“I wasn’t a shy kid growing up, but I became very withdrawn around age 12, 13 due to an eating disorder I developed and have been very reserved ever since. Sometimes I had things to say, but I didn’t know how to go about it. Like, I didn’t want to interrupt the person speaking, but as soon as they were done someone else spoke and the conversation moved on. Other times I just didn’t have anything to say.
I now find small-talk with strangers and bonding 1-on-1 to be effortless.”
Here’s Rebecca´s story
I wasn’t a shy kid growing up, but I became very withdrawn around age 12, 13 due to an eating disorder I developed and have been very reserved ever since. I am currently in my first year at university and am trying with some success to overcome my quietness.
I have had a phenomenal experience with the program so far!
All of a sudden, my natural curiosity is leading me to have better conversations with people that we both enjoy. The majority of my relationships are just in the primary phase so far, but I have done many things with people who were just recently strangers.
I have people happy to see me and contacting me again at a later point to continue a conversation we’ve already had (kind of like what you’re doing :)). The best part is, I’m doing basically nothing more than just asking them questions and sharing my opinions. I did not have to change in any way for any of this. IIRI is a magical formula!*
I find that I am so much better in 1-on-1 conversations and even small groups. In large groups, it definitely is harder – just because of the environment – but the changes that are happening in 1-on-1 are definitely moving into group conversations. I find that the unconscious confidence these new “social success” moments I’ve been having lately builds the more they happen, and the more they happen, the easier (and more fun) bigger group conversations get.
I find that people make an effort to talk to me now and ask me how I’m doing. I know that friendships take years to build, but this course definitely is putting me on the fast-track to do so. I now find small-talk with strangers, and bonding 1-on-1, to be effortless. There is a great improvement in group conversations as well.
This course is amazing and I 10/10 recommend it for anyone who has EVER been at a loss at what to say when conversing. This course holds all these social skills so many of us seem to just be missing. Thank you so much, David!
Life is about the connections and relationships you have, and now I know how to have some.
* IIRI is a method we cover in Awkward to Awesome
Rebecca’s story has been cited as-is and only changes for readability have been made. Rebecca has asked us to not use her real name.