How to get Promoted (From a CEO’s Perspective)

How to get promoted

You knew for sure you were the one doing the best job. Still – someone who wasn’t as competent as you got the position you wanted.

During my years as a founding CEO in a growing company with emerging career opportunities, I gained insight into the anatomy of success among my employees. I ransacked myself – what was the real reason I let a person in my organization advance? I delved into psychology. Later on, this interest in why we do what we do make me found SocialPro.

In this article, I will try to use findings in behavioral science to help you understand the inscrutable ways of your boss. read more

How to Become Close Friends With Anyone in under 60 Minutes

Scientists at Stony Brook University in New York have designed a method to become close friends with anyone in less than 60 minutes. If this seems too good to be true, try it out for yourself to make friends quickly.

What researchers call the “fast friend” technique(1) will not only help you build deep relationships quickly, it also helps you know what to always say next in a conversation. Professionals such as police, interrogators, and psychologists have learned how to build trust and befriend a stranger rapidly based on these findings. read more

11 Ways to be Popular (that most people never heard about)

secrets of popular people

What are the hidden principles behind why some people are so popular?

Luckily, there’s an entire industry built around popularity: The movie industry. Movie creators know exactly how to make a character popular (or unpopular).

By studying highly popular Hollywood creations like superheroes, we can unveil the secrets how to be popular and learn how to adapt these principles to ourselves. read more

How to have a conversation without asking too many questions

Make conversation

It’s easy to get stuck in a conversation by just asking question upon question. And all you get is short one-word answers. It often ends up feeling more like an interview than a conversation.

It can feel so exhausting to carry that load in every conversation. In this guide, you’ll learn how to have a conversation without asking too many questions. Here are my best tips.

How to keep a conversation going without asking questions

You can also use a compliment to keep a conversation going.

Here are some examples of compliments you can use early on in a conversation: read more

How to Make Friends Online – The Ultimate Guide

Making Friends Online

Making friends online can be one of the easiest and most rewarding ways to enrich your social life. But for many, online friendship is just a blank page. In this guide, we got you covered.

You will get our best tips on:

  1. Where and how to find new friends online
  2. How to start a conversation online that leads to you meeting up
  3. 7 Mistakes that make you seem needy or desperate in online communication
  4. How to make an online conversation more interesting
  5. How to connect and bond with someone online
  6. Making an online profile that draws new friends to you
  7. Choosing who to contact online
  8. How to choose the right platform to make friends online

Let’s get started!

1. Where and how to find new friends online

To find friends online who are more like you, the first step is to find the right network for you. By choosing a network with like-minded people, you will find more people who interest you, and others will also be more interested in you.

Here are my best tips on where to find like-minded friends online: read more

25 Ways to Not be Socially Awkward

This guide is for you who feel awkward in new situations to the point where it makes it hard for you to connect with people.

The guide covers:

  1. Signs that you might be socially awkward
  2. How to not come off as socially awkward
  3. How to not FEEL socially awkward

Let’s get to it!

Signs that you might be socially awkward

These are some common signs that you might be socially awkward.

  1. You feel uncertain of how to react in social settings(1)
  2. You don’t know what’s expected of you or how to act in social settings(1)
  3. People who you’ve met before don’t seem interested in talking with you again or seem to want to get away from the conversation (Not to be confused with if someone is truly busy)
  4. You always feel nervous around new people and this nervosity hinders you from relaxing
  5. Your conversations often hit a wall and then there’s an awkward silence
  6. It’s hard for you to make new friends
  7. When you enter a social setting, you worry a lot about others think of you

We tend to overestimate how much others pay attention to us.(2, 3) Odds are that even if you feel socially awkward, you think you’re more awkward than anyone else thinks.

Let’s look at some ways to avoid coming off as socially awkward.

Chapter 1. How to not come off as socially awkward

This chapter is on how not to ACT in a socially awkward way. The next chapter is on how not to FEEL socially awkward. read more

Why Pay Raise Advice Can Destroy Your Career

Pay Raise Advice

During my years as a founding CEO of a growing company with many emerging career opportunities, I met a lot of enormously talented and hardworking people. With time, many of them got pay raises. But one thing amazed me – and scared me. Those employees who were not qualifying for a raise didn’t seem to understand why.

In this article, I will share insight on this from a CEO’s point of view, including what you should do to be the one your boss wants to give a raise (and how to not be the one who has to leave the company on the salary negotiation meeting). read more

26 Ways to Make Friends

How to make new friends

I used to struggle to make friends.

That motivated me to read many books on making friends and eventually become a behavioral scientist.

I’m happy I did, because socializing has gone from a painful struggle to something I can enjoy.

In chapter 1, I’ll talk about how to make friends more easily with people you come across in day to day life.

Chapter 2 is on how to meet more new people you can befriend. This is extra important if you want to make friends as an adult and don’t automatically meet people in school, etc. read more

How to develop close friendships

Close Friends

Here, you will learn:

  1. How to make anyone like you from the very first moment they see you.
  2. A dangerous mistake many do that makes others think they are annoying.
  3. An important principle when it comes to developing a close friendship.
  4. How to find a good girlfriend

The Friendship-Time Principle

Research has shown that an important ingredient for creating a deep friendship is a high level of exposure of each other.

Even if you may have many similarities with another person, you have to meet each other often for the friendship to deepen. There is no specific amount of hours that need to be met – instead, the more time you spend – the deeper the friendship will be.

Therefore: When you are in a social gathering, spend as much time as possible with the people you find similarities with. With two otherwise identical people, you will be a closer friend to someone you spend an hour with compared to someone you spend half an hour with. Find a way to hang out and participate in things that you both like. read more