the group of us went for supper and I only picked a drink and passed my colleague. This guy came back with my drink and a set of utensils for me (how thoughtful).

    I took a week to follow him on Instagram in which he accepted in 15 minutes. After two days, I proceeded to pay him for the drinks (on dutch basis for everyone) and texted him from there. He responded my text messages within 5-10 mins each time. Eventually, the conversation died out.

    The following week I went to the same place and met his other best friend by accident and his best friends told my male colleagues they will help to wing this.

    What should I do moving forward? A friend of his recently passed and I am trying to give him space to grieve thus not initiating anything yet.

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  29. I have a crush on him. When I was in 8th grade, I saw him for the first time. But at that time I didn’t feel anything for him. He was also in 8th grade at that time. He used to talk with me a lot at that time and somewhere I felt he had some kind of crush on me. I felt that by his conversations. He used to stalk me a lot, seriously a lot. I didn’t care much at that time. He lives in my hometown and I live in other state. Now, we both are in 12th grade. I met him a month ago after 4 years. After 8th, I never went to my hometown. I felt that I fell for him. But now, he isn’t caring much. He barely talks. He use to play with his puppy only. Once or twice I accidentally had an eye contact with him and he smiled at me. Hardly once he talked to me, that also a very short convo, very short. I fear he has a girlfriend. I don’t know whether he has or not. Will he like me or does he today?

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