Comments (21)

  1. mark

    Thanks ! this sounds like something I could try. I have been trying to find ways to deal with this highly unpredictable co-worker . Hopefully one of these techniques would come in handy!

  2. Lou

    I used to be able to take it, but after many many years it’s finally got to me,
    So I’ve said I don’t like been joked at, he can’t change, but I can’t except the constant have joke on me, it said I lost my sense of humour, which is not true.
    How to I handle this? Maybe i have changed, but only in the sense that I like to try stick up for myself. Any tips? And this is not a work issue it’s in my home.

  3. Tiffany

    What if you’re in a group of people and everyone acknowledges the joke and laughs? It’s hard to ignore at that point

    • Benjamin

      Basically that’s my problem it never works for people around too that would take it just try these steps like I would buy try anything to resolve the matter

  4. rina

    People always make fun of me uses mean words comment about my figure eyes etc..I never reply them back..but feels hurt..I don’t get support from anyone.my ex bf too used to make fun of me many times…is it bad to be innocent quite in this world

  5. sarah

    Hi. Thanks for this great post. It was really interesting to read and I’m definitely gonna try this. People always seem to ignore what I say, even my family members.. I hope that this could solve the problem.

  6. Dave

    I disagree with this approach. The only way to deal with a passive aggressive is to be more ruthless than them. Call them out on it but in a mean way. If it’s a man, undermine his manhood, “your passive aggressive comments are so female dude.” This is not to offend women, but calling him basically a woman will make him feel stupid. If it’s a woman doing the joke, tell her she is petty. “Man those backhanded jokes really make you seem like a petty bitch.”

    The main thing these people thrive off of is that they know you will never say anything. So instead, come back and chop them in half verbally. Be prepared with about 5 or 6 comebacks because a passive aggressive will always try to comeback with something like, “Gee didn’t know somebody was so sensitive.” You have to be able to comeback with something like, “Yeah I guess I have lost my sense of humor when it comes to assholes.”

    • Anonymous

      Bro I totally Agree with you…ignoring is not the best solution to tackle these kind of people..they will bully again and again..

  7. Altuz

    I’m grounded. In situations where I sense that either someone is being domineering, whether inadvertent or not, I stick to my guns, get what I want, whether it be information, a transaction, whatever it is, then I leave and don’t pursue anything further with that person.

    If you’re at a point in your life where you feel that everyone is steam rolling over you, it’s because you’re continuing dialogue and rapport with those individuals.

    Associate with people who love and respect you, and with people you love and respect.

    The world is too large and too diverse to not chose who you want in your life.

  8. Chloe Sacks

    I sent that last comment as a test of your skills. I do not think you are a moron. Your English is pretty good considering you are not from the United States.

  9. Cemore Buttes

    I am in high school, and my partner for a project makes fun of my name, body, and says i am a suck up to the teacher. I have tried to switch project partners, and even classes, but the school and my teacher wont let me. I cant take any more of his treatment to me, and i have tried to do these things over and over again but i cant, what do i do?

  10. Jack

    Don’t do that… i have and it only gets worse. Laugh with them, don’t ignore them… only if it’s with the bully.

  11. Xtionfuse

    I’ve always been center of laughter. I don’t care tough, but sometimes it gets more embarrassing. I usually laugh with them , but in the end I feel like a looser. I think I should try this next time.

  12. Christina spinelli

    Hi I have been married for almost 30 years and recently divorced. Being around my ex husband who is so passive
    Aggressive and dominating has made me very ill and I had
    A sick baby who is thankfully growing up, I am in the process of trying to get away from him but I have this child and we
    Had a business together. Definitely moving forward to get totally away from him as much as it is possible. He is very
    Nasty and rude to me in a sneaky kind of way sometimes he is explosive if I tell him how I really feel. What can I do to try to take care of myself in the process of getting away from him?

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