How to tell if a guy likes you: 38 signs he has a crush on you

How do you know if a guy likes you? He may be acting friendly and flirty towards you, but how can you know if that’s just his personality? You want to know if he has a crush on you rather than just being someone who hits on every other woman he meets.

It can be pretty hard to figure out if the attention a guy is giving you is genuine. Hopefully, this guide can give you some clarity.

Sections

  1. Signs a guy likes you
  2. How can you tell if a coworker likes you?
  3. Does your best friend like you?
  4. How to be sure whether or not a guy friend likes you

38 signs a guy likes you

When a guy has a crush on you, his behavior towards you will usually change. However, it can be difficult to figure out. He may be acting nervous because he’s shy or flirty because he’s friendly and outgoing.

Here are the best signs to help you tell if a guy has a crush on you or not.

1. He stares at you

You probably know how hard it is not to look at someone you like. Prolonged eye contact without talking is a big tell that a guy likes you.

But to be fair, it’s common for guys to stare at any girl they find attractive. And it’s an easy way for him to show his interest without having to approach you. But who knows, he might even have a secret crush on you.

2. He mirrors you

Mirroring means that his body language, posture, or even what he’s saying reflects what you said or did.

Examples of mirroring:

  • When you take a sip of your glass, he also takes a sip of his glass
  • When you cross your legs, he crosses his legs
  • When you get very animated/passionate in a conversation, he also gets animated
  • When you lean in, he also leans in
  • When you laugh, he laughs

Note that mirroring is done subconsciously when he has a good rapport with you. But it can also be done consciously if he wants to impress or bond with you. It’s a great sign either way.

3. He added you on social media

Adding you on social media means he wants to keep in contact with you and might be interested in you. This is also good because now you can more easily start a conversation with him online.

4. His texts are longer than yours

If his texts are about the same length or longer than yours, that’s great. It’s especially good if they’re longer than yours.

If he usually gives short answers compared to you, that’s a bad sign. When you’re giving him long replies but not getting the same in return, it means you’re probably too eager.

In that case, it’s good to step back a bit and try to match him better. Keep in mind that some people are naturally better at others at texting.

5. He teases you

Most forms of teasing (even mean teasing) are usually a sign he’s interested in you. It means he’s trying to create a flirty vibe between you and that he wants a reaction from you.

Have fun with it, and don’t be afraid to tease him back! 😉

6. He’s leaning in

If he’s leaning in toward you, that shows he wants to get closer to you (or he’s really passionate about what he’s saying). When a guy has a crush on you, it can feel like he’s magnetically drawn to you.

7. He’s getting physically close to you

If you’re in a conversation and you feel like he’s edging closer to you, or as if he’s almost uncomfortably too close to you, that’s a good sign. He may be attracted to you and wants to feel physically and mentally closer to you.

Note that different cultures have different “personal spaces.” So, if he’s from a different culture than you, see how close he gets to others to see if it’s just you.

8. He offers you a massage

This is one of the most obvious tells that a guy likes you. Offering a massage is a nice thing to do, but it’s also a smooth way for a guy to get you both touching each other. (Remember to offer him one back if you like him!)

9. He smiles at you

If he’s smiling toward you from afar, that’s an invitation to approach him. (I’m assuming you didn’t just forget to put your pants on when leaving home.)

If he’s smiling toward you when you’re in a conversation, that’s a sign he likes you. Especially if he has a light smile while you’re not even joking.

10. He’s giving you mixed signals

Mixed signals are really tricky to interpret and can make anyone confused. But in most cases, they do mean he’s interested in you. Here are the most common reasons why he’s giving you mixed and confusing signals.

Nine reasons why he’s giving you mixed signals:

  1. He doesn’t want to come off as too eager
  2. He’s shy
  3. He’s nervous and insecure
  4. He’s afraid of seeming desperate
  5. He’s afraid you’ll reject him
  6. He’s inexperienced in flirting
  7. He’s following some weird rules or pick-up tips he’s read
  8. He’s just flirting with you (because flirting is all about giving mixed signals)
  9. He likes the attention or validation he gets from you but isn’t really interested in you

Giving mixed signals may mean a guy likes you, but it doesn’t mean he’d make a good partner. If someone sometimes ignores you or is mean to you, you should avoid dating even if you have a mutual crush on each other. You deserve a partner who won’t have you second-guessing yourself.

11. He compliments you

Getting a compliment from a guy your age is a good sign. If he’s giving you compliments about how pretty you are, it’s an even better sign.

It can be hard to tell a friendly compliment from a romantic one because they can sound exactly the same. To know for sure, look for other signs he’s also giving you or describe your situation in the comments below.

12. His pupils are large

If his pupils get large when you’re in a conversation, you’re doing something right. This one is quite subtle because pupil size is primarily determined by light levels, but secondarily attraction can also increase pupil size.

13. He makes eye contact with you

When a guy has a crush on you, it can be so hard for him to keep his eyes off of you. You can notice this if he’s holding eye contact with you for slightly too long.

It can almost feel a little weird or intense when it happens. And that’s great (if you like him).

14. He looks at you with open body language

This sign is most useful at a place with some background music, for example, at a bar or a club.

If he’s moving in rhythm with the background music and at the same time looking at you, that’s a sign he’s attracted to you. Dancing like that and looking at you is an inviting form of body language. That tells you he wants your attention and is trying to get you to make a move.

15. He straightens his posture

Is he straightening his back and standing up more straight? It means he’s a bit self-conscious when hanging out near you and wants to make a good impression.

It’s not a strong sign because most single guys want to make a good impression on attractive girls. But if you see it together with many other signs, it means more.

16. He faces you in group situations

If he’s facing you more often than he’s facing others in a group, that’s a sign he’s into you and values you more than others in the group. This is especially telling if you’re not the one talking the most in the group.

17. His feet are pointing towards you

If his feet are pointing toward you, that’s a sign in the same line as if his body is facing you. He’s subconsciously focused on you, which makes his feet point toward you.

18. He fiddles with his clothes or accessories

This could be because of nervosity, but it can also be because he wants to look good in front of you. It’s a classic sign of attraction.

19. His palms face you

If the palms of his hands are pointed in your direction, he might be interested in you. It’s a small sign, but it’s still positive because it’s part of his open and welcoming body language toward you.

20. He touches you when you touch him

For example, if you touch his arm, does he touch you in a similar area later on in the conversation? If he does reciprocate your touch, that’s a great sign.

If he’s shy or inexperienced, he might not feel comfortable touching you back, even if he has a crush on you.

21. He is extra touchy with you

A good tell he likes you is if he’s touching you unusually much compared to others.

Common areas to touch are arms, shoulders, back, hands, or thighs. Hands or thighs are usually more intimate if he touches those.

22. You have “peripheral physical contact”

Peripheral physical contact is when some parts of your body are in contact with each other when you are doing something else.

A good example is when you’re both sitting down, and your thighs barely touch each other.

This kind of passive physical contact means a lot and can build a lot of suspense and attraction. It’s the best feeling being close to someone you got a crush on.

23. He gives you more of his attention than others

The more attention he gives you, the more interested he usually is in you. Compare this to how much attention he gives to other girls also hanging out with him or in the same group as you.

For example, If you’re in a group and he seems to direct most of his attention toward you. It could be that he’s asking you lots of questions or that he’s laughing more than others at your jokes. Or just listening more intently to you.

24. He blushes when you talk or make eye-contact

He might just be shy, but he’s probably a bit extra self-conscious around you because he likes you. This makes him blush around you.

Social anxiety can also cause blushing. But it’s still a great sign.

25. He seems to look in your direction from far away

Guys can be a bit sneaky when they want to check you out. They can make it seem like they’re only looking in your direction or just grazing you with their eyes. And if he has sunglasses, it’s even harder to know if he’s checking you out.

So if he’s looking in your direction, especially if he does it several times, he’s probably checking you out.

26. He keeps the conversation going

What happens when there’s a pause in the conversation or if you stop talking? If he seems eager to get the conversation going again, that’s good. If he lets the conversation die out or excuses himself, he may not be that interested (unless he’s just shy).

If you have problems with the conversation dying out, check out this guide on keeping the conversation going with a guy.

27. He quickly replies when you text or message him

A quick reply is a good sign he likes you. Also, if he replies with several texts to your one text, that’s even better.

However, if he likes you, he may also delay his replies to avoid seeming needy or desperate. But as long as he replies, it’s all good. If he’s slow to reply, it could just mean he’s busy, or he doesn’t like texting, so don’t read too much into it.

28. He texts or calls first

Is he the one initiating contact, or are you? If he is, that probably means he’s interested in you.

But if he never calls or texts first, that shows a lack of interest. In that case, it can be good to take a step back to see if he will take initiative. If you’re always so quick to take initiative, he might never even have a chance to do it first.

29. He texts you often

Compare this to how often you text him. He’s eager if he’s texting more often than you, and you’re more eager if you’re the one texting more often. If he’s sending you several texts in a row without a reply, it’s a stronger sign.

30. He becomes awkward in a conversation with you

Does he stammer, stutter, or otherwise become awkward with you? This could mean that he feels shy or self-conscious around you. When a guy likes you, it’s common that he gets a bit extra flustered when talking to you. That’s because he gets uncomfortable and doesn’t want to mess up in front of you. It’s kind of cute, isn’t it?

31. He doesn’t back off if you get a bit too close

If he doesn’t even flinch when you get a bit too close to his personal space, that’s a sign he wants you close to him.

If you take a step closer, and he backs off by a step, that’s a sign he’s a bit more reserved toward you.

32. He talks about things he wants to do with you

Planning or mentioning things he wants to do with you in the future strongly indicates some sort of interest, romantic or platonic.

Example: If you’re talking about a newly opened restaurant, they say “We should go there someday!” or “I’ll show you how amazing that place is!”

33. He’s happy to discover you have something in common

If he’s happy, that’s good. This sign is extra strong if it’s something very trivial, such as you living in the same part of town, being the same age, or you both like pizza. For more tips, check out this guide on how to talk to a guy you like.

Example: You discover that you both grew up in the same city, and he gets really excited about it even if it’s no big deal.

34. He asks you personal questions

Personal questions are telling you that he wants to know more about you and is interested in you. The more he asks, the better.

Example: Asking about your plans for the future, your childhood, or your favorite food.

35. He asks you about your plans

Asking about your plans for the day or weekend might just be empty small talk, but it could also be him trying to open a window where you can meet again and hang out. It’s more likely it’s a sign of interest if he brings it up near the end of the conversation.

36. He tries to make you jealous

This is a strong sign he’s interested in you. But it’s also a sign he’s emotionally immature and manipulative. I would avoid someone acting like that. You deserve to be treated with respect.

37. He’s told his family about you

This one is most relevant once you’ve already started dating. But it’s such a huge sign of interest (and approval) that I think it’s worth mentioning. It’s even bigger if he’s from a culture where approval from the family is important.

If he’s told his family, it means he is visualizing and planning a future with you. Congrats!

38. He stays to talk with you even though his friends have left

This is a big tell. If you’re in some sort of group conversation with him and his friends, and all his friends leave, but he stays – he’s probably into you. It still might not be a romantic interest if you just have a great conversation and have lots in common.

An example could be when you’re at a party, and all his friends leave to get a bite to eat, but he stays with you.

How can you tell if a coworker likes you?

At work, It can be hard to tell if a coworker is flirting with you or just being friendly. Usually, guys play it safer at work because he doesn’t want to create any awkward situations if he would be rejected. So, he might be probing to see if you like him before he gives you any clear signs of interest.

Six ways to tell if a coworker likes you:

  1. He comes over to talk with you as often as possible
  2. He often teases you
  3. It seems like he’s flirting, but you’re not really sure
  4. He tries to hang out near you when possible
  5. He tries to be funny when he’s near you
  6. He’s eager to do any work tasks where you work together
  7. He goes above and beyond to help you out at work
  8. He gets weird or stiff when he’s near you, but he’s normal with everyone else

How do you know if your best friend likes you?

Here are seven signs your best friend might have started liking you as more than a friend:

  1. He’s acting differently from how he usually behaves
  2. He seems jealous or dismissive of other guys you might like
  3. He’s suddenly extra touchy-feely
  4. He seems unusually interested in your interests
  5. He seems extra needy
  6. He’s told you he has feelings for you

If you’re still unsure, let me know about your situation in the comments below, and I’ll do my best to help.

How do you know for sure if a guy friend is interested?

You can’t know for sure if a cute guy is interested based on a sign on this list. But there are a few questions you can ask yourself:

  1. Is he regularly showing you signs of interest?
  2. Does he act differently to others than to you? (So he’s not just flirty with everyone.)
  3. Has he shown any particularly strong signs of interest?
  4. Can you see any patterns in his behavior toward you?

Are you still unsure if he likes you?

Write down your situation in the comments below in as much detail as possible. That way, others can help you out by giving their opinion. I also expect you to help someone else by replying to their comment. We need to all pitch in and help each other.

Viktor is a Counselor specialized in interpersonal communication and relationships. He manages SocialSelf’s scientific review board. Follow on Twitter or read more.

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  1. So I have this guy friend who’s basically my best friend (let’s call him James), and lately, we’ve been spending a lot of time together, like a lot. He always offers to help me when I need a cameraman for my video projects, and we’ve gone out a couple of times. I can’t tell if we’re actually going on dates or simply hanging out though. Every time we go out to eat he tries to pay, and then it becomes a sort of battle as to who will pay for the food. He always finds excuses for physical contact. For example when he laughs he leans in towards me until our shoulders brush together, or he tries to take something from my hand, and when our hands meet he waits a little too long before removing his from mine. We suddenly make eye contact that feels long and magnetic and intense, and I sometimes feel like we both want to kiss each other. I know that, with that information, it would seem obvious that he’s into me, but there are 2 extra details.

    First of all: He flirts with other girls, all the time. I can definitely feel that he flirts more with me than with the other girls, but he still does it regardless.

    Second of all (this is where it gets complicated): We used to be in the same friend group before everything fell apart. James dated a girl from our friend group for about a month and then they broke up. Everyone kept complaining that they didn’t pay attention to anyone else when they were together, so nobody wanted to be left alone with them, as it bothered them a lot. After they broke up, James started hanging out with me more than he did before. We were already pretty good friends at the time, but after the break up it was evident that we were spending more time together. I didn’t think anything of it.

    Then, after about two to three weeks, my friend (another girl from our friend group, but not his ex), told me that my other two friends (his ex included) were saying that it looked like I and James were flirting. I was absolutely shocked because I hadn’t even considered it at all. I didn’t like him, and the idea sounded crazy. My friend told me she’d heard that James had said that I was the prettiest girl at our school, and right after that, we started hanging out more. That brought her to the conclusion that he liked me and wanted to get closer to me. I still didn’t believe he liked me.

    Fast forward to a few weeks later. I now definitely started feeling that he liked me, but every time anyone referenced us two, I made it very clear that we were only friends. Our friends didn’t believe that at all and started to distance themselves from us, because they said we ignored everyone else while we were together, as he used to do with his ex. I spoke to James once and told him I was tired of our friends not believing us when I told them we were only friends, and he later told my friend that he’d been the one who’d started it off and that it was his fault. In that conversation, he told her that he was always that one who started things off with girls, as he did with X and Y, who are HIS EXs, and why would he compare me to his exs if he only viewed me as his friend?

    I was told a few days ago that he tried to flirt with and kiss another girl only two weeks ago, which absolutely confused me. What was he trying to do? Maybe he likes me but knows we can’t be together so he’s trying to find other options? Maybe he’s heard me refer to our relationship as a FRIENDSHIP many times and thinks I only view him as a friend? Or maybe he just feels like kissing someone, whoever it may be.

    Another thing that confuses me is that he’s dated two girls this semester and cut things off with each rather quickly. Nobody really knows what he’s looking for, and I have no reason to think that if we dated it would be any different.

    Last thing: today we went to eat dinner at a restaurant. He told me about it first, so I thought it was only gonna be the two of us, but then wrote in on the group chat. I think he did this as an attempt to save our friend group, and try to prove what I’ve been trying to prove all along, which is that he and I are only friends. Nobody was available and we ended up going by ourselves anyways, and he paid for our food even though I tried to. Would a friend try to pay for my food?

    Some last details I wanted to mention: When we went shopping he helped me carry about half of my bags. We’re always laughing, and he always seems interested in what I tell him. We’re always resting our heads on each other’s shoulders, either in the subway, when we were watching a movie at the dorms, etc. He always asks me if I’m okay. He remembers most of the stuff I tell him. He offered to walk to my dorm with an umbrella so I didn’t get wet on my way to breakfast. We push each other around playfully.

    I am absolutely confused, somebody help me. Does he like me? Do I like him? What should I do???

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    • It sounds like he might like you, or be playing you
      Two things you can do.
      Playback! Make him jealous, and have him chase you, pull back and see what happens!
      He is flirting with you a lot, so there is for sure something there.

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    • I think you should take some distance from him I know this is hard but and do not meet him some days if you feel that you are not happy so you are in love if he is also caring about you so ask him about the relationship but take the promise from him that he will leave his all x girlfriends he had in past he had to leave him for you

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  2. So basically, There’s this boy I like and he always smiles at me, he makes me laugh, steals my stuff (sometimes), and whenever I’m upset he always tries making me laugh. There was also this one time he kept asking who made me upset and when I would ask why he would say “Because I said so.” We mess around by pushing each other or something similar…. so I’m not sure if he likes me or not. All my friends think he does but I don’t know.

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  3. I’m in kind of a confusing situation there’s a guy at my work I like we’ve known each other for about three or four months now we talk a lot he’ll talk about sex with me and he’ll talk about all that kind of stuff and he’ll flirt with me and another co-worker will call my name to come over there and I’ll be like I’m coming and he’ll say stuff like oh I was going to say something but I’m not and he smiles at me and the other day we walked outside from work together stood in the middle of the parking lot in the freezing cold for almost an hour talking he told me a lot of personal stuff about him and I had a good time even though it was cold but I’m confused if he likes me or not he smiles at me a lot he jokes with me a lot and I’m just really confused at this guy likes me or not I touch him, like touch his back or arm he doesn’t really touch me but he’ll stand next to me at every morning meeting at 10 a.m. does this guy like me do you think or am I wasting my time thank you.

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  4. Ok. So I’ve seen this guy working in a shop 3 times when I have been in, he always stares at me and doesn’t move his eye contact until I look away first. He looks at me a lot and he keeps seeming to be in the same aisle as me. I’ve never spoken to him, but I have found him on social media. He doesn’t know my name, so he doesn’t know who I am on social media. What should I do?

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  5. Hi, so I like this guy. He is like 3 years older than me and kinda shows some signs of being interested in me. So like he always looks at me at random times and we always text each other, like every single day and get to know each other better. We’ve just started to socialize in person and he is really nice and stands up for me. He always helps me with problems that I have in my life and stuff. So should I consider him interested in me or what? Thx and please respond!

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    • Umm, yes and no
      Sometimes guys don’t want to date people 3 years younger, sometimes they do.
      Try bringing up something like “oh my ex won’t stop texting me” and see how he handles the bringing up relationships.
      He does seem interested, though I’ve had seniors do that to me, even though I don’t think they like me. ????‍♀️
      Good luck!

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      • Thx for the advice Hannah! I actually am going to the movies with him. I think he knows I like him, but I think he is nervous.

  6. my coworker likes touching my shoulder, hair, holds my hands and my thigh sometimes, and teases me a lot, he is cute, and am beginning to crush on him and whenever he gets close I would feel him but he doesn’t chat whenever I send messages on WhatsApp, he would read and respond with one word or ignores altogether but when he comes to office, he will be all o er me. I don’t know how to tell him or stop him from touching me as this makes me more vulnerable to him yet he is not coming forth clearly. What should I do?

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    • Hello, Mariah!
      Your situation sounds very confusing, and you are probably not doing anything wrong.
      So there are 2 ways you could handle this.
      1. You could straight up ask him, text or in person, how he feels or maybe why he always is all over you at work if he ignores you over text. He could just be shy or leading you on.
      2. (This is what I would do since I’m pretty bold) I would ignore him at work, kind of pull back from all the touching and stuff and just act friendly, and see what he does, whether he stops or does it more, then he is either “testing the waters” or is just leading you on. You will be able to tell.

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  7. There is a guy I’m interested in that comes to visit friends where I live and does work there. When I first met him he was always looking out for me and doing kind gestures that I didn’t ask for. Then on two different occasions, he flipped out on me and yelled at me accusing me of things I didn’t do. He called me within minutes to apologize that he should not have reacted like that. At one point he wanted to buy me flowers as an apology but I told him not to do that and not to worry. I notice he will politely say hi and ask how my day is when I see him but will never engage in conversation deeper than that. I notice though that he always seems to be wherever I go around my building and he hangs around for an hour or two after his work is done. He carries my bags in and to my door at random times then when I see him next he just says hey and keeps it moving. Then two times he came into my home to check out a pipe and was nonstop chatting about his personal life, so much that I didn’t even have a chance to comment. One of the times he was talking about some injury story from the past and he lifted up his entire shirt and rubbed across his chest to show me this injury and then left. This dude definitely has me confused and any ideas are greatly appreciated.

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    • Hello Vanillabean!
      Oooh, this guy has nerve, acting like a gentleman then flipping you off and then rubbing his chest in your face?
      This guy sounds very egotistical, and think about that in a relationship.
      A guy that’s hot and cold is not what you want and is not healthy to you at all.
      If you want to try things out with him, then you can do several of these options.
      1. Flirt back, and then flirt with other guys in front of him if you can to see how he reacts.
      2. Be a little more “drawn in” and give him some space and stay away for a little, to make him wonder where you are/care more.
      3. Flirt back boldly and be as bold as him, except if he does anymore flipping off stunts, let him know clearly you will not be the type of woman to be walked over a guy, and if you did anything wrong to just apologize, but let him know he didn’t/does not need to go to such extreme measures and see what he does. Don’t contact him after that, let him come to you. If he doesn’t come up to you or text you an apology, he isn’t worth it.

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    • Hello Vanillabean!
      This guy has nerve.
      Here are some options to do:
      1. Ignore him. A guy hot and cold like that, flipping you off and then showing love, that can be toxic.
      1.5. You can flirt with him and other guys around him, and see what he does too.
      2. You can either be as bold as him and flirt back openly if you are interested, but if he does something like flip you off again, you have to let him know he cannot walk over you like that, and if you did something wrong, apologize and let him know he does not get to treat you like that. Then, drop contact. If he apologizes, try to rekindle maybe. But if he doesn’t, he is no good for you.

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  8. Hello.
    Am in a confusing situation. I met a guy through work. He asks me tons of questions each time I meet him, very many questions, & always squeezes my shoulder. All the times I meet him, he laughs at all my jokes and he literally understands me even before I speak & he pays very keen attention to me even in a room with other attractive women. When he sees me he always smiles and opens his eye widely full of excitement and he likes to compliment me. He is so keen to the point that he even notices when I change my nail polish & hairstyle. He also gives me unsolicited advice on my career & life etc. This has gone on for 1 year now but he has never asked me not even for a coffee date! He gave me his number but does not initiate any texts, each time I message him, he replies though. He keeps telling me to contact him in case I ever need anything, though I have never taken advantage of this offer. This guy literally beams/ lights up when he sees me and its like the world stops till I get shy as other people can notice his reaction towards me – full of joy without hiding it in the presence of others. Am wondering what all this means as I have never been confused like this. He’s about my age.

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  9. So, I’m terrible at telling if a guy is flirting with me. I’ve always been a bro kind of girl. I drink and party with mostly guys, so it skews the way I view myself in flirtatious situations.

    That being said, there’s a guy I work with, and we’ve gotten to a point of talking to each other for a long time, helping each other and spending extra time talking to the other one.

    It’s hard for me to tell if he’s flirting or sees me as one of the guys. When we text, it usually starts off work related and ends up lasting longer than expected. When he’s out drinking with friends he’ll answer me, but sometimes mentions his tinder interests, or having to dip out in a situation because someone was flirting with him and he didn’t want to cause issues.

    Recently (within the past couple of days) he’s been tickling me, picking me up and throwing me over his shoulder when it’s just the two of us doing tasks in the back away from others.

    He is very nice and goofy naturally, so I can’t tell if we’re just having friendly banter and teasing or if he’s flirting. The scary part for me is, he is constantly making me laugh and I have a feeling this office crush is unrequited.

    He he mentioned before someone said we’d be good together, but we’re coworkers. That gives me a mixed signal for sure.

    Sorry for the long post, but the situation had a lot of layers and I am just looking for some answers.

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  10. Can someone help me!

    So there is this guy at university. I usually see him around the library all the time.

    One time as I was about to go in, he suddenly opened the door before me. When he opened the door, I’m not sure if he was shocked to see me but he stood there just staring at me for a good few seconds and since I like him, I stared back. I was surprised to see him.

    We stood there looking at each other for a few seconds, he gently pushed the door for me to get in.

    I sometimes see him looking at me or checking me out from my peripheral vision. But I’m not sure. Whenever I’m nervous around guys, I always have a grim face like I don’t smile like my normal self. Which is probably why I’m not approachable. What should I do?

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  11. This guy text me at the blue to check on my son wish is his godson than he call me he told me he doesn’t go with here anymore he told me to come to his house me and my kid’s he told me you can spend the night if you want to ion care what you do than I sent him a friend request on Facebook he accepted it but when I started to post a picture of me and my boyfriend he stops watching my stories on Facebook than when I take me and his pictures off of facebook that’s when he start back viewing my stories what signs are he giving me but every story I post he watch them but he never liked them nor makes a comment on them

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    • Hello, Tanesha!
      This guy is being somewhat clear, which is great!
      Most likely, this guy is interested in you, but seeing as you have a boyfriend, he backs off because he doesn’t want to see his crush with another guy. So when you delete them, he has hope you broke up with him and starts viewing your stories, as a way to try to start something with you himself.
      If you like your boyfriend, don’t worry about it possibly. But if you are interested in this guy, follow your heart to which one seems better for you.

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  12. There’s this boy I know from since Elementary school, now we are in high school, every time he sees me in the school bus he comes inside and stares at me prolongingly. Sometimes, he leans on the window while looking through it but most of the time he looks me in the eyes and doesn’t look away.

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  13. Okay so there’s a guy I like right and so when it began, he’d always look at me right and so I look at him back and in the holidays I’m the one who texts him right and whenever I texted him he tells me things and so I tell him right and so when it was happening at school we started talking so basically he was the one talking to me greeting me and speaks and he’d say hi and all after that he still looks at me no matter what… He stares at me

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  14. My guy friend, a long-time friend, has changed a few things recently. When he hugs me, he pulls me in tight even if I was only going in with one arm, and then while hugging me he gently rubs by the lower back. When we pull away from the hug his hand lingers a couple of seconds longer.

    On a phone call we had a week ago, he called me baby while consoling me (recently went through a rough life event). He’s never called me baby before. The call ended with an “I love you” and I said it back. The only other time he’s kinda said similarly was like I do with other friends “love ya!”

    A couple of nights ago, around 11:30 pm he texted me “Thinking about you tonight” I figured it could be because of the rough time I mentioned but I’m not sure. People don’t usually text me after 9 pm – I’m in my 30s. The only other time he has said that in a text was about a month ago at the start of the text message. It was 6 am.

    He really is a nice guy and fantastic friend but I honestly can’t tell if he’s just friendlier or closer to me? Or he’s interested in a little more?

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  15. I’ve had a crush on my coworker for a few years. I’ve been unavailable until now and I’ve noticed he seems interested. But I’m not great at picking up in these things. He smiles and winks at me when I see him. He will touch my hand and back or push his leg into mine. He teases me constantly. What do I do? I don’t want to scare him away. Is he just being nice?

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    • Seems very flirtatious to me. Do you hang out outside of work? Maybe invite a small group of friends to get coffee or lunch and invite him too. Is he flirty with anyone else that you know of (another coworker?)

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  16. I met a guy at college. He has a girlfriend already for 1 he, but I can’t help but see that we have chemistry. We’ve had deep talks about our life stories, struggles and he has admitted that he would eat me had he not had a girlfriend. When I’m in groups there are many times when I catch him looking at me, and he constantly teases me. Could this just be his personality? He brings up his girlfriend sometimes and only talks about her on good terms and lovingly. What is this situation?

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  17. So there’s this boy, who teases me, and looks at me sometimes, but he doesn’t do things like Compliment you or asks questions, he also has nicknames for me though. I really want to know if he likes me, please help me!

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  18. My ex has a new girlfriend. They have been dating for a month, but my ex still responds to my texts all the time, he stares at me constantly, and he cares about me still. I don’t know what this means, I don’t know if he still has an interest in me? Pls help-

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    • My ex is the same way. He has a new girlfriend, and he seems to love her a lot. I’m happy for him, too. He answers my texts very quickly, and he usually texts me first. Idk why guys are like that. He obviously loves his gf but he still cares about me.

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  19. I met this guy through a mutual friend. I had an appointment with him in a couple of weeks after we met, the whole time he sat on the other side of his desk with his hands on his head, of course, I could see his muscles and asked me personal questions like if I’m happy in my relationship and maybe I need to spice it up a little. Then a week later I have seen him at the grocery shop with a lady whom he ignored and jumped towards me and put both his hands on my forearm as in he was excited or taken aback that I had seen him. He eventually got my number after I had called his office and asked him to return my call for work-related reasons. He now texts me now and again out of the blue, he compliments the food I make him from sandwiches to burgers. If we see each other he will wave at me or call out to me. One day he has seen I needed help in the cafe I’m working in so he went home and got changed from his business clothes and came back to help out the whole time he followed me around the kitchen even helping me put burgers together like putting the top of the bun on and closing the box we were literally rubbing shoulders and walking past me in the kitchen and will touch my shoulder or top of my back, then a song came on the radio which was U2 all I want is you he told me it was his favorite song is he giving me mixed signals or am I reading into it too much. Mind you he made it obvious that he juggles a lot of women on tinder but is looking for Mrs right not Mrs right now and made it a point to tell me he’s only 36 and I am 32???? PLZ help me. What’s he telling me..

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  20. Hi! So there’s this guy I like and we’ve only really spoken via social media he works at a place I go to work out at. And since we’ve spoken on social media our interactions have been more awkward lately in person but I’m not sure if that’s just me or, and I think he’s spoken to me less since I’m a person though so I think he may just be shy? and I have a hard time even looking at him cause I’m awkward lol. We don’t speak thatttt much on social media but when we do it’s him asking all the questions about how my day was and what I like and all that and occasionally will respond to my story and me his. But he also just got out of a relationship. I don’t know him super well and I’m just trying to figure out if he’s possibly into me because I succckkkk at flirting. :/ Thanks!

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    • Hi. There

      Maybe you should ask him questions and drop jokes here and there like for example..Do you like being single or do you miss your ex?? Or even just ask him if there’s someone he has his eye on it wouldn’t hurt to ask

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  21. hi I like a boy but idk if he likes me well in line he looks at me but then looks away and talks to his friends. he also, takes my water bottle from my bookbag and I try to get it back and he says it’s his water bottle but it’s mine. it’s cute and funny but I really want to know if he likes me also, in line he touches my back so I can move forward and he also says to me if someone cuts me in line idk I like him but idk if he likes me back tho Also, in line while I was watching movies he came to close to me and said what am I watching and that he already saw that movie and at the same time I was making eye contact with him so was he.

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  22. Three years ago I had a crush on a guy at work, but he was in a relationship so I stayed away. Now he’s back at the job and I told him I had a crush on him then and still do. He’s called me beautiful, every day we meet at work he gives me a hug and tries to touch my hand. Though if I text him he responds only to one text then won’t respond anymore. I don’t know why. He’s told me he’s shy and doesn’t really open up. I know the ex-girlfriend cheated on him and only wanted his money. When I asked about his text or ask why he’s being distant he always claims tired. Though if I see him at work he comes to give me a hug still. What’s going on? Am I annoying him? Should I just leave him alone?

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  23. I’m still in school and I like my friend. He’s kind of that outcast personality cracking dark jokes and talking about arson and stuff. He will be talking to some of our other friends and even if the conversation doesn’t concern me he will glance at me a lot. I have also caught him staring a few times. But he also talks about how he hates everyone and how he has no friends and when I ask in a joking ask about what I am to him he just kind of looks at me for a few seconds and then changes the topic.

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  24. So I haven’t talked to this guy yet but I see him looking at me then as soon as I look at him he looks away like fast when my name got called on he jumped and looked at me and in the hallway I saw him laughing with his friends then as soon as he saw me he looked at his phone we were standing next to each other and he kept looking across the hall but there was nothing there does he like me? Plzzzz help

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  25. I have a crush on my supervisor and I’m pretty certain he has a crush on me by the way he treats me. The signs are all there. But he has a girlfriend. He started dating his girlfriend before he met me (6 months ago) right after his ex broke up with him. I’m pretty sure his girlfriend is just a rebound since the connection between me and him seems stronger than between him and his girlfriend.

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  26. So there is this guy at my work and he is very handsome but idk if he likes me back for sure he is always stealing my stuff but always looking at me to make sure i am ok with it he respects me and he finds an excuse to make me touch him what does this mean

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  27. I work with my crush in the same company but he is in a higher position more of a leader to me. When I first started working there, there were lots of signs that he likes me but for some time, I think that he is trying very hard to ignore me and act like I don’t exist but once in a while I can feel his eyes on me

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  28. It’s sort of unclear situation. Well, it started with this guy at my work staring at me quite often. He used to be quite interested in talking to me. Gradually I got more attracted to him than he was. I told him quite clearly that I like him but he never did. However, he keeps teasing me and admitted that he likes healthy flirting with me. He will be leaving office in next tow weeks. I am the one to call first and message first and make plans first. He mostly agrees with the plans I make. He usually converses for hours whenever I call him. But then I feel he is like this to everyone. It’s nothing special that he makes me feel about me.

    Mixed signals I can say. He is enjoying the attention I am giving to him. Not sure if he is shy or just enjoying the attention and taking everything casually. I am not sure how to go ahead about this situation.

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  29. I met a guy through work recently who has worked with our office on a couple of occasions in the last month. He is almost 40 and I’m 40. The first time we met I was attracted and he was friendly. With a group of us in the lunchroom, he mentioned he was single and talked about the challenges of meeting someone. A few weeks later we meet again at the office and he is sort of awkwardly complimenting a presentation I had done saying everyone really liked it and then we had a long chat in the tearoom. The vibe I got that morning was interested because he was complimenting, shy but then also spending extra time with me. Then when a small group of us were at lunch he mentioned meeting someone online recently who he’s since met up with. It’s left me confused because I feel like I was singled out with his time and compliments, not other people. Even when he left that day I was the only one out of our small group that he said goodbye to by name rather than the general group goodbye.

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    • I really like a guy at work, and it’s hard to know if he likes me. He’s shy, sometimes he asks me questions and sometimes says weird stuff to me. Or say the few words he knows in my native language… But then he can be totally not talking to me. Or not saying “hi” unless I say it first…

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