How to tell if a guy likes you: 43 signs he has a crush on you

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How do you know if a guy likes you?

My name is Viktor Sander. I’ve been working as a dating coach for over 8 years helping both men and women understand the signs we give when we like someone.

Here are the 43 best signs to help you tell if a guy has a crush on you or not.

1. Does he ever stare at you?

You probably know how hard it is to NOT look at someone you like. Prolonged eye contact without talking is a big tell that a guy likes you.

But to be fair, it’s common that guys stare at any girl they find attractive. And it’s an easy way for him to show his interest without having to approach you. But who knows, he might even have a secret crush on you?

2. Is he mirroring you?

Mirroring means that his body language, posture, or even what he’s saying reflects what you said or did.

Examples of mirroring:

  • When you take a sip of your glass, he also takes a sip of his glass
  • When you cross your legs, he crosses his legs
  • When you get very animated/passionate in a conversation, he also gets animated
  • When you lean in, he also leans in
  • When you laugh, he laughs

Note that mirroring is done subconsciously when he has a good rapport with you. But it can also be done consciously if he really wants to impress you or bond with you. It’s a great sign either way.

3. Has he added you on social media (like Instagram, Facebook, Snapchat, or WhatsApp) after you met?

Adding you on social media means that he wants to keep contact with you and might be a bit interested in you. This is also good because now you can more easily start a conversation with him online.

4. How long are his texts or messages compared to yours?

If his texts are about the same length or longer than yours, that’s great. It’s especially good if they’re longer than yours.

If he usually gives short answers compared to you, that’s a bad sign. When you’re giving him long replies, but not getting the same in return, it means you’re probably too eager.

In that case, it’s good to step back a bit and try to match him better.

5. Is he teasing you?

Most forms of teasing (even mean teasing) are usually a sign he’s interested in you. It means he’s trying to create a flirty vibe between you and that he wants a reaction from you.

Have fun with it and don’t be afraid to tease him back! 😉

6. Is he doing the “lean in”?

If he’s leaning in toward you, that shows he wants to get closer to you (or he’s really passionate about what he’s saying). When a guy has a crush on you, it can feel like he’s magnetically drawn to you.

7. Is he getting “too close” to you compared to what is normal?

If you’re in a conversation and you feel like he’s edging closer to you, or as if he’s almost uncomfortably too close to you, that’s a good sign. He may be attracted to you and wants to feel closer to you both physically and mentally.

Note that different cultures have different “personal spaces”. So, if he’s from a different culture than you, see how close he gets to others to see if it’s just you or everyone.

8. Has he ever offered you a massage?

This is one of the more obvious tells that a guy likes you. Offering a massage is a nice thing to do, but it’s also a smooth way for a guy to get you both touching each other. (Remember to offer him one back if you like him!)

9. Is he smiling toward you?

If he’s smiling toward you from afar, that’s an invitation to approach him. (I’m assuming you didn’t just forget to put your pants on when leaving home.)

If he’s smiling toward you when you’re in a conversation, that’s a sign he likes you. Especially if he has a light smile while you’re not even joking.

10. Is he giving you mixed signals?

Mixed signals are really tricky to interpret and can make anyone confused. But in most cases, they do mean he’s interested in you. Here are the most common reasons why he’s giving you mixed and confusing signals.

9 Reasons why he’s giving you mixed signals:

  1. He doesn’t want to come off as too eager
  2. He’s shy
  3. He’s nervous and insecure
  4. He’s afraid of seeming desperate
  5. He’s afraid you’ll reject him
  6. He’s inexperienced in flirting
  7. He’s following some weird rules or pick-up tips he’s read
  8. He’s just flirting with you (because flirting is all about giving mixed signals)
  9. He likes the attention or validation he gets from you but isn’t really interested in you

If you need help, explain your situation in as much detail as possible in the comments. I’ll reply to well-written comments and help you interpret the signs.

11. Does he give you any compliments?

Getting a compliment from a guy in your age is a good sign. If he’s giving you compliments about how pretty you are, it’s an even better sign.

It can be hard to tell a friendly compliment from a romantic one because they can sound exactly the same. To know for sure, look for other signs he’s also giving you or describe your situation in the comments below.

12. How large are his pupils when you two are talking?

If his pupils get large when you’re in a conversation, you’re doing something right. This one is quite subtle because pupil size is primarily determined by light levels, but secondarily attraction can also increase pupil size.

13. Is he holding eye contact with you for “too long”?

When a guy has a crush on you, it can be so hard for him to keep his eyes off of you. You can notice this if he’s holding eye contact with you slightly too long.

It can almost feel a little weird or intense when it happens. And that’s great (if you like him).

Click here if you want to learn how to improve your eye contact.

14. Is he giving you a slight smile when you get eye contact?

If you’re standing in a group, and when someone else is talking, you two get eye contact. Does he give you a slight smile?

Same thing if you get eye contact at a distance, in a park, or at a bar. A smile is an invitation to start talking. He’s interested!

15. If there’s background music, what’s his body language and what is he looking at?

This sign is most useful at a place with some background music, for example at a bar or a club.

If he’s moving in rhythm with the background music and at the same time looking at you, that’s a sign he’s attracted to you. Dancing like that and looking at you is an inviting form of body language. That tells you he wants your attention and is trying to get you to make a move.

16. Does he straighten his posture when he is close to you?

Is he straightening his back and standing up more straight? It means he’s a bit self-conscious when hanging out near you and he wants to make a good impression.

Not that strong of a sign because most single guys want to make a good impression on attractive girls. But if you see it together with many other signs, it means more.

17. What direction is he facing in group situations?

If he’s facing you more often than he’s facing others in a group, that’s a sign he’s into you and values you more than others in the group. This is especially telling if you’re not the one talking the most in the group.

18. Where are his feet pointing?

If his feet are pointing toward you, that’s a sign in the same line as if his body is facing you. He’s subconsciously focused on you which makes his feet point toward you.

19. Is he fiddling with or straightening his clothes or accessories?

This could be because of nervosity, but it can also be because he wants to look good in front of you. It’s a classic sign of attraction.

20. What direction are his palms facing?

If the palms of his hands are pointed in your direction that signals he might be interested in you. It’s a small sign, but it’s still positive because it’s part of an open and welcoming body language he has toward you.

21. If you touch him, does he touch you back?

For example, if you touch his arm, does he touch you in a similar area later on in the conversation? If he does reciprocate your touch, that’s a great sign.

If he’s shy or inexperienced, he might not feel comfortable touching you back even if he has a crush on you.

22. Is he extra touchy with you?

A good tell he likes you is if he’s touching you unusually much compared to others.

Common areas to touch are arms, shoulders, back, hands, or thighs. Hands or thighs are usually more intimate if he touches those.

23. Do you ever have “peripheral physical contact”?

Peripheral physical contact is when some part of your bodies are in contact with each other when you are doing something else.

Example: If you’re both sitting down and your thighs are barely touching each other. Or if you’re walking side by side and he grabs hold of your arm.

This kind of passive physical contact means a lot and can build a lot of suspense and attraction. It’s the best feeling being close to someone you got a crush on.

24. Is he giving you more of his attention than he’s giving others?

The more attention he gives you, the more interested he usually is in you. Compare this to how much attention he gives to other girls also hanging out with him or in the same group as you.

Example: If you’re in a group but he seems to direct most of his attention toward you. It could be that he’s asking you lots of questions or that he’s laughing more than others at your jokes. Or just listening more intently to you.

25. Does he ever blush when you talk or get eye-contact?

He might just be shy, but he’s probably a bit extra self-conscious around you because he likes you. This makes him blush around you.

Social anxiety can also cause blushing. But it’s still a great sign.

26. Does he seem to look in your direction from far away?

Guys can be a bit sneaky when they want to check you out. They can make it seem like they’re only looking in your direction or just grazing you with his eyes. And if he has sunglasses it’s even harder to know if he’s checking you out.

So if he’s looking in your direction, especially if he does it several times, he’s probably checking you out.

27. Does he keep the conversation going when you stop talking?

What happens when there’s a pause in the conversation or if you stop talking? If he seems eager to get the conversation going again, that’s good. If he lets the conversation die out or excuses himself, he may not be that interested (unless he’s just shy).

28. How quickly does he reply when you text or message him?

A quick reply is a good sign he likes you. Also, if he replies with several texts to your one text, that’s even better.

However, if he likes you, he may also delay his replies to avoid seeming needy or desperate. But as long as he replies, it’s all good. If he’s slow to reply, it could just mean he’s busy or he doesn’t like texting, so don’t read too much into it.

29. Who texts or calls first?

Is he the one initiating contact or are you? If he is, that probably means he’s interested in you.

But if he never calls or texts first, that’s a sign of lack of interest. In that case, it can be good to take a step back to see if he will take initiative. If you’re always so quick to take initiative, he might never even have a chance to do it first.

30. How often does he text you?

Compare this to how often you text him. He’s eager if he’s texting more often than you, and you’re more eager if you’re the one texting more often. If he’s sending you several texts in a row without a reply it’s a stronger sign.

31. Does he stammer, stutter, or become awkward in a conversation with you?

This could mean that he feels shy or self-conscious around you. When a guy likes you, it’s common that he gets a bit extra awkward or stutters when talking to you. That’s because he gets uncomfortable and doesn’t want to mess up in front of you. It’s kind of cute, isn’t it?

32. Does he back off if you get a bit too close?

If he doesn’t even flinch when you get a bit too close to his personal space, that’s a sign he wants you close to him.

If you take a step closer, and he backs off by a step, that’s a sign he’s a bit more reserved toward you.

33. Does he ever talk about things he wants to do with you?

Planning or mentioning things he wants to do with you in the future is a very strong indication of some sort of interest, romantic or platonic.

Example: If you’re talking about a newly opened restaurant and they say “We should go there someday!” or “I’ll show you how amazing that place is!”

34. How does he react when you discover you have something in common?

If he’s happy, that’s good. This sign is extra strong if it’s something very trivial, like that you live in the same part of town, that you’re the same age, or that you both like pizza.

Example: You discover that you both grew up in the same city and he gets really excited about it even if it’s no big deal.

35. Is he asking you any personal questions?

If he is, that’s telling you that he wants to know more about you and is interested in you. The more he asks, the better.

Example: Asking about your plans for the future, your childhood, or your favorite food.

36. Has he asked you about your plans for the day or the weekend?

This might just be empty small talk, but it could also be him trying to open a window where you can meet again and hang out. It’s more likely it’s a sign of interest if he brings it up near the end of the conversation.

37. Is he trying to make you jealous?

This is a strong sign he’s interested in you. But it’s also a sign he’s emotionally immature and manipulative. I would avoid someone acting like that. You deserve to be treated with respect.

38. Has he told his family about you?

This one is most relevant once you’ve already started dating. But it’s such a huge sign of interest (and approval) that I think it’s worth mentioning. It’s even bigger if he’s from a culture where approval from the family is important.

If he’s told his family, it means he is visualizing and planning a future with you. Congrats!

  1. Is he staying to talk with you even though his friends have left?

This is a big tell. If you’re in some sort of group conversation with him and his friends, and all his friends leave but he stays – he’s probably into you. Still might not be romantic interest if you just have a great conversation and have lots in common.

An example could be when you’re at a party, and all his friends leave to get a bite to eat, but he stays with you.

40. How can you tell if a coworker likes you?

At work, It can be hard to tell if a coworker is flirting with you or just being friendly. Usually, guys play it safer at work because he doesn’t want to create any awkward situations if he would be rejected. So, he might be probing to see if you like him before he gives you any clear signs of interest.

6 ways to tell if a coworker likes you:

  1. He comes over to talk with you as often as possible
  2. He often teases you
  3. It seems likes he’s flirting, but you’re not really sure
  4. He tries to hang out near you when possible
  5. He tries to be funny when he’s near you
  6. He’s eager to do any work tasks where you work together
  7. He goes above and beyond to help you out at work
  8. He gets weird or stiff when he’s near you, but he’s normal with everyone else

I think this is super interesting, so if you have a work-related situation, write it down in the comments. I will 100% give you a reply and help you interpret the signs.

41. How do you know if your best friend likes you?

Here are 7 signs your best friend might have started liking you as more than a friend:

  1. Is he acting differently from how he usually behaves?
  2. Does he seem jealous or dismissive of other guys you might like?
  3. Is he suddenly extra touchy-feely?
  4. Is he unusually interested in your interests?
  5. Has his behavior toward you changed recently?
  6. Does he seem extra needy?
  7. Has he told you he has feelings for you?

If you’re still unsure, let me know about your situation in the comments below and I’ll do my best to help.

42. How do you know for sure if a guy friend is interested?

You can’t really know for sure if a cute guy is interested just based off of a sign in this list. But there are a few rules you can use to help you know:

  1. Is he regularly showing you signs of interest?
  2. Does he act differently to others than to you? (So he’s not just flirty with everyone.)
  3. Has he shown any particularly strong signs of interest?
  4. Can you see any patterns in his behavior toward you?

43. Are you still unsure if he likes you?

Write down your situation in the comments below in as much detail as possible. I’ll answer the most interesting comments to help tell if the guy likes you or if he’s just being friendly/flirty/mean. I’m also hoping that you can help someone else by replying to their comment – that way everyone gets something.

Viktor is SocialPro's expert in communication and relationships.

He has a B.A. with a major in Psychology at University of Gothenburg and a B.Sc. with a major in Biological engineering at Chalmers University of Technology

Before he joined SocialPro, he worked as a relationship and dating coach.

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127 thoughts on “How to tell if a guy likes you: 43 signs he has a crush on you”

  1. Hi,
    There’s this guy at school whom i am friends with. We laugh in some classes if we sit near each other. I started realising that his friend keeps saying “he likes you”.
    At first i didn’t believe it but then my best friend kept telling me that he stares at me in most of my classes and i also started realising that. Whenever we talk, walk together or get paired together for some classes everyone ships us together and his friends start saying our ‘ship name’. I remember once telling him who i liked and he started teasing me about it and i realised that he still remembers that and he remembers the small details of some other things. But today in one of my classes, me, my best friend, him and his best friend sat together. My best friend started saying “she likes you and you guys looked so cute together in drama class yesterday because you had to touch hands”. And he just gave a nervous laugh and i was like “we are just friends that’s all”. And then he was like “yeah we’re just friends plus i’m taken”. My best friends kept asking him who he is taken by and he said i wont tell you. We asked his friends and they said he is not taken. i just ignored it and brushed it off. Then i hear a rumour that he is gonna ask one of my friends out and my OTHER friend likes him. I don’t think he even likes that girl and i don’t think he will ask her out, but what i’m worried about is that i think i have a crush on him and my other friend likes him so know i’m stuck in this love triangle. What do you think i should do and do you think he likes me?

  2. Let me start off by saying this is a coworker so this can be a little tricky. We are equals though. These are the following behaviors/actions I have observed:
    Mirrors me.
    Ask how my weekend was.
    Tells me my office smells good.
    Stated “That’s one of things I love about you”, regarding me being solution based when it comes to solving problems.
    Gave me 2 hugs at a company bowling event.
    Stated “we should go to dinner I mean lunch” but hasn’t acted on it.
    On time for our 1-1 meeting which he is usually late for.
    During our meeting, he got up 3 times to lean in behind me to read what was on my screen even though I was reading it to him.
    Compliments me on the shirt I was wearing.
    As we were standing outside talking, another coworker stated “are you going to stand outside and just chat up this young lady” my crush stated “How can I not on this beautiful day.”
    Swats bee away from me.

    These are all new behaviors. However, we can go days without interacting and that is why I am a little confused and would like some guidance on this.

    Thank you in advance for your assistance,

    AT

  3. Hi there! I’m in a bit of a sticky situation.
    So I have a really crazy crush on this guy he trains at the same gym as me and he is also a personal trainer there too. We got off on the right path when we met face to face for the first time he was telling me funny stories, asking about what I do etc etc. He was staring/smiling and he did call me pretty on our first time talking! The next day he requested to follow me on Instagram. We talked but he takes a while to reply however he did say he is busy with his schedule for this week but is going to try and manage to fit me in for a workout. Today I saw him again and he was smiling he said hi twice and he even came into the women’s section of the gym and asked “if I was using the weights” which he normally never comes in to! But towards the end I saw him talking to two girls and they were talking for maybe a while and he still hasn’t replied back to my message 😬 I’m getting a few mixed signals here. Any input from your genius self would help so much! Thanking you in advance. 🙂

  4. Hello,
    I have a boss at work who I like and who I think likes me too, we have a lot of flirty banter and there are a lot of body signs that he likes me like his upper body is always pointed towards me when we are talking his feet are alway pointed towards me when we are in the same space, he Fidgets a lot with his shit neck when we talk he puts away his phone, he acts nicer around me then when he’s around others he smiles a really big smile when we see each other and I always catch him looking at me no matter we’re I am in the office he always reply’s to my texts, and we often have Conversations about other stuff that is not always work, and I’ve noticed a lot latley were he is remmbeing things I’ve told him about myself months before. When ever he comes to my desk he’s always really close to me and the same when I go into his office But he’s never tried to touch me, I do know that he has a gf tho so I’m not sure if I’m reading to much into things or if he actually likes me, I do like him but I’m not the kind person that goes after someone else’s man but I can’t help but like him, can you tell me if you think he likes me and what I should do ?

  5. So we at a function while his fiance was there. He flirted and then Instagramed me after. We hit it off. We hooked up twice. Then we went quiet. He came back. Stronger than ever, he calls me every day, texts me all day, we recently spent the night and then he never asked to see me again. It’s been 3 days. He still video calls me everyday for hours.. And texts all day. He stares into my eyes and shares details of his life with me. What does he actually want or mean?

    • He’s not a good man. Imagine if you were his fiancé and he did the same to you. Why are you wasting your time on him? You deserve so much better.

  6. What if the case is that I’m a loner girl, but have known these 3 guys since childhood but never actually talk or hang out together. Like. Childhood acquaintances. One day, we’re in a group together and they’re asking me “My guy type, how do i show my interest, do i try to make myself interesting to show my crush, whether im single or not, if i have ever been in a relationship, my hobbies, my future goals.” Those obvious interest questions. And this one guy had like, obvious reactions to my answers too “Oh, so you did not like if my hair is messy like this.” Etc.

    But.

    1) They guy does not even chat me or follow me in social media. (MAIN CONFUSION)
    2) This guy talks about his ex lovers, their personalities, how different they are with me. (He actually talked about this a lot. But I originally thought that he means: I’m way too different with his types. But then, he made it obvious tho that he’s interested in our differences by saying “We’re too different. I’m interested. How bout we go out?”)
    3) He brought his “girl friend” just like the other day and I am super confused because he had a “girl friend”. (He mentioned that the girl is just a friend to me tho. Which I also received as a form of showing his interest.) But I don’t buy it?? Is that: a) He’s interested in me just for fun?? or b) He does that to make me jealous or something??

    And when I read this, I feel bad for him because I do not show him signs of interest at all 😂

    • He sounds interested in you, but it sounds like he has read too much weird pickup material and is trying to use it on you to get you interested.

      • Thank you for replying! I don’t know how to react for his interest tho. I’ll start by confronting him on chats sometime when my confidence strucks haha how bout it

  7. i had a crush on my boss, i worked with him 5 months. he was so caring so helpful and still he is. after i quit my job he messaged me several times share his personal problems with no reason, but whenever i messaged him he reply so lately and often he dont. when i worked with him sometimes he comes so closed to me which i think not normal, if i give something to him as for example charger or pen his finger touches my hand, at first i thought its coincidence but after that it happens twice or three times. one day a client propose me and when i tell him about that he reacted as the way which i think he felt jealous but he would be normal again. recently he offer me a job at another company just because he need a trusted person for this post. this is so confusing, sometimes i feel he likes me and sometimes feel its all just normal. nothing love or like that. i dont understand please help me.

  8. S.O.S.

    I moved to a new city about two months ago and met a friend very quickly. She knew I was looking to make more friends so she invited me to come to church with her and her husband. She introduced me to some of the members in the church’s young adult group and one guy in particular stuck out. Let’s call him Trevor. He was very attractive, friendly, and funny. I very quickly picked up that he was the center of attention. He had a way of being able to talk to just about anyone and making people laugh with his sarcastic sense of humor. Come to find out that all the girls in young adult group have a crush on him. I mean, how could you not? He is tall, attractive, and hilarious! Don’t get me wrong, I thought he was attractive too (more so his personality) but he wasn’t exactly my type (body wise)… he’s a little too small for my preference. And I also have a sarcastic sense of humor and love talking to people so Trevor and I got along very well. And I thought, “This is great! Another friend in a new city where I know no one.” A few weeks go by and he hasn’t been around church or youth group because of work. In the meantime, I hear that he’s leaving within the year to a better job in a bigger city. I’m thinking, “Perfect! Another reason to only see him as a friend.” I’m also thinking that he’s not looking for anything considering he’s planning on moving away anyways. So now it’s Friday night and a handful of us young adults from the church group are hanging out. Keep in mind, he’s not there. One of his closest friends tells me that he’s trying to set Trevor and I up. But he had been drinking so I couldn’t tell if he was being serious or not. Then he goes on to say how great Trevor and I would be together. We both have matching personalities, both attractive, …he even said we would make beautiful babies (at this point, I knew he had to be joking). I told Trevor’s friend that I thought Trevor was great, it’s just that he’s not my usual type. Now it’s Sunday and after church some of the young adults go on a hike. And Trevor’s there. Well I guess being new to the area and never hiking through the canyons before, I was a little slow and always fell to the back of the group. At one point, Trevor stayed back with me because he was being a “concerning friend.” We got to talking and he was asking me about my past relationships, if I would ever date a short guy, and what my “ideal type” of guy is. At the time I didn’t think anything of it other than him just being friendly and wanting to get to know me. And vice versa. My number one thing is that the guy I’m with HAS to be taller than me. It just so happens that Trevor is taller than me even when I’m wearing heels and he loves to pick on me for that. We also tend to pick on each other/tease/give a hard time about other things. That could be us flirting or just us being us because of our sarcastic sense of humor. I made a comment when the whole group was together about working with a NBA team because I could find and date a tall guy and Trevor followed with: “Taller than me? I doubt it!” Anyways, when it was just him and I our conversation was great! We were both opening up to each other about personal things and our past relationship. While still poking fun at the other and making each other laugh. A few times I was struggling getting over bigger rocks and he would help me by grabbing my hand or giving me a boost. I was under the impression he was just being a nice guy and helping his friend. He’s never added me on social media, asked for my number, go out of his way to talk or see me so I had no reason to believe that he saw me anything other than just a friend. Now it’s Tuesday and I was looking back at what had happened and got confused. I told my friend about it and she said he was definitely flirting with me. Especially since he was asking me what my type of guy is. So my question is: was Trevor actually flirting with me and I was too naive to notice or am I just overthinking because of what his friend told me on Friday night and Trevor is only being friendly?? (P.S. Trevor is a very friendly/extrovert guy so it’s super difficult to distinguish his actions between flirting or friendly.)

  9. Hi
    I met this guy at my work about 4 months ago. We kept having small talk at first and then one day i just reached out and messaged him and ever since that day we have been talking everyday. We grew this connection, chemistry and it made our friendship much closer. We both have the same humor and are very sarcastic. Over these months through text we are both super flirty with each other kinda in a low key way sometimes he will say something sweet to me out of the blue. Anyway he just recently left my place of work and is working somewhere else but we still have been staying in touch by texting everyday. Last night we met up for the first time in a week since we have seen each other and it was a one on one. It was werid. He was really fidgety and his eyes were darting around the room alot checking out my place and taking time to look at everything and almost every photo. Our conversation was normal and we caught up with what happened at work and our lives so on. But at the end when he needed to leave we were hugging and we would have like very brief short moments where i was giving him opportunities to kiss me and he kinda would let go and step back a bit awkwardly and i was confused. I let it go because this guy has a past. He was married now divorced with two kids and hasn’t been with someone since that marriage which was 3 or 4 years ago. Does this guy like me but is unsure about his feelings and is scared? I need help. I just don’t want to keep liking this guy but be wasting my time.

  10. Hi,

    There’s a guy at work that is giving me mixed signals. We are both in committed relationships so it makes it even harder to decipher.

    The chemistry is strong, so I think we are both trying our hardest to ignore it, but I’m not 100% sure if he’s hiding it, or it’s all in my head!
    We have strong eye contact, just slightly longer than I would consider appropriate with most platonic friendships, we’re a little flirty at times but nothing inappropriate, we laugh a lot, we like to hang out together but always make excuses to do it with other people and rarely alone.
    We don’t have to work together directly too often, but when we do (for me at least) it feels electric!
    I’m scared that if I say something I’ll be embarrassed if I’ve read the signs wrong, or worried what might happen if he admits the sexual tension is there for him too – what would I do with that information…!?!

    Keen to hear what you think!

  11. What does it mean when an old associate starts calling you “darl” instead of by your name or “mate”? Is he interested romantically?? Post anonymous

  12. Hi,
    So I met this guy on the field I play Ultimate frisbee at a couple months back. Now, I usually feel comfortable talking to people I meet for the first time, and that was the case when I met him. We didn’t talk to much but we knew each other’s names and were happy when we got put on the same team. We had a good connection with eye contact.
    When the last tournament came by we felt like we had each others backs and were comfortable and excited to be on the same team, I was more or less his co-captain. We got to talking a bit during the break about our lives and the significance of a necklace I wear. He got talking to be about his plans being in the country that we both live in, it felt easy and simple. Through all of that there was eye contact and easygoingness.
    The 2 weekend’s after that I saw him again, but this time he felt more distant and stand of-ish. When we would see each other in passing we would have eye contact but ever so slightly have smiles on our faces. I talked to him after practice about something that has been bugging me for a couple of weeks that I didn’t do during the tournament. He looked confused as if he wasn’t sure what I was talking about and it felt like there was something else. But I didn’t know what it was. All he said was he was appreciative of my apology and that he was happy on how we were by the end of the tournament. I thought everything was fine and dandy.
    This past weekend, we had a full weekend practice at the campus of the where he works at. I was really excited because it would be a chance to see him outside of the field a bit and get to talk to him more. All of our conversations after the tournament were awkward and not great.
    This past weekend was a bust, I got to see him and talk to him briefly, but we didn’t get to talk. But we were pretty much looking at each other when something was explained during the Spirit Circle or when were on a break. He would hover around when I was having conversations with other people and chuckle or smile and look at me but not say anything else.
    So I guess, what I want to know is, is there anything there is this relationship that makes it a bit more than a friendship? Or should I just treat him like a normal friend and not do anything?

  13. There’s a teacher in my school who always seems to light up whenever he sees me (he’s not the happiest guy you see around).

    He’s hit me playfully on the bottom of my bag once to get my attention in front of around 30+ other students (no one else noticed apart from me and my friends). He also took something I was using and hid it and found it amusing when I was tryi go to find it. I asked if I could check the pile of papers next to him to see if it was there and while I was checking he had a huge smile, however it may have been that he just found it amusing and knows how to wind me up).

    He’s pulled back a blind to wave at me while I was walking past (I didn’t know he was there). My friends and I all thought this was really out of character for him since he’s really quiet and a little shy in general.

    My friends say that when I talk to him he’s flirting with me (I’m pretty socially awkward so I’ve never really noticed if he does) and they say that he has a smile which he only ever gives me. Just to make me even more unsure as to what this exactly is he hasn’t taught me 3/4 years (he never really knew who I was back then other than a student in his class. Me and him only started talking again last year)

    My friends always try to get me to talk to him. One time when they needed something they sent me to him to get it and when I asked him (they were stood there) they said I was just staring at me (I didn’t notice since I struggle with eye contact in general – is it normal to just look at someone when they speak to you? I have no idea) and that he was leaning it towards me when I was speaking (I didn’t move) although he was quite close (I don’t know whether it’s because I didn’t realize it I didn’t care or what).

    I obviously know that nothing can come from this given that he’s in a position of authority but I just want an idea of what exactly this is or whether my friends are just pulling my leg.

  14. I started a new job not too long ago and this co-worker was rather rude and short tempered the first week before we did the standard get-to-know the new co-worker routine. Nothing exciting there but now he greets me with a smile when I come through the door or around the corner.
    He also will come up and say “I’m bored” and when he leaves another co-worker claims he has never ever said that at work and that he’s saying it now because he likes me. (Next time he says he’s bored I’ll see if I can get him to clean for us lol.)
    Occasionally he’ll pick on me (with a smile) about my appearance and now he’s wandered up to a conversation I was having with someone else and is talking past the other person trying to tell me about his ex and the mother of child.
    What the heck is going on here?

  15. My friend will often bother me, smile at me like he’s on drugs and then casually wink, or pull out his middle finger. He’ll try to high-five me at any chance he gets and he will often look at me. He’s pretty funny, and seems like someone pretty flirty that will also try to play wrestle with you. Try to imagine a younger and more energetic version of Prince Naveen; that’s him. He doesn’t minds when we have eye-contact for more than 10 seconds and also doesn’t minds when i invade his personal space. I don’t really have a crush on him, mainly because i already like someone, but i’m so confused about him because he also friendzoned me when i didn’t even like him.

  16. So there’s this guy at school and I rlly like him but my bestfriend does too 😂 I can’t tell if he likes me or her (or none of us😂) as today In science he kinda has eye contact with both of us and sometimes when I have a conversation with him I think it goes really well and maybe a bit flirty like giggling and stuff but then my bestfriend also sometimes has that so I’m not to sure but I think that maybe she’s in the friend zone with him I’m not sure as they talk all the time like friends but when she tells me what happens I kinda looked my confidence and don’t know what to talk about with him 😂

  17. Hi.there’s this guy i like since 6th grade and its been 3 years.Now he is starting to change.He comes to where I sit and sits with me for a whole 1 hour.And when we head back to class,he kisses my cheek.It’s been 1 week now and he still hasn’t stopped.He also hugs me but i do t know if he loves me yet.This friday,as we were about to leave with my friends he told me it was my tirn to kiss him and he made me kiss him twice.what do you think?

  18. Hi , I recently started seeing a guy i dated 10 years ago. We’ve kept in touch all this time but only just giving it another go.
    We saw eachother again for the first time in a few years lady week . Before that he was sending me flirty texts and messaging me all the time . Since we met up again he’s gone all serious in texts and the flirting has stopped. He’s adamant though that he definitely wants to see where this goes and that he really likes me . He gives me a good morning text and a goodnight text every day and even talks to me on the phone at work , he’s a builder, and texts me throughout the day when he can . He’s chased me for weeks via texts do I’m very confused now that the, fishing to see if I’m interested phase has stopped, so does he still want to carry on ??

  19. I have a personal fitness trainer. I have seen him about 4 times now. He completed my nails when I got them done. He also noticed my new gym outfits he said “oh so you’re matching today” but in an exciting voice. I go with one of my guy friends to the gym and my trainer asked about him twice. He also laughs at my jokes alot and always seems to find a way to text me almost every day. We talked about relationships a bit and he smiles alot when we talk during our work outs he even once said “that’s cute” and laughed when a did a certain work out. Lastly, he once asked what am I have for dinner tonight. I am not sure of he just wants me to train with him more or if he likes me.

  20. Hello, I don’t know how I should start this story. I like someone. We first met at the bus stop 7 months ago and it continues to this day.

    At first I didn’t really think of that person. I just think he’s the same as other people I meet every day at the bus stop.

    2 months later, in my office there was a change in schedule so that I and the person never met when I returned home. Suddenly I thought about him. At that time, I didn’t know what this feeling was, was it just curious.

    Until one day, when I took the bus home, he suddenly appeared and sat right in front of my seat. Then a few days later, he sat behind me. When I looked sideways and glanced back, I felt he was looking at me, but I thought it was just a feeling, just like other strangers looking around while on the bus.

    After that time, a lot of things happened. When sitting side by side but on the different seats on the left and right, he used to like tousled his hair and tidied it without cause. Another day, when I hugged my bag, I glanced at him doing the same thing. Then I changed the position of my hand so it was not the same as him, and at the same time he changed the position of his hand again up to 3 times.

    One afternoon when I was on the bus on my way home, I was shocked by something. I always stand facing the bus window on the left side in the middle of the bus. The man always sits or stands behind the bus for about 2 meters. But suddenly when I turned around, he was already standing facing me, even though it was quiet around me, he could have stood on the other side of the bus or even facing back to me. I tried to turn my head towards the front because of embarrassment, the bus was shaken slightly he shifted forward so I could still see his face. Then I turned my face to the left, and when I turned around, he already turned around.

    Other events when walking on the bus, I walked in front of him and stopped on the left side. At that time the bus was not very busy. However, I felt that every time he walked, he always seemed direct to my body to the position where I was standing, even though sometimes it was only slightly touched on my upper arm.

    I always find him standing in a position where he can freely look straight at me, and vice versa, maybe he just stands in his favorite position.

    We always walk close together when getting off the bus. Sometimes I’m in front and he’s behind, or he’s in front and I’m behind. When the bus is busy or not, it often happens. Maybe it’s just a coincidence.

    I once rode the bus in full condition, and could not move, so he and me stood next to each other. He stood facing right where I was standing and I stood facing forward. During the several trips that continued, I did not dare look in his direction but when the bus had begun to quiet he did not change its position. Until I moved to sit in the back seat, he suddenly turned his body to the left. Though there is an empty chair, but he does not want to sit.

    I sometimes go at the same time as him. The bus stop where I have to go up and down the stairs. When we arrived at the bus stop, when he found out I was walking behind him, he would walk very fast seems like he really hated me, there was a time when that happened and he was riding an online driver, he looked at me and looked down.

    Once when we were waiting for the bus at the bus stop, I stood about 1.5 meters from him, and when I saw him from the side, I found him glancing from the corner of his eye towards me standing while his face was facing the cellphone. At that time I thought what was wrong with that person, or was it just his habit of looking at people with a glance.

    When we stood close together, he did not try to keep his distance. I, who normally isn’t comfortable standing close to other people, will take a step away if I get too close. But when I noticed, he also often stood close to other people.

    On the bus I often found him standing facing me but he always looked down at his handphone. He sometimes doesn’t always face me but my position and he can easily see each other.

    He never waited for me at the busway stop. But when I was there, he was look depressed. Does my existence bother him? I really come every day and come home at the same time as him so I can see him. Occasionally see it but with a distance of 1.5 – 2 meters.

    Recently one afternoon I sat facing the front and I looked towards the windshield of the bus. He stood next to the door which was then on the right side and I sat on the right side facing forward. At that time I knew he was standing there but did not see his face, only his body was standing. Then I raised my gaze to his face and found him looking right at my face. When I do that our eyes meet and see each other. Not wanting to make him think I saw him, I immediately looked towards the windshield of the bus, as if nothing had happened.

    I am curious about what is wrong with the man. These incidents have been going on for 4 months and almost 5 months. Is there something wrong with me? Or does he hate me? why he keep so something like that but never asked me to talk?

    What should I do with this man? Others think I should try to ignore him and see what he will do. Because he should know I am always around him.

    If you know something please tell me and thank you wanna hear my story.

  21. I’ve become friends with this guy. At first, it was just that; we were just friends. However, he tried to hug me one day, then texted me about his crush and then jokingly commented on something I said with “it’s because I love you.” I’m confused about his feelings.

  22. Hey I have a co worker that I’m confused if he likes me or not ! He is shy ! But recently he breaks the touch barrier between us many times . He brushed my shoulders, touched my arm and back and I can feel that his head is very close to mine when he is standing behind me . He leans to me to talk to me . When I talk to someone and he or she doesn’t notice he looks at me and let them know I’m talking to them. Each time he sees me he raise his eyebrows with a wide smile ! He say hi many times . When he has eye contact with me he smiles . And one time I caught him was staring at me with very wide smile while I was talking in a group . He defends me from other coworkers and …
    But he become more conservative when one of our female coworker is around ! I feel that there’s something between them ! However both declare that they are single ! And it seems he is not very interested to her ! But she is obviously very interested to him ! I don’t know what does that mean and I’m completely confused!

  23. This guy at school , he is laid back and quiet. I am the hype one and always laughing and friendly. Every time i speak to this guy he smiles and always have a positive attitude with me, sometimes he walks slow so i can caught him and he is really nice and when he speaks he focus on me. We never hugged before , so i touch his hand and i dont want to let it go and i kinda feel like he do not want either . I do not know if he likes me , if he just trying to be nice or he is flirting. Today i caught him looking at me and he looked away when i noticed he were looking . I think he is so adorable and one day i told him that and he said “ you too” and also sometimes when i speak to him i get something in my stomach .

  24. This guy showed all the body language and he told me he really really likes me alot after he put his arm around my shoulder and squeezed me tight. And then l had this meltdown and he came over to me and sat so close he could have been on my lap then he put his arm around my shoulder and then pulled me closer to where my head was laying on his chest then l looked up at him and asked him if he ever thought about me and he said all the time and he was picking me up for church for a while and then he could not give me a ride for a long time so now he just let me know that he can pick me up again and how he loves to do that. My question is where is all this going as far as how or what category would you say we are in
    The reason why l am asking is l just need to know this so when we do talk l won’t feel like l am on a rollercoaster this is me wanting to know.

  25. He sometimes assures me. I am the alone girl that close to him but he does not reply all my messages on time and I always chat first nowadays and say I question him to much and say it is sometime tiring chatting with me. But no matter the time I call him out, he answers and if I asked if I am disturbing him, he says no, if not he won’t be here and he is touchy most times and always lean towards me. And sometimes if I decide not to continue with him for somedays he will chat me up. And I am getting to attracted most times we fight I message first .

  26. I met this guy at work who will be sitting in my office for the next 6 months, we keep bumping into each other so he said let’s grab coffee and you can tell me more about what you do (he said i will email you but i have pen and paper on hand so i just asked him to write that down. We began to text a little then we met in a work drink thing hosted by my boss, I was too busy talking to other people, so i went by his office after the drink and just casually say didn’t get a chance to you. Then i noticed he gets a bit nervous – keep fixing his hair, fidgeting a pen and check me out while sitting fully facing me.

    We then went for coffee during the weekend: great conversation, strong eye contact, smile and he initiated plan to visit other coffee place i mentioned. He also texted me it was nice to see me. However, 10 days went by he did not follow up on the plan we talked about. We would still say hi and talk if we bump into each other at work. I thought i would like to get this over with instead of thinking about it, so i texted him on Friday about his plan for weekend. He did not reply until Monday morning saying his phone deleted Whatsapp itself because of space issue. He said we should go coffee (during work) and we did – he said we should grab lunch next week, which he mentioned that in the conversation multiple times. You probably can guess that did not happen – he did not follow up.

    I do not understand why he would initiates plans/ seem so positive with the body language, when he does not seem to be this interested? Please help

  27. I don’t know if my crush likes me because when I first noticed him in my choir class I would start looking at him and wouldn’t make it too obvious, and I didn’t really know that if he was looking at me because I started seeing that he was constantly and it started getting intense when he trys to come near me or he sits kind of five seats away and trys to look at me or finds a way to look at me and then two months later I see a girl that he’s with but she’s always in her nonstop and he trys to get her attention but who knows and I stop looking at him because I didn’t want to get between them and so in my corner of my eye, I still see him looking at me in lunch and in choir and this one afternoon in my choir we had to go to the auditorium to watch a play and It began and it was funny play and I was laughing but in my corner of my eyes he would stretch and try to look at me or when his friend would bend over to do something he would take advantage and look at me and it he did 7 times and even the closest friend of mine told me she notice my crush looking at me and I told her I didn’t know him even if I did but not too close and the play was done and he got his backpack and turned around and saw me and I walked up fast and went to my choir class and grabbed my backpack and went towards the hallway and Saw him alone with no girl that he’s usually with. And after that I saw this website and it didn’t really find what my crush was doing, so I wrote for you to understand what you think might think of me or what’s happening in this kind of situation. -elizabeth a.

  28. There is this guy that I go to school with and i recently stared to become interested in him. About a couple of weeks ago we were working on a project together and he would always get really close to me and he call me names(not mean names just call me the wrong name to tease me) and every once in a while I caught him looking at me. He always finds an excuse to talk to me in class and we talk about a lot of different things. One day in class we were eating popcorn and he was tossing it up into the air and I was catching it in my mouth. One day in class he moved seats so that he could sit in front of me and that day he was teasing me a lot that day and out of nowhere he just looked me in the eyes and just smiled at me and stared at me for like 20 seconds. I catch him looking at me more and more every day and sometimes he looks away but others he looks back at me.I noticed that whenever another guy comes up to talk to me he comes up and gets himself into the conversation. One of my best friends is good friends with him and he normally tells her and he also tells me but now he wont tell either of us. I honestly dont know how he feels about me but what do you think?

  29. I have a crush on this guy at work and in August I message him on Facebook. I never got a response so I thought he was ignoring me. Today I got a message from him and he said he hasn’t been on facebook over a year. Before this I thought he had some feelings for me as well. After the incident I kept my distance and didn’t want to talk to him. Do you think he like me??

  30. so there’s this guy I am quite close to in social medias- I often chat with him n even share secrets. only recently, I had the courage to talk face to face with him. I always catch him staring at me since a long time ago but he’s sort of getting more flirtier with me since I talked to him irl. the thing is he has a lot of girl friends so I’m not sure if that’s just a ‘he’ thing to do :/

  31. So, my classmate kinda found out i liked him, rejected me (but apparently, not directly) but it’s been some months and he’s showing a LOT of these signs. He’ll start talking out of nowhere and when our teacher asks what he’s talking about, he’ll just say he’s talking to me. He oftens leans to my side when we’re in class, and he’ll start mimicking my hand poses, and even when i crack my knuckles. There was this one time when he was talking to me and our lesbian friend asked why he was blushing and he just avoided eye contact and went to do something else. I don’t know if he likes me or not, even with all of these signs, i’d like a little help figuring him out.

  32. He said that if I stop being creepy and wierd, then he might like me. He hung out with three girls over the weekend and was bragging about it like crazy. We basically never make eye contact. He knw I have a hige crush on him and continues to bring me up to his friend saying its creepy and wierd that I like him. Please help

    • He does not sound like a good man, he seems very immature and manipulative. Please avoid him, he will only break your heart. You deserve someone who treats you with respect.

  33. Hello
    so there is a girl in my school I really like her when she sees me she looks at her phone or looks at the ground ??? or when I walk little close to her she takes of too fast…. I don’t know what to do and I don’t know if she likes me or not

  34. I work with a guy who I noticed was looking at me in one of our meetings. Once I noticed, he quickly looked away. Over the last few weeks, I’ve noticed him making it a point to come to my office. We were talking about work related things, and then he asked me about my weekend and ended up chatting for a while. I notice a lot of eye contact, and it seems like maybe he’s a little different acting towards me. Do you think he might have a crush on me? It’s hard to tell because we work in a professional environment. Just getting a vibe.

  35. I have a completely crush on one of my boy’s teacher. He had lesson with him for almost a year, but I felt in love two months ago only. Though I am married (not happily, but with kids) and he is not, the emotional situation become very complicated for me. After showing few signs of interest between each other, he made the first move to be closer to me and touch my hand. I stupidly freezed at that moment and pulled my hand away. Since than he keeps distance from me, but we still continue to stare at each other and he is offering to call him at any time my son needs help. Our txt were always business like with few smiles. I am now confused if he still likes me or is afraid to try any moves. He also offered an another lessons for myself, but I feel weird to pay him to be able to see him. we also don’t have much chance to talk privately during the lessons, he never texted me first, but replies straight away, he never asked me out. Don’t know what to do, as I can’t stop thinking about him and I am too shy to make any moves. Any advice very much appreciated.

    • I may not be professional and still a student but I would recommend you to ask him to have a cup of coffee sometime! I think it would help you both to talk about things and get to know each other better!

    • I feel like even though all might have “chemistry” you are married, i understand a “bad relationship” but cheating is not okay.

  36. There is this guy at the store where I work part time. We both are in completely different departments and have no overlapping work what so ever and most of our shifts are different days and timings. For the first few months we would just smile each other in passing but one day outside of work he stopped and asked me my name while on his way to lunch. since then i’ve noticed that he’s doing most of his work in the general area where i would be work or he would say stuff like i’m so bored or i’m not feeling well and we’d chat for a minute or two before we got back to our work.
    now i’m not sure if he likes me because so far thats the only contact we seem to be getting due to the nature of our work. he’s not on social media or at least i dont think so (i tried looking him up) and he hasnt asked for my number or anything. Some times he would meet my eyes from a distance and other times he would just pass by without a glance. BUT he always smiles when he talks to me. I’m so confused.

  37. I like this guy, and recently at events that both of us have been at I catch him watching me, and so do my friends. We were at a football game the other day, and while I was watching the game, my friend would nudge me and say ____’s watching you. It was very frequently. While I was at a party with a few friends the other day, we were all dancing (there were a few guys in the group, some of them were with their girlfriends), when ____ came up behind me and tapped my shoulder. He looked pretty pissed off and asked me which one of the guys was my date. I told him I didn’t have a date, and then I asked him the same question. He said that he was only there with friends. Then he went on about how he was sad that no one had really danced with him yet. We continued to have some small talk every once in a while for the rest of the night. My friends and I continued to catch him watching me from across the room. When a slower song came on, I went to go ask him to dance with me, but when I got to him he was dancing with another girl. I keep getting mixed signals like this from him. We flirt a little bit, but because we’re friends, I can’t tell if it’s just him being friendly or if it’s something more.

  38. I work with this guy and I really like him a lot, and I think he likes me too but I’m not sure. We go to school and work together but there is a strict no dating rule so we don’t. He does touch me often when he can, fist bump, high five, he’ll place his hand out for me to hold (not a ton of time though because neither of us wants to lose our jobs), he’ll ask to hug me in my moments of stress or helplessness and will just always be there to comfort me when needed. He has also shared with me on numerous occasions about the past relationships he’s trying to get over and the effect it may still have on him, I have told him that I’ve never been in a relationship before but reassured him of his worth and that he desires someone that will treat him like the king he is. We work very well together and we clown around together very well. Or zodiac signs are compatible and we often make eye contact subtly around each other and then drop our heads and smile (briefly) (i hope that makes sense). If I’m being honest I really like the kid but I don’t know where he lies with me and I’m nervous to ask the question and things at work change for the worse. There are also things that make me think maybe he doesn’t like me in that way, his text messages aren’t terribly long (the passion is in our in-person chats), he’s told me about his family a ton and I don’t know if they know I exist, he never invites me to hang out with him on the weekends (but I don’t know if we’re in a position to have the ability to do that either. Anyway, I’m really conflicted and don’t know which way this man feels about me. Help me, please.

  39. Hey! So there is actually this pediatrician that my neice goes to I’m mostly the one who takes her as her mom works a lot, her doctor is a young, and always carries on playful conversation, comments on my figure “ says things like I wonder where she gets her petiteness from then looks over at me, he even one time laid his arm on my thigh as he listened to her lungs. She cried one time and he said I know I’m not as pretty as you aunt. I’m just confused on whether he is being friendly or Actually flirting? He told me anytime I can’t get in with to tell the front desk to talk to him

  40. Hello, I would like to describe my story below-
    So I met this charming and really hawt guy on my Freshers Party in College. He ,infact is the Mr.Handsome of our college. I like this guy since the counselling session . So on the freshers day I have sent this guy a request on Instagram. He accepted it very soon ,like after 1 hour or so. I replied to his story and he thanked me. And then After many days I received a request from him on Facebook . Before this , I even Had a notification saying that “you have a new friend suggestion:His Name” So I accepted hia request too. Actually , The main problem is that he isn’t in my section . But he passes along many times in college. and we see each other. But neither he texted me nor did I. Nor do we talk in college. But on freshers day we had a very small conversation regarding who is gonno participate in the next round . That’s it .So I am really really confused that does he like me or not?
    Cuz I am purely into him and cannot stop thinking about him ??Please do reply me . Its a request . Please reply Asap. I will be highly thankful to you.

  41. I have this new guy at work, who is very much a social butterfly. He is also a big jokester with everyone. He walks behind people and messes with their hair, pats backs, etc. he does this with everyone. He started this kind of thing with me first, I think because I was more welcoming to him. He added me first on Facebook, talks to me just a LITTLE more, and once while we were walking and talking down the hall, we looked at each other While smiling about something and he blushed. I feel a electricity with him sometimes, but other times, I really try to distance myself from that feeling because I don’t know if I’m alone in feeling it. Is he just really outgoing, or is there an interest there? Thanks so much!

  42. There is a guy at work who seems interested in me, but I am not sure.. He makes prolonged eye contact with me (more than three seconds) often in conversation. One time, we were in a meeting and neither of us were talking, but we were making eye contact for about five seconds. He cracks jokes around me and I am very comfortable around him. He always compliments my work. He also dislikes criticism of his work, but welcomes my criticism. All this has been happening, but then when I was at work one day, I noticed his phone screensaver was him and a girl, who I assumed to be his girlfriend…. but he has never mentioned a girlfriend. What do you make of this situation?

  43. Hi! So I have a crush on this guy in class. He was pretty rude to me before, bit I feel like now we are more nicer and closer to each other. We make eye contact pretty much everytime we talk together. And we both might smile too, it depends on the conversation. My friends told me that he sometimes stares at me. And he takes my things and plays with it and then gives it back. Our class had to perform in front of the whole school once, and before that he whispered to me that he’s nervous. He never told me anything like that, so I think he’s starting to trust me or something. But I still dont know if he likes me.

  44. Hi!m not sure he has a crush on me or not.he is in my class. At first he started staring me .my friend also notice him.he mirroring me, smiles at me but we both never talked to each other,he seem very confident with others.he smiles alot in front of me,but I probably ignored him. We both are connected on facebook. I also wish him on his birthday and he gives me a reply with thankyou!! Then next day again I messaged him Hlo..he see the message and leave it without any reply..he sends me simple thankyou but after somedays I noticed smiley face with three hearts emoji and after two days that emoji again disappeared from the chat..m confused about his feelings.. Thankyou!!!!

  45. Hello,
    I’m not sure if he has a crush or a secret crush on me or not. Here’s my story:
    He is somebody who is in my class. At first i didn’t noticed him, but then one day i don’t know, we started to talk like a small talk. Some days after we were teasing each other. I took his pencil case and he took my bag. And we negotiated who gave what first. After some days i noticed that we were looking at each other or just teasing each other. Then one day (in the english class) a girl were sitting behind him(the girl sat alone) and he sat with his friend. Then they turn around and started talking to us. We were talking like About everything, he said even that he needs To give me his anime list . After that lesson the school was finish, so on the way out we talk and i gave him a new name and he me too. ( after that day i realised that he is a kind of cute. The next week we never talk, like we were looking at each other but we never had a real talk. Then the next week we talked, it was after the dutch class,we were waiting that the teacher allow us To go out. So he talked To me about his friend, and then there was a small break, then he talked about him. After i Said that “in 3 weeks, we will travel together with the class” and he said” yes, 3 days with you, Will be difficult”. And then you know we were teasing each other.After that i told him i need a new anime series but i could not find one. Then he said i should watch ” orange”. The next day i told him that i watched it and that i liked it. Then i told him To give me aborder series, then some people were coming and he said ” yeah its good now” but in a annoyed way. So i decided To let him and not talking To him. After some hours i just noticed that in class when i talked To my friend and i said something funny he laughed and told his friend, did you hear what she said. Then today i sat with a guy classmate and then he came and he said good morning how are To me, to my classmate he just said good morning. And then after i looked To him and the he looked at me and we were looking each other( eyes) like 5 seconds( yes i count) it was like we were staring at each other. Then he teased me small and i him. And we didn’t talked much. So my problem is that i dont know what he thinks. Is it just a friendship or a secret crush? There were some other situations but its too much To write everything down. So is he kind of interested or how can i interpret things? I hope you can help me.

  46. So I have this small crush on my guy friend. We both are in the same class. I’d say I’m attracted to him but I’m not sure if he is but I’ll say some points which I know happens a lot.

    1) He leans his head on only my shoulder/arm and even said he’s very comfortable.(secretly if we are at the back of the classroom)
    2) Our legs touch and he never backs away, he actually teases me about it.
    3) He only asks me to hug him.(because he doesn’t really like hugging others)
    4) He most of the time asks me to come with him a lot.
    5) He is pretty hyper around only me.
    6) He tries not to make others think that we’re dating and sits alone in front of me and my friend but still talks to us.
    7) He said he will miss me a lot when I’m gone for holidays for a few weeks.(he didn’t say that to anyone before)
    8) He teases me A LOT.

  47. Cat

    Hi! I have this co worker who is extremely attractive and I can’t help but have a crush on him. I have extreme social anxiety and I have no idea if he likes me or he’s just being polite. He smiled at me and waved and when we were talking he was standing close to me and then a few weeks later he compliments my hair. Now I feel like he’s staring at me or looks at me a lot but my anxiety is telling me it’s just a coincidence but I can’t seem to get him alone or in a spot where I can talk to him especially in the middle of work

    PLEASE HELP!

    • It sounds like some promising early signs. I wouldn’t read too much into it yet, but I think it’s great that you’re trying to talk to him one-on-one. If he’s really into you, he will make sure you happen to come across each other one-on-one sooner or later. There’s no big rush since you’re working together.

      Have you also considered CBT-therapy to deal with your anxiety? There are many effective methods that aren’t that scary to overcome it.

  48. Hello,

    Well,I have liked this guy since middle school,hard not to have liked him (our friends always made me notice him, and one day i did). We got off to a horrible start ( friend told him I liked him in front of him and his friends) the second she found out. All 8th grade she obligated and made us talk in a public place and lots of people always saw. I apologized to him and promised it would never happen again. In 9th he avoided me and ignored me all the time. All throught 9th and 10th I tried to fix things and try to be his friend.In 10th my friends helped me a lot and things got way better, he said hi and even talked to me.It honestly seemed like I had a chance. But,at the end of 10th things started going down hill again. In 11th he was distant and weird, just like in 8th.Yet other times he would be really sweet. I have always thought it is because he is shy.At the beginning of 12th everything was perfect, things were getting so much better. Until, of course, they are very bad again. He ignores me, I’ve talked to him in 3 different occasions and not once has he talked to me. But a girl that has is always “on him” (he has a be) he talks to everyday and hugs he, when she asks and he treats her so nice. He doesn’t even say thank you and doesn’t say bye to me. Didn’t even say “hbd” and he knew.The things is since the beginning off all of this, he gives mixed signals, like looks at me a lot and pretty much stands/sits places where i can see him, went out of hus way to talk to me.Which made me think maybe there is a chance, maybe if I stay and try a little longer I can get somewhere. He has showed he care, maybe even showed jealously when I talked with guys.I guess I’ve been reading a little to much into it.I was even thinking of getting my feeling out of the way, but I feel like it isn’t fair, but if I don’t i know i won’t be able to get over him.Idk, what to do it has been 5 years and it has been very though and very tiring.

    Thank you,
    Lisa

  49. Hi,

    I have a co-worker crush situation. We only see each other for about 2 hours a day at work but over the course of the last 8 months we have gotten to know each other fairly well and there are days that I am 100% sure he is into me and then there are days I’m 100% sure he isn’t. Lately, he’s started teasing me in a elementary fashion: bumping my arm when I’m writing, mimicking the way I talk, playfully arguing with me, and he calls me out for blushing and always tries to make me smile.
    We exchanged phone numbers a few months ago for work related reasons but now we text almost every day. He and I have even gone on a couple “dates” where we strolled on the beach (one of the dates was on his birthday) which would normally be romantic but he has never made any kind of “move” and he referred to them as “hanging out” so I never wanted to make any assumptions.
    I want to know if he is into me, because I am definitely into him, but I feel weird asking. Especially because of work, I do not want things to get awkward at work if I am reading him wrong.

    –M–

  50. Hi,
    I have a co-worker from another team and he asks me to grab lunch or breakfast with him whenever our schedule aligns (his schedule is strictly by the minute). He doesn’t invite others though he asks me to invite our friends if they want to join). He also invites me to travel with him to other countries (he always say the more friends we travel with, the better.. But he never really invite our common friends and asks me to invite our friends instead). He invites me to go to some everns (like watch a wrestling match) with friends but when I don’t go, it ALWAYS get “cancelled”. When there was an earthquake here in my country, he messaged me saying “hey, there was just an earthquake a few seconds ago” – weird thing is.. We have a group chat with other friends but he messaged me directly and didn’t use the group chat to check everyone else. Also, when we are walking outsode the office to grab lunch or whatnot, he stands close to me to the point that our hands brush. There was also a time when he hugs me before saying goodbye and kisses me on my cheeks.
    1 most recent thing.. I am the manager for my team and he is a consultant in his team. We have different teams. When we saw each other at the pantry when me and my team was having lunch, my team suddenly teased him and asked him is he has a crush on me. He never said “no” he just laughs every time he is asked that question. Then, my team asked him to hug me coz I smell good. He suddenly said “oh, I’ll just buy ice cream for everyone” WITHOUT any reason! He just said that he thinks of my team as his “family”.
    My friends and team members really thinks this guy has a crush on me but is just too shy to make a move. But I don’t believe it. I think he just likes talking to me as he sees me as a confidant.
    What are your thoughts please?

    Thank you

  51. So me and this guy hungout pretty much everyday for 2-3 weeks. Than he started to only hangout once a week for about an hour and that happened for 2 weeks. I’ve only said 2 words to him this week. But his friends keep taking pictures of me, i keep cathing him checking me out, his friends always talk highly of him around me and he’s shown up in places that im usually at but he never is. But he has been ignoring me and sounds annoyed when we talk and is constantly with a group of girls.

  52. I knw dis guy since 2months who works in office,he often teases me,starts the conversation, stear at me,gets into my problem and often smiles whenever I passby.
    I texted him but he replies slowly with single line answer. Doubtful does he really likes me? Between am a married woman ?

  53. I have a crush who my friends say he have a girlfriend who is my friend but last Sunday he told me he likes me and was afraid to tell me and also his girlfriend who is my friend she is cheating on him ,I can’t tell him cause my friends don’t want him to tell him that we know he has a girlfriend what should I do? Please help me

  54. hi

    i have a crush on my classmate (i’ll call him dave for now) and he’s giving me mixed messages. he is showing a lot of signs. he looks at me A LOT during classes. he looks at me after he talks or says a joke. his feet were pointed to me. and today he spent lunch around me and my friends. he was near us for the last week but that’s because his friends were near us too. today his friends weren’t near us, but i overheard him asking someone if they knew where his friend was. and he has no problem with me copying his homework. but i asked him if i was rude and he said yes. my friend asked dave “if she’s rude why is she your friend?” dave said “who said she was my friend?” and walked away. he’s sort of mean but shows all these signs. i asked him what would he do if i fainted in front of him and he said he’d just leave me on the floor. he also said he would just let people punch me if people did. and i can’t ask his friends if he likes me because he’s kinda secure about himself. and yet he answered all my questions about him and his childhood. help. and don’t say he likes me so that i feel happy plz.

  55. Hi, I have a crush on my coworker. He has shown mixed signs.
    1) Stands so close to me our bodies touch
    2)Puts his arm on my shoulders
    3) Rubbed my arms
    4)asks about things happening in my life
    5)sometimes withdraws and goes into his cave
    6)doesnt text or call me though we meet everyday
    7)stares at me
    8)teases me
    9)sometimes if it is just the 2 of us he becomes serious, and quiet..looking intently at me
    10) other coworkers have noticed the attraction between us

    Does he like me? What is going on as ge doesnt call or text

    • Hi, I have a crush on my coworker. He has shown mixed signs.
      1) Stands so close to me our bodies touch
      2)Puts his arm on my shoulders
      3) Rubbed my arms and sighed so deeply after looking into my eyes..like he was fighting something within him
      4)asks about things happening in my life
      5)sometimes withdraws and goes into his cave
      6)doesnt text or call me though we meet everyday
      7)he listens intently when i talk and he is curious if i am dating anyone
      8)we have strong eye contact and when we meet we dont need to say each others names..like there is a connection already
      9)stares at me
      10)teases me
      11)sometimes if it is just the 2 of us he becomes serious, and quiet..looking intently at me
      12) other coworkers have noticed the attraction between us

      Does he like me? What is going on as ge doesnt call or text?

  56. So, this person and I are in an intense and very formal setting. I am a client, and his job comes with certain socialization laws. Not rules, laws. He could lose his job getting too close to me. The first time I noticed a potential interest, out of a room of clients, he only said hello to me. When in a private space, he said I “certainly looked presentable,” took some plant life that had gotten caught in my hair out, and we had shared more than a few glances in the other’s direction. He usually looks at me often.

    One time though, he got really mad at me, and reminded me of our places in this situation that we are in. I of course backed off completely. To seeing him this week, I was still trying to not be a bother. He was back to his old self, greeting only me out of the roomful of his clients (and we are talking 50+ people), looking at me often, and me trying not to look back because of him reminding me of our places, making extra time for me, when he had assistants deal with other clients. The first time we went aside that day, he and I were talking, the topic of sex had come up without us bringing it up, but it had been mentioned, and I said something to the effect of “well I don’t know anyone who wants to have it with my fat butt.” He started in with “well I wouldn’t…” and then began stuttering and stammering. I had given him some space during this convo, moving a little farther away because of him putting me in my place prior.

    The next time he and I went aside, he made sure there was no way to move farther, and that we had to be close. We were discussing business, and I noticed his face moving closer to mine, while we were already physically close from him closing the gap. Soon our faces were so close, all I could see were his eyes and eyebrows. His eyes looked from one of my eyes to the other, but he looked slightly scared and did not smile. He eventually broke the deep eye contact, and it was kind of in a goofy and bashful manner, but it felt like it had been a minute or two of the intense eye connection. He does not seem to mind our physical closeness, but when it’s not work time, he almost runs past me.

    Last time, it was end of the business day. I was having a smoke, and he was catching a shuttle with very tinted windows. Due to the time of day, the sun was shining through them enough to notice he was on the side of the shuttle facing me.

    After my smoke, I went to the spot I usually do to catch my car home. He was staring at me out of the shuttle, for a noticeable amount of time, and I was pretending not to notice. When I looked over again, he was looking in his lap, in what seemed almost nervous, like he didn’t want to get caught, so tried to look busy. At the same time, he also gets annoyed with me, and doesn’t smile when we talk, even when he was looking deeply into my eyes. The near running past me, I know we can’t socialize, but it makes me feel awkward. He was calling me by my first name, but I put an end to that after he got mean. We went back to Mr. and Ms. because he made me feel so bad. He made a fumble by email once with my name, and of course I teased him about it, and he said it made him laugh.

    Now though, he doesn’t call me by any name at all. He just says “come on” when we need to talk, or something of the sort. He did change his greeting after the extended eye contact from the hello we always have used, to good morning, but did not address me by a name. Any name.

    I am so confused. I admit, I am very attracted to him, and I’m sure many women are. I know it could be all in my head, but my roommate also saw some of these behaviors. I think he might be flirting with me, but the mixed signals are confusing me so badly. Help!

  57. I have a crush on a coworker. I told him. We have gone out 3 times, he says he had a bad experience dating a coworker and doesn’t want to do that again. He knows how I feel and we still go out together. I asked him if he would at least acknowledge the fact that he liked me back. He said he would let me know. Once again we just went out a couple of nights ago. The day of our outing, he was constantly around me more than usual. I don’t want to scare him away. We always find ways to be near each other. I don’t know what to do!

  58. I have this guy coworker who my girl coworker says has a secret crush on me. I start kinda believing here but how do I know for sure? He is always teasing me. Blushes or smiles every time he sees me. We did a work function out in the hot ass heat. He was so thoughtful and brought me a fan, an extension cord, a 3-way splitter, a radio, so i’d Be comfortable. He wouldn’t let me carry nothing. He let our other coworker which was a girl, the same girl that keeps telling me He has a secret crush. At several sporting events He has tried to act real masculine for me. He pretend to bump into me at a sporting event that he was playing in. He said Oh I didn’T know you were here. I said oh you didn’t. He said no I don’t notice when I am in the zone. He said well you must be my bad luck charm cause I played like shit. I said well the rest of the tieam think I am a good luck charm since it was the first game y’all one. I said they want me to come to every game. Then He got all alkward and didn’t speak. He walked over to the ice chest and alkwardly dug around in the ice chest and blurted out to his brother who takes care of yo your brother, He said he packed Two Dr. Peppers for you. He said who takes care of you? Your brother does, kind of in a show off way. I really thought it was so cute. I think he is adorable, I love his smile. I like that he is teasing. I just would like to know do you think he has a secret crush. I don’t want to blow it.

    • Hi Suzanne. He seems to be such sweet a gentleman. Who is trying to subtly let you know He likes you. Or who is scared to tell you because you are coworkers. He is definitely attracted to you. I’m sure soon He will let you know. I can imagine how crazy it can make you feel not knowing if you are imagining it or not. Or you start wondering why you are listening to coworkers making yourself think you are crazy. I would have never have picked a man like him before. I’m not a blonde haired blue eyed kind of person. I have always liked dark completed, dark hair, dark eyed men. More of the bad boy type. But something about him just makes my heart melt. I don’t know if it his amazing and contagious smile or dreamy eyes, or how everyone thinks he is an ass but around me he is so soft and tender. I see a big ole teddy bear I.nside of him. Maybe we should quit over thinking it and let it be.

    • Suzanne, i think he has some interest especially if he’s showing you through his little efforts. Maybe feel it out and see how it goes. Also i think people see things between two people that they have yet to see in each other 😉

  59. Hi Viktor 🙂

    Just read your post and found it very helpful. Ive been friends with this guys for years, never thought of him as anything but a friend until maybe the last year.Im just confused and overthinking too much. He initiates random conversion on social media DM but conversion never goes anywhere. I dont know if hes shy or just playing games. I feel like i get mixed signals online. In person, he definitely stares and faces my direction but never says too much unless its a group convo or if i ask him a question. Our friends always tease us about each other, but maybe were both not wanting to make the first move?.. we recently went to a good friends wedding and i was entertaining another guy all night. He came in to join the convo and put his arms around me then slowly walked off. Then later that night with more drinks in me i noticed he was at the bar behind the guy i was talking to, just staring and listening to the convo. Long story short i got drunk, was crying and somehow ended up on my friend. Our friends say he was sober but was enjoying the hug we had. The next day i got a message from him, asking how i was and what happened. I said i dont know(even though i did) and he said “drunken tears are our secrets”.I tried to ask questions by asking why he didnt save me from that guy, just to test how he would respond. He says it was a bad situation,it looked like i was hypnotized by the convo and that it was too serious. Then he said that i should get tinder. Hearing that made me think so he does care otherwise why would he ask me that and why was he listening to the convo in the first place. But at the same thing if he liked me he wouldnt be telling me to get tinder. So theres a mixed message there. The week after we bumped into each other at a restaurant and he was with two other girls. He later said in the group chat its not what it looks like and their just his coworkers.. im not gonna lie i was a bit a jealous. But honestly i want to tell him that i care, but im scared and i just want some confirmation or a little sign to give myself courage to make that move. There are more examples but i think this post is long enough…lol Thanks for reading viktor!!

  60. Hi, I really like this guy at my workplace. He constantly keeps noticing me as well. He is kind, sweet, and affectionate. He is a mutual with my friend. She introduced us. They are good friends and more than me he’s close to her. Even if we bump into each other at workplace, the only thing he asks about is her. I really like him. What should I do?

    • It seems like he might have a crush on her, but it’s hard to tell with so limited information. But the fact that he’s asking you so much about her is a strong sign his main interest is her.

  61. hi,
    i am friends with this guy and we have been friends since the first day of school,
    he was so nice to me he came up to me and talked to me when i was alone and he patted my head before i went on the bus,
    he responded immediatly when i texted him, and always made sure i was ok, i thought he liked me but i didnt like him like that at least not yet, one day i got into a relationship but it didnt work out (not with him) but after that he started to distance himself from me he wont do any of the things anymore and he wont even say hi unless i say it first
    what did i do,

    A COUCH POTATO

  62. Hello :),
    so, I like this guy and he’s been acting very strange around me lately… I’m pretty sure one of his friends likes me, and my crush may also know that his friend likes me, but anytime he sees me talking only to that friend, he tries to..separate us. One time, I was drawing something in English Class, and his friend got there earlier than him. So his friend and I were talking and his friend was making me laugh because he kept making weird suggestions as to what I should add to the drawing. My crush walked in, (there are two sides of desks in the room facing each other, with a small aisle in the middle of those two) saw me laughing with his friend, slid his backpack over to his seat, and rushed over from his desk also in front but 2 desks away from mine, SLAMMED his hands on my table and said kind of loudly “HEY, what are we drawing here?”. When the two of them went back to their seats, my crush started acting kind of awkward, and his friend asked if he had any coffee..and he said no. It was so uncharacteristically odd that even his good friend was confused with his behavior. The other day, I was sitting down and listening to my music while dancing to it, and i had brought a tennis ball to play with my friends. I took the tennis ball out, and his friend came over to me and said “Ooh can I see that?” so I gave him a friendly smile and said sure, then handed him the ball. He inspected it, then said “hmmmm its really dusty..” and I smiled to be polite and said “Yeah, its kind of an old ball..”, then I noticed from afar my crush saw this and he kind of had a dark expression. THEN, he walked over to where we were, stopped facing me where I was sitting, turned around to face his friend and walked two steps forward towards him. It was as if he was…protecting me from his friend??? Idk this is all strange behavior for the guy he’s usually so calm, but he always seems so energetic around me… can someone lmk what’s going on? Thank you,
    ~Anonymous

  63. Hello 🙂

    I have a crush on a co worker who is 46 and I’m 27. He’s generally known to everyone as abit of a joker and makes alot of people laugh but IV noticed he’s alot more physically jokey with me then alot of other people in the work place. He’s generally quite flirty but on a few occasions he’s gave me compliments on my new haircut and he will say things like I’m looking very pretty today. I’m not sure if he generally fancys me or if it’s nothing more then abit of a flirt. He has also opened up to me about his struggles with depression a few times. But I’m just unsure if he really does like me or not because of the age gap maybe.

  64. I am still unsure if he likes me. Like, he would get all touchy with me and weird, but he also is kinda giving me mixed signals, like his feet wouldn’t be towards me. But I also feel like he likes my other friend, but he has never acted the way he has with me to her, so what’s going on?

  65. Hi there,

    So I’ve worked with this guy for over two years. Over the past couple months I feel like there’s something more going on.

    He always compliments the tops I wear, and any small changes in my appearance. He’s commented on how breathtaking my hair is and that I should never cut it. If I’m sick, he’ll joke that I can give it to him any day. He’s even joked that I should never leave the company unless if he leaves first. He pretends to get really upset if I leave early or if I’m working less days than usual. So he’s never been reserved on how much he appreciates my being there.

    My coworker’s always been a laid-back, joking guy. But it seems like it’s more excessive lately, especially with me. Even some of my other coworkers have pointed it out. I guess I’m closer to him than 90% of my other coworkers, but I never considered the possibility of him crushing on me. Until now.

    Plus, it’s a bit unusual since he’s just gotten out of a previous relationship.

    Maybe I’m too self-absorbed or just overthinking this whole thing. Even if he is interested, there’s no way we could get into a relationship. After all, he’s my supervisor.

    • I don’t think his interest could be much more clear without saying it out loud. He’s very interested in you.

      Although, it’s a precarious situation since he’s your supervisor and he has power over you. What happens if he ever feels rejected by you? It’s quite unprofessional of him to put you in this situation.

      Make sure you’re not dependant on this job if you want to make a move, so you’re not stuck there if it ever gets weird.

  66. This guy at work I’m pretty sure has a crush on me. He touches me on accident a lot and we have a lot in common. Also one day he and I were talking and he stopped talking and we just both stared into each other’s eyes. Also he comforts me or try’s to make me laugh if I look sad or upset. Help? Also he seems to always bump into me at work or walks passed me.

  67. Hi. My situation is at work. I’ve just started my job not long, and there’s this guy coworker, we’re not in the same department and our desks are not very near. We will still interact but mainy due to work matters. It started out just last month (i think, or for me to notice) when i went over to ask him about some work stuff. He was looking at my face at first but then he looked/scanned me from top to bottom, which i felt uncomfortable and puzzled. Anyway, after that he asked for my mobile number via office chat and a few days later, out of the sudden, asked me out for lunch, just the two of us. I agreed without thinking as i thought he wanted to dicuss something work related. He insisted of letting me choose the date, time and the food i’d like to eat, which makes me wonder is he being friendly or is this a date?? I did asked him on that day, he claimed that he does invite newbie out for lunch. He paid for the meal btw.

    I’m just confused at his action and behaviour sometimes. Since we worked in the same company, at points where we meet, most of the times he will call out my name/greet me and smile.
    He does text me but not frequently, it’s usually once in a week and he’ll always be the one who initiate the conversation first. When I’ve accomplished something at work, instead of congratulating me at the work group chat which most ppl did, he will congrats me via our personal chat. Just recently, he compliments on my clothes and necklace and said it’s pretty via text (honestly I wore that outfit before and wore the same necklace every day). He replied ??? after i thank him for his compliment.

    But then, some times, he will referred me as’sis’ on text, and I heard from my two of my colleagues that they heard he has a girlfriend. So what does his actions actually mean? Is he just being really nice to me because he’s superior and older than me? Am i thinking too much?

    • He’s definitely flirting with you and testing the waters. But I’d avoid him if I were you if it’s true that he has a girlfriend. If that is the case, he seems like a player or someone who just flirts for attention. It does not reflect well on his character. I hope you’re not in a dependant position to him.

  68. Hi. I have an issue at work. I started as an intern. Then that coworker frequently kept staring at me and would often come by to places at work i frequently visit. After i became an employee we were in the same unit. We never spoke once but i would catch him staring at me. He would never dismiss the staring nor smile at me while doing so. I have no idea if he really likes me. He knows me but acts like he doesn’t (I tried texting him as an anonymous person). He still stares at me but never tries to talk. Neither does he smile when he stares at me like that. I have unknowingly fallen for him. What should i do? What does this behaviour of his mean? Does he like me at all?

    • It sounds a bit weird. I guess he at least thinks you look good if he stares so much. But you really need to start talking with him in some way to get a better feel for his intentions. It’s also weird of you to message him anonymously.

      Do you have any opportunities where you can interact with him more? What happens if you smile at him when he stares at you?

      • You really think he thinks i look good? Thanks though. Not just weird i think it was absolutely stupid of me to have texted him and i really regret it a lot.

        There is no way i can talk to him. My heart thumps like crazy if he’s around me. So duh! No way i can open my mouth. He doesn’t smile even if i smile at him. He just keeps staring non stop. What am i to do? I fallen hard for him.

  69. Hello! So, I have a crush on this guy at school, he’s sweet, has a great sense of humor, and he’s very handsome (i mostly care about his character traits though). So, if you don’t mind, I’d like to explain some of the odd scenarios that have occurred with him, and maybe you can tell me where I stand in his heart. Okay, so back last year, we would talk an awful lot more, and I realized at some point one of my friends mentioned my ethnicity and he seemed to say it to himself as if he was taking a mental note… this year, we’ve hardly spoken, but he’s been acting quite strange. Every time he sees me standing by my friends just casually listening to music, he comes over with one of his friends (which I unfortunately think may like me himself, although I do not reciprocate it)and he talks to his friend while standing in super close proximity to me. The strange thing is it seems like he wants to talk to me but doesn’t know what to say, but I’m super shy and don’t typically enjoy starting conversations myself…so he usually comes over to me and whichever one of my friends I may be hanging out with, and directs a question or a few words at both of us, but kind of ignores me… I’ve read on many different sites that this is because its possible he gets excessively nervous in my company, but I’m not entirely sure. Another SUPER odd thing that has happened was in our PE class (this happened last week) I was upset that I would have to run on our school’s dusty track with my brand new day-old shoes, so I kind of separated myself from everyone else, put my earbuds in, and stared dissatisfied at the track. My crush had been talking to his normal friend group, but I noticed out of the corner of my eye that he saw me and took a few steps toward me, turned back to look at his friends, then continued walking in my direction. When he got a few feet in front of me, he kind of casually (but also kind of awkwardly) said “I’m gonna…stand here in the shade because its too hot in the sun..”, and I nodded to him with a small smile. I’m not too close to him, and I don’t usually see him randomly walk over to people he doesn’t know well while they are completely alone, and he doesn’t seem to stand that close to anyone else unless they are in his personal friend group. He then stood next to me and remained there for about 5-10 seconds, then walked back over to his friends. Another story from last week or the week before; I have a pretty commonly misread name unless the one reading it is either Italian or has had another student with my name in the same spelling. My crush is in my English class, and he always sits on the opposite side of the room, facing me (actually, yesterday he even sat in the seat directly in front of me). The day that the English teacher first pronounced my name correctly, a few of my friends decided to joke around and tell the teacher that she was pronouncing it the wrong way, and that the wrong pronunciation was right. This launched the class into a mini-debate about my name, where some kind-hearted people were telling the confused teacher the correct pronunciation, while other foolish people were messing around and trying to get her to pronounce it incorrectly. It was so embarrassing, but I noticed my crush in the back by the teacher getting annoyed with people and telling the teacher louder than anyone else the proper pronunciation. I felt pretty grateful that he had stood up for me, so I mustered up all my courage and went to thank him at lunchtime. As I walked over to him (he had just sat down, his friends off to the side doing their own thing), I noticed that as soon as I got within 8 feet of where he was sitting, he saw me and gave me a warm smile. I then stumbled through my words but he stared up at me with a smile the entire time. Speaking of which, I’ve noticed he tends to stare and smile a lot, and its hard for me to look people i don’t know particularly well in the eyes for more than a second, but I actually locked eyes with him today, and we were both smiling. Anytime I’m talking to a friend or turned around, and turn back around, I notice he’s been staring at me and smiling with this adorable gentle smile. Anyways, based off of this info (sorry for the literal essay lol), what would u think that he thinks of me?

  70. Hello!

    My situation is also work. Idk if you will still reply but I am curious.

    A guy at work, so my friend/co worker saw him out and about and was joking about seeing him talking to a girl and he felt the need to say he’s known her for years. Why would he feel the need to explain? Friend is married and I was standing behind her.

    If you like someone more than 10 years older, how can you tell if their interested back?

    • That situation about him explaining really doesn’t tell me anything without any more context. I wouldn’t read anything into it.

      About the age difference, most signs are the same regardless of age. Love has no age. <3

  71. I have a situation with a guy I work with. We have known each other for over a year but recently things have shifted. We stare too long and spend a lot of our day together. After work we text or talk on the phone every night with equally initiated by each of us. Our entire department has noticed and asked me questions about the two of us. We spend a lot of time together outside of work. He smiles at me often especially if I catch him looking at me. We always sit next to each at staff meetings or across from each other to keep eye contact. He is always checking up on me during the day and texting if he is at a conference to see how my day is. He asks about my son without prompting and has hung out with my friends…who think he is great and question what the two of us are doing. He is 10 years younger than me and I am petrified that I want him more than he wants me

    • Based on how much he’s investing in your relationship, I’d say chances are good he wants you pretty badly. You can try being a bit more flirty with him and see how he responds.

      • His behavior has shifted a bit in the last few days and it appears he is kind of pulling away. A co-worker of ours asked him what was going on with the two of us because she has noticed a shift with us. He stated to her he had not noticed himself being any different. Not sure what this means and I am freaking out that I did something wrong.HELP!

        • It might not be something you did wrong.

          If others started noticing and commenting on it, he might have got cold feet. Maybe he’s afraid of seeming unprofessional, maybe afraid of losing his job, maybe unsure if you’re interested in him, maybe afraid of seeming desperate/needy. It could be a million things.

  72. So this guy I work with I just came back to this job so I didn’t really know him talk here and there , I found out he was going on vacation to France while we talking about the long weekend and I told that’s cool my sister went and bought me a hat that does not fit and he was like u want one I bring u back one and want colour so I told him I wanted a royal blue. I told my co worker that I was sitting what he going to get me and she said he never asked if she want anything and she worked with for a year. And I was told he a saver when it comes to money and couple of jobs. I was told not mention the hat before left to see if he would bring it. When he came he was busy with work so I add on Facebook and message him how was ur trip he respond somebody getting a hat. Next day he brought over early in the morning when nobody was there and we talk for a bit then my coworker came to the desk and he ran back to his. We have been talk back and forth on messages. For the last for 5months and he went away for another in another province for two months but we could message reach one a day or more and there is a time difference. Of three hours, any problem s I was having he would give solutions. But we we first messseging him and ask too many question he was I have a girlfriend but kept on texting me back. He just came back when he show face to he lik wow because I just putting on makeup to attractive him and then I had move desk because my computer was not working so I moved near him and he came sliding down with his chair in my personal bubble and he has never done that and was trying to help fix my desk. And today I had a work validation done I was telling that I think I did bad and he stated that when he was listening he said I did a good job. I didn’t know he was listen to me and when we are talking in person we make eye contact all the time. One of the 1st messages I got from him when asked what are u doing he said thinking about, asked what music he liked he sent a music video that was sexual, and when I told I had a anniversary party he asked who’s and I need outs for a wedding he asking who’s . I sent him a pic of a outfit that I was getting and top was short asked him do think that’s to slutty and responded saying ur mom does not want u to be attractive. And when we were leaving the office it seems like he want to keep talking. He is moving to another floor so I won’t be able to see at all. I asked if he want to see a movie this weekend no response yet….. do I tell him that I like him and his bday is soon and I bought him a bday card and was going to get a gift for him . Is it too much …. I never dated anyone or have this attention from some before

  73. Hi,
    I have a work situation – We have known each other just over a year, he has a girlfriend, I am single and I really like him.
    We usually have lunch together just the 2 of us once a week, we are really close friends and talk about v personal stuff. He has social anxiety and says he might read expressions wrongly, it also means he can sometimes come across moody and distant when he is anxious and he can often feel uncomfortable, this makes him hard to read.
    We also chat online a lot during work time, we have a great time together and laugh a lot too, he often giggles when i’m around which he doesn’t do with everyone – but then he isn’t really friends with anyone else at work. I call him things like Boo and Bubs.
    He often looks at my mouth – probably every conversation and occasionally stares at it, even when I’ve stopped looking at him and I can see it out of the corner of my eye. At one of our lunches he was looking at me, I caught his eye and we smiled and looked away, then I could see him looking again so I looked him in the eye and we just started laughing.
    He isn’t great at responding to messages when he isn’t at work, however if I am unwell he will text me to check if I am ok, he also texts me if he’s ill just to tell me how ill he is.
    He doesn’t really like hugging but once we had a very long tight hug where I let go first.
    When we pass each other things or are both pointing to something our hands will touch for 3 or 4 seconds.
    When we sit near each other we sit very close, usually touching, our legs or arms. He sits next to me rather than opposite if there is a choice. I have rested my head on his shoulder. Once we were sitting with my leg rubbing his for about an hour under the desk, and when the meeting finished we just stayed there for an extra 20 mins working and keeping our legs touching.
    I usually touch his arm or leg, he has rubbed his arm against mine a couple of times and once he leaned past me which meant his arm rubbed against my hip.
    There’s probably more but that is most things I think.

    • You’re basically dating. He’s very interested.

      I’d say congrats if he didn’t have a girlfriend. Unfortunately, that fact makes me question his integrity and motives.

  74. Hi Viktor:) Thank you for being so inviting as far as commenting goes.
    I have a work-related situation. I’m in the medical field. It’s a no-no because we’re both married, but I can’t stop feeling the way I feel. I will never act on anything and I highly doubt anything will happen. I don’t think he would ever act on anything either.
    I have this huge crush on a coworker. It came out of nowhere. We’ve been working together about 4 years. I work 3 days a week and he has on and off weeks, so our interactions are not super frequent, and then we only really have to interact if we have a patient together, which makes the interactions even less frequent. He has patients on 3 different floors. I’m just on my one floor.
    Let’s see if I can get to the point here….
    I think he likes me too, for a few silly subtle reasons and others more blatant.
    He seems to spend more time on my floor even if he has more patients on other floors than he does on mine.
    He looks at me a lot. He comes around me a lot. He chooses the hall I’m in or the door that I’m next to when he leaves the floor.
    One time my badge was pulling my collar open a little too much (unintentional!) and his eyes got stuck on my breast bone a little too long while we were in a patient’s room. It was hilarious because he was talking to the patient and his head kinda turned away but his eyes were stuck! I could not believe it.
    He has bumped into me/ sought or made physical contact too many times to think it was just accidental. Twice he has bumped right into my ass, on the pretext of reaching for something beyond me and another time in a tight area, where he bumped into me really hard. I said something about “tight space” (I had to say something!) and could barely stand to look at him- I was (pleasantly) shocked at his boldness- and he had this mischievous grin on his face.
    He’s a cool, collected dude. Sometimes very serious. He’s very professional (except when it comes to my derriere, apparently). You could say he’s hot n cold, but when we’re alone I feel a deep connection (could be just me).
    He’s super smart. So am I (or so I’m told). I feel like he is the male version of me. I feel like we have some serious intellectual intercourse. We are very similar in the way that we talk to and treat our patients (empathy).
    We make a lot of eye contact when we talk (could be just me). Once when we were done with a patient we were walking away from each other but kept looking at each other, smiling. I melted, and I also felt like I gave too much away. He gets closer to me physically than I would ever get to him when we’re talking. He often rounds on our mutual patients twice, even though he only needs to round once. He has come to find me about something maybe unimportant when he probably could have just texted.
    Most of the time I avoid him like the plague. I will only sit next to him at a computer if I absolutely have to.
    Sometimes I feel like he’s avoiding me, too.
    He makes me nervous and I lose my breath when he’s around.
    Once he asked me something out of the blue, if I participate in a certain thing (outside of work) because he saw a person who looked like me, he said. I won’t go into detail, but it was very flattering.
    There’s a couple more details but I’ll leave it at that for now.
    I just want to slam him up against a wall and have my way with him, or run my fingers through his hair at the very least.
    Of course I never will. Besides, how do I know that my fantasies are so strong that I’m actually just making myself believe he feels the same way, but he really doesn’t? I’m in love with the idea of him. In love with what I imagine. I know that it feels better to want than to have. In my mind he/it is perfect.
    I’ve tried to will this stupid crush away but I just can’t.
    I just wish I could know if he is as tormented as I am.

    • He definitely has similar feelings as you. But can’t know if he’s as tormented or if he’s just enjoying the flirting.

      It sounds like you’re idealizing him. It happens to all of us when we have a crush on someone and it’s perfectly normal. Just remember that your brain and your hormones are fooling you by giving you rose-tinted glasses. The crush will go away eventually, but it can a long time if you’re unlucky. If you want it to go away faster, maybe you can look into changing your working situation so you don’t see him anymore?

      • Thank you!
        The heat really got turned up this past week because I worked 4 days, and he was on too. A pretty rare occurrence. It will cool off again. These “off” cycles definitely help. We can go 2 or 3 weeks without seeing each other.
        Other than that I can’t change my work situation. I love my job and the people on my floor.
        I’ll just continue to avoid him, and like you said, if I’m lucky the crush will just go away quickly. I hope. I’ve never had feelings like this since I’ve been married- 15 yrs. And my husband and I were together for 8 years before we got married!
        This feels like more than a crush. It’s been about 23 yrs since I fell in love with my husband. And now this… it feels like love 🙁
        My marriage is pretty strong (except he’s pretty bad with communication) and I would never jeopardize it.

  75. Hi. This guy and I have known each other for about a year now and last January things began getting flirty. We were both in the same grad program and i was set to graduate in May. Things did not escalate until school was over and I think that was a mutual respect thing for academics. We hung out a lot over the summer in groups and one on one and the sexual tension started. He did all of the texting, touching, eye contact etc. finally we started getting physical and we eventually had sex. And it was amazing. After the sex I wasn’t as vocal as I could have been about it and he accused me of acting weird. I gave him some time and he began changing…
    We kept hanging out I stayed over one night at his apt. He took me on a proper date… and now he is back in grad school and dealing with three jobs so I am trying to give him some space. What is your opinion on the situation?

    • 3 jobs+school seems really stressful for him. Have you ever talked about what you both want long-term out of your relationship? Has he given you any signs he wants to commit? And what do you want?

  76. We started texting the next day after we met and coz he was usually busy he suggested we find a way to talk often then it all got flirty. I usually find it hard keeping up with conversations though normally. Though smetimes it’s on and off and then itgets really sexual yet we only started talking. How do I handle this

    • He’s definitely interested in you in some way, but since it got so sexual so fast, it tells me he might just be interested in sex so far. But it’s hard to tell without more info. The question is what you would like to get out of this budding relationship?

  77. I just want to say thank you for listening and giving me great advices. Very much appreciated. Anyways I want you to analyzed our conversation other day. He told me there was a better position in another department for him. I told him he should take it better pay. He says, he doesn’t know if he will. I told he should it a better opportunity for him to moved up. If he take that position I will no longer work with him or see him around. If it benefit him in the future then I’m happy.

  78. Hi

    I have developed feeling for this guy(co-worker). I want to know for sure without asking him if he also interested in me. Sometimes I feel like he interested and sometimes I feel like he isn’t. Like he sending me mixed signals and I don’t know what to do. 2 weekend ago I hosted something and I invited him to come. He did and he also brought a friend. It wasn’t a work related thing so I felt like he came for me. Maybe he just being nice. He has never asked for #. He always tell me how smart I am at work. He told his friend I’m a sweet girl. Whenever we run into each at work he would just make eye contact with me and then look away quickly. I’m really confused to what to do. I really like him but I don’t want to make thing awkward at work. I don’t want to let him know unless I sure how he feels.

    • From what you’ve described, I’m not quite sure either if he’s interested romantically or not. Do you have any more examples of his behavior toward you? How does he behave when you two are talking?

      • Well there one time I saw him do something for another co-worker and I came up to him to asked him why he never did that for me. I said I expect the same thing next time. He said anything for you Tram. I’m very shy and quiet girl. I have a hard time talking him

        • That’s an okay sign, but it could still just be him being friendly and polite. I would not read anything into that either. You should try interacting with him a bit more and I think you’ll get more clear signs soon. Does he use any social media where you can interact if you’re too shy to talk?

          Does he ever blush or seem shy around you?

          • Okay so something weird happen today, he was working in another department but he came over to talk to me toward the end of the day. He has already made eye contact with me from across the room. I was surprised he actually came. He has never ever done that before. We talk for at least 15 mins. Our shift ended and everyone was gone. We didn’t even realized it. It was actually nice we had a conversation going.

          • Awesome! That is great!

            He definitely seems to want some form of relationship with you. I’m leaning toward a romantic interest, but there’s also a chance it could just be friendly or attention-seeking.

            I think it’s good to make a move now if you want to. It doesn’t have to be something obvious, you could ask him if he wants to join you for some event in town or similar without directly expressing your romantic interest.

  79. Hi. I’m really confused about whether this one guy at work likes me. We work in different areas of the building so it’s tough to find a reason to talk to him but for the most part he glances my way or sometimes leaves his station as soon as he spots me leaving work. Once I was walking out and he was right beside me and I got startled but then I apologized and he said it was okay and even chuckled. Sometimes when I walk by him with another male friend, he tends to stare at us. I’m not sure what to make of him. Please help.

  80. Hi

    I actually have a question that concerns me. I sometimes get bullied by my friends at university. It is not physical bullying. It is actually verbal bullying.

    The problem is that I got bullied in front of my crush, but I try my best to answer and argue with what they are saying. Do you think that she is not interested in me anymore because of that?

    Thanks.

  81. Hey, so I have noticed that one of my teachers stares at me secretly, sometimes even flushes when I talk to him, he is laughing each time I laugh and does give compliments on my work. And when I enter the room or he does and sees me he gets a very bright and happy expression. Even when we are alone.
    BUT as soon I get closer by accident because I was behaving very passionate about a topic we discussed (my natural way) he backs off as if he is trying to avoid to touch me. He never greats me or says goodbye. Even though we might be alone in a room and I said already twice goodbye to make sure that he heard me. Sometimes he is super helpful in his free time but the next time he behaves very distant.

    So I am confused. I don’t get it.

    • It sounds like he’s very interested in you. But he might be worried he’d destroy his career or his reputation if he slips up, so he tries to hold back. That’s the most likely reason why you’re getting so mixed signals from him. It could also be that he’s really shy or insecure.

  82. OK so we’re friends but lately I noticed that he calls more often, finds a reason to touch me and has introduced me to his brothers and always asking if am free.

    • From that brief description, it sounds like he has a crush on you. But I’d be able to tell more surely if you gave more info about your relationship and age.

  83. Ok so I keep catching him looking at me and his friends keep wanting him to talk to me and he gets embarrassed he’s also been touching my arm from time to time and moves at my speed when I’m walking to our common classes

    • That sounds very promising. It sounds like he has a crush on you and that his friends are trying to encourage him to go for it, but he’s too shy.

      Unless you want to wait, I’d suggest taking an initiative yourself. Start chatting with him on Snapchat/Facebook/Insta, or even ask him if he wants to go to some event with you or do some fun activity.

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