How to Double Your Social Confidence in 5 Minutes

Here’s how we were able to measure Fanny’s confidence levels (Opens in new window)
References: Zou JB, Hudson JL, Rapee RM: The effect of attentional focus, Logier et al: Comparison of pulse rate variability and heart rate variability for high-frequency content estimation

If you liked this video, you’ll love the videos I’m about to send you:

  1. How to avoid awkward silence and conversations hitting a wall
  2. How to get past the small talk and actually start bonding
  3. Why conversations die out and what to do about it
  4. Why people stop keeping in touch after a while and what to do about it
  5. How to stay in touch with someone you’ve just met in a natural way (and how to meet up again without forcing it)


Comments (38)

  1. Anonymous

    Freakin amazing. And for free, it’s almost like a dream.

  2. Shyneka

    I agree fantastic film clip
    Good Coaching will do it everytime..

  3. Phyllis

    I am looking for suggestions how to help adult daughter who is hyper talker.
    It is hard to be around her because she talks so fast ; I want to say stop and breathe!
    Thank you for any suggestions.

  4. Lenzy

    Please can you help me to be a better communicator with my wife after being put down and receiving what may be considered unhealthy criticism for 5yrs .

  5. Anonymous

    It all make sense can you Help me to communicate with my wife and build heathy borders to prevent being talked down to .

  6. Anonymous

    I was sent this video by my wife. I received a lot of great insight to a few things to work on like eye contact and confidence. As I said i suffer at communication due ito a lack of confidence. And being talked down to like a child when a parent constantly tells them they will never be anything.

  7. Anonymous

    What do you when you don’t what to talk about

    • Anonymous

      First of all I’m participating in this because I love my wife and out of pure respect for her feelings am I willing to try it. So with that said here we go.

  8. Nekka

    This makes absolute sense. Just allow the body to do what it wants and accept it really helps me. Thank you! I will practice and apply.

  9. Judy

    Nice and thank you. It is a start

    • Anonymous

      I have no quams with admitting I’m wrong because I can’t know it all . I admit that I have room for improvement so if she thinks it will help I’m willing to try it with my whole heart. My communication skill suck. Due to some things such as a put downs and a few others. A once social butterfly has went back into the cacoon can you help me now that you’ve been more informed of my situation?

  10. Jose

    I will try it on a person at work that I am attracted to every time o see her my heart rise and my mouth stops.

  11. Amy

    I know that I am confident, but I tend to second-guess myself and get anxious, especially when conversating with people I’m not too familiar with, while also speaking at a fast pace (bad habit I have around anyone). I want more awareness of myself in a conversation(in general; like dos and don’ts) while also increasing my focus on the other person in a curious way. Thank you for these videos!

    • David Morin

      Good goals Amy, I see you have already thought about this topic quite a bit already which is great. Being aware and acknowledging our problems is always the first step. 🙂

      • Anonymous

        I too will work on my goals and have confidence in my decisions. Regardless of what others think. I will build heathy borders and not shut down.

    • Dan

      Same story here! Sometimes I’m really confident, positive and assertive; other times I feel myself quite fragile and couldn’t handle even a conversation with the colleague I know..

      Great video! The first one of about 50 articles I have read on the topic so far.

      Thank you & looking forward for the next ones

  12. K

    I have the same problem. It feels like whenever i want to meet someone it is more forced. I also have problem with small talk and don’t know how to get through it. Awkward silences are also something that happen a lot 🙁

  13. Anonymous

    This is great. I’m wondering how it applies to those conversations with people that aren’t total strangers but you also don’t feel comfortable with. I find I have difficulty being in my own head less with strangers and more with people I’m “supposed to” know well or be able to keep conversation with.

    • Anonymous

      Same thing with my teenage daughter! I am hoping to help her to be more comfortable with her classmates. She can connect better with people she just met than those she has known for years.

  14. Anonymous

    Wow it’s a awesome video,I guess I need to practice. Thanks for sharing with us.

    • David Morin

      Glad you enjoyed it! Let me know how it goes!

      • Stephen

        Am 61 years old, trying to relate to people in their 20’-50’ age group. It a one week event every year. Everyone seems to know each other. Having trouble trying to fit in.

  15. Kelly

    It helped me in a little way but please do send more videos to me
    Thank you so much

    • Anonymous

      Yes please you have some great ideas

  16. Anonymous

    thank you.

  17. Kaviz

    Thanks!!It is really helpful. OFC

  18. Anonymous

    Pls more videos

    • David Morin

      Working on it! 🙂

  19. Bumba

    Hope this helps me out! It’s hard but it’s worth it.

    • David Morin

      It gets easier with more practise 🙂 Keep going!

  20. Anonymous

    good video! I just thing that the concept of self image and subjective priority regarding what one considers as good characteristics about oneself are big factors as well. e.g i meet a new person and i think that I am a very attractive person and at the same time i think that my good looks help a lot in making people like me and that helps me feel comfortable in such a situation i will feel confident with regards to my looks, but in another situation say i think looks make people like me but i don’t think of myself as an attractive person then i will not be confident. a solution in this case will be to change my perspective to thinking that my looks do not matter and what i say matters more, then regardless of my looks i will feel comfortable that is if i am a confident speaker.

    • Anonymous

      Thanks a lot as a somewhat average looking person this helped me be more confident when making conversations with people.

  21. Michele

    What a gift, thank you for your work and for sharing.

  22. Nina

    This makes so much sense. Thank You!!!!!!

  23. Anonymous

    It works. By just staying curious with what the other person is saying, i sometimes found myself really interested in our topic.
    It’s very nice, thank you.

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