How to be an interesting person to talk to

How do you become more interesting to talk to? How do you make sure that people think it’s interesting to talk to you?

I’m sure you’ve been in the situation where you’ve run into your neighbor and they kept dragging on about their new favorite health food craze and why kale is the new quinoa. All the while, you were thinking about the pizza rolls in your freezer and how you were going to eat them promptly after the conversation, in spite of everything they just said.

It’s natural to not want to be invested in every single conversation you have with every single person you come in contact with every single day- that would be incredibly exhausting. The question is, how can you see if someone wants to continue talking or if they want to end the conversation? read more

How to make friends in NYC – 8 ways I met new people

When I first arrived in New York City 2 years ago, I didn’t know ANYONE.


Boarding the plane to NYC with my one-way ticket from Sweden.

Today, I’m blessed with a family of friends that I can always do something fun with

Me with some of my friends in Central Park

Here’s how to make friends in NYC.

1. Choose a co-living rather than renting an apartment

When I moved to NYC I decided to try a co-living, meaning living together with a group of others. My first house here was a 3 story brownstone in Brooklyn. I shared the space with 15 other people. Artists, entrepreneurs, tech guys. There was a little bit of everything here. read more

How to improve conversation skills – 11 ways that work

These are the 11 best resources on how to improve your conversation skills. If you, like me, weren’t born knowing how to effortlessly talk to anyone, this guide is for you.

1. How to make interesting conversation

A few years ago, I started wondering about the difference between the conversations that seemed endlessly entertaining, and the ones that went nowhere quickly.

Was I the problem? Were some conversational topics just more engaging than others? The answer is kind of a “yes, but no”.

The best way to keep a conversation going is when both you and the person you talk to are interested in continuing it. You do that by talking about things you have in common. read more

30 best jobs for people with social anxiety in 2019

Welcome to the Internet’s most comprehensive list of good jobs for people with social anxiety.

We’ve divided the jobs into the following categories:

  1. Jobs you can learn on your own
  2. Jobs that don’t require experience or education
  3. Jobs that require formal education

Jobs you can learn on your own

Media and design

Graphic designer

As a graphic designer, you can work from home and would only need to contact your clients via email, skype or IM. Even if you work from an office, the majority of the time will be spent working on your own, with the exception of breaks and briefings. Because of this, it’s a popular job for people with social anxiety or introversion.

Average pay: $48 250 / $23 per hour. (Source) read more

How to tell if a girl likes you: 42 signs she has a crush on you

How do you know if a girl likes you or even has a crush on you?

My name is Viktor Sander. I’ve coached hundreds of men to have more success with women.

Here’s a list of 42 signs to help you understand how she feels about you.

1. Is she laughing at your jokes (even when they’re bad)?

This has always been a BIG GREEN SIGN of interest for me. I’ve seen it both in most of the girls I’ve dated and also in girls my friends have dated. If she got a crush on you, she will most likely think all your jokes are super funny even if they aren’t.

Read more: How to be funny (for un-funny people). read more

“I hate people” – What to do when you don’t like people

If you’re like me, you’re naturally inclined to not like people.

Here’s what I’ve learned after years of studying how people work, and why it seems like everyone gets along just fine while we’re the only ones who seem to think “I hate people”.

1. Is this you? Then, this guide is for you

Do you agree with several of the following statements?

  • Most people feel shallow and stupid
  • Many of those you’ve actually invested time and emotion in have ended up betraying you
  • You’ve come to realize that beneath the surface, people actually don’t care about others and lose interest in hanging out when it doesn’t suit them
  • You’re fed up with small talk and superficial niceness.
  • If you ever come home after a day of having to interact with others and think “I hate people”, this is for you.

Here’s the good news:

2. Why some of us don’t like people and why that’s good

When I started studying behavioral science, I learned that it’s common to be fed up with and even hate people.

A-type personalities (We who value getting things done over chit-chatting and exchanging pleasantries) are inclined to not like people. (Study) read more

301 small talk questions to ask friends, grouped for EVERY occasion

I often get asked by our readers:

“What are good questions to ask friends?” and “What are funny questions I can ask someone?” “What should I ask to get to know someone?”

We decided to go ahead and make a mega list of not 100, not 200, but 301 funny, deep and interesting questions to ask a friend, someone you want to get to know better, or just to have fun.

Conversation starters

General conversation starters

Nice to meet you, what’s your name?

How do you know people here?

What brings you here?

Are you from around here?

Do you come here often? read more

20 ways to tell fake friends from real friends

How do you tell if a friend is fake or not? It’s not easy because nobody is just good or bad. We all got good sides and bad sides.

But in some people or relationships, the bad sides take over. And that’s when you got a fake friend.

Here are 20 signs that will help you tell your fake friends from your real ones.

1. Pay attention to how much they talk about themselves

I once had a “friend” who would call me almost every day to talk about his ideas and problems. I tried to be a good friend by listening to him and giving him my best feedback.

On some days I also had something on my mind I wanted to talk about, but there was never any space for me to talk. And if I did get to talk a little, he soon changed the topic back to him. read more

How to deal with self-doubt: The secret confident people use


When I was about to leave everything in Sweden and move to NYC, these doubts popped up in my head:

  • But what if I don’t make any friends?
  • What if I don’t like it there?
  • What if I don’t make any money?
  • What if I have to go back to Sweden and everyone sees that I’m a failure?

Here’s what I’ve come to learn about self-doubt:

1: Everyone has it.

2: Everyone who’s ever succeeded with anything has felt like this and followed their dream ANYWAY.

Life is about doing things DESPITE the feeling that we might fail.

Isn’t it crazy to let life be dictated by a negative voice telling us it won’t work?

And we go “Oh, yeah, you’re right, negative voice. I’ll ditch all my dreams because it might not work”. read more

Were they making fun of me behind my back?

In school, I felt like an outsider.

I saw how others connected and had a great time, while I struggled.

Take the other guys in my class for example. I often worried that they were making fun of me behind my back and it felt like it was them inside and then me outside. (We’ve written an article about how to spot a fake friend from a real friend over here.)

Go here to read more about how to deal with someone making fun of you.

One day, a new guy came to class. After a week, he was closer with my classmates than I was after a year. read more

Interview with Tyler Tervooren on Using Systems to Retain Friendships

Tyler Tervooren blogs about strategies, leadership and smart risk taking for introverts Riskology.co.

In this interview, we cover topics including: