David Morin

8 years ago, I committed to build my social confidence and become great at connecting with people.

Hundreds of books and thousands of interactions later, I'm ready to share with the world what I’ve learned.

The interest in my findings has been beyond my dreams. We now have 30 000 members taking our courses. Perhaps you’ve seen my writing in magazines like Business Insider and Lifehacker.

Follow me on Twitter or Read more.

8 years ago, I committed to build my social confidence and become great at connecting with people.

Hundreds of books and thousands of interactions later, I'm ready to share with the world what I’ve learned.

The interest in my findings has been beyond my dreams. We now have 30 000 members taking our courses. Perhaps you’ve seen my writing in magazines like Business Insider and Lifehacker.

Follow me on Twitter or Read more.

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  1. Isaac

    Hi David,
    The 3 things that interest me is this:
    People that are active and like to participate in sports is intresting.
    Another is that they could like to bing watch t.v. shows such the flash, arrow or supergirl.
    Lastly, they should be funny to talk to, making people laugh one of the greatest thing you could do to have amd interesting conversation

  2. Swagata Kisku

    Well, I think we get interest in a person when we get something common as well as interesting topics that we want to share (eagerly) with people…if the person is interested and get comfortable or friendly then we make our next move to discuss/share that further. This is all about ‘Initiation’ to start a conversation. And I think it should be done mutually. But if a person not even try to innitiate then there’s no point in talking according to me.
    And thank you David for these thoughts you share with us in a daily basis so that we could understand those people with whom we interact out there.

  3. Clarus

    I hate loud places and most of the time I would even ignore my closest friend when he’s talking because I’m just not interested in it. If there is something that can set me off and enjoy talking for hours, it would be to a person with a common interest in technology, someone who is really knowledgeable about multiple industry and someone who has the ability and passion to go against me in a debate while still maintaining our friendship. I love debating with people, it gave me a sense of curiosity and thirst for knowledge unlike anything.

  4. Osvaldo

    HI David!

    I’m enjoying your tips. they are really helpful. I think following you I will improve my relationship with people I (will) know.

  5. Mohamed

    Thanks David these tips are really helpful I have already tried what you sent in the last 3 emails and they succeeded

  6. Aleksa

    Thanks David
    I find this very helpful. I realized that it’s easier to be relaxed and to not think so much when meeting new people, but I have a problem that I think is much harder to fix when it comes to connecting with people. I just feel that I can’t connect with people that I meet. At first I find them interesting and have a nice time with them, but after a few days when I meet the same person I feel that I can’t connect with him/her anymore. It’s like I get scared of not being able to put our relationship on the higher level(possible friend). And this happens like everytime I meet someone new and interesting to me, I just can’t think of anything to talk anymore and the anxiety eats me inside. Do you have any advice that can help me?

  7. Logan

    David Morin, all of this is so helpful and should be so obvious. Thank you so much for these free life tips. You are making a difference in the world.

    • David Morin

      Thank you Logan! =)

  8. alli

    I think just the feeling that you can say whatever and be completely yourself around the person is a great quality. If I find that we have things we’re both interested in that’s another great quality as well!

  9. Shyneka

    Thank you
    David for creating this Social Pro space so we can chat to you and each other I’ve been away for a while I know.. but I do like that we can express ourselves, decuss topics and learn together.

  10. Anonymous

    Hi David, thank you for the story that helps you understand others. In big ways, I’m such kind and take me as I am, and others as they are. But it is not always easy for people to understand and accept that one does not strive for anyone to like me, but to stick to their interests, but does not require others to agree. I do not matter if you can see the interior of others. But I have a feeling if I start conversation for relaxed, not in the style of “hello” or “today we have nice weather” but start talking to people like I am known long ago that others perceive it as being not normal , especially here in Sweden. Then you get a bit confused and question what is normal.

  11. Jaimie

    As I am reading these articles and watching your videos (which are fantastic by the way!), I find myself thinking that, even if I do apply these principles to my social life, I will still struggle big time. This is because I actually don’t know what I think about things, or what I value and why. I have been such a people pleaser for so long, terrified of rejection, that I lost myself in it all. Most of my thought life is consumed by my anxiety and my obsession with how I have a to “fix” myself. My question is do you have any advice on how to relearn who I am and learn to express myself in these ways?
    -jaimie

    • Mark

      Hey Jaimie, I feel the exact same thing as you. Really nice work, great tips and so on, but I also feel like it won’t solve my “problem”. I feel like I lost myself as well and feel like I don’t even know who the fuck I am myself..
      Therefore I wanted to ask you, if you have improved your situation with yourself. Do you have any tips of what to do to a person in the same situation as you?

  12. The 3 qualities I look for in a friend would be 1) a good listener, 2) sense of humor, and 3) makes me feel supported and accepted. Come to think of it, those are the qualities I should be myself to others. After all, to have a friend is to be a friend, as the saying goes.

  13. Kyle

    If someone enjoys sports, new technologies (self driving cars, Tesla) and has a genuine curiosity to improve I am all ears. Thank you for content it is very helpful!

  14. Rocky

    I would like to share a story with you. I challenged myself when I was 19 and spent six months in Brazil, with a language I didn’t speak. And guess what I learned?

    The body language tells you a lot more about a person than what words the person is using. So, here are my tips for making contact and getting engagement:
    – Get out of your own shell/world and focus on the other person
    – Make eye contact and use a calm and relaxed body language
    – Open arms/shoulders towards the person you are speaking to (no crossed arms)
    – Make sure the other person feels like a priority when you speak to them

    When kids haven’t seen their best friend for a while – they don’t speak – they make a body posture and the other kid is making the same posture. After this, everything is back to normal again, like as they never have been apart.

    • Viktor Sander

      Awesome Rocky, I like your mindset!

  15. Mia

    I’m looking for someone who 1. will talk openly about complicated philosophical issues, 2. has a sense of humor about life, and 3. reads a lot and has a lot of knowledge, so that we have lots of things we can talk about.

  16. Linus

    i am in sales
    for the ‘PROTO’ – sales part, so to say, i need to begin with good conversation
    BUT
    on FB i am having a more charity centred mission
    i would love to chat with those feeling blue to make them feel better
    But they just clam up
    i guess when i felt blue i too did not like to talk on those topics that made me feel worse
    i guess You know, as social scientists, the solution to disarming those feeling blue
    Please in my lifetime i need to get this achievement as it is central to my FB mission
    On LinkedIn i target sales
    But here i have almost no problems conversing with prospects
    As a lover of math problems, incl: Fermat’s 3rd theorem, i would like to reach the more DIFFICULT goal.

  17. Anonymous

    Someone who is brilliant, funny and smart.

    • David Morin

      Good ones!

  18. Anonymous

    Your words and what you say really help a lot. I like the positive feedback, thank you, means a lot. I like reading your messages their very inspiring and excellent. I do believe it’s good to find an interest in people that have something common with that person .

    • David Morin

      Thanks!

  19. Gabriella

    If someone either likes the same tv-shows as me, cats or cooking I’m pretty sure we will come along great 🙂 I will try your technique to look for this more in the future. I’m enjoying your emails a lot so far, I love improving and learning this way!

    • David Morin

      Thanks Gabriella! 🙂

  20. sam

    This material is helpful. I should make improvement going forward as i work on the highlighted themes. Thanks for sharing.

    • David Morin

      I’m sure you will! Good luck 🙂