How to tell if a guy likes you: 43 signs he has a crush on you

How do you know if a guy likes you?

My name is Viktor Sander. I’ve been working as a dating coach for over 8 years helping both men and women understand the signs we give when we like someone.

Here are the 43 best signs to help you tell if a guy has a crush on you or not.

1. Does he ever stare at you?

You probably know how hard it is to NOT look at someone you like. Prolonged eye contact without talking is a big tell that a guy likes you.

But to be fair, it’s common that guys stare at any girl they find attractive. And it’s an easy way for him to show his interest without having to approach you. But who knows, he might even have a secret crush on you?

2. Is he mirroring you?

Mirroring means that his body language, posture, or even what he’s saying reflects what you said or did.

Examples of mirroring:

  • When you take a sip of your glass, he also takes a sip of his glass
  • When you cross your legs, he crosses his legs
  • When you get very animated/passionate in a conversation, he also gets animated
  • When you lean in, he also leans in
  • When you laugh, he laughs

Note that mirroring is done subconsciously when he has a good rapport with you. But it can also be done consciously if he really wants to impress you or bond with you. It’s a great sign either way.

3. Has he added you on social media?

Adding you on social media means that he wants to keep contact with you and might be a bit interested in you. This is also good because now you can more easily start a conversation with him online.

4. Are his texts longer than yours?

If his texts are about the same length or longer than yours, that’s great. It’s especially good if they’re longer than yours.

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If he usually gives short answers compared to you, that’s a bad sign. When you’re giving him long replies, but not getting the same in return, it means you’re probably too eager.

In that case, it’s good to step back a bit and try to match him better.

5. Is he teasing you?

Most forms of teasing (even mean teasing) are usually a sign he’s interested in you. It means he’s trying to create a flirty vibe between you and that he wants a reaction from you.

Have fun with it and don’t be afraid to tease him back! 😉

6. Is he doing the “lean in”?

If he’s leaning in toward you, that shows he wants to get closer to you (or he’s really passionate about what he’s saying). When a guy has a crush on you, it can feel like he’s magnetically drawn to you.

7. Is he getting closer to you than others?

If you’re in a conversation and you feel like he’s edging closer to you, or as if he’s almost uncomfortably too close to you, that’s a good sign. He may be attracted to you and wants to feel closer to you both physically and mentally.

Note that different cultures have different “personal spaces”. So, if he’s from a different culture than you, see how close he gets to others to see if it’s just you or everyone.

8. Has he ever offered you a massage?

This is one of the more obvious tells that a guy likes you. Offering a massage is a nice thing to do, but it’s also a smooth way for a guy to get you both touching each other. (Remember to offer him one back if you like him!)

9. Is he smiling toward you?

If he’s smiling toward you from afar, that’s an invitation to approach him. (I’m assuming you didn’t just forget to put your pants on when leaving home.)

If he’s smiling toward you when you’re in a conversation, that’s a sign he likes you. Especially if he has a light smile while you’re not even joking.

10. Is he giving you mixed signals?

Mixed signals are really tricky to interpret and can make anyone confused. But in most cases, they do mean he’s interested in you. Here are the most common reasons why he’s giving you mixed and confusing signals.

9 Reasons why he’s giving you mixed signals:

  1. He doesn’t want to come off as too eager
  2. He’s shy
  3. He’s nervous and insecure
  4. He’s afraid of seeming desperate
  5. He’s afraid you’ll reject him
  6. He’s inexperienced in flirting
  7. He’s following some weird rules or pick-up tips he’s read
  8. He’s just flirting with you (because flirting is all about giving mixed signals)
  9. He likes the attention or validation he gets from you but isn’t really interested in you

If you need help, explain your situation in as much detail as possible in the comments. I’ll reply to well-written comments and help you interpret the signs.

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11. Does he give you any compliments?

Getting a compliment from a guy in your age is a good sign. If he’s giving you compliments about how pretty you are, it’s an even better sign.

It can be hard to tell a friendly compliment from a romantic one because they can sound exactly the same. To know for sure, look for other signs he’s also giving you or describe your situation in the comments below.

12. Are his pupils large?

If his pupils get large when you’re in a conversation, you’re doing something right. This one is quite subtle because pupil size is primarily determined by light levels, but secondarily attraction can also increase pupil size.

13. Is he holding eye contact with you?

When a guy has a crush on you, it can be so hard for him to keep his eyes off of you. You can notice this if he’s holding eye contact with you slightly too long.

It can almost feel a little weird or intense when it happens. And that’s great (if you like him).

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14. Is he giving you a slight smile?

If you’re standing in a group, and when someone else is talking, you two get eye contact. Does he give you a slight smile?

Same thing if you get eye contact at a distance, in a park, or at a bar. A smile is an invitation to start talking. He’s interested!

15. If there’s background music, what’s his body language, and what is he looking at?

This sign is most useful at a place with some background music, for example at a bar or a club.

If he’s moving in rhythm with the background music and at the same time looking at you, that’s a sign he’s attracted to you. Dancing like that and looking at you is an inviting form of body language. That tells you he wants your attention and is trying to get you to make a move.

16. Does he straighten his posture when he is close to you?

Is he straightening his back and standing up more straight? It means he’s a bit self-conscious when hanging out near you and he wants to make a good impression.

Not that strong of a sign because most single guys want to make a good impression on attractive girls. But if you see it together with many other signs, it means more.

17. What direction is he facing in group situations?

If he’s facing you more often than he’s facing others in a group, that’s a sign he’s into you and values you more than others in the group. This is especially telling if you’re not the one talking the most in the group.

18. Where are his feet pointing?

If his feet are pointing toward you, that’s a sign in the same line as if his body is facing you. He’s subconsciously focused on you which makes his feet point toward you.

19. Is he fiddling with or straightening his clothes or accessories?

This could be because of nervosity, but it can also be because he wants to look good in front of you. It’s a classic sign of attraction.

20. What direction are his palms facing?

If the palms of his hands are pointed in your direction that signals he might be interested in you. It’s a small sign, but it’s still positive because it’s part of an open and welcoming body language he has toward you.

21. If you touch him, does he touch you back?

For example, if you touch his arm, does he touch you in a similar area later on in the conversation? If he does reciprocate your touch, that’s a great sign.

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If he’s shy or inexperienced, he might not feel comfortable touching you back even if he has a crush on you.

22. Is he extra touchy with you?

A good tell he likes you is if he’s touching you unusually much compared to others.

Common areas to touch are arms, shoulders, back, hands, or thighs. Hands or thighs are usually more intimate if he touches those.

23. Do you ever have “peripheral physical contact”?

Peripheral physical contact is when some part of your bodies are in contact with each other when you are doing something else.

Example: If you’re both sitting down and your thighs are barely touching each other. Or if you’re walking side by side and he grabs hold of your arm.

This kind of passive physical contact means a lot and can build a lot of suspense and attraction. It’s the best feeling being close to someone you got a crush on.

24. Is he giving you more of his attention than he’s giving others?

The more attention he gives you, the more interested he usually is in you. Compare this to how much attention he gives to other girls also hanging out with him or in the same group as you.

Example: If you’re in a group but he seems to direct most of his attention toward you. It could be that he’s asking you lots of questions or that he’s laughing more than others at your jokes. Or just listening more intently to you.

25. Does he ever blush when you talk or get eye-contact?

He might just be shy, but he’s probably a bit extra self-conscious around you because he likes you. This makes him blush around you.

Social anxiety can also cause blushing. But it’s still a great sign.

26. Does he seem to look in your direction from far away?

Guys can be a bit sneaky when they want to check you out. They can make it seem like they’re only looking in your direction or just grazing you with his eyes. And if he has sunglasses it’s even harder to know if he’s checking you out.

So if he’s looking in your direction, especially if he does it several times, he’s probably checking you out.

27. Does he keep the conversation going when you stop talking?

What happens when there’s a pause in the conversation or if you stop talking? If he seems eager to get the conversation going again, that’s good. If he lets the conversation die out or excuses himself, he may not be that interested (unless he’s just shy).

28. How quickly does he reply when you text or message him?

A quick reply is a good sign he likes you. Also, if he replies with several texts to your one text, that’s even better.

However, if he likes you, he may also delay his replies to avoid seeming needy or desperate. But as long as he replies, it’s all good. If he’s slow to reply, it could just mean he’s busy or he doesn’t like texting, so don’t read too much into it.

29. Who texts or calls first?

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Is he the one initiating contact or are you? If he is, that probably means he’s interested in you.

But if he never calls or texts first, that’s a sign of lack of interest. In that case, it can be good to take a step back to see if he will take initiative. If you’re always so quick to take initiative, he might never even have a chance to do it first.

30. How often does he text you?

Compare this to how often you text him. He’s eager if he’s texting more often than you, and you’re more eager if you’re the one texting more often. If he’s sending you several texts in a row without a reply it’s a stronger sign.

31. Does he stammer, stutter, or become awkward in a conversation with you?

This could mean that he feels shy or self-conscious around you. When a guy likes you, it’s common that he gets a bit extra awkward or stutters when talking to you. That’s because he gets uncomfortable and doesn’t want to mess up in front of you. It’s kind of cute, isn’t it?

32. Does he back off if you get a bit too close?

If he doesn’t even flinch when you get a bit too close to his personal space, that’s a sign he wants you close to him.

If you take a step closer, and he backs off by a step, that’s a sign he’s a bit more reserved toward you.

33. Does he ever talk about things he wants to do with you?

Planning or mentioning things he wants to do with you in the future is a very strong indication of some sort of interest, romantic or platonic.

Example: If you’re talking about a newly opened restaurant and they say “We should go there someday!” or “I’ll show you how amazing that place is!”

34. How does he react when you discover you have something in common?

If he’s happy, that’s good. This sign is extra strong if it’s something very trivial, like that you live in the same part of town, that you’re the same age, or that you both like pizza.

Example: You discover that you both grew up in the same city and he gets really excited about it even if it’s no big deal.

35. Is he asking you any personal questions?

If he is, that’s telling you that he wants to know more about you and is interested in you. The more he asks, the better.

Example: Asking about your plans for the future, your childhood, or your favorite food.

36. Has he asked you about your plans for the day or the weekend?

This might just be empty small talk, but it could also be him trying to open a window where you can meet again and hang out. It’s more likely it’s a sign of interest if he brings it up near the end of the conversation.

37. Is he trying to make you jealous?

This is a strong sign he’s interested in you. But it’s also a sign he’s emotionally immature and manipulative. I would avoid someone acting like that. You deserve to be treated with respect.

38. Has he told his family about you?

This one is most relevant once you’ve already started dating. But it’s such a huge sign of interest (and approval) that I think it’s worth mentioning. It’s even bigger if he’s from a culture where approval from the family is important.

If he’s told his family, it means he is visualizing and planning a future with you. Congrats!

  1. Is he staying to talk with you even though his friends have left?

This is a big tell. If you’re in some sort of group conversation with him and his friends, and all his friends leave but he stays – he’s probably into you. Still might not be romantic interest if you just have a great conversation and have lots in common.

An example could be when you’re at a party, and all his friends leave to get a bite to eat, but he stays with you.

40. How can you tell if a coworker likes you?

At work, It can be hard to tell if a coworker is flirting with you or just being friendly. Usually, guys play it safer at work because he doesn’t want to create any awkward situations if he would be rejected. So, he might be probing to see if you like him before he gives you any clear signs of interest.

6 ways to tell if a coworker likes you:

  1. He comes over to talk with you as often as possible
  2. He often teases you
  3. It seems likes he’s flirting, but you’re not really sure
  4. He tries to hang out near you when possible
  5. He tries to be funny when he’s near you
  6. He’s eager to do any work tasks where you work together
  7. He goes above and beyond to help you out at work
  8. He gets weird or stiff when he’s near you, but he’s normal with everyone else

I think this is super interesting, so if you have a work-related situation, write it down in the comments. I will 100% give you a reply and help you interpret the signs.

41. How do you know if your best friend likes you?

Here are 7 signs your best friend might have started liking you as more than a friend:

  1. Is he acting differently from how he usually behaves?
  2. Does he seem jealous or dismissive of other guys you might like?
  3. Is he suddenly extra touchy-feely?
  4. Is he unusually interested in your interests?
  5. Has his behavior toward you changed recently?
  6. Does he seem extra needy?
  7. Has he told you he has feelings for you?

If you’re still unsure, let me know about your situation in the comments below and I’ll do my best to help.

42. How do you know for sure if a guy friend is interested?

You can’t really know for sure if a cute guy is interested just based off of a sign in this list. But there are a few rules you can use to help you know:

  1. Is he regularly showing you signs of interest?
  2. Does he act differently to others than to you? (So he’s not just flirty with everyone.)
  3. Has he shown any particularly strong signs of interest?
  4. Can you see any patterns in his behavior toward you?

43. Are you still unsure if he likes you?

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Viktor is a Counselor specialized in interpersonal communication and relationships. He manages Socialpro’s scientific review board. Follow on Twitter or read more.

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  1. So there is this guy I call Z in my club. I am in Anime/Manga club. First Wednesday: He talks and says hello to me.Seems really friendly. Second Wednesday: Asks me what grade I am in and when I tell him he slaps my back in a friendly way saying “Yeah man!” he is a grade above me. Next I don’t remember what we were talking about but he high fives me but then shakes my hand and holds it just less then a second after finished shaking. Threw out the club time he asked me if I knew certain games and most of them I said yes to. He then speaks to me the most and making eye contact with me the most. Encouraging me to try this game that I know I will fail at ;-;’ even when I told him he still tried to get me to play. Made a lot of joke with me. Know that I think about it. He only asked me question except about two. And those questions mainly were about myself. He was really into our game themed conversations so was I. The following week we would see each other a lot around the school he always smiles and says “Hi man” he doesn’t know my name still. And when we went to RAVE class there were class changes the year I was in didn’t know about. He made eye contact and told me they were having humanities in this class and explained everything to me while maintaining mostly eye contact. This boy though is known for his kindness around the school he is the only boy who doesn’t act rude and not sporty like the others. I can’t tell if he likes me or just is being nice to me trying to make a new friendship. I have been doing research for a bit because he is the first boy to do this to me. Most ignore me and all that. It puts me under stress. I just want to know why he is the only nice guy to me. (Besides two of my friends which one is transgender and the other I have known for a while.)

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  2. First I was in a ten year relationship married and so forth I thought I gave him everything but he came out to be an alcoholic and a druggy he cheated on me 3 times that story long and gone now I have this friend we have alote in common and he likes alot of things I like food, movies ect. Were going on 4months he calls me every day to see if I’m k if I have eaten , hes sent me videos of my favorite characters one day out of the blue he said hes told his family about me my family already knows him when he comes over hes so quite and just listens to us which I think is weird and than he starts to get close to me and asks me if I can give him a massage on his back which I’m k with he has no car he dont drive but works he texts me everyday to good morning and good night how I’m I doing did you eat I take him places like to the bank , store and other things he needs to do I dont mind I love to drive we have had you know right and I think hes falling in love with me but I’m not ready to be hurt again I dont know what I feel I know hes there when I need him on anything if hes not working but I’m just not ready but dont want to scare him away because of my trust issues and being hurt oh i forgot when I take him places he always brings something for me and nothing for himself I’m so confused about this but dont want to hurt him because hes been hurt almost the same way he talks about his past hes even cried with me please give a comment about this I really dont feel anything or maybe I do I just confused alot to think about
    Sincerely
    Dreamchild74

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  3. Okay so there’s this guy at the gym, let’s call him Mark. I never really noticed him until one day I worked out with my sister and guy friend and Mark approached us to give our guy friend some tips. From there, we found out we were both from the same country so we started sharing stories and what not.
    Mark is very introverted, he doesn’t really talk to a lot of people at the gym, but he does talk to me, whenever he’s done working out, he approaches me and tells me he’s headed home, usually that ends up in a 45min conversation.
    A few weeks ago he mentioned that he wanted to workout together but he said “your workouts look hard, you do a lot of things I don’t, so I gotta get in shape first”. To which I replied “haha let’s just do it, it’ll be fun, for me at least” he insisted on me being “stronger than him” (which is definitely not true).
    He’s also has said things like “let’s go to my moms house, you should try her food” or “when I meet you dad…”
    Most of the time I try to play it cool whenever he says things like that.
    My question is…is he interested?!? He hasn’t asked me to workout together again, and he hasn’t asked for my number or anything. I have made it clear that I hate social media and what not, so I don’t know if that’s what’s holding him back, or maybe he’s just shy or he simply doesn’t like me. HELP! What should I do? Should I just try and mention the whole “working out together” thing, or should I wait?!?

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  4. This guy and I have been so close for so long and I would consider him my best guy friend at the moment. We met during my freshman, his sophomore year of college. But we didn’t end up getting super close until my junior, his senior year of college. He randomly followed me on Twitter after seeing me at the rec center on campus and I decided to DM him. What I thought was going to be a couple messages back and forth, ended up turning into great convo. I’m talking high energy, double and triple texts and then he gave me HIS number and we continued to text. I couldn’t believe it. From there, our friendship continued to grow. We would hang out in groups or one on one. Four or five hours would pass by and it would seem like 15 minutes. We never ran out of topics to talk about and he was always so worried about finding new convo topics to talk about. But not with me. Over the past 6 months, I especially noticed what I thought was a change in the way we were interacting. It was getting to the point where we were talking just about every other day. We started to FaceTime, snapchat, communicating literally on every form of social media. He was the person I would go to whenever things were going good or bad and he was always there to talk and provide me reassurance. He always went out of his way to do the small things for me too. He would pay for my meals when I wouldn’t even ask. He would open the door for me, remember the smallest details of the dumbest things that I told him, offer to help me with things, send me motivational tweets when I had a bad day, and so many other small things. There were times where I would catch him looking at me out of the corner of my eye but I always convinced myself I was seeing things. When we would hang out in person, we would always hug before parting ways and I swear there were times when I felt some sexual tension between us, even if it was slight. I also felt like there were times when he was flirting with me. Well, cut to the beginning of January, and I finally decided to ask him if he could see us being anything more than friends. He said no and I was confused. I thought that I had read the situation between him and I correctly but apparently, I couldn’t have been any further off. But yet, nothing has changed after he said that. He still reaches out, we still FaceTime, nothing has changed and yet there’s still times that I feel like he’s flirting with me. Maybe my social skills are just so far off it’s not even funny, I have no clue at this point. I just had so many people say that a guy that was just a friend to me wouldn’t have put in as much effort as he has. I thought the same thing but apparently he is just a nice guy and we just vibe so so so well but will never date. It makes me sad because it could work; and it could work sooooo well between us. It makes me wonder what I did wrong and if maybe the only reason he doesn’t want to date me is because he doesn’t think I’m pretty. Because we get along super well and he does enjoy when we hang out and I know he cares about me. It’s just so confusing.

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    • He may also be really really afraid of losing you if he makes a move. I don’t think you’re misinterpreting his signals. Him saying no doesn’t really tell much if he’s afraid of making a move.

      The alternative is that he sees you as his best friend. Does seem a bit unlikely though.

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  5. So, to the author of this helpful article, when you see this please read it and help me if you can!!! 😀
    I appreciate your work in this field. I know it is complicated and takes a lot of patience. Thank you! We all are glad that you posted this!
    Now, for my problem. It’s about this guy that I go to school with. We have known each other for about 2 years, but it feels like a lot longer, to be honest. We are in a small community where all the families are close, and our younger siblings are besties :). I’m friends with his older sister, too, and my mom and his mom are pretty good friends. So I just wanted to include that in case it’s helpful! Anyway we have one class per grade (see, pretty tiny!) And our class is real close with each other, so as you can imagine, word spreads super quickly. I’m the popular girl and they all love me 🙂 which makes me super happy! I love my friends, they’re like family to me, and I love people! I’m also outgoing and confident and love, love, love laughing, just to put that out there. And this guy… Well…. He is much quieter than me. And he can be grumpy and bossy. But he’s a good person! So, yes, I do like him. As in, a LOTTTT! And here’s where I need some reassurance….
    Well last year was easy- I talked to him ofc because well, our entire class hangs out together, but I didn’t pay a TONNN of attention to him. Around last January we were in class and I did something stupid, and – Well ok, he is not a very smiley person. But when I did that, he smiled at me! And it wasnt just a laughing smile, it was actually sweet :)))) . So that got me thinking that he likes me, and I realized that I had always liked him. When I told my friends they were all for it and loved us together! We totally thought he loved me!
    THen… Well, a couple of weeks ago he told some people that he doesn’t DISlike me… It’s just that he doesn’t like that I like him, that it’s annoying. Then I texted him about it and told him I knew what he said and kinda laughed about it… He didn’t respond so I finally texted him (saying “I don’t actually like you that was a misunderstanding, my friends were just making stuff up XD” not because I care if her knows or thinks it’s annoying but I’m doing it to see if he really likes me- I’ve also realized that I’ve been too easy to get so I’m intending to fix that!) DAYS LATER! so I think he might have felt bad, my friends agree.
    The weird thing is, I have looked up every possible hint out there about whether a guy likes you or not and practically every one applies to him! He pays attention to me, when we text he asks me these… RANDOM questions that are just really obvious… He stared /smiles at me 24/7… My friend saw him (when they were talking about me) smile at me, like an EXTREMELY sweet smile… And when the other girls are talking and giggling in class he tells them to shut up and pay attention, but when it’s me he will usually kind of laugh and smile and just not say a thing!also when my friend asked him if he liked me he said “goodbye” , then walked away, smiling and blushing! Stuff like that!
    And— AND!- HE EVEN told his older sister that he likes me and he said “don’t tell her yet” ( would you mind telling me what THAT’S supposed to mean?? Don’t tell her… YET? uhh) to be fair that was a few months ago, but I fail to see how his feelings could have changed so quickly.
    His best friend is also close with my best friend (they like each other – isn’t it just perfect??!!) And he said that the guy who I like wants to talk to me but he’s worried I’ll be judgemental of him (December 2020), wants to text me but is worried he will sound sarcastic (January 2021), is “kinda” sad that I “don’t talk to him anymore” ( but that was quite a while ago). Yes, so there is a ton of evidence! And yet he literally said he thinks it’s annoying that I like him! I haven’t actually seen him since before then because his family has been sick for like a month, so I’m kinda lost now. It’s hard to tell how he feels this way!
    For anyone who sees this- not just the author of this article but anyone who maybe has advice or wants to help me- please let me know what your input is! Does he like me or does he not?? Furthermore what should I do?I’ll keep y’all posted! 🙂
    Thanks and have a great day! =^._.^=

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  6. I’ve known this guy for only about 4 weeks, we have so much in common and I like him he’s aware that I like him and I feel as he drops hints that he likes me but also says things that make me question it, like he calls me nicknames like bam bam and honey bun but just the other day he started calling me princess, I was surprised and asked someone who knows him if he’s ever called someone that before and they said no, he can be flirtatious and really tries to get to know me, he’s also always there for me and can somehow sense when something isn’t right with me, however he says things like, he’s not a good guy and I deserve better, he says that he doesn’t like anyone, and says he wants to find me someone better then him, when I said if you don’t like me just come out and say it and asked if I was right about him not like me he said no but the convo ended there as we both went to bed, I’ve told him before I wouldn’t give up on him unless he can tell me he doesn’t like me in that way but he responded with, i wouldn’t be telling the truth. I’m confused as to if he really likes me and is trying to push me away out of fear or if he’s just worried he’ll lose me and ruin things between us

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    • Awww!!! Girl he does like you! What I think is that he seriously loves you but doesn’t think he is good enough – THAT’S why he wants you to be with someone who he thinks might be more worthy of you, because he thinks you’re amazing! Firstly, embrace that! Be happy that you’ve found a guy who truly likes you in that way.if you go into a serious relationship, then you should have no dedication problems ;). I believe what you need to do is determine just how you feel. Maybe you have spent a lot of time wondering how he feels, but why about you? I know that you LIKE him, but how much? If you want to be with him then come out and say it! Because both of you clearly like each other!
      And yet, and yet… What will he do? Well. If you tell him that he is the only one who will make you happy (which is why I’m saying, think a lot about how you feel so you can be sure this is truthful) then he will probably then want to be in a relationship with you because it looks as if he JUST wants you to be happy! 🙂
      If you want my input on the two of you, it’s so cute!!!I think you are a good match from what you’ve said. If he can detect your feelings so easily, you are definitely compatible and will be able to work well together. And I love how he calls you all these nicknames!! aww! I love it when it’s obvious that one guy sees you as someone special! And another thing. You haven’t known each other for long at all, and yet you have made so much progress! Not only is that impressive, but I would also like to point out that it’s a major sign! You guys should get married XD no joke!!! It sounds like you are an instant match!
      I’ve learned that guys do struggle with self worth feelings and all that, which must be what yours is going through. You need to help him through that, and the best way to do that is to show him that he is appreciated and loved. Give him compliments, too! They mean a LOT more to guys than we can imagine.And also, give him chances to help you out in several ways. Men love being the “providers” , so by allowing him to “provide” for you he will feel needed and worthy of being loved by you! Just encourage him! You know, it sounds like you guys have a lot of potential and he seems super sweet and adoring toward you! Let me know what you think and keep me updated! 😀

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  7. So I’ve known this guys for the better half of a year, we’re only about 4 years apart in age, he’s really busy and seems like he gets overwhelmed easy. He got distant a bit ago and it was confusing as I’ve stayed the night multiple times, nothing sexual happened, we haven’t even kissed, but we cuddle and he holds me close and tight and plays with my hair and does cute little caresses. He calls me hun and babe, and he never goes more than 2 days without responding. I’m so confused by the difference of in-person interaction and over text, when he said he knew he’d been distant recently he apologized a lot and I know he’s trying because before he’d just leave me on read for days but watch my Snapchat story. I definitely like him, like a lot but I’m confused. I can’t tell if he’s shy and busy or if he’s just being a friend???

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  8. I really like this guy. We have never talked. But, I always catch him staring at me. He doesn’t even look away when we make direct eye contact. He always talks to my (ex best friend) because he doesn’t know we aren’t friends anymore, because her and I talk and are on friendly terms. Anytime I move somewhere he does to, or he and his group will always stand near me, or he will walk back and forth past me. There have been a few times where I’ve caught he and his group of friends staring at me. Anytime we walk past each other, I get a weird feeling(not a bad one though). We both have mutual friends on social media, but we don’t follow each other. I’m more quiet and introverted and a have about 60 something followers, he is more outgoing and has lot’s of people following him. I see signs that he make like me, like the following me around, or continuously passing by, and, talking to my ex best friend. My ex best friend is always trying to get me to talk to him to. Even for little things. Or if we are all talking in a group, so it’s us, my ex bestie and her friend, occasionally another girl, he’ll talk to all of them, but me. So maybe that’s nervousness? But then I see the types of girls he follows and the types of girls who follow him, and they are WAY different from me… maybe I’m different 😂??? But maybe I’m just reading to much into it, maybe he doesn’t like me. I overthink in both sides(he does he doesn’t he does he doesn’t). It’s a constant debate with myself, I have reasons why he may, and reasons why he won’t. Help please?!

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  9. So I have a guy friend that I’m close to and usually in the past it’s chill when we hang out but for the past few times we went drinking with other friends I noticed that he kept trying to hug me for no reason often. Often brushed it off as nothing or maybe he had a hard day and wanted some hugs from a friend but a few days ago when we drank and watched movies at my place he kept trying to hold my hand and was continuously hugging me, massaging my shoulders, poking the fat rolls on my stomach and my face. This sounds stupid but do guy friends usually do this to be friendly or am I going crazy??

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    • Well theres definitely something going on there it feels like hes wants to be more than friends but afraid the friends will change and he doesn’t want to lose you as a friend

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  10. Guy at work constantly stares at me when we talk, is always near when im on lunchbreak, gets jealous when guys talk to me and he comes over, doesn’t like it when others help me. Asks what tv shows I like, aaked where I live.asked what my plans were for the night.( Watching tv cause of lockdown.) Starts random conversations about anything. Told me his single.sais he likes me.but I don’t know if it’s true ds or more. Never offered me a lift home or added me on Facebook. Is he interested or just a creep?

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