“Why can’t I make friends? I feel like no one likes me, and I’ve realized that as an adult, it’s way harder than it was back in school.” – Kim
Feeling lonely or realizing that you don’t have friends can be upsetting. It can drain your self-esteem and confidence, which makes it even harder to feel motivated to socialize.
There are so many different reasons that you might not have friends, but the good news is that there is always something you can work on to help find the friends you want.
This quiz can help you to diagnose why you don’t have the friendship circle that you would like. Once you understand what the problem is, I will also offer suggestions for how you can start to work through your difficulties.
Finding new friends is rarely easy but spending the time to learn new social skills and build relationships will pay off in the long run.
These are common reasons for having no friends:
- Being an introvert
- Suffering from social anxiety or shyness
- Experiencing depression
- Having Aspergers
- Being socially inexperienced
- Not having social interests
- Recently having moved, split up with a partner, or changed job
- Not having time to socialize
This is a complex issue, and that why we’ve created a quiz. In addition to this quiz, see our main guide here: I have no friends.
- Part 1: Thought patterns that can keep you from making friends
- Part 2: Underlying reasons for having no friends
- Part 3: Life situations that make it hard to make friends
- Part 4: Common mistakes that make it hard to make friends
- Part 5: having friends that don’t feel like real friends
This is a good quiz and it helped me. This is kinda my story about how my relationship is with others: I spent half of my 8th grade feeling like I’ve been shut out by my “friends”. They would save spots for their friends/already have a partner for a class, and ignore me, even tho. I was their friends earlier on. From that moment, I knew that I wouldn’t fit in with anyone anymore. I still fucking feel the same feeling now bc my closest friend from 6th grade is distance learning from a different school (I am distant learning from the same school I have been going to since 6th grade). When the coronavirus spread, I liked to sneak into my room alone being on my phone for my free time instead of playing with my annoying and pestering 3 yr. old sister and my “weird” parents. In my freshman year of HS, I have no friends and feel I like shit. All I fucking have is just 1 close friend (who is my crush) and a million ex-friends. When I go back to my school next year when I’m a sophomore in HS, I think my friends won’t be happy to see me again. I am a nice person and all, but I think that my friends fucking hate me now bc I feel shyer than when I was in middle school. I went from being popular to unpopular, outgoing to shy, happy to depressed and having lots of friends to feeling lonely. P.S. I’m not trying to be rude at all (seriously I’m not!!!)
Haha. cool quiz. Kinda already knew im lonely, introvert, occasionaly depressed because of no answers for the past and i seclude myself because its safer, energy is more effeciantly used, people will eventually move change or do something that made all that time to get to know them lost. lonely now, but will be better tomorrow i think. got tons of projects and hobbies i lov and do but occasionaly need a friend. maybe im just bored now. quiz is pretty accurate.
Thanks for the quiz!
Sometimes I’m afraid in social situations, and feeling stupid standing there shy and quiet. Other times l feel confident and speaks alot. But l don’t know what l prefer, l would like something in between. Either l standing quiet, shy and feeling stupid, or l’m feeling secoure and say some words. But then l always end up saying some stupid or mean things l should’nt have said. Ex. Things l’ve been told from others that should’nt be shared, or negative thoughts about me and life. How to find a normal manner, and what is “normal”?
lol. same here some days.
This is a great quiz and wonderful info! One problem I have is that if the other person talks a lot I’m not good at catching the flow and contributing fast enough. I feel like they sometimes keep talking because they get uncomfortable with a pause even if it’s tiny. I find it difficult to formulate sentences quickly. It’s easier when I’m writing but still slow. I think my ADD plays a role too. I get distracted. I do meditate by the way. It helps.
My problem is I talk way too much but I think that’s mostly because I’m so lonely when I finally get a friend or family member on the phone or to talk to in person I’m so excited about it that I’m bubbling over with energy and can’t stop yacking away which I’m sure is a turn off