“Why do I Have No Friends?” – Quiz

Scientifically reviewed by Viktor Sander B.Sc., B.A.

“Why can’t I make friends? I feel like no one likes me, and I’ve realized that as an adult, it’s way harder than it was back in school.” – Kim

Feeling lonely or realizing that you don’t have friends can be upsetting. It can drain your self-esteem and confidence, which makes it even harder to feel motivated to socialize.

There are so many different reasons that you might not have friends, but the good news is that there is always something you can work on to help find the friends you want.

This quiz can help you to diagnose why you don’t have the friendship circle that you would like. Once you understand what the problem is, I will also offer suggestions for how you can start to work through your difficulties.

Finding new friends is rarely easy but spending the time to learn new social skills and build relationships will pay off in the long run.

These are common reasons for having no friends:

  1. Being an introvert
  2. Suffering from social anxiety or shyness
  3. Experiencing depression
  4. Having Aspergers
  5. Being socially inexperienced
  6. Not having social interests
  7. Recently having moved, split up with a partner, or changed job
  8. Not having time to socialize

This is a complex issue, and that why we’ve created a quiz. In addition to this quiz, see our main guide here: I have no friends.

  • Part 1: Thought patterns that can keep you from making friends
  • Part 2: Underlying reasons for having no friends
  • Part 3: Life situations that make it hard to make friends
  • Part 4: Common mistakes that make it hard to make friends
  • Part 5: having friends that don’t feel like real friends

“Why don’t I have friends?” – Quiz

Part 1: Thought patterns that can keep you from making friends

The things we tell ourselves about social situations can have a huge impact on how we experience the events themselves. There are several common beliefs or worries that can make it difficult to make new friends.

Do you worry about being rejected?

Do you often worry that people won't like you?

Do you often dislike or feel resentment toward others?

Do you feel that your efforts at friendship just aren't worth it because it doesn't work?

Do you find socializing boring or unrewarding?

Do you find it difficult to trust other people?

Do you feel like you don’t fit in or that you are different?

Part 2: Underlying reasons for having no friends

Often, there are underlying reasons for not having friends. Sometimes, these issues are so important that they need most of your focus. At other times, you can work on these issues together with more practical friend-making steps.

Are you more introverted than extroverted?

Do you suffer from social anxiety or shyness?

Do you see yourself as socially inexperienced? (Having spent less time socializing than others)

Do you suffer from depression?

Do you find yourself being overlooked in groups?

Do you get angry easily?

Do you have Aspergers (Autism Spectrum Syndrome)?

Do you suffer from bipolar disorder?

Do you have other mental health disorders or physical disabilities?

Part 3: Life situations that make it hard to make friends

Sometimes you will find yourself with no friends as a result of something unexpected happening in your life or the situation you find yourself in. This section offers suggestions for some of the more practical reasons that you might lack friends.

Are most of your interests solo activities?

Have you recently lost your social circle?

Do you lack friends in college?

Do you struggle to make new friends AFTER college?

Do you live in a rural area?

Do you feel like you have too little money to socialize?

Do you struggle to find the time to socialize?

Do you only socialize with your significant other?

Have you lost your social circle after a relationship breakdown?

Part 4: Common mistakes that make it hard to make friends

Up to this point, we’ve talked about underlying reasons and life situations that make it hard to make friends. However, we might also have a bad habit that comes between us and future friendships. While it can be painful to think about ways we can improve, it can make a massive difference to your social life.

Do you sometimes don't understand or pay attention to others' feelings? (Empathy)

Is it difficult for you to make small talk?

Do you feel like your conversations never lead to a deeper friendship?

Do you fail to keep in touch with people you meet?

Do you worry that you work too hard to make people like you?

Is there a risk that you look unapproachable? (Closed body language, tense facial expression)

Are you overly negative?

Do you sometimes feel like you lack self-awareness around people?

Part 5: Having friends that don’t feel like real friends

What if you technically have friends, but don’t feel like you can trust them when you need them? While there may be many reasons for friends not being there for you, we are going to focus on the things that you can do something about.

Do you regularly end up using your friends as therapists?

Do you fear that you sometimes might come off as too clingy?

Could you be more flexible or accommodating?

Is it a pattern in your life that people are toxic, rude, or selfish?

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David Morin is the founder of SocialPro. He's been writing about social skills since 2012. Follow on Twitter or read more.

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