42 Signs a Girl Likes You (How to Know if She Has a Crush)

How do you know if a girl likes you or even has a crush on you?

My name is Viktor Sander. I’ve coached hundreds of men to have more success with women.

Here’s a list of 42 signs to help you understand if a girl likes you.

1. Is she laughing at all your jokes?

This has always been a BIG GREEN SIGN of interest for me. I’ve seen it both in most of the girls I’ve dated and also in girls my friends have dated. If she got a crush on you, she will most likely think all your jokes are super funny even if they aren’t.

Read more: How to be funny (for un-funny people).

2. Is she mirroring you?

Mirroring means that her body language, posture, or even what she’s saying reflects what you said or did. So if you take a sip of your glass, if she’s mirroring that, she’ll also take a sip of her glass. Or if you cross your legs and she does the same, that’s also mirroring.

Take note that mirroring is done subconsciously when she has a very good rapport with you. But it can also be done consciously if she really wants to impress you or bond with you. It’s a great sign either way.

3. Has she added you on social media?

This one means she wants to stay in touch and is at least a little bit interested in you. It also makes it a lot easier for you to take initiative.

4. Is she writing you long texts?

Is she always giving you short answers, or is she giving you a small novel as a reply?

If her texts are about the same length or longer than yours, that’s great. It’s especially good if they’re longer than yours.

If you’re usually giving her long replies, but not getting the same in return, it means you’re probably too eager. In that case, it’s often good to step back a bit and try to match her better. Give her some space so she wants to come back to you again.

5. Is she teasing you?

Is it mean teasing or more flirty and light-hearted?

Most forms of teasing (even mean) are usually a sign she’s interested in you. I LOVE it when a girl I like tries to tease me. It means she’s trying to create a flirty vibe between you and that she wants a reaction from you. Just don’t take it too seriously and try to have fun with her!

6. Is she leaning in toward you?

If she’s leaning in toward you, that’s a sign she’s eager to get your attention or get her message across. And in the best case, it also means she’s eager to get closer to you.

7. Is she getting closer to you than others?

If you’re in a conversation and you feel like she’s edging closer to you, or as if she’s almost uncomfortably too close to you, that’s a good sign. It could mean she’s attracted to you and wants to feel closer to you both physically and mentally.

Take note that different cultures have different “personal spaces”. So, if she’s from a different culture than you, it might just be because of that.

8. Is she biting her lip?

Biting herself lightly in the lip is a flirty and cute (or sexy) signal. If she’s biting herself in the lip while you’re talking, that’s great. She’s probably into you.

9. Is she smiling toward you?

If she’s smiling toward you from afar, that’s an invitation to approach her. Or she’s flirting with you. (I’m assuming you didn’t just forget to put your pants on when leaving home. I almost did that once, not recommended!)

If she’s smiling toward you when you’re in a conversation, that’s a sign she likes you. Especially if she has a light smile while you’re not even joking.

10. Is she licking her lips or teeth?

Is she licking her lips or teeth? This is similar to biting her lips, but a bit more subtle and less flirty. Still a good sign she might like you.

11. Is she blinking more than normal?

If she’s blinking more than normal, that’s a good sign.

12. Are her pupils larger than normal?

If her pupils get large when you’re in a conversation, you’re doing something right. This one is quite subtle because pupil size is primarily determined by light levels, but secondarily attraction can also increase pupil size.

13. Is she keeping eye contact longer than normal?

If you notice that she’s holding eye contact slightly longer than normal, she’s probably interested in you. That kind of eye contact often feels more intense, and can even be a bit weird or uncomfortable.

14. Is she giving you a light smile when you make eye contact?

Say that you’re all standing in a circle, and when someone else is talking, you two get eye contact. Does she give you a slight smile? She likes you.

Same thing if you get eye contact at a distance, in a park or at a bar. A smile is like an invitation to start talking.

15. If there’s background music, what’s her body language, and what is she looking at?

This sign is most useful at a place with some background music, for example at a bar or a club.

If she’s moving in rhythm with the background music and at the same time looking at you, that’s a sign she’s attracted to you. Dancing like that and looking at you is an inviting form of body language. That tells you she wants your attention and is trying to get you to make a move.

16. What’s her posture like around you?

Does she straighten her posture when she gets your attention or is close to you? That means she’s trying to make a good impression on you.

17. What direction is her body facing in a group?

If she’s facing you more often than she’s facing others in a group, that’s a sign she’s into you and values you more than others in the group. This is especially telling if you’re not even the one talking the most in the group.

18. Where are her feet pointing?

If her feet are pointing toward you, that’s a sign in the same line as if her body is facing you. She’s subconsciously focused on you which makes her feet point toward you.

19. Is she fiddling with or straightening her clothes, jewelry, or accessories?

This could be because of nervosity, but it can also be because she wants to look good in front of you. It’s a classic sign of attraction.

20. What direction are her palms facing?

If the palms of their hands are pointed in your direction that signals she might be interested in you. It’s a weak signal, but it’s still positive because it’s part of an open and welcoming body language she has toward you.

21. If you touch her, does she touch you back?

For example, if you touch her arm, does she touch you in a similar area later on in the conversation? If she does reciprocate your touch, that’s a great sign, but it also depends on if she’s touchy with most people or just you?

Also, shy girls usually don’t touch back because they’re so afraid of messing up.

22. Does she touch you when you talk or in any other situations?

Common areas to touch are arms, shoulders, back, hands, or thighs. Hands or thighs are usually more intimate if she touches those.

23. Do you ever have “peripheral physical contact”?

Peripheral physical contact is when some part of your bodies are in contact with each other when you are doing something else.

For example, if you’re both sitting down and your thighs are barely touching each other. Or if you’re walking side by side and she grabs hold of your arm. That kind of passive physical contact means a lot and can build a lot of tension and attraction.

24. Is she giving you more of her attention than she’s giving others?

For example, if you’re in a group but she seems to direct most of her attention toward you. Or if she’s only asking you questions or if she’s laughing more than others at your jokes.

The more attention she gives you, the more interested she usually is in you.

25. Does she ever blush when you talk or get eye-contact?

She might just be shy, but she’s probably a bit extra self-conscious around you because she likes you.

26. Does she ever seem to look in your direction from afar?

Girls are often a bit sneaky when they want to check you out. They can make it seem like they’re only looking in your direction or just grazing you with her eyes. I’ve even seen girls using window reflections to check out a guy (and to check if he’s looking at them). Sunglasses are even sneakier.

So if she’s looking in your direction, especially if she does it several times, she’s probably checking you out.

27. Does she keep the conversation going when you stop talking?

What happens when you stop talking or can’t come up with anything to say? If she seems eager to get the conversation going again, that’s good. If she excuses herself, she may not be that interested.

Click here to read my full guide on how to talk to girls.

28. Does she always reply when you call, text, or message her?

Quicker responses are often a sign of interest. But many girls are so afraid of appearing needy that they delay their response even if they like you.

29. Who texts or calls first?

If she’s often the one initiating, that’s a very strong sign she’s into you.

But if she never calls or texts first, that’s a sign of lack of interest. In that case, it can be good to take a step back to see if she will take initiative when you don’t do it before she even has the chance.

30. How often does she text you?

Compare this to how often you text her. It’s the same principle as matching the length of her texts. She’s eager if she’s texting more often than you, and you’re eager if you’re the one texting more often.

31. Does she ever stammer, stutter, or forget what she was about to say in a conversation with you?

This could mean she’s a bit extra shy or self-conscious around you, which tells you that she might also be a bit extra interested in you.

32. Does she back off if you get a bit too close?

If she doesn’t even flinch when you get a bit too close to her personal space, that’s a sign she wants you close to her.

If you take a step closer, and she backs off by a step, that’s a sign she’s a bit more reserved toward you.

33. Does she ever talk about things she wants to do with you or show you?

Planning or mentioning things they want to do with you in the future is a very strong indication of some sort of interest, romantic or platonic.

For example, if you’re talking about a newly opened restaurant and they say “We should go there someday!” or “I’ll show you how amazing that place is!”

34. How does she react when you discover you have something in common?

If she’s happy, that’s good. This sign is extra strong if it’s something very trivial, like that you live in the same part of town, that you’re the same age, or that you both like pizza.

35. Is she asking you any personal questions?

If she is, that’s telling you that she wants to know more about you and is interested in you. The more she asks, the better.

For example, asking about your plans for the future, your childhood, or just about your favorite food.

36. Has she asked about your plans for the day or the weekend?

This might just be empty small talk, but it could also be her trying to open a window where you can meet again and hang out. It’s more likely it’s a sign of interest if she brings it up near the end of the conversation.

37. Does she seem embarrassed if you two are the only two people left in a situation?

If she does but doesn’t do anything to leave the situation, that means she’s just a bit shy but still interested.

A classic example is if you meet her with her girlfriends at a bar, and then all her friends leave, but she stays. That’s perfect because it also means her friends approve of you.

38. Has she told her friends or family about you?

This one is most relevant once you’ve already started dating. But it’s such a huge sign of interest (and approval) that I thought it was worth mentioning. It’s even bigger if she’s from a culture where approval from the family is important.

If she’s told her family, it means she is visualizing and planning a future with you. Congrats!

If she just told her friends, that’s also great, but not as big as her family.

39. Has she ever offered you a massage?

Offering a massage is a nice thing to do, but it’s also a smooth way for a girl to get you both touching each other. (Remember to offer her one back. If you like her!)

40. Does your best friend like you?

Is she acting differently from how she usually behaves? Does she seem jealous or dismissive of other girls you might like? Is she suddenly extra touchy-feely? Is she unusually interested in your interests?

Those are all signs your best friend might have started liking you as more than a friend.

41. How do you know for sure if she’s interested?

You can’t really know for sure if she’s interested just based off of a sign in this list. But there are a few rules you can use to help you know:

  1. Is she regularly showing you different signs of interest?
  2. Does she act differently to others than to you? (So she’s not just flirty with everyone.)
  3. Has she shown any particularly strong signs of interest?

42. Are you still unsure if she likes you?

Write it down in the comments below in as much detail as possible for other commenters to help you out. I’ll also respond to a few of the most interesting comments. But I can’t keep up with all the comments alone, so try to help others by answering them too.

Viktor is a Counselor specialized in interpersonal communication and relationships. He manages Socialpro’s scientific review board. Follow on Twitter or read more.

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  1. So I and this girl were in a group and after a year we became closer than before. When we are closed from meetings even if her house is in the opposite direction she will at least excort me my brother and my friends half way home talking to me mostly she is always looking for my trouble . Later I started liking her and when I told her I like her all she said was she does not want then she stopped talking to me and avoiding me. One day she stopped avoiding me and talked to me and even smiled at me on that day . I still like her but don’t know what to think anymore

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  2. So I met this beautiful ,really intelligent ,sweet girl at Starbucks. The first time I spoke to her, there was something kind almost magical about how I felt we were both interacting. ….And even though I don’t see her very often …whenever I do she always makes sure that she spends time talking to me and looks at me in a way that I’m almost positive she really really likes me. She even has a nickname for me which I don’t know I’ve ever had a girl do that. I have done very well with women and I really feel I know when they like me …but, I sometimes still get scared. I finally worked up the courage to actually go directly in to see her… she came up called me my nickname even stuttered …talked to me for a few minutes and then went back to her work. Now I understand that she needs to do her job but, after our interaction she never looked at me again until I walked out of the door where I could see her looking at me. Do you have any advice on this because right now I don’t want to go through any more rejection…???

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  3. So. I have a dilema.
    Two girls at school I like. Both show 40% of the signs. One has friendzoned me and one was in a relationship but while they don’t talk anymore, I have no idea whether it’s on or off. First stared at me alot and is very talkative around me. When we are alone she is a lot more relaxed and lets down walls of atitude. She has always had a soft spot for me. Second is generaly confident but is nervous around me, plays with her hair and kinda asked me if I had phone number. Unfortunatley I still live with the dinosaurs and only have discord. Their both really nice to me. Me and the second agree alot, while the first andI have healthy competition. Pls help before I lose my mind!!!

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    • Go for the second one to play it safe, but act interested in both of them when their both around. They will get jealous of each other and be more interested in you. Also, the jealousy will be more long term if you keep hanging out with both of them even after you’re with one (remember to hang out with both at the same time, but NEVER invite them both to the same place). Also, if you want to make the relationship more long term, stop talking with the other one because it will show that your dedicated.

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      • Thanks sommuch dude. Been stressing for past couple of months about this issue. Will try when out of lockdown.

  4. This girl said on the phone she wants me to come to the club wit her on he 18th birthday her brother said she said I’m good looking her brother said we ganna smoke at his house she said no not you just me and him her brother said we ganna rent a limo the girl said yea and it’s only ganna be me and him in it she gave me her number she always ask me how I’m doing and she asks me if I’m ok so then I went to see her in person and she acted all shy and she said she’s blushing 2 times and I asked her to sit with me she said it’s to hot then she said let’s go in the front so we did and there was only one chair so she sat in it and I was over her shoulder cus she was showing me and her brother videos then her brother left and she said can you give me space your all up over here but I’m not feeling uncomfortable it’s just I like space then she went in the back and was upset about something her mom said and she just acted like she doesn’t like me but in the phone it’s different and she said she’s blushing 2 times in person and this was are first time seeing each other in person so does she like me?

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  5. I have a friend who gives off many of these signs. She invites me up for drinks and conversation. We talk about everything. And ahe recently started talking about sexual things. Her likes/dislikes and asked me about mine. This is something she doesn’t do with other guys. We went to dinner and right before i made it home she facetime me. I see all this but im still unsure. Help

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  6. They is this girl that is showing me almost all the symtoms above but the funny thing is that she’s actually in a relationship with someone for like 3 years now am really confused lol 😂💀 idk what to do help a guy out???

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  7. There is a girl I dated a few years back and the past 5 or so months we have become close again. When she’s with other boys she’s real loud and stuff but with me she’s totally different and she always asks for me to be with her or go somewhere with her. We laugh a lot together and although she’s barely on her phone, we talk a bit on there but mainly in person. I’m taking her for a day out next week and she’s keen. The only thing is, I told her how my Mum asked if she was my mew girlfriend and she laughed at the idea and said my Mums funny! I really don’t know if she likes me as a friend or more but I really like her!

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    • Me again haha.

      We are really good friends and many people have asked if we are more then friends as we looked good together. We also tease each other and love annoying each other.

      I want to be more then friends with her but just don’t know how to go about it and I don’t even know if she likes me. Thanks!

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  8. Yeah so I’m best friends with this girl from a different school. We play sports together and hangout a lot but she acts differently around me, for example seeking my approval and acts “small” around me. I just wanted to know if these were signs she was leaving intentionally.

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  9. Here’s the situation. I regularly work out of town for my job and frequently stay at this one particular hotel. There is this manager that I am extremely attracted too and think she may like me too. Ironically we had stayed here several years ago then switched hotels only to move back to this one recently and she still works here. I believe we are about close to the same age in our early 40’s. She seems pretty outgoing and interacts with a lot of people on a daily basis, and I really don’t know much about her or her life. I don’t believe she’s married, but I have been for almost 15 years with children. I don’t love my wife but we get along. I have never physically cheated the whole time. This other attraction gives me a feeling I have never had before. I think it’s real love. She does the laugh thing and we have made eye contact many times I believe in a flirty way. However, I am extremely shy and have a lot of emotional and psychological issues. Nothing bad, but depression, and anxiety etc. I think she could be the real one but don’t see why she would be interested in me other than I make good money and not the loud and obnoxious type. I really wanted to ask her out to dinner sometime to confirm if we really are meant for each other and see where things lead. I don’t have any interest in sleeping around unless I get divorced. Once I came walking in after being caught in the rain and she rushed up to me and asked me where I was etc. and offered me a towel. Other times she has come up to ask me something even though this is a large hotel. I can’t figure if she really likes me or pity’s me. This has been driving me crazy as she is all I think about. Thanks.

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    • I don’t know everything you’re going through fellow traveler, but the first step is simple. Stop going to that hotel. Choose another. This protects your marriage and family and you. You can do this. The second step may be more difficult but within you. Your wife deserves to know about your struggle here. She is part of you in this short thing called life, even if you don’t feel love for that part of you. It may be unseen but it is there, and belief in the unseen is the mystery we call faith. My prayers stand with you.

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      • Thanks for the reply. An update now is that my wife filed for divorce. I wanted it and she gave me a gift as she puts it. Anyway, ironic enough, I sent this crush flowers the same day I officially knew I was getting a divorce (coincidence). I still don’t plan on cheating and waiting until after the divorce is final to officially move on.

  10. I’m in love with my best friend but she already in relationship & she knows that I like her. When i confess, she said she can’t because she already in relationship. But after confession we start to spending more time together, sometimes it’s like she also wants me but sometimes it’s totally opposite. On chat she sounds too off but on call mostly she is crazy like hell. She teasing me by saying her boyfriend name to me & says I’m with someone else, we don’t have future, just to see my reaction or what don’t know.

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    • Hi this is a girls opinion!
      You should probably stop hanging out with this girl. If she is teasing you about her already having a boyfriend and it’s hurting you tell her. If you don’t it’s just going to get worse.

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  11. There’s this girl at my work who is the coolest girl I’ve ever met. She makes me so happy and is so pretty. We get along great because we’re both very joyous people, but she is so much more bubbly and awesome than me. She asked for my number for a coworker group chat, but directly messaged me first with a cute, teasing name. She initiates work lunches and dm’d me to go. We make each other laugh and have long, smiling eye contact. She called me ripped and I caught her glancing from bicep to bicep when i wore a tight shirt. This all sounds great, but the catch is that she’s awesome with everybody and might just prefer guy friends. Not sure if she has a bf, years ago she did and I only heard it from someone else. When I approach her at her desk she keeps focused on work. I approached her at a party and wanted to hug. As a timid guy, I didn’t notice her step towards me so I didn’t reach my arms out. I hope I didnt lose her interest by not being affectionate or romantic enough with her, because come to think of it I dont think I ever touched her. It’s only been a few weeks since she started, but i don’t want her to slip away. I’ve been sick to my stomach worrying about screwing this up. She’s so perfect, guys.

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  12. So at my school this girl was in a situation that she “liked someone” ,so I decided to help. A few weeks later she acts self conscious and keeps asking me about my goals and hopes.but this month ,she asks me if I liked another girl, who acted the same as her around me. I didn’t respond but earlier today her bestie asked me if I liked that girl. So I’m wondering if they both like me or not,and which I like more

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  13. This is a bit weird lol, but anyways there is this girl that I have very strong feelings for, but I’m not really sure how she feels about me. I’d personally say that me and her are pretty good friends, and we’ve hung out a little bit outside of school and we have a great time. The thing is I always initiate the conversations over text or ask her to hang out, and she has yet to do so. It almost feels like she only agrees to hangout with me because she doesn’t have anything better to do. However at public events if we see each other she’ll seek me out and stick with me for most of the time and we’ll talk for what seems like forever, and I love that. She doesn’t seem disinterested in me but also doesn’t seem very interested in me either, idk maybe I’m just thinking too much into it.

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  14. Hey guys. So there is this girl at my school and we only have one lesson together but I feel that there is real chemistry. We sit 2 rows apart and she is really nice. I don’t know what to do please help me. She is nice to me and laughs at my jokes and stuff I’m just confused.

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    • Look, I’m no expert. I have a comment further up on the page. But she either digs you or your really good friends (being a friend of a girl is good until she starts expecting you to listen to all her problems). Your best bet is to just ask her. Then you’ll know.
      P.S. Your head will explode if she rejects you 🙂

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  15. There’s this girl who always talks with other boys. But when I am next to her she doesn’t talk to me. And sometimes looks at me. Can you tell me what this means.

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  16. I was just testing her a few days ago. I hugged and held her hand. I asked if that bothered her and she said no. When we leave, I ask, I’ll message you later if you want to talk. She always sure that will be fine. She doesnt ask personal question, though I guess there is a big one for her. She asked a few times in text, doesnt your wife care? Everyone knows Im divorced, but then again. Anyways, that question came up two more times. Maybe she was checking to see if I lied? IDK.

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  17. So there is this girl that I’m not 100% sure likes me or not. The other day we were at a dinner with some friends and out of nowhere she announces that we’re dating. I played along with it and so did she, but she’s also a pretty spontaneous and flirty person so I don’t know if it’s just her being weird. Also she kept awkwardly trying to hold my hand and get really close. And by awkward I mean purposefully awkward, so I’m not sure if she’s joking or being serious

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  18. So there’s this girl. We have been talking for just over a year now. We have so much in common, music taste, films, opinions, etc, I really like her. Some people keep teasing us and tell us we’ll make a cute couple. I would really love for me and her to be more than friends, any tips, advice?

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    • Same person here. She keeps laughing at pretty much everything I say. Her friends keep looking at me for some reason too. When I look at her sometimes she quickly glances away.

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      • Ya, she likes you. I’m a girl, I’m here to see what I should do with my crush ehe. But what she’s doing thats most likley she like you and her friends look at you thats probobly because she told them

  19. So there’s a girl that use to work at my workplace (she now works somewhere else but not too far from me and I am friends with her on FB) personally; deep down I do like her but I’m not sure what see thinks of me. All I can tell you is simply, when she was working at my place we talked a lot on a great deals of different topics, she did usually laugh at my jokes even though they weren’t really funny, and just recently she posted on FB about a topic that I agreed with her about and she game me a ❤️ (The other commentators got only 👍) So I’m in a bind should I try getting closer with this girl or should I let her go?

    Ps I’m a bit shy

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  20. If I am in a friend group with this girl (shes one in three girls out of seven people total in the friend group), and all of a sudden she starts everyday striking conversations, many of them awkward, what does this mean?

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  21. Hi, I really like this girl at my school. We both have lunch together n attend lectures as well. I noticed 97% of the signs that she likes me as well but she won’t let me kiss her, she told me she has a boyfriend. Pls some one should tell me how to separate her from her boyfriend 🥺🥺🥺🙄🙄 cos I really want to go far with her

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    • Honestly she probably just want to be friend at this point. She could just be saying that she has a bf because she dose not want to tell you she not interested. 99% of the time if you do something to try to ruin a relationship it will just cause her to hate you. your best bet is if you really like her is to keep her as a friend and maybe down the road you guy will have your moment.

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    • Dude, my friend likes a guy she did that too and he smashed her in the face with a dodge ball. She cried and he felt so bad😂. But yeah she definitely likes you!

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  22. A group of random girls at a church camp sign-up place came up to me and asked me if I wanted to be their friend and two girls just started hugging me and calling me hot, which I feel like I’m not. They also asked what my name was, which school I go to, what grade I’m in, and more. I didn’t get enough time to ask them any questions because I was about to leave, but how do I know if they are lying or not?

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  23. hey so there this girl at work that basic told me before she really know that that she wasn’t happy with her relationship and then a month later she asking to hang out with her friend so we been hanging out every week. She been given each other looks touching arm and play fight and lots of hug. We plan a date then she cancels at the last moment because her boss make her work. and then tell me the next day that she still want to hang and were gonno make plans as soon and she get stuff figure thing out with her new job and her kids. then she opens up to me about some personally stuff that been going on with her ex sense he the father to her child. I like this girl a lot and want to be with her but i cant tell if she likes me the way i like her or if she like the attention i give her? And help will be greatly appreciate.

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  24. I have a friend she is a shy girl she likes me but suddenly she just change somehow. does that mean she still like me??

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    • She might be going though some hard time just give her space and give her little sign ever now and then to show that you like her. if she like you she’ll comeback and start showing signs of interested. Just don’t rush it.

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  25. Hey I think I wrote a whole comment the last time I was here.

    I really like this girl but she told me she wasn’t ready for a relationship and she had anxiety at the time.

    She told me she wanted to still be friends and I said fine.

    However, now I just can’t take it by not being with her. I see her blushing eyes and laughing at another guys jokes and I do think she likes him.

    How do I tell I want to stop being friends as I’m becoming hurt or what other advice can you give?

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    • Your best bet is to be yourself with her. Try to take her out as freind and she if anything happen. And if there a conection feeling will come out. Honestly your best bet at this point is to be her best freind because 95 % of the relationship that last start as freind. Just can let you self get worked up she might now like her the way you do but by keeping her as a close freind at less she’ll be part of your life

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