Won’t I lose who I am if I change?

roadblocks to change

I just spoke with a friend who lives in my house. She moved to the US from India a while back.

Because of that, she pronounces some words differently, so that sometimes people don’t understand her.

Here’s where we come to one of these interesting “peeks under the hood” of people’s inner workings.

She’s 1) SUPER motivated to be understood and to be successful in the US. But 2) Not very interested in changing her pronunciation.

I got flustered. To me, those two views don’t go together. So, I poked around until she said:

“But if I start changing my accent, won’t I lose who I am?”

BAM! How could I forget? This is one of the biggest objections our readers have before they decide to take the leap.

So, I told her what I tell our participants:

We change all the time. You speak in one way with grandma and another way with your friends. This doesn’t make you fake, quite the opposite: One of the things that make us human is our ability to adapt and improve. It’s not shallow, it’s beautiful.

I told her about the two things that we DON’T want to change: Our beliefs and our values. (Even they change over the years, but we shouldn’t change them to fit in).

Then there are manners – like how we act, energy level, accent, topics we talk aboutAs long as they don’t go against our beliefs and values, we can adapt them to any situation we’re in.

What she did after I told her this surprised even me. She started practicing my pronunciation and asked me to critique it. (Yeah yeah I know, my pronunciation is also a work in progress). It was like she had always been motivated to improve, and now that the final objection was out of the way, nothing held her back.

Changing how you act won’t make you lose who you are. As long as you act in accordance with your values and beliefs, you will always be you. It’s a powerful realization, but sometimes I forget HOW powerful it is.

Read more: How to be yourself in social settings.

Have you ever kept from self-improvement because you’ve been afraid to lose who you are?

Let me know in the comments!

How I approach intimidating people

how to approach intimidating people

I took a sneak photo of this HUGE guy with my phone on the subway the other day. He’s easily 6’10 (210 cm) and he looks so imposing that I had to take a photo for you.

intimidating peopleI actually know a guy equally intimidating. We can call him Josh. Tall, controlled facial expressions, good looking, and well dressed. He came off as both intimidating and unapproachable.

A few years ago, I’d try to play it cool and wait for them to show friendliness before I dared to be friendly, too.

Now, I know how that road just leads to a stalled relationship (fueled by my fear to be rejected).

Another mistake I did, later on, was trying to get their approval. I tried being overly positive and happy towards them. Subconsciously, I approached them like I was their fan rather than their equal.

That just made me come off as needy.

We need a different approach…

Here’s how I approach intimidating people today

From the get-go, I smile warmly and make myself approachable. I “dare” to be the one to smile first.

As it turned out with my intimidating friend Josh, his distant personality was just his shield against the world.

Most people walk around with a mask to protect themselves against potential rejection from others.

Another example is a friend of mine in Sweden. She’s an extremely successful businesswoman, beautiful, hard-working, and intelligent. At first impression, I was quite intimidated by her. But once I got to know her, it turned out she was a sensitive and caring person. She just puts on her mask to protect that vulnerable part of herself.

Isn’t life funny – We put on our own masks to protect ourselves from others masks.

how to approach intimidating people

The one who dares to put down their mask first wins in life.

Here’s how you can do it in practice:

  1. Ask a sincere question to get to know who they really are

“What’s your favorite part of working as a lawyer?”

  1. When it feels natural, give them a sincere compliment.

“It was exciting to hear about your new business. I hope it goes well”

(You see, insecure people almost never compliment others. They’re too busy worrying about how THEY come off.)

Lesson learned:

Being sincere and friendly, without being needy, is the best way to de-mask intimidating people.

Read more here: 7 mindsets to deal with an intimidating person.

Let me know what you think in the comments below!

“Just be yourself” is the worst advice

Over the years I’ve read so much terrible advice on how to improve socially.

It’s not just that it doesn’t help – it can even make you worse off and hurt your social life.

Here are some of the worst ones:

“Just be more social”

This one is so stupid it’s almost funny. But instead of me ranting about it, enjoy this strip:

 

[Here’s some advice that actually does work to be more social.]

Here’s another one:

“When you’re in a social setting, just remember to A, B, C, D, E. Also, you need to avoid to F, G, H, I…”

Do you know what the most surefire way is to become more self-conscious and nervous in social settings? Answer: Trying to remember a bunch of things you should and shouldn’t do.

Instead of trying to remember 100 different things, you want to focus on one thing at the time, starting with the most powerful one. That’s how we’ve designed Awkward to Awesome. We focus on one core concept and help you internalize it. Then, you’re able to learn more advanced techniques on top of that, when you already have a solid foundation.

“Just speak your mind”

The core of this advice is good. When people are anxious they tend to filter themselves too hard. But it won’t help to “just speak your mind”. You might end up saying some offensive things. I’ve done it myself, it did not work out that well :).

We discovered that to tackle this problem of over-thinking, we had to start at a whole different end: Learning to feel more at ease in social settings FIRST. When our beta testers got that handled, they were able to adjust their filter and speak their mind (without speaking before thinking). It turns out, it’s not that much about learning a technique. It’s more about learning to feel at ease. That’s when your brain works the best and problems like overthinking and filtering self-correct.

“Just memorize these scripts and questions”

Having a few questions to fall back on can be great if the conversation dies out and your mind goes blank. But most of the examples I’ve heard will make you sound like a weirdo.

Also, socializing isn’t about being a weird pickup person who communicates through canned lines.

Take this one for example:

“Just ask people you meet: What’s your personal passion project?”

Ehh, who talks like that? It’s great to find out people’s passions, but if you use a canned question like that you’ll freak people out.

Then there are questions that actually DO work to fall back on when a conversation dies out. My favorite is “Did you hear that [insert anything newsworthy you recently read]?.”

“Use self-affirmations”

You know this whole thing of putting up posters on the bathroom mirror saying “You’re valuable”? It’s not just that it doesn’t work; like this study shows, it can even make you worse off!

(I’ve written here about how to actually improve your self-esteem.)

“Just be yourself”

What even is “yourself?”. Is it the happy you, the serious you, the energetic you or the calm you? When people give that advice, what they probably mean is “don’t play the role of someone you don’t want to be”. But that’s obvious and not helpful.

I know people giving advice like this mean well, but it does more damage than good.

Read more: How to be yourself in social setting with DETAILED instructions.

What is the worst advice YOU’VE heard? And on a more positive note, what’s the most helpful advice someone ever given you? Let me know in the comments!

How to never run out of things to say

How to never run out of things to say

I often used to run out of things to talk about. Either because I got stuck in small talk that died out, or because I tensed up so that my mind went blank.

Sometimes, a conversation is meant to end and there’s no need to push it. But if you often run out of things to say, this guide is for you.

1. Practice saying what’s on your mind without filtering yourself

I used to worry that what I said would sound dumb or too obvious. When I analyzed socially savvy people, I learned that they say mundane, obvious things all the time.[2]

When you start a conversation with someone new you may feel like small talk is awkward and meaningless. The truth is that small talk helps us “warm-up” to each other and signal that we’re friendly, easy-going and open for interaction. People will judge you for what you say as little as you walk around and judge others for what they say. Instead of trying to say smart things, say whatever’s on your mind.

2. Get past the small talk by asking something more personal

“I often run out of things to say with friends. I get stuck in small talk and the conversation dies out”. 

– Cas

Ask people slightly personal questions to make boring topics interesting.

If you talk about work, ask what they like the most about it or where they see themselves in the future. If you talk about rents, ask them if they have a dream of where to live.

This way, you move from small talk to personal mode. In the personal mode we learn about each others…

  • Plans
  • Likes
  • Passions
  • Dreams
  • Hopes
  • Fears

When you transition the conversation like this, you’re engaging the other person more and it’s easier to make conversation.[3] At this point, you get to know each other rather than just making small talk.

3. Focus on the conversation whenever you get stuck in thoughts

Sometimes, all we can think about is if we come off as weird, if we’re blushing or that our heart is about to jump out of our chest. The key is to calm your mind by focusing intensively on what the other person is saying:

In a study conducted at Macquarie University on attentional focus in social anxiety, they found that when the participants focused their attention on what the other person was saying, instead of on their internal reactions like heart rate, blushing, concern over how they were being perceived, they were less nervous and had fewer physical reactions as a result.[1]

When you focus on what your partner is saying you won’t have time to feed your internal anxiety because your mind is caught up in the conversation. When you worry less about you, it’s easier to come up with things to say.

4. Stop trying and it’ll be easier to come up with things to say

I decided to stop trying so hard. I accepted that conversation didn’t have to go great and that people didn’t have to like me. Ironically, that helped me relax and be more pleasant and likable to be around.

Rather than being on edge trying to come up with things to say, allow for silences. Be okay with taking a few seconds extra to formulate an answer. Rather than trying to make people like you, make sure that they like being AROUND you.

You can do that by being a great listener. When you talk, you say things that you think are fun or interesting for the other person to hear, not things that are supposed to make you look a certain way. (Humblebragging, talking about cool stuff you’ve done, etc.)

People want to be liked and heard and are interested in people who show them that kind of genuine attention. As Maya Angelou said, “At the end of the day people won’t remember what you said or did, they will remember how you made them feel.”

Read more here in our guide on how to be more likable.

5. Look at where they point their feet to know if they want to continue talking

Sometimes a conversation dies out because the other person tries to end it, and sometimes they want to talk but just don’t know what to say. How do you know the difference?

Their body language will tell you if they are inclined to spend time talking or if they have other plans. Look at what way their feet are pointing. Is it toward you or away from you? If it’s toward you, they are inviting further conversation. If it’s away from you, they might want to get away from the conversation. If they also spend a lot of time looking in the direction of their feet, it’s an even stronger signal that they want to leave.

If they point away from you, you can wrap up the conversation. “It was really nice talking to you, I think it’s time for me to get back to work”. If they point their feet at you and look at you, you can feel confident that they’ll want to keep talking.

6. Use things around you as inspiration for new topics

Take inspiration from your environment and make a comment or ask a question about it to not run out of things to say. Something like, “Love these plants. Are you good at growing stuff?” Or “I like this new office. Is there a difference in commute time for you?”

Some avoid simple statements like these because they think that they are too mundane. Don’t! They work great as inspiration for new, interesting topics.

7. Refer back to something you talked about before

When the topic you’re talking about dries up, feel free to go back to any topic you talked about before.

Let’s say that someone mentions that they are in the import business, and then the conversation moves on. A few minutes later, when it fizzles out, you can go back to asking something about the import business. “You mentioned that you’re doing imports. What do you import more specifically?”

Conversations don’t have to be a straight line. When a topic dies out, feel free to move to a new one or a previous one.

8. Make simple, positive statements

I think of these as conversation buffers. They keep the conversation going but they’re not too deep. A simple, positive statement could be “What a cool house” or “It’s sunny today”. This is a fairly organic way to move on to new topics. It helps you see if you have a connection on something else like being interested in architecture or what weather you prefer and, based on that, where you’d rather live.

You don’t need to fabricate statements. Your mind already makes statements about things – that’s how the mind works. Feel free to let those thoughts out.

9. Ask open-ended questions

Open-ended questions give the other person a chance to think about their answer and say something more detailed than yes or no.

Rather than asking “Was the vacation good?” (Close-ended) you can ask “How was your vacation?” (Open-ended)

Asking questions like these often gives more elaborate answers, and because of that, you’ll get to know each other faster and on a deeper level.

10. Look for mutual interests

When we find out that we have something in common with someone, it’s an automatic spark to the friendship (and a hint of relief). Make it a habit to mention things you’re interested in.

If someone asks what you were up to over the weekend, you could say “I met up with my book club yesterday” or “I went to the gym and then took my son to his hockey game” or “I watched this harrowing documentary about the Vietnam war”.

Mentioning things you’re interested in will help you “scout” for mutual interests. If you come across someone who’s also interested in books, hockey, or history, they’ll probably want to hear more about it.

11. Know that people do want to learn about you, too

It’s a myth that people only want to talk about themselves. They also want to get a picture of the person they’re talking to – you. Don’t be afraid to share things about yourself as long as you’re also showing interest in the other person.

Balance with the other person how much you share. If someone gives you an in-depth explanation of their job, give them an in-depth explanation of your job. If they just briefly mention what they do, briefly mention what you do.

This helps us bond because we are revealing things to each other at the same pace. You’re keeping it interesting for your partner because you’re opening up, too.

12. Ask follow-up questions

So you’ve just learned that the person you talk to is originally from Connecticut. To move the conversation along you could ask “what, why, when and how”-questions to draw that experience out more. Things like: “What was it like to grow up in Connecticut? “Why did you move here?” “How did you feel about leaving home?” Let your natural curiosity guide you. Share related information about yourself in between your questions so you don’t come off as an interrogator. If they are giving you full, thoughtful answers, keep going.

13. See a person as a map with blanks that you can fill out by asking questions

Everyone comes from somewhere and has interesting stories related to their interests, dreams, aspirations, and past. Think of getting to know someone as a gentle quest to understand more about where they come from, what they like and their future dreams.

You’re asking questions with the purpose of filling in the blanks of where they’re from, what they do, and what their future plans are. How did they grow up? (Where, siblings, parents), Where did they go to school and what they study? What do they love doing in their free time and what do they want to do in the future? Over time filling in these blanks gives you an unlimited number of topics to talk about and while you ask questions (and share about yourself in between), you get to know each other.

14. Be comfortable with some silence rather than trying to avoid it

Silence happens. It’s not a bad thing. It’s a natural part of a conversation and letting it happen rather than trying to fill it, is O.K. In fact, silence has a purpose. It gives you time to take a breath and think and to make the conversation more meaningful. Letting there be silence and not being anxious about it helps you bond with the other person. If you learn to be comfortable with the silence, it can be refreshing to not have to talk all the time.

Filling every break in a conversation with words can come off as anxious. Remember that a conversation is between two people, who are both participating equally. If you need a few seconds break, take it. They might need it too.

15. Practice being more relaxed when you make conversation

“Why can’t I think of things to say with someone I like? I specifically want to learn how to never run out of things to say with a girl I know. Around her, I get extra nervous, and run out of things to talk about.”

– Patrick

It’s normal to be nervous when you’re meeting someone for the first time. Especially if it’s a girl or a boy you like.

Practice staying a bit longer than usual in a conversation even if you’re feeling nervous and would rather just leave. Our instinct is to get away from what makes us nervous. But you want to stay longer in those situations! You’re slowly teaching your brain that nothing bad happens if you do, and you’re slowly becoming better at handling these situations.

Here’s our guide on how to not get nervous around people.

16. Know that it isn’t your responsibility to talk all the time

Silence is not a failure. A sign of a great friendship is that both can be quiet together and not feel uncomfortable about it. It might feel like you’re the one responsible to come up with things to say, but the other person is likely thinking that it’s THEIR responsibility. They aren’t waiting for you to talk. They’re also trying to come up with things to say!

If you show that you’re calm in the silence and OK with not saying anything, your friend will be, too.

Read our guide on how to be comfortable with silence.

17. How to never run out of things to say when texting

When you’re texting with someone, have the following two rules in mind. These rules will make your conversations more interesting and it’ll be easier to come up with things to say:

Rule 1: Lead by example

If you want an interesting answer from someone, share something interesting first.

Example: “Today I almost missed the bus because I saw two squirrels fighting. How was your morning?”. It’s easy to come up with because you can use things that happened during your day for inspiration. It can also inspire a more thoughtful reply than just asking “How was your morning?”

Rule 2: Always go deeper

Always go deeper into a subject if you want the conversation to be more interesting. It’s also easier to come up with things to talk about if you go deeper into a subject.

To continue the example with the morning, you can go deeper by sharing how you feel in the mornings (stressed, happy, dreadful) and ask how they feel about their mornings. From now on, you can talk about personal feelings and thoughts about life.

The conversation gets more interesting, and you get to know each other on a deeper level.

18. Conversations are meant to end at some point

Not everyone you meet will be someone you connect with on multiple levels. Sometimes it’s just a bit of small talk and that’s all you have time for. Time, circumstances, how you feel that day, how they feel that day, lots of things decide how much emotional space we have for conversation. No conversation is meant to go on forever.

A conversation is not a failure just because it’s short. One thing is certain. The more conversations you’ll have, the better of a conversationalist you’ll become.

19. A real-world example on how to never run out of things to say

Here’s what you will learn in the video:

00:15 – The solution to never running out of things to say
00:36 – Linear- vs Nonlinear conversations
01:00 – Won’t you come off as random switching the subject?
01:24 – Real life example of Conversational Threading
02:30 – How to best practice Conversational Threading
02:46 – The best thing about learning this

References

  1. Zou, J. B., Hudson, J. L., & Rapee, R. M. (2007). The effect of attentional focus on social anxiety. Behaviour Research and Therapy, 45(10), 2326-2333.
  2. Peter Bearman, Paolo Parigi, Cloning Headless Frogs and Other Important Matters: Conversation Topics and Network Structure, Social Forces, Volume 83, Issue 2, December 2004, Pages 535–557, https://doi.org/10.1353/sof.2005.0001
  3. Morris-Adams, M. (2014). From Spanish paintings to murder: Topic transitions in casual conversations between native and non-native speakers of English. Journal of Pragmatics, 62, 151-165.

This Is What Changed Everything For Me

Say hello to old David.

– I worried what others thought of me and that they wouldn’t like me.
– It took me forever to connect and make new friends.
– I felt weirdly incapable of making normal conversation and coming up with things to say.
– I felt like I bored people because I wasn’t interesting enough (and was often ignored in group conversations.).
– Often, just thinking about talking to strangers made my hands sweat.
– And man… don’t get me started about talking to girls. Here’s where I went full weirdo.

And what’s more, I was certain that’s just the way I was.

This didn’t just make my conversations awkward…

It slowly eroded the limited social life I had.

No one wants to experience the pain of talking to an awkward person. I eventually realized that it wasn’t their responsibility to figure out that I was a nice and interesting person.

Friends didn’t want to deal with awkwardness and forced small talk. So they made up excuses. They were often “busy.”

Of course, I didn’t realize that it was only excuses until years later.

I only realized it when I saw how eager people can be to hang out with you when you know how to connect.

How I freed myself from the prison in my head

Think about that awkward conversation you had with someone. Or the date where you didn’t know what to say. Or the job interview where you didn’t come off as “the right candidate” even if you were a perfect fit.

I want to tell you about how I got to where I am today. How I freed myself from thoughts spinning in my head, a racing heart around strangers, and lonely weekends worse than prison.

I was determined to be successful in life because I was sure that once I got successful, things would change.

Maybe you’ve had similar thoughts?

  • “Just wait until I get a new job.”
  • “Just wait until I make more money.”
  • “Just wait until I find the right guy/girl.”
  • “Just wait until I look better.”
  • “Just wait until I succeed with my dream.”

So I worked hard for years.

I started a company that did really well. I moved to a nice house in a great area and could buy myself whatever I wanted. So in the eyes of others, I did become successful.

But I didn’t feel successful, because nothing in my social life had really changed. I was still awkward. My school buddies had all moved to different cities. I still spent most weekends alone.

Nothing that really mattered had changed.

I understood that to be confident and natural around others I needed a new strategy.

It turned out that I’d made a huge mistake:

I thought it was wrong to read books on confidence; that it would make me fake. But I slowly realized that I couldn’t figure it all out on my own.

You know… those who went to school discos when they were kids built their social confidence “the natural way”. But still, they needed a decade or more of practice…

If I did the same thing, it would have taken just as long for me.

And I was already a decade behind in social experience. I needed something quicker – I needed to learn instead of just blindly doing.

So, I read everything I could on confidence and social interaction. I was busy running my company, but I practiced whenever I had a chance. Just a few minutes of practice on some days still made a difference.

I had been so stupid. I threw away 1000$ on a new TV because that’s “normal”. But I started to sweat when a course about social skills capable of changing my life cost a fraction of that.

Finally, I understood how much faster I learned by tapping into other’s knowledge.

And the opportunities my social confidence have given me have returned at least 100X of what I invested in books and courses:

  • All the friends I’ve made since I started my journey
  • The amazing people I’ve met
  • The life I now enjoy in NYC
  • And my company, SocialPro…

I took small steps.

  • Instead of just ignoring the passerby on the street, I nodded (even though it felt super uncomfortable at first).
  • Instead of just nodding to the cashier, I asked how she was.
  • Instead of just exchanging the basic greetings with my coworkers, I asked them how their vacation went and how their kids were doing.

I got all of that thanks to investing in myself.

I took small steps, practicing what I’d learned. I didn’t have to do anything scary.

Here’s an example:

When I met people, I just couldn’t relax and felt insanely awkward.

It came to the point where I would stay in my apartment anxiously watching Netflix instead of meeting people.

In one of the many books or courses I went through, I learned a method called “making friends with your nervosity”. Instead of trying to push nervosity away or avoid it, you can pay attention to it and let it be in your body without trying to fight it. You can even name it. (I named the pressure in my chest Bob.)

Something strange happens: When you stop “fearing the fear”, it loses its grip on you.

Anyway, when I first tried it, it didn’t go well.

There were so many other things to think about when I actually talked to someone.

It was like when I learned to drive. At first, it was impossible to steer, accelerate, and look for pedestrians at the same time.

But I practiced whenever I was around strangers.

One day I talked to someone and realized that I didn’t have that anxiety in my body. I actually enjoyed a conversation with a stranger.

WIN! I smiled all the way home.

I started to realize that the voice I had in my head had been wrong the whole time. (You know, that voice telling me, “You don’t have what it takes.”)

I made a realization:

Being able to talk to people in a relaxed way and connect with them is a skill you can learn. It’s not something you have to be born with.

Do you get that? It took me years to really get that.

I could be myself. I didn’t have to pretend to be someone else to fit in.

When I saw how much people liked to be around me, my self-confidence grew.

Here are some recent photos I’ve taken. I included them here because I think that they sum up my social life today. I’ve never been a party person. I always wanted a close circle of friends I can hang out with when I’m up for it.

And it all started with the understanding that being confident, natural, and relaxed around people is a skill you can learn.

Sometimes I think about what my life would be like if this never happened…

According to research, we lose half our friends every seventh year. This means that there would be no way for me to make friends faster than I lost them. For me, that would mean spending more and more nights and weekends in an empty apartment as the years pass by.

Bottom line: Choosing to not do anything is a bad option.

Share your thoughts in the comments below. I’d love to hear what your path has looked like so far and where you would like to go in the future!

How to Get Past Small Talk (Video of Conversations Between Strangers)

Question:

How do you turn someone you have a chat with every now and then into an actual friend?

How do you go from just being acquaintances – to being able to hang out one on one?

We need to first get past the small talk and actually connect.

Today I’m gonna show you what I do to avoid running out of things to say and how to get an interesting conversation going. You know – a conversation that actually helps you bond.

This is like pressing fast forward on your interaction until you start connecting.

Some people have a hard time becoming close friends with people they like. In the video below, I show some of the principles that have helped my participants the most.


Often the hardest part isn’t meeting new people. It’s to create a connection and build a relation with them – without having to put on a mask.

Here’s how I do it:

 

Here’s what you will learn in the video:

00:22 – How a team of Canadian researchers turned total strangers into close friends in 45 minutes
01:33 – The factor that decides if we become closer or not
01:50 – How to get past the small talk by turning any conversation into PERSONAL MODE
02:34 – The questions I use to get past the small talk
03:58 – Why we rigged an apartment “Big Brother”- style
04:23 – Actual conversation between me and someone I’ve never met before to show how I get past the small talk

You’ll have to open up a bit to make a deep connection with someone, but it can be hard to know to what degree you should do it. What if you get too personal and they back off? In the video, I show how to keep the right balance.

One of our readers, Lasse, after trying this method when he was visiting his dad.

 

Notice in the video that this is not about being a shallow person, faking it, or becoming like everyone else. (Quite the opposite, actually.)

Listen to the kind of questions I ask in the video and see how they transform the entire conversation. It becomes genuinely interesting.

“But David, I’m not interested in what others are doing”
-or-
“I’m not even that curious about people!”

You know what? I also don’t care about how Joe has an annoying work colleague and I don’t want to hear about how Joanne’s boyfriend never calls.

A lot of people I come across don’t interest me that much. It’s about asking the right questions, so you can figure out if you DO have something in common. You have to ask the right questions to find out.

You can see how we cut through the meaningless stuff in the video, getting into what’s actually personal and interesting. This is where the bonding happens and the conversation gets interesting.

“But David, it feels weird learning this stuff. It should come naturally.”

For years I thought, if I start practicing this, I will become just like one of those shallow partygoers and lose who I am.

Do you hear how irrational that sounds? Just because I become a better conversationalist, how would that make me shallow or fake?

This is a common mistake: Looking at people who are good at something and thinking we will automatically get their bad sides with the good.

Becoming a conversationalist won’t automatically turn you into someone else. It just means that you’ve improved.

Ironically, the side effect of improving socially is that I can be myself more than ever. I can be the nerd that I’ve always been and people still like me, because I’m socially skilled. I’m fun to talk to. I’m confident in who I am.

This is what I will talk more about the coming days. How to have fun and truly enjoy being around people – while still being yourself.

P.S What would you like to be better at when it comes to making conversation?

Let me know in the comments!

By writing down what you want to improve you drastically increase your chances of reaching your goals.

I’m excited to read about what you want to improve! I’ll make sure to read every comment.