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  1. Shreya

    An awesome social life for me where I am popular and friendly with everyone by BEING MYSELF. I would love it when people approach me with their problems(don’t get me wrong,i am not saying that they should have problems). But i always love to be a shoulder for them to cry on and i want them to understand my worth. I want to have daily have the feeling of being needed upto at extent.This would make my day and make my life awesome.Last but not the least, i would love to be comfortable talking with anyone and getting to know all my friends personally and i want them to trust me. I love it when socially all relationships are built on trust.
    I also want to independent but i have this inner feeling that i want other people to depend on me…. Well that concludes my imaginary social status that i keep dreaming to have but unfortunately can’t achieve it anytime soon.

  2. Anonymous

    I think being social is a good thing in life because being comfortable talking to people that you know. But I always keep myself in a shell all the time when I’m around people. I just need to work on expressing myself.

  3. Anonymous

    I think that having an awesome social life means that you find easy to communicate with people and you like it. In simple words.

  4. Anonymous

    I agree to every single thing you mentioned. And I love reading your articles. Very sensible, but my problem is conversing with my husband mostly. I make friends with anyone but very hard to do it with him. Is it because he is avoiding me. He is very good with everyone else.

  5. Anonymous

    Classy akward …having monemnts of awkwardness turned into a thing that all people rise to do or people repeat after you did them..

  6. Anonymous

    I think it’s awesome to just be you and be so worried that you will be in an awkward situation.

    • G

      I mean not be worried

  7. phineah

    I think awesome social life describes a life that allows one to fully utilize the available opportunities to do whatever they feel, like many friends, going places and they enjoy doing these activities.

  8. Naseef

    Hi David,

    For me “Awesome” means, to talk to strangers in gatherings and be comfortable with them such that they like me and start respecting each other.

  9. Bel

    I have a problem, I get to be very social at times but then when I try to remember what I did to achieve that but it’s just all gone and I go back to getting everything you explain social anxiety and awkwardness to be, I feel humiliated for not been able to do the most basic thing in human interaction, I do thank you for all your content, it’s really been helping me, I just wish I didn’t forget how to keep it up.

  10. Anonymous

    What I can really say about awesome social life is that I feel great when talking or when I’m around my close friends. I’m not always afraid of making mistakes around them, I don’t feel cautious. I’m always full if energy.
    But on the other hand, those I’m not close to or meeting for the first time I’m always afraid of making mistake, I isolate myself. If I happen to say something and they all look at me whether it is good or bad, I feel awkward but have improved a little bit though

  11. Anonymous

    An awesome social life for me is to be able to express myself without feeling like I am always judged and hated by others. To me, I would like to go out with more friends and parties I am invited to. With some friends outside of school, I like doing physical activities, traveling, and drawing (to me that is much of an improvement). I want to be confident in my own skin and not be noticed and stereotyped because of my race. As well as making some of my dreams come true. Personally, I like having deep conversations with close friends because small talk really scares me and I tend to live in my own mind. This also means I that I stick with two or three friends because they get me and I am afraid if I am open to others they might not be real or will not be the same as some of my friends now and that they will get a wrong perception of me.

  12. Clarus

    Well, for me an awesome social life is when I have the confidence to get out to the real world and socialize with people instead of being stuck here in my own little world. It also means that I am enjoying my life with my closest friend without feeling afraid to talk with them because of I’m afraid of being awkward.

  13. Anonymous

    Hi David,

    Thanks for your help and assistance. I’ve really found it useful.
    To me, an awesome social life is being able to not just survive but thrive in any social situation and not get totally overwhelmed by anxiety.
    I have a very active social life and like to be able to listen and respond intently to anyone in the room, even people whom I may have nothing much in common with, but this isn’t always easy once anxiety and pressure to be amusing gets in the wa but I’m working on this.
    I just need to tell myself that I don’t always have to make an impression because that is too much pressure and what makes me anxious. To be able to feel totally at ease in any social setting would be my idea of an awesome social life.

  14. Igor

    For me personally, awesome social life is when you participate, enjoy and socialize in all sort of different social activities: parties, theater, social groups, travelling, adventure, fine dining etc. instead of focusing on only one, few or none….basically, if you are put in any situation, you will be able to socialize, connect, be knowledgable and enjoy

  15. Tammy

    My idea of an awesome social life would be to first have enough trust in humanity that I could feel comfortable around people socially and not just on a professional level. To find and trust true friendship would lead to a great social life…at least I believe it would for me.

  16. Katayi

    Hi Dave,am really grateful for all you have been sharing. I am already seeing changes. I was able to start and sustain an interesting conversation with a total stranger.Now I can say stuff to keep a conversation going instead of awkward silence.My idea of an awesome social life is being able to connect with anyone with ease.I should be able to speak up and express my views in a conversation with others instead of being awkwardly quiet especially around talkative people.Being socially awesome means I will be able to enjoy the company of others and that others would value my presence …I find it easy to talk to people at my level but when aroundthose I admire and deem better than me I fail to sustain a meaningful conversation.. how can I improve?

  17. Anonymous

    Hi Dave,am really grateful for all you have been sharing. I am already seeing changes. I was able to start and sustain an interesting conversation with a total stranger.Now I can say stuff to keep a conversation going instead of awkward silence.My idea of an awesome social life is being able to connect with anyone with ease.I should be able to speak up and express my views in a conversation with others instead of being awkwardly quiet especially around talkative people.Being socially awesome means I will be able to enjoy the company of others and that others would value my presence …I find it easy to talk to people at my level but when aroundthose I admire and deem better than me I fail to sustain a meaningful conversation.. how can I improve?

  18. bleh

    Im not awkward totally 100%

  19. Olivia

    This is a really late reply. I’ve been dealing with school stuff and exams so haven’t had any time.
    My idea of awesome is basically being able to the things I love with the people I love. Like for instance whenever I have a weird dream (and I that’s almost always) once I wake up, the first people I tell are my 3 closest friends and my boyfriend. They always so my dreams are like stories which I never get to finish. So they try to finish it on their own. It’s a weird activity that no one apart from us understand, but I always think it’s awesome.
    Or like how during the last week before the holidays I would go on a walk with my best friend. At first I thought she hated it and I was too shy to tell her how much I enjoyed it. It was later that I realized she always looked forward to it. I’ll never forget how happy I felt, I was smiling like an idiot. It was the best most awkward moment I’ve had with her
    Basically if I have the courage to share the things I love WITH the people I love, then that’s awesome to me

  20. Anonymous

    Awesome social life acc to my pov is..
    You have good interaction with everyone ..you exchange smiles whenever you meet..greet each other with respect..
    Actually shy ppl can’t HV dat coz they often think about awakardness

  21. Jermisha Kenny

    I think my definition of an “awesome” social life is being able to speak up, and say what I want even if I think people would think it’s weird or awkward.

  22. Elena

    Hi Dave!
    I’m really excited to begin this journey with you. Finally, at the age of 17, I understood what a friend could bring in my life and what I could bring to others.
    I think my ideal of awesome in a social context is me driving a passionate discussion with two people about what we value the most and what we plan to do to achieve that. It’s my favorite kind of conversation.

    • David Morin

      Hi Elena! I love that! Welcome to our community 🙂

  23. Neil Payne

    Hi Dave thank Your emails I’ve found them very interesting so far.

    I suffer from loneliness living alone and I’m a bit shy as well. I lack confidence and have low self esteem.i find it hard at times to start a conversation and if I’m out for hours in company a lot of the time I’m quiet. If the conversation stops I get that awkward silence.

    I would love to be able to talk more and start a conversation.

    I find messaging really easy, but I’d love to speak to people face to face without the awkwardness silent bit.

    I feel as though my past marriage and not socialising much at the time has affected me.

  24. Anonymous

    A great social life is when you can totally be yourself.
    Totally be yourself and the people you are with like or love
    you just as you are. And not being two faced or appear to be
    something you’re not. And also, not be a fake person and be
    a genuine person.

  25. Emma

    I think what I really want in life is to have more close friends and have the skill to be able to easily make new friends. There is one guy I’ve been wanting to talk to for a while and I could get to know him better. I really want to become friends with him, but I’m just to scared to go up to him and say hi. I don’t really know what I’d say, and I don’t want to scare him off either. I just want to become his friend, but I’ve never been able to make any friends on my own. They’ve all just come up to me and asked to be friends.

    • Raphael Nazir Ullah

      Hi Emma. I don’t claim to fully understand why you feel that way, but do you think this might be because of either fear of being judged/rejected, or your ego of not approaching someone first (for fear of being humiliated again)? In my experience, even though I don’t think I’m a very proud or arrogant person, but I do think the ego factor was at work when I’ve felt similar issues. If you think the reason is something similar to these two, I think u should try what Buddha preached: let go of yourself comletely. Believe that if you aren’t “rejected” or “humiliated” once a while, then you haven’t really achieved anything. You must let yourself be “humiliated” in this way if you really want something meaningful to happen.

  26. Anonymous

    I recently had a co-worker of mine working at Subway with me. He was only 16 but he had the most amazing social life I had ever seen. He was very easy to talk to, had a pretty girlfriend he much cared about, and plenty of friends who would come and eat at the Subway we worked at. I worked with this guy five days a week but he had friends of his come in and eat there an average of 2 to 3 days a week. This told me this guy must have been very good with social skills to have that many friends coming into Subway to see him on a regular basis. This got me thinking, how can I become that good at socializing to where I will have friends and a girlfriend like this guy? For me, I am comfortable meeting people and making plans to hang out with people. However, I am not good at hanging out with people on a daily basis for long periods of time. This is one thing I want to change so I can have more deep, close friendships where friends will come and visit me because they want to. This is something I would be interested in you talking about in future videos.

    • Raphael Nazir Ullah

      @ Anonymous! Hey, I think I understand a bit of you getting fed up of seeing your friends on a daily basis and for long periods of time. It’s totally okay if you are that way, and you should look for friends who would understand that about you. You can still try to change that gradually if you really want to, but know that its a normal thing to be that way oftentimes. If you really find friends who’d understand that u don’t wanna be with them practically ALL THE TIME, I think they’ll be best of friends you can ever get.

  27. Anonymous

    awesome social life is when you are able to talk to new people.

  28. Drini

    For me an awesome social life is when i can be myself and free to share all of my thoughts even though some of them are awkward and i hate it because i’m only shy at first ,the moment i get comfortable with someone they immediately like to spend time around me because im funny smart and easy going .

  29. selenay flanigan

    I’m super loving wen it comes to my friends, I show it through hugs (I get yelled at for it sometimes).

  30. selenay flanigan

    My definition of of an awesome social life is being able to talk to some people at my school.

  31. Eldad

    Awesome means inspiring people with high quality achievement.

  32. Elvis

    It’s exactly as you said it. An awesome social life for me is not partying with the rich and famous every weekend and always in exotic locations with exotic humans. For me it is being able to connect deeply with people who I have an interest for no matter how short of a time we spend together.

  33. Sid

    What next? You’ll be sending more emails?
    I really liked the content..any other content like these which can help me with my problems with talking to strangers?

    • David Morin

      Glad you’re liking it Sid. As long as you are subscribed you will get regular updates of our best content.

  34. Jacob

    An awesome social life, for me, is simply having some friends to have fun with every now and then. Friends who can be consulted if necessary. It’s fun to go to never-before-seen places with others, including our families.

    • David Morin

      I like that, Jacob!

  35. Anonymous

    I agree. I think that an awesome social life is being confident around people and knowing that you will never run out of things to say. I too believe that close friends and family are the best blessing and give true meaning to life. Like you say, a great social life is being able to be your true self around anyone.

  36. Anonymous

    My awesome social life would be to invite people to do things and be invited to do things, yet have enough time for myself alone to recharge. Kris

    • Ellen

      That is a great perspective

  37. Nick Miller

    I think an awesome social life would be having a fun time with just about anyone, because you are socially independent. Having deep conversations with people, while also having the best time ever with them would be awesome too. The main goal would be to communicate often(small talk) and having purposeful conversations with just about anyone, while having fun.

    • David Morin

      Very inspiring Nick!

  38. CJ

    I think of awesome in this as being able to talk to people and feel equal to them to be thinking about what they are saying and be able to say what I want back instead of thinking about what they think of me and being afraid to say what I want because I don’t want them to know how I am feeling, which is afraid, afraid of their opinion of me. It holds me back everywhere I am.

  39. Iris

    I really love these confidence courses! Thank you so much – you have helped me improve a lot. One thing: How do you loosen up before and during a conversation?

  40. Miley

    I think having an awesome social life means that I am surrounded with people I admire and that I do not care if they have little flaws because that makes them even more attractive. I hope we can always learn things from each other and we make each other better person. I had a friend almost like this when I was in college, I learn from her and she tells me that I gave her courage, but I didn’t think I was fully devoted and completely comfortable in the relationship because I am most of the time too self-centered and overly sensitive. Your advices are so down-to-earth and helpful, I just started learning them and I think I already feel like improving is not that hard. Thank you

  41. Melissa

    My definition of an awesome social life is having people who you can be yourself around and doing fun things together such as going to the movies, shows, events, etc. I’ve always wanted one of these, but never really knew how to start. I want to be more confident and always know what to say in every situation.

    • David Morin

      Thank you for sharing Melissa, glad to have you with us!

  42. Lisa

    David, I love the ‘Awkward to Awesome’ title. Immediately I thought of converting ‘awkward’ social activity to ‘awesome’ social contact. The title is appropriate and ‘point on’ the issue.

    • David Morin

      That’s exactly what we’re going for, happy to hear you like it, Lisa!

  43. Camilla

    When I think of a awesome social life I think about one specific thing: Who I am as a person mathers! That I do NOT feel that words and thoughts that comes from me are worhtless. And that I have a flow of sharing and geting in return, not because I need to, but because it’s just the way it is with friends and family. And I don´t have to think about how to act or how to say things, because I already feel safe in the fellowship. 🙂

    I love getting this emails by the way – they already working 😀
    I think you make so many persons life so much easier!

    • David Morin

      That’s so good to hear Camilla, thank you! 😀

      Stay awesome!

  44. Anonymous

    My awesome social life would be to have a few close friends I can share everything with, and be able to confidently talk to strangers

    • Viktor Sander

      That’s awesome! Thanks for sharing 🙂

  45. Anonymous

    Awkardness is about randomness thoughts, not orgnized. also, there is an ebook called seductive story telling , and another one is storytelling techniques google it so you could get out of the fuckin awkardness.

  46. Nikita Sinhal

    Awesome social life = have great chill, drama free people to share interests and new experiences with like kayaking and hiking. And bonding over life stories and dreams.

  47. Gabriella

    My definition of an awesome social life is to be completely relaxed in every situation, with different type of people. Knowing what to say and do without feeling limited or awkward.

  48. Amanda

    My definition of an awesome social life is to have lots of connections in the right places and a play hard, work hard lifestyle.

  49. Chris

    My definition of an awesome social life is having people you can rely on and have a good time with. People you can go on adventures with.

    • I agree Chris, I think finding the right friends is key to a great social life. Too many people get stuck with incompatible friends.