Viktor Sander B.Sc., B.A.

How to tell if a girl likes you: 42 signs she has a crush on you

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How do you know if a girl likes you or even has a crush on you?

My name is Viktor Sander. I’ve coached hundreds of men to have more success with women.

Here’s a list of 42 signs to help you understand how she feels about you.

1. Is she laughing at your jokes (even when they’re bad)?

This has always been a BIG GREEN SIGN of interest for me. I’ve seen it both in most of the girls I’ve dated and also in girls my friends have dated. If she got a crush on you, she will most likely think all your jokes are super funny even if they aren’t.

Read more: How to be funny (for un-funny people).

2. Is she mirroring you?

Mirroring means that her body language, posture, or even what she’s saying reflects what you said or did. So if you take a sip of your glass, if she’s mirroring that, she’ll also take a sip of her glass. Or if you cross your legs and she does the same, that’s also mirroring.

Take note that mirroring is done subconsciously when she has a very good rapport with you. But it can also be done consciously if she really wants to impress you or bond with you. It’s a great sign either way.

3. Has she added you on social media (like Instagram, Facebook, Snapchat, or WhatsApp) after you met?

This one means she wants to stay in touch and is at least a little bit interested in you. It also makes it a lot easier for you to take initiative.

4. How long are her texts or messages compared to yours?

Is she always giving you short answers, or is she giving you a small novel as a reply?

If her texts are about the same length or longer than yours, that’s great. It’s especially good if they’re longer than yours.

If you’re usually giving her long replies, but not getting the same in return, it means you’re probably too eager. In that case, it’s often good to step back a bit and try to match her better. Give her some space so she wants to come back to you again.

5. Is she teasing you?

Is it mean teasing or more flirty and light-hearted?

Most forms of teasing (even mean) are usually a sign she’s interested in you. I LOVE it when a girl I like tries to tease me. It means she’s trying to create a flirty vibe between you and that she wants a reaction from you. Just don’t take it too seriously and try to have fun with her!

6. Is she doing the “lean in”?

If she’s leaning in toward you, that’s a sign she’s eager to get your attention or get her message across. And in the best case, it also means she’s eager to get closer to you.

7. Is she getting “too close” to you compared to what is normal?

If you’re in a conversation and you feel like she’s edging closer to you, or as if she’s almost uncomfortably too close to you, that’s a good sign. It could mean she’s attracted to you and wants to feel closer to you both physically and mentally.

Take note that different cultures have different “personal spaces”. So, if she’s from a different culture than you, it might just be because of that.

8. Is she’s doing the “lip bite thing”?

Biting herself lightly in the lip is a flirty and cute (or sexy) signal. If she’s biting herself in the lip while you’re talking, that’s great. She’s probably into you.

9. Is she smiling toward you?

If she’s smiling toward you from afar, that’s an invitation to approach her. Or she’s flirting with you. (I’m assuming you didn’t just forget to put your pants on when leaving home. I almost did that once, not recommended!)

If she’s smiling toward you when you’re in a conversation, that’s a sign she likes you. Especially if she has a light smile while you’re not even joking.

10. Is she doing “the lick”?

Is she licking her lips or teeth? This is similar to biting her lips, but a bit more subtle and less flirty. Still a good sign she might like you.

11. How much is she blinking?

If she’s blinking more than normal, that’s a good sign.

12. How large are her pupils when you two are talking?

If her pupils get large when you’re in a conversation, you’re doing something right. This one is quite subtle because pupil size is primarily determined by light levels, but secondarily attraction can also increase pupil size.

13. How long is she holding your eye contact?

If you notice that she’s holding eye contact slightly longer than normal, she’s probably interested in you. That kind of eye contact often feels more intense, and can even be a bit weird or uncomfortable.

14. Is she giving you a light smile when you get eye contact?

Say that you’re all standing in a circle, and when someone else is talking, you two get eye contact. Does she give you a slight smile? She likes you.

Same thing if you get eye contact at a distance, in a park or at a bar. A smile is like an invitation to start talking.

15. If there’s background music, what’s her body language and what is she looking at?

This sign is most useful at a place with some background music, for example at a bar or a club.

If she’s moving in rhythm with the background music and at the same time looking at you, that’s a sign she’s attracted to you. Dancing like that and looking at you is an inviting form of body language. That tells you she wants your attention and is trying to get you to make a move.

16. What’s her posture like around you?

Does she straighten her posture when she gets your attention or is close to you? That means she’s trying to make a good impression on you.

17. What direction is her body facing in a group?

If she’s facing you more often than she’s facing others in a group, that’s a sign she’s into you and values you more than others in the group. This is especially telling if you’re not even the one talking the most in the group.

18. Where are her feet pointing?

If her feet are pointing toward you, that’s a sign in the same line as if her body is facing you. She’s subconsciously focused on you which makes her feet point toward you.

19. Is she fiddling with or straightening her clothes, jewelry, or accessories?

This could be because of nervosity, but it can also be because she wants to look good in front of you. It’s a classic sign of attraction.

20. What direction are her palms facing?

If the palms of their hands are pointed in your direction that signals she might be interested in you. It’s a weak signal, but it’s still positive because it’s part of an open and welcoming body language she has toward you.

21. If you touch her, does she touch you back?

For example, if you touch her arm, does she touch you in a similar area later on in the conversation? If she does reciprocate your touch, that’s a great sign, but it also depends on if she’s touchy with most people or just you?

Also, shy girls usually don’t touch back because they’re so afraid of messing up.

22. Does she touch you when you talk or in any other situations?

Common areas to touch are arms, shoulders, back, hands, or thighs. Hands or thighs are usually more intimate if she touches those.

23. Do you ever have “peripheral physical contact”?

Peripheral physical contact is when some part of your bodies are in contact with each other when you are doing something else.

For example, if you’re both sitting down and your thighs are barely touching each other. Or if you’re walking side by side and she grabs hold of your arm. That kind of passive physical contact means a lot and can build a lot of tension and attraction.

24. Is she giving you more of her attention than she’s giving others?

For example, if you’re in a group but she seems to direct most of her attention toward you. Or if she’s only asking you questions or if she’s laughing more than others at your jokes.

The more attention she gives you, the more interested she usually is in you.

25. Does she ever blush when you talk or get eye-contact?

She might just be shy, but she’s probably a bit extra self-conscious around you because she likes you.

26. Does she ever seem to look in your direction from afar?

Girls are often a bit sneaky when they want to check you out. They can make it seem like they’re only looking in your direction or just grazing you with her eyes. I’ve even seen girls using window reflections to check out a guy (and to check if he’s looking at them). Sunglasses are even sneakier.

So if she’s looking in your direction, especially if she does it several times, she’s probably checking you out.

27. Does she keep the conversation going when you stop talking?

What happens when you stop talking or can’t come up with anything to say? If she seems eager to get the conversation going again, that’s good. If she excuses herself, she may not be that interested.

Click here to read my full guide on how to talk to girls.

28. Does she always reply when you call, text, or message her?

Quicker responses are often a sign of interest. But many girls are so afraid of appearing needy that they delay their response even if they like you.

29. Who texts or calls first?

If she’s often the one initiating, that’s a very strong sign she’s into you.

But if she never calls or texts first, that’s a sign of lack of interest. In that case, it can be good to take a step back to see if she will take initiative when you don’t do it before she even has the chance.

30. How often does she text you?

Compare this to how often you text her. It’s the same principle as matching the length of her texts. She’s eager if she’s texting more often than you, and you’re eager if you’re the one texting more often.

31. Does she ever stammer, stutter, or forget what she was about to say in a conversation with you?

This could mean she’s a bit extra shy or self-conscious around you, which tells you that she might also be a bit extra interested in you.

32. Does she back off if you get a bit too close?

If she doesn’t even flinch when you get a bit too close to her personal space, that’s a sign she wants you close to her.

If you take a step closer, and she backs off by a step, that’s a sign she’s a bit more reserved toward you.

33. Does she ever talk about things she wants to do with you or show you?

Planning or mentioning things they want to do with you in the future is a very strong indication of some sort of interest, romantic or platonic.

For example, if you’re talking about a newly opened restaurant and they say “We should go there someday!” or “I’ll show you how amazing that place is!”

34. How does she react when you discover you have something in common?

If she’s happy, that’s good. This sign is extra strong if it’s something very trivial, like that you live in the same part of town, that you’re the same age, or that you both like pizza.

35. Is she asking you any personal questions?

If she is, that’s telling you that she wants to know more about you and is interested in you. The more she asks, the better.

For example, asking about your plans for the future, your childhood, or just about your favorite food.

36. Has she asked about your plans for the day or the weekend?

This might just be empty small talk, but it could also be her trying to open a window where you can meet again and hang out. It’s more likely it’s a sign of interest if she brings it up near the end of the conversation.

37. Does she seem embarrassed if you two are the only two people left in a situation?

If she does but doesn’t do anything to leave the situation, that means she’s just a bit shy but still interested.

A classic example is if you meet her with her girlfriends at a bar, and then all her friends leave, but she stays. That’s perfect because it also means her friends approve of you.

38. Has she told her friends or family about you?

This one is most relevant once you’ve already started dating. But it’s such a huge sign of interest (and approval) that I thought it was worth mentioning. It’s even bigger if she’s from a culture where approval from the family is important.

If she’s told her family, it means she is visualizing and planning a future with you. Congrats!

If she just told her friends, that’s also great, but not as big as her family.

39. Has she ever offered you a massage?

Offering a massage is a nice thing to do, but it’s also a smooth way for a girl to get you both touching each other. (Remember to offer her one back. If you like her!)

40. Does your best friend like you?

Is she acting differently from how she usually behaves? Does she seem jealous or dismissive of other girls you might like? Is she suddenly extra touchy-feely? Is she unusually interested in your interests?

Those are all signs your best friend might have started liking you as more than a friend.

41. How do you know for sure if she’s interested?

You can’t really know for sure if she’s interested just based off of a sign in this list. But there are a few rules you can use to help you know:

  1. Is she regularly showing you different signs of interest?
  2. Does she act differently to others than to you? (So she’s not just flirty with everyone.)
  3. Has she shown any particularly strong signs of interest?

42. Are you still unsure if she likes you?

Write it down in the comments below in as much detail as possible for other commenters to help you out. I’ll also respond to a few of the most interesting comments. But I can’t keep up with all the comments alone, so try to help others by answering them too.

Viktor is SocialPro's expert in communication and relationships.

He has a B.A. with a major in Psychology at University of Gothenburg and a B.Sc. with a major in Biological engineering at Chalmers University of Technology

Before he joined SocialPro, he worked as a relationship and dating coach.

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Viktor Sander B.Sc., B.A.

Viktor is SocialPro's expert in communication and relationships.

He has a B.A. with a major in Psychology at University of Gothenburg and a B.Sc. with a major in Biological engineering at Chalmers University of Technology

Before he joined SocialPro, he worked as a relationship and dating coach.

Follow on Twitter or read more.

Viktor is SocialPro's expert in communication and relationships.

He has a B.A. with a major in Psychology at University of Gothenburg and a B.Sc. with a major in Biological engineering at Chalmers University of Technology

Before he joined SocialPro, he worked as a relationship and dating coach.

Follow on Twitter or read more.

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Comments (207)

  1. Unamed

    So my admirer just told my that she liked me or her friend did so dose that mean she has a crush on me or like likes me. Do both of them like me or the one who sent me notes? Ps I’m year 5 she’s yer 6 don’t know if that matters or knot?

  2. Walter

    Hi,I’m a 30 year old male and I met this young beautiful lady and we talked for a lil while and she talked about her job and what she wants to do.I then told her my name,she told me hers and I aske for her numbers that she gave to me and said “you can me anytime”.
    I called the next day and she picked up we talked for about 2 to 3mins as she asked about my family

  3. Bruce Napier

    Hey, fantastic list! I would like your opinion though. I’m a high schooler and at my new school I met this girl who I thought was cute and we were in the same group in cooking class. I would always make awful jokes and she would laugh and she asked me personal questions once and waved at me in the hall. Then I got moved to another group and I get scared to make eye contact with her and I think she said scared too because in the hall we never make eye contact and pretend we are doing something else. Is she just nervous and should I just go for it??

  4. Priyam Mandal

    Thank you! But I want to know a few things can you please help me out?i study in class 10 and there is a girl whom I pruposed . Now she talks to me but she also talks with other guys infront of me and sometimes even her ex boyfriend.she also waits for me until I leave and she is interested in my family and friends.she smiled when she came to know that in class 11 we would be taking the same stream .she also stated at me . Whenever I talk to other girls after that she ignored me for a day or two maximum.Does it mean she loves me?

  5. Deep

    Hi Viktor!

    I am totally in a confused state with a woman I been dating and talking to for a while.

    I’m 43, single parent and recently divorced (9 months actually) after a decade marriage. Currently, I am jobless, however I believe it’s just a phase of misery and shall pass too.

    The woman I’m talking about is 41. Works with an airline. She is also single parent, by her child suffers autism and living with her parents. The husband is kind of an asshole and abandoned the kid and her in a way. The husband also had an extra marital affair. She is now separated from her husband for last 4 years, however she also fell in love with a man afterwards who she thought was an ideal man. Because of her autistic child he later got cold feet and could go further with the commitment towards her as a spineless man. A sad story indeed, twice heart broken for a great girl like her…A total keeper and a marriage material.

    We met on tinder and we instantly built a connection. Over a period of time I developed very strong feelings for her and would like her to be my life partner. I confessed it to her too, however she said at that point that she is not thinking anything beyond good friendship. Also she is looking for a settled guy so that she can quit her job and focus on her child. Unfortunately, at this point I am not really that settled guy, but I know I have too much confidence and capabilities to bounce back. The problem is she keeps on telling me that she has stopped looking for guys and out from tinder. She gets desperate to speak to me, chat with me like crazy and also shown signs of jealousy and irritation when I speak of other girls and dating them. She likes to keep me that I still want her and be around her. She sometimes says misses me a lot and sometimes we tend to make future planning and monetary calculations like a family. She has couple of times told me she’ll wait for me. Sometimes out of desperation to keep me she even said she can sleep with me if that makes me happy. But, somehow we get distracted again and go back to the friendzone. We are not able to move forward beyond this. I also kind of given up hope that we can’t be beyond friends. I really like this girl and I have the balls and courage to keep her and her child happy and work together as a unit along with my child.

    Please give me a clue as to what’s happening here, any advice, guidance?


  6. Anonymous

    There is this girl for the past two years we were kinda friends and she ended up touching me or something and she immediately said she was sorry and I said it was fine and more recently we were in the library together and this other guy was saying things behind her back an I told her over Instagram which she requested to follow me on and she said she didn’t really care what he thought and thanked me for telling her and also in the library she was with one of her friends and she told him that she couldn’t tell him who she liked and It was very loud almost like she wanted me to hear it an they came over to me and pulled me into the conversation and she ended up putting her arm around me to show her friend something and I have so many mixed signals but I catch her looking at me all the time someone please help me with this situation I want to tell her how I feel and I am lost on how

  7. Anonymous

    So there is this woman I’ve been interacting with over the past two years and about 7 days ago she made it very clear to me she’s interested, over the past 2 years I noticed subtle flirting but didn’t think anything of it till now. After she made the obvious comment we have been talking a lot but she ya been slowing down over the past couple days. Things are complicated on both ends. I’m going through a divorce and she’s still married but not 100% happy. Not sure if I’m reading into things with her not talking as much or if it’s her backing off.
    Any help on this would be appreciated. Thank you

  8. Joe

    When I go over to this girl’s house we sometimes go outside, we sometimes go in her room, but she always asks me one same question when she is sitting close to me. The question she always asks is “who do you like?” I always answer with I don’t know, but just a few days ago she said “do you wanna know who I like?” I said “who” she said “I can’t tell you” does any of this mean she likes me, or not, because I really like her.

  9. Anonymous


    I actually have a question and I hope I can get a reply because it is really concerning me.

    There is a girl I like, but the problem is that she has a boyfriend.

    When interacting with her I got two different signs, a positve sign and a negative sign.

    The positive sign is that she did stare at me a couple of times and usually smile when we greet each other.

    The negative sign is that she ignored me and she acted as if she didn’t see me. That actually happened once.

    My question is: Does she have a crush on me or should I move on?

    I hope I can get a reply


  10. Amo


    Okay I had made a change to my new local pub for 2 months due to old one has gone crap cause new management. So, at this pub there is this bar maid and she is okay person & I got to knew her and the owners…

    Anyways, when the owners went on holiday the bar maid has a daughter that started to do some work to help out her mom and probably extra money…

    A bit information about this girl, she turns 18 in next week, she went to same high school and recognised me & I am 21 coming 22 in November… I knew this from social media. But, I never had her on social media – no longer then month. How we got both each other on social media, it was a bit weird she found me on Instagram and when I questioned her about it the following weekend. She goes “oh I am trying to be noisey on my page but I was private and she Had to follow me” so I kinda noticed that she was stalking me. Few days later, we added each other on more social media platforms and speaking on that too…

    This weekend, I went to pub and she was there with her mom, sister, sisters her gf and mates they was going to small town that she might can get into this club, mom never came until before the pub closed so she had one pint. Her sister invited me to come and said that the girls coming aswell, anyways she couldn’t get into the club, so me and her end up going to pub just down road until the club closed… I would say it went well but no touch betweens (I think it was better off, as the age).

    Before I went with them, her mother was warning me saying that she only likes me as friend but she was there and she moaned at her mom & walked away, I think her mother is protecting her?

    I said to her today that I got her present for her bday and I would like to meet her on the weekend before she goes on holiday with her family for her bday. I went best thing is not to mention that I got her about the present due what she said on the weekend, then she goes she was only be honest….

    I been giving her far amount space on social media…

    I dunno how to do next or if she interested?

  11. Faijonne

    So I have this girl and we’ve hung out all summer I’ve been to her house a lot and she’s always asking how’s work and what I’m doing later she wants to hangout every week. She tickles my arm and touch my arm and at my job I said that I had to go back in because it was busy she said they will be alright she touched my face Also. She would call me brother, she said hey brother with a hug pitch voice and turns her head and she would call me baby and daddy on top of that

  12. yeet

    There’s this girl in my school that everytime i see her or she sees me she always starts talking. She has given me a nickname. what does this mean.


    What if a girl makes my food and cold drink ort even if she has another.
    Whenever i say her about relationships with me. She says i still like the boy which have cheated her. I have no feeling for other. And she also smiles when i tàlk to her.
    But she says u r my best friend ever. Does she likes/loves me?

  14. Anonymous

    She does hit me playfully sometimes but she is usually franks with her other friends . She also tries to make my connections to other girls crush wise and when i react in an angry manner she continues to do it … Dunno if she’s testing.
    We have a lot in common… literally a lot . She also thinks we have a lot in common but i am not getting the message from these signals.

  15. Anonymous

    l told her l love her en she said she couldn’t love anyone in our group including me coz we’re all cheaters maybe except me but am confused by her words and actions that make me think that she loves me

    • Viktor Sander B.Sc., B.A.

      Nothing you’ve described indicates that she loves you. What you described is the opposite. But maybe there’s more to the story?

  16. Zakk

    What if we get really close and then she just seemingly forgets me? Like, we get really close and then she gets really distant?

  17. Abdullah

    She always try to show me that she hates me she always telling my best friend that I’m the bad guy she ever me..she always see the bad in me and never see the good one after all imt showing her my good side ..Always talked bad things about me to my best friend.never ever reply to my text also blocked me..When ever she sees me she wrinkle her face with bad expressions that shows that she hates me ..Also many time she told .
    My friend that she hates me more than she hates anyone

  18. Anonymous

    So, there’s this guy. He had asked out another girl but she said no.then suddenly he started talking to me a lot in class and he keeps touching my a light little pat kind of thing.then one day he touched my shoulder.then in my school bus I usually talk to my friend who is 2 years younger than me and one time he randomly out of nowhere he says “don’t you hang out with that girl in your bus?” Then a few days back I had gotten and extra hair tie to keep my chart paper. Then i went home I couldnt find it so I’m like “ok, big deal who even cares” then the next day I went to the class shelf to take my notebook he’s just playing with it and I’m just like,”it’s mine(name) could I have it back?” He’s like ,” heyyy, I like this its fun to play with could I keep it for some more time?please??” OK so I don’t know if he likes me or not but yeah..

    • Tindo

      obviously the guy likes you but he is a nerd and weird, the choice is always yours

  19. Computer

    Hello, I know a girl at the gym that I didn’t talk to her yet and this girl always make eye contact with me after every sets and everytime she walks beside me or infront of me, she take her phone from her pocket immediately and do anything in the phone ro avoid the eye contact even if she is close to me, she is trying to avoid the eye contact till I walk in another area .. what is that means ??

    • Tell 345

      This is exactly what I’m walking through now … I also wanna know what that means ??

  20. ???

    I was at a party one night and this girl I had met a month are so ago seemed excited to see me. We walked past each other my best friend she she turned and smiled at me. I noticed her looking at me and kinda smiling across the room. Then we started talking face to face sitting down. She kept making the intense eye contact with me. Making excuses to hug me. I sit in her lap. She kept mentioning her hair. She took a pic and posted it on fb a day are so later with a few others of other ppl from that night. She danced on me kept stickn her ass out when I would walk by. So am I in are no. I’m very obviously to stuff like this. But it was that eye contact u can feel u know

  21. Jk

    So was hanging around a girl for almost a year we got along pretty well a lot in common caught up maybe once a week for drinks and the some fun time as you do. I started to like her a lot but she didn’t won’t to commit so I said good bye and stopped talking to her. About 5months went by and I randomly messaged her she was a little surprised but replied back with in a few hours which surprised me so I invited her to a day festival, went really well like the 5months of us not talking didn’t happen I stayed at her house but nothing happened. So I invited her out for a mid week date kept it casual but fun of course see what the vibe was like, night went well again there was laughter, touching, eye contact then smiling. Then I went to give her kiss and she said she hadn’t changed her mind about us, I said cool and hugged it out and left. Next day she texted me saying “thanks for last night I had a lot of fun was really cool, have great weekend and holiday. We sent a few more texts with jokes and laughter and she seemed pretty happy. She went away for the weekend and that week coming I was going away. Haven’t heard from her and I haven’t texted her!! What you reckon people??

  22. Harrison

    I’m in ur 10 and some girl always says ur ugly to me which is weird cause I get called attractive by other girls to she said ur ugly then she said ur not ugly your good looking then she said I hate you then she said let’s be friends she always licks her lips and always stares at me and even bite her lips sometimes so please can someone tell me if she likes me because shes really mean to me but at the same time she always sais stuff like you good looking you just annoying I hate you I like you your good looking i just hate you and dont forget the staring and lip biting

  23. LARRY

    my female colleague started with a crush on me by telling her friends that she found me fascinating and a sweet heart. some time passed and now she said that a major date would make her uncomfortable. however, she still wants me to work with her at school. it seems we moved from colleagues to friends to dating and back again. this woman is 52 years old, 2 children, divorced for 14 years. our first date she used most of the above signs. I covered her classes while she was undergoing surgery. The problem this is a middle school. Parents, teaches, and kids want to play cupid. I would like to get back on the right track. some people said that i should remain the gentlemen and help her as needed. She is an art teacher and i am a science teacher. She is electric , smart, full of life. How can I reduce her level of feeling uncomfortable without becoming natty. We AE both mature adults. We have a firm foundation in who were are. I wonder has she become uncomfortable if she opens that door and it scare the crap out of her

  24. Sonny

    I am 8th grader and clown of the class , but i have twice observed two girls starring at me while i an just sitting and doing my work and once one even made an awkward eye contact with me that was so awkward that i turned in other direction!!

  25. Luke

    so, i like this girl called elle. last night we met for the first time. we had a good long conversation and she enjoyed it, i am like unsure if she likes me cause she said she doesnt date year 7’s. but then i wrote a long paragraph to her about me wanting to show her that i aint like those ugly ass year 7’s. how do i know if she wants ins and like what signs is there for her showing that she wants ins or not

  26. Kazeem

    There was this girl i met on my way to the City i was together with my friend and my friend notice the girl was stearing at me. So i try to go After her luckily she branch in a Boutique but so good she gave me her number After our discussion and i told her am going to call her but she said she don’t like calling that she prefer i Text her true whasapp…After 1 week we met for the First date,to be honest i really like this girl so am always being eager to Text first” i sent her a Text message like this=your absence agonizes and hurts me, everything I see, hear or do reminds me of you. Distance is cruel, very cruel.
    As I´ve said everything reminds me of you. The flower shop in the corner: the chair at the restaurant…please call me when you are free” just wanna hear your sweet Voice on phone. MY LG Kazeem😘
    But did not reply me back. I don’t want to do next i need some help.

  27. Ethan

    I stutter alot but the girl i like i stutter towards her too how do i stop this

  28. Justin

    So I had this girl who recently was working with me on a project for about 8 months now. Recently going through family issues and she was really supportive of me, often telling me to stay positive. We only hanged out alone once but she was quite friendly and stuck quite close to my personal space as well. She kept hanging around my side during group work and often laugh at my snide remarks or just a casual comment when I wasn’t the most talking one in the group. I just find her eyes twinkle abit at times when both of our visions collide. I’m not really sure myself, but is it possible?

  29. albert

    She touches my shoulders,hands
    She seats too close to me
    She smiles at me
    She likes being playful
    She likes a shaming me
    Defends me
    Shes the first to type gudnyt in the chatting

  30. Anonymous

    There’s this girl. When I talk to her, she is facing towards me. I do see her smile in conversations. But one time she asked me to give her signs on a boy liking her and implied it was me. She usually seems happy when talking to me. I haven’t seen her act the way she does around other guys. I asked her to hangout once and she said yes. She brought a friend but she said she was fine if it was just her and I. When I was hanging out with them, a girl I know passed by and I told them that I knew them. The girl asked me if I like her, I said no and she said she would have been excited. Her pupils are slightly larger when talking to me. Oh and when we met she asked for my Instagram.

  31. Daniel

    I don’t know wether my girl likes me or not because she don’t often call me and I think she don’t likes me.she is not caring too.

  32. Anonymous

    I have a similar situacion in my job. This girl always bothering me touching me. Smiles at me she dances she sings at me and looks at me. I keep my distance cause i know she has a boyfriend. But her smile her personality and she makes me smile with her clowness.She said why you looking at me i got a boyfriend.The problem now is everytime i see her i feel diferent.I see her with other eyes but she has a boyfriend.Oh boy i am in trouble. Someone advice me.

  33. Anonymous

    Thank you so much eat really help because I think a girl likes me and I want to know if she does like me. And those answers help me out a lot. Thank you so much I might actually find the love of my life.

  34. Smiley

    There was this girl today. She randomly said hi to me and asked how things were going. Me and her barely know each other so I don’t get if she was doing it just to be nice or what? Technically she did walk with me to the bus for like a minute.

  35. Anonymously

    There’s this girl who’s naturally a people person, and she’s quite friendly with everyone. Whenever possible, she may lean on me if she’s sitting next to me or even put her head in my lap. I can’t tell if she simply sees me as a very close friend or something more than that. Help?

    • Viktor Sander B.Sc., B.A.

      It’s a very affectionate signal. Unless you have some kind of brother/sister or father/daughter-dynamic, I’d say she’s romantically interested to some degree. But I need more details about your relationship and her behavior around you to tell for sure. Also if she does the same to anyone else.

    • Toshiro

      She likes you, ask her out.

  36. Jeramy

    I work with this girl and i rewlly like her. But im lost and confused . i heard she doesnt like the type to try hard i had a friend ( girl ) talk to her and basically got to the point of her telling her i liked her and we all work together . well the next day we didnt talk for 2 work days and some …. And also she kinda said i was making her ” uncomfortable ” i guess well today at work we talked and laugh alot and she kept touching me calling my name even when their was many other workers. Im just confused how she goes from that to touching and talking an laughing alot with me . then she finds me on fb and adds me the same day . i really like her and i wish i had the answers.

  37. Jackson

    I also forgot to say is that also when we text or call she will ask if got home safe, to drive safe or she would tell me hey there are cops here so be safe. Also she will text at random to go with her to get a drink from Quick Trip witch is a gas station if you aren’t from the Midwest.

  38. Jackson

    There is a girl that I like but don’t know if she likes me cause she does have a boyfriend and kid with him. But there are something she does I can’t tell what is trying to get at. Like she call me first basically ever day around the same time asking me what am I doing, are you hungry, you can come over if you want, or ask me if I want to go like the store with her. Cause I know she does not like to drive places alone. Also we almost text everyday and it goes back and fourth on who texts first. Are family and friends are always making jokes that we are dating cause we are almost always together 24 hours of the day. She also told me about her past and her family, her dreams that’s she wants to do. And she knows my dreams and always tells me to go for it and I tell her the same with her dreams. We also have meaning conversations. But at the same time she tells me stuff about her boyfriend and ex’s on what they did that made her mad and others like the things she like about them. And she also she I pay more attention to her then her actual boyfriend. But the big problem is the girl I like is my best friend girlfriend. So lastly I don’t know if she is just using me to babysit her kid or if she actual likes me. So could use all the help I can get.

  39. Tookie

    I got this lady she constantly holds my minds for so much long time each time we both shake hands.she even invited me to her place of work for a visit, but I know she likes me but I am still unsure if she wants a relationship with me because she’s married.she replies my text as soon as she sees it. But if I don’t call or text her she wouldn’t call me back neither. But whenever we meet she starts complaining that I don’t have time for her.i am confused I don’t know what’s she’s doing because whenever she gives me a hand shake I can feel the way she holds on to my hand for a long time.

  40. Anthony

    I go to college and there is this girl that I like. I caught her staring at me 3 times, the last 2 times she immediately looked away. And when I was signing up for classes, she had a friend with her, they made it very obvious that they were both talking about me, and even giggled (we sat on the same table and she was right in front of me) She even offered to help me out by asking if I needed help.

  41. Paul

    I never approach women, even the ones I find very attractive. People say I’m good looking, dress well and have a great sens of humour, etc., but since I don’t see any of those traits in myself, I’ve always felt thar since women choose from among guys, there’s no way any woman would ever choose me.

    • ???

      I’ve always felt the same way.

  42. Colin Fish

    Hi Viktor. I have a girl I like and she teases me sometimes and some other stuff but I am not sure if she likes me or not. I also don’t want to tell her I like her because I feel not ready. I think that my sister likes someone because she always brings him up and my friend too. How can I find out if she really likes me and how can I tell her?

  43. pepsi

    My friend was chatting to the girl in question, when my name was mentioned she apparently blushed and smiled. Is this a good sign?

    • Viktor Sander B.Sc., B.A.

      That’s a great sign! But kind of hard to say anything for certain without any more info about your relationship and other signs she’s shown.

  44. Jan

    I am not sure if she likes me
    She clutches the chair tightly when she sits opposite me but she patiently listens to me
    Her eyes get teary when I say I feel for her and then in the end she says she does not feel the same
    She tells me she does not have interest in me but spend hours listening to me
    She fights with me often or does small things to irritate me
    She gets angry with me but after a period time has an out burst

  45. Anonymous

    Hi Viktor, I forgot to tell you that another day I was at a traffic light stopped and I saw through a glass that she stood behind me, but did not approach, when the traffic light opened I continued, but later I stopped to cross, and I saw her following me. Another day I went to work and she saw me on the other side of the street, and accelerated the passage to prevent me from reaching her. Upon entering work, I told her to wait, I wanted to talk to her, and she accelerated and said: I can’t now, I have to talk to I don’t know who.

    • Viktor Sander B.Sc., B.A.

      That’s a bad sign, she might not be interested in you the way you think. But she might also just have been very busy that day.

      If it was you on the comments below (please use a name/pseudonym so I can identify your comments), she sounds like she was flirting with you before. But maybe she lost interest in you for one reason or another? Unless this incident was just a one-off and she’s back to her normal flirtiness.

      • Pedro

        Yes, it was I

      • Pedro

        Yes, she’s back to her normal flirtiness

  46. Anonymous

    Hi Viktor, three months ago I started working in a company, the fact is that the interview was made by two people, and one of them is the girl in question. I went to work by bus, and one day when I arrived at the bus stop, there she was, she told me that her mother lived in my neighborhood, and that she sometimes went to eat at her house, obviously we sat together; She showed me photos of her daughter, and asked me if I had children, and what my wife worked on, so we talked half an hour of the journey in a fluid way. So up to three times, we went together on the bus, and all right, the conversation was fluid. At work, I noticed that she looked at me a lot, even one day I tested her and held her gaze, and she held me a lot, until she finally looked away. When we met at the cafe there at work, she looked at me and tried to get my attention by commenting such as: look Alice and I are dressed in black, and laugh nervously, then I said that she did not have a new house like the other girl , and then she touched my arm and left. Another day after leaving work I approached her and said “hello fashion girl” and she smiled and touched my arm again, we walked together talking about a trip she was going to do and she told me that she wanted to see how a tattoo was done, and I ask her where she would do it, I suggested it in the lower back, she indicated me raising her leg than her ankle. Another day I hesitated her telling her that the dress she was wearing was fashionable because I had seen two girls wearing the same dress that same morning, and the next day she put it on, I said it: let’s see what I told you about that dress, and she smiled and told me that it was impossible that I had seen it because …… I have hesitated enough, and she was looking to meet me in the hall, I was saying something and she was walking like a peacock and she looked at me like arrogant. one day when we left work I told her not to chase me jokingly, and the next day she was going into bathroom and turning her head looked at me and stuck our her tongue playfully. The fact is that she sends me confusing signals, I went to her office for two days to tell her where to go when she went on vacation, and she became nervous, another day she told me that she had a lot of work and that she could not look on the internet, that she pointed it out but she was busy, I told her bad girl, and she smiled and told me that I was tanned. I don’t know, she touches my arm a lot, it smiles at me, looks for the encounter, … but then avoids talking to me and being alone with her is complicated for me . One day I took her a cake that I had bought on a trip for the coworkers, the next day she forced the meeting in the hallway and approached me leaning towards me, he touched my arm and said: “How delicious”. Anyway, day in day out is happened this, and I’ve only been three months. The worst thing is that I want to talk to her, but she avoids me.

  47. WWM

    Hey Viktor, if you still check this regularly, I would like some advice
    I work at a bagel shop, and I became friends with my coworker about 6 months ago. We make jokes and laugh all the time and recently I started to actually think of her as a potential girlfriend. I especially became interested when my coworker and the friend she got hired talked about guys they liked and boyfriends. They made it clear that my interest has never dated and is free now. One of my coworkers has special needs, and once asked in front of all of my coworkers (more than once actually) to both me and my interest if we would be interested in or say yes to a date, though it was always in a rush time (lots of customers and with our orders in the “red zone”) I did catch a quick and nervous glance in my direction. This is from a week ago: At work I like to keep things private, but my boss made me and all of my coworkers write our phone numbers on a piece of paper so that we can all contact each other in the case of something. That day I got a call from a phone number I didn’t recognize, but I had a hunch. I was partially right: I actually got unwanted attention from another coworker of mine that was brought in by the original one I mentioned. She must have been putting in my contact information and accidentally called me, because it was on her break that the call went through. When I went into work the next day a few of coworkers my age had created a group texting chat that I was a part of. I decided not to text anything because I hate group chats, but my coworkers chided all day for me to check my phone. On two days later, the coworker I am truly interested in sought me out personally. She texted my number saying she was bored and wanted to talk to me. In the past she had asked if I was on social media or anything, but her friend/coworker asked too. I am not though. I had never given her my number, and I the feeling is mutual, I don’t know how long she has been waiting to acquire it. But it did not take long for her to utilize it. I’m a little bad at responding to texts, and my phone is slow, so I only received it the next day, but I made an effort. I gave her my personal number and apologized, and that night she wanted to talk with me again. We texted and shared stories and interests for six hours, well into the night. I tried to give her easy excuses, to gauge her interest, but we continued until I was falling asleep. I had a great time, and we genuinely have a lot in common. I really want to tell her how much I enjoyed it, even though I already said I had a good time. I just don’t know if she was really “bored” and that is the only reason she wanted to talk with me. She talked with me for an hour the next day, but no word later, and nothing the next day either. I’m wondering if when we talked, even though we talk and share all the time at work, I shared in a way that made her think “no, he is just a good friend” because frankly, I think there is potential here. I will see her tomorrow, I just don’t know what to expect. I’m not doing anything different though, same old me. I might ask if she usually texts until 1 AM with people, see how she reacts.

    Anyway, if you still do check this comment section, please give me your insights. I really feel we have a connection, but maybe she sees me as a fun friend, that’s my questions.


    • WWM

      Update, I was right, the feeling is mutual, we figured it out this evening, what a thrill. I just feel like an idiot for not making a move sooner. Thanks for the tips in the article, and for reference this reply is 24 hours after the original post, so Viktor didn’t really have the chance to analyze my situation

      Well, just gotta keep it going now I guess,

      • Viktor Sander B.Sc.

        Wow! Congratulations!

        And thank you for the update! <3

  48. Jun

    I work at Starbucks and there is this coworker I’m interested in. There are times that she will hugs random objects when only the two of us are engaging in a conversation during work. Once, she was hugging this bucket that we use to store leftover coffee beans out of no reason. And the other she took and hugged a transparent trash bag filled with empty pastry containers and used parchment papers in the midst of talking.

    She dresses well since day one I met here and is bubbly to everyone, so I cannot really tell if she’s interested in anyone. I don’t want to get the wrong idea of her actions, I also don’t wish to be so into her before getting a clearer picture. I really need some help, do you have any ideas if her actions meant anything?

    • Viktor Sander B.Sc.

      It’s very unclear to me too from just that sign. Especially if she’s bubbly to everyone. Any other signs?

      • Jun

        Thanks Viktor for replying. I never really pay attention to any special signs because I myself, is quite shy. And I tend to get nervous and slide away after a while if there is only the two of us. Is there any way I could test her out secretly and look of signs of interest? Would really appreciate it.

  49. Thane

    There’s this girl I like and she’s really someone I’m into but she’s tough to figure out from these tips. They are great but A. She doesn’t wear fancy clothes only normal clothes B. I can’t tell how her personality changes when we get one one time. My main problem is telling her I have feelings for her I’m to afraid from rejection please help me find a way to tell her thanks.

    • Mark McDonald

      There is a girl I like in the gym and one day I was on the treadmill and she got on the treadmill next to me even though there was loads of empty treadmills and while I was running she started a conversation with me and then she has come over to me and wanted to be in my company a few times since and then I asked her if she had any plans and she said no and then when I said I was going out drinking she said that she likes to go for a meal and a glass of wine was she hinting at me to ask her out

      • Viktor Sander B.Sc.

        Wow nice one! She was most definitely interested in getting to know you more. I hope you see her again.

    • Colin Fish

      I get how you feel bro. I don’t want to tell the person I like either.

  50. Phillip

    It’s a woman I meet back in February this year. We agreed to be just friends, but my feelings for her have grown, not sure if hers has as well, most of the signs you speak of are all there, but she keeps telling me she not ready for a relationship, I don’t ask and have never told her how I feel, but she keeps reminding me of this on a regular bases.
    What’s worse for me is I know currently she has had a Fwb going on with another woman, she tells me it’s just fun as that’s all she after, but then keeps inviting me every where she’s going, the smiles the dancing the touching is all confusing me, she acts like she wants more than Friends but then tells me she is not ready for a relationship.
    Haven’t just been friendzoned, reading into the situation wrong as I have feelings, or is it just a matter of time, let her so her thing and wait and see, or is it time to man up and tell her how I feel

    • Viktor Sander B.Sc.

      She could very well be attracted to you, but still not interested in a relationship. She could also just like the attention you’re giving her.

      I think you should emotionally prepare yourself to move on. Make your move, but be ready to get rejected. And then move on to greener pastures.

      The worst thing you could do is to keep waiting for her to “get ready”. She might never get ready for something serious with you, and then one day she’s suddenly ready when she meets someone else.

      I’ve been there. Waiting for someone to get ready, who never got ready – for me. It’s the worst.

  51. Nevin

    Hi Viktor,
    I recently met this girl online and I recently asked her out on the date and she agreed. We both went for lunch and she asked few questions for me but I kept the conversation going and it was chill. After lunch, she asked me places to eat and I told her maybe next time we could go and she seemed good about it. I asked her about her schedule for the week and she said she would let me know. After the date, I texted her and said I had a good time and asked when she was free. She did not respond after 1 day. SHould I wait or is she just not interested?


    • Viktor Sander B.Sc.

      She’s not interested I’m afraid, but she’s probably afraid of rejecting you because she doesn’t want to hurt your feelings. There’s also like a 5% chance she’s just really busy, but I wouldn’t hold my breath for that.

      Keep looking for someone better, you got this!

  52. Dave

    I have met a girl and we both get on really well and I have some sort of feelings for her. She displays many of the green signs in this article and she has suggested that we meet up again and get something to eat / her come to my place. I think we are both okay with just being friends at this moment. I am a very anxious person and overthink a lot so I am anxious about my next steps in talking to her. How can I create this friendship and take the initiative to invite her to do things and get involved with each other’s lives? How can I keep the conversations interesting without letting anxiety take over and how can I become a interesting person she wants to be around, although I know she likes being around me anyway I don’t want to screw it up. She compliments me to me and other people so I assume that’s a sign she likes me even as a friend?


    Hi Viktor,
    There is a girl I had interest in, but later on she started showing feelings which I knew she was interested. After a while, she started pretending as if she was not interested, or even making me jealous. The first time we met, she called her brother who was my friend back in university, to let him know I was with her. Recently, I told her I don’t think I can date her, that we should Just be friends (via text/chat), and her reply was: “let me first give you a hug, thank you very much”.
    Her next chat immediately after that was: “how can I invest in cryptocurrency”, which she knew somehow that I am very good and knowledgeable in that area.

    Could she still be interested in me, or she felt rather heartbroken or happy that I said I can’t date her?
    Or could her interest in what I like be a means to get my attention back to her?


  54. Anonymous

    I’ve known my female friend for a minute I recently told her I like her she said”I like the relationship we have now it’s not really a good time for me to change it”. Any suggestions if she likes

  55. Nick

    A girl I work with is throwing my head all over. Started with a work do last year, she sat with me, legs over mine, took my hand to drag me out to the smoking area,pulled my hand around her waist to her arse, proper flirty. Then as nights go on she socialises with her friends and I do mine. Over the past few months she would every now and then pass a comment to me regarding pretty much anything. A week or so ago she added me on Instagram, and she has no other guy from work on there despite working closer with them. I decided to drop her a message 2 days ago as a response to something she randomly showed me at work, and her responses went almost straight to innuendos and clearly pretty raunchy related stuff, but denies all knowledge of anything that happened at the party last year. Messages go from wanting me to be ‘exciting’, some teasing but also an occasional short message and long between replies. I don’t know if I’m onto something here or if I’m just being used as a way of getting attention. Thanks

  56. Jala

    There is a girl in my high school, we have talked just a few times and she seems nice to me. The thing is that we don’t get to talk much. What I have noticed that she does greet me with a nice and cheerful ‘hi!’ unlike the way she greets her other guy friends. Her guys friends also tell me that she thinks that I am a smart guy. I like her a lot and I just want to know for sure that whether she like back or not? Is she just friendly or is there a chance for something more?

  57. Lucy

    One of my best friends is showing loads of signs but I’m not sure if it’s just coincidental. She put her legs on mine the other day when we were sat next to each other in class and cuddled me and hugged me whenever there was an opportunity e.g. I was saying oh no I might have to do the 800m on sports day and she quickly grabbed me and said “oh (my name)” and squeezed me gently I don’t know how long it would have gone on if I hadn’t pulled away. Then later she kept leaning into me and then put her hand on mine and was teasing me a bit and then she kissed the air near me in a kind of jokey way (“mwah”). I was really nervous and kept pushing her off in case people saw us (we were in a lesson) but I don’t know if she’s just like that with everyone or it’s just like banter because we are close friends or anything?

  58. Gloria

    I’M a female and I was at a dealership and the finance manager shared some personal information with me. She told me she was divorced, she had a daughter, she didn’t do church, and she would like to do lunch sometimes. She gave me her
    direct number at work not her cell number. Do you think she want a friend or lover.

    • Viktor Sander B.Sc.

      I doubt it was purely friendship. But it could also have been business, maybe she’s part of some MLM-scam she wanted to recruit you to.

      Did you get any flirty vibes?

  59. Vinit

    We are swim mates, she is 4years younger than me and I think she likes me, do you think this age difference can be uncomfortable for her?

    • Viktor Sander B.Sc.

      What are your ages? It depends!

  60. Pius

    I suspect she’s a bit older and I think she knows it too. But I’m not sure of what she’s up to. She greets me whenever she sees me, but initially, her greetings weren’t always audible enough. I think it’s because I was not responding at first, but since I noticed and started responding, she’s been greeting loud and clear. It even feels like she may be looking for a way to talk to me, but I’m not sure.

  61. Dean blears

    Hi.was there for her in a breakup.shes always texting me.comes over when im out.laughs at alot of things i say.when shes down she always txt me.shes just started to go on a thew dates with a guy but just says i will see were it goes.tells me when shes been crying.if im out she always looks over then comes across aswell.just not sure how she feels.

    • Anonymous

      she likes u ik this

  62. Tawqeer

    Few signs shows she likes me. But some times i feel that she is not sexually attracted.
    Some times i linger my hand on her external thigh she dont take my hand off even. But sometimes she dont sit with me in front seat.
    I dont know is she intrested sexualy or no.
    She smiles, lock eyes, sometimes her body language shows she is into me. But i am not 100% sure. please

  63. AJ

    How do I know if she’s into me like the other day I was texting this girl inviting her to come over to cuddle and watch movies with me she said lol ion wanna tease you with my body with a 😉 what does this mean?

  64. Jennifer

    Sir, I got a question about you men please help as much as you can. 1 of my men friends while alone will not smile at me but around his friends he will. I have a broken foot his friends asked how I was doing and I said I’m getting over a broken foot they said we heard I smile and said OK. His friends while we are at places will be talking then looks over at me a lot.I have walked past him on 28th of June and looking down looking at him out if corner of my eye smiling around his friends my friend said as soon as I walked past him he looked and smiled at me. We’ve in the past 4-5 years ago flirted locked eyes and he tapped my rear 4 times I acted like I tripped to get him back I said sorry he smiled said it was fine. Last 2 years we both have been not talking as much we both went through a divorce but now things is coming back around like it was the looking the smiling. What is your opinion please help ease my mind.?????

  65. Sam


    I actually have a question that concerns me. I sometimes get bullied by my friends at university. It is not physical bullying. It is actually verbal bullying.

    The problem is that I got bullied in front of my crush, but I try my best to answer and argue with what they are saying. Do you think that she is not interested in me anymore because of that?


  66. Anonymous

    And also she stares at me when iam looking around… Plz tell me what should I do??

  67. Anonymous

    Ok. I like a like a girl in my university. But iam not sure if she too like me.she do the lip biting thing. She tries to keep the conversation going even if I have stopped talking. I also told that I like her and in future i want her but she always she i’ll do whatever my parents say..but she always laugh when I say that I like her and need her… What should I do??

  68. James

    She always seems interested in what I have to say, has a nickname for me, laughs at pretty much every joke I tell, and she said I should work the exact same days she does after school.

  69. Yeet

    Is she doing “THE LICK THING”!


  70. Kevin

    Hello i was actully curious been talking to this girl and everything goes smooth and we laugh and talk about everthing, but recently shes been really touchy,touching everytime and sometimes when our hands collide she touches my hands or our legs or very close that we touch each other and she likes to put her arms on my shoulder sometimes when i do mean joke but its all jokes it doesnt hurt but shes been touchy alot, and for testing her i saw a girl where we where and i said oh shes hot and she said hey im right here and she started to laugh.
    I dont know if it was a joke or maybe it kinda affected her i dont know but we do have alot of fun together but the thing is she has a boyfriend so im kinda confuse ?? I did ask her if she realize thats she touches me alot but she said im her best friend ?? Is she indenial ? Is there something building up.

    Thanks for the advice

  71. hyr

    i think u r a lv doctor

  72. Anonymous

    Ok so I like this girl from work. Whenever I pass by or talk with her she’s always prolonging her eye contact, smiling at me a little longer than normal, and she’ll always shift more towards me when we’re talking to each other or in a group of people. Also our conversations are always long and back and forth. I’ve NEVER been able to talk to other girls the way I’ve been able to talk to her. I notice that she doesn’t do this a lot with the other guys that she works with or talks to. I’m not sure if she actually does like me or if this is just her personality?

    • Anonymous

      Just give it a try! Give small hints and ask her out. Good luck.

  73. Anonymous

    Ok, so I like this girl who I semi regularly work with. Whenever I pass by her or talk to her she will hold eye contact with me for almost the entire time I’m with her, she will smile at me for most of the time I’m talking to her or whenever I pass by and she’s ALWAYS facing me when we’re talking. I notice that she doesn’t do this a lot with other guys that she works with. I’ve wanted to ask her out for the longest time but things always seem to get in the way. I’m not sure if she actually does like me or if this is just her personality?

  74. Anonymous

    theres a girl i like and she gives a lot of signs that she likes me: the teeth lick, the lip bite thing ect., but she says she likes me almost as a joke, does she really like me?

  75. Anonymous

    doesnt really talk to me. I think shes to good for me

    • Nick

      I feel that bro

  76. Anonymous

    She like says she won’t date me but she like play hits me and she but her hair in my ear and lately she’s been real nicer and she gets mad for me having another girl bestfriend. So like something tells me she likes me but she won’t amit it yet is it best if like i don’t talk to her for a while.

    • Anonymous

      She most likely likes you, as Viktor said, most shy girls will say that its a joke or play it off, but since she gets mad if you are best friends with other girls, bites her lips , etc., you should straight ask her, however this might come with a mild risk as she wont know how to respond as she doesn’t want to ruin the friendship between both of you, you should start a casual conversation and try to transition little by little to the question.

  77. Huskels

    I have a crush since the first day I saw him in 2017 and since then thing got weard, we are seeing each other at church, he is married but I cant help it I like this man, he always sits infront of the church and me at the back we hug sometimes, talk somethimes I even told him I have a crush on him and he was not angry at me just said maybe as a father but I told him no not at all. And he does not mind me being close to him or he to me and I once accidently touched his leg while sitting I thought I am going to get shouted at but he kept quite looking at me and I was looking at him, what a moment but we just carried on listening to the Priest.

  78. Anonymous

    Okay, so I like this girl and I have her on Snapchat and we’re #1 on each other’s best friends list and we have a 100 day streak and within them 100 days, we’ve hung out 3 times and we’ve done things together (sexually). But she calls me her “bestfriend forever” and all kinds of other things like “you deserve the world” and “you’re the sweetest guy I know”. I don’t know what to think about everything, I have more information if someone can help me out

  79. zackery

    this girl i like, she teases in the conversation, strong eye contact, she laughs at me if we just look at each other,feet pointed to me, she straightening her hair while we talk, she talks about her family to me a lot, even talks about her future education, kids, etc… seems to be open and closed case but i dont want to mess up a good friendship if she actually dont want to move it up a level.

  80. Jay

    I work with this girl, she always takes time to ask about out if work things like if I live local and how old am I, and the other day I caught her grinning at me as I passed her.
    Two minutes after, she came to ask me something and places her hands on my hips from behind and I was quite surprised.. lol.

  81. Jon

    She texts me everyday and will text all day long!
    She is always there when I need advice and to help me get through something.
    She is always telling me how sweet and nice I am.
    She is always laughing at things I say.
    She is aware of my divorce and ever since I moved out, is now happy and will FaceTime me.
    We talk on the phone for almost an hour sometimes more.
    She always asks how I’m doing.
    She always texts or calls me when she is frustrated or wants to vent.
    She says she is very appreciative of things I do for her and always being there for her.
    She went out of her way and out a lot of thought behind getting me a gift.
    She tells me she is trying to pay more attention to things I say and how much I pay attention to her.
    She is always telling me how great of a guy I am.
    She lets me know when she does things or when she gets home etc…

  82. Alex

    She smiles at you when you look at her.

  83. Sunglasses

    Okay so I’m gonna jump right into it. There’s this Starbucks I regularly go to and I’ve grown to know many of the employees but one in particular is obviously my favorite. She was the first one to ask me what my name was. We started talking each time and there seems to be some sort of connection. we both get more visibility excited to see each other every time I go through the drive thru. Yesterday we hit a new level of excited. I drove through after work like I always do because Starbucks takes all my money but I pull up to the window to pay and she’s standing in the background and as she sees me pull up she waves super excitedly at me(yes I’m sure it’s directed towards me I was the only one in her line of sight) then runs over to the window disregarding the paperwork she was doing also stealing the drive thru from who was running it. She says “what’s up sunglasses! I haven’t seen you in a while!” (She actually has a nickname for me) she then proceeds to tell me she started working nights and I should come in sometime. We ended up holding up the drive thru talking (it was both of us not just me). Today I did my usual and went after work. She happened to be working again she then proceeded to steal the drive thru window again and right as I pulled up she said “HEY QUEEN” super excited. She said she liked my new rainbow watch band and asked if I was going to the pride parade BUT THEN SHE ASKED ME IF I HAD A SNAPCHAT. So obviously I gave it to her because I was gonna ask her for her number at some point I just didn’t wanna scare her off or anything. I asked her if she was working tomorrow and she said she was working close. I told her that I would keep that in mind (super mysterious I know lol) and she’s like “alright see you tomorrow then :)”. We snap chatted almost instantly and she kept sneaking to use her phone while she was at work.

    • Mrs Nobody from Nowhere

      Well, I really fancy a male barista at my local branch of Starbucks so you’re by no means the only one!

      I get the distinct impression that some of his male colleagues think the situation is hilarious, though I must admit I have no idea whether they’re poking fun at me, him or both of us.

      Today one of these men told me I was a “VIP” customer and plastered a huge, exaggerated grin on his face.

      This was RIGHT IN FRONT of the one I like.

      So I just said that if I was a “VIP” customer, did that mean I could get a discount? 🙂

  84. Artrell

    Hi Mr Viktor please answer this so this girl that I like she will always play fight with me even though she does it With other boys then she will try to get me in trouble like she say that to the teacher that I kick her even though I didn’t kick her and today she ask do ever had girlfriend and I say no then she ask if I want a girlfriend and I say stupidly say no and then one time she that this girl like me even though I don’t the girl I don’t know if she like me please help me!

  85. Anonymous

    Hey .. I live in an environment where it is almost impossible to meet with my girlfriend.. I know her from 8 year but we fell in love in 2017 end. She likes me as she tells me but she always remain reserve due to religious belief and she is unable to text me everyday because she has no personal mobile.. she still pretend to love me . She also cant able to tell to her family and whenever i am angry on her often she says sorry to me. But she is not much interested in love talks but interested in general talks. I dont know what but just i want to know that does she loves me or not.. she is not jealous when i talk to other girls but she says that she trusts me and i’ll not leaving her anyway. We both are 18 years old.

  86. Anonymous

    Can we talk on instagram my insta is @im_jesus_martinez Please i need help

  87. Anonymous

    Hi my name is MXO Handebe . And I have a crash in my church her name is ALWA , she very full of her that girl I’m telling you man. One day it our second seveys in Church. She was sitting next to me busy with her phone whatapping during the surveys, So I was looking through her phone just to see who is she talking to ….what she said to me was very very hurtful. She said “HEY you what are you looking through my phone , stop look through my business boy” then I stopped looking as she told . Then I saw a pic of WEED on the a plant .And she said it again”HEY you are doing it again MFTHU” she said mixed imotion ….I don’t why . Then her friend then told to stop what to me , while her friend was telling to be nice . I was still looking through the phone , then I saw her sexy pic nigga yooo😍😍😍😍😋😘 . Her friend saw me acting all funny after looking through the phone , I may say she saw that crazy about ALWANDE .Her friend told me to tell she’s beautiful, ALWANDE was say that I will slap you ….in a fun way , she was like I’m joking while saying that . I just blashed and kept quiet….then I told my homie AVELA he said there one chick between whose crashing on me . I was maybe her friend not her . But ALWANDE eyes too😍😍😍😍

    But please there is more of the story it tooooo looooooong


  88. MXO

    It is really helpful… thanks for the update and for the record

  89. Angelo

    she said she wants to get to know me because she may like me help me im confused

  90. Ananamous

    I met a woman I text her she don’t text me back it takes a while she does not have eye contact once in a while she.does but I am intrigued she will let me message her legs and feet with oil what do u think

  91. Will Flach

    Okay so we talk on Snapchat and sometimes after swimming she will send me pictures of her by the pool she will answer my snaps sometimes right away and other times it will take her a bit. Also sometimes her friends will send me a picture of her when they hang out but she really gives mixed signals. We did talk at school to because we had all the same classes and one time we locked eyes for a long while then she turned away. Another time and a party the song single ladies came on when I was by her and her friends were pushing her telling her she needs to dance because she is a single lady. I really like her and I don’t know what to do because I want her to like me. She gives a bunch of mixed signals like sometimes she will talk then she won’t and I’m not the hottest guy at our school but I want a chance with her if it’s possible and if she at least kinda has a thing for me. I could really use your help.

    • Will Flach

      She also won’t give me clear signals and won’t talk about if she likes someone

  92. Bond

    So I’m High school with not a lot of friends and there’s this girl I like . To be honest we don’t talk much, she sits in front of me in one of my classes and the girl I like turns around and puts her elbow on my desk (she like rests her head on her fists ) while she’s following along with the book that our teacher reads even tho she know that I’m close to her and sometimes she draws stuff on my paper or arm ( I don’t know what that means). At lunch she has a lot her own friends and prefers to sit in a different table with me even tho there’s only 1 more person sitting with us. Is it just that she feels bad for me for not having enough friends or what?

  93. Anonymous

    A girl sat next to me in a lesson at school and started asking a lot of very personal questions. I am not sure if this is a good sign that she likes me though, because she accused me about liking her friend (although I don’t) a while ago when she sat on the same table of me. This was in a sort of jokey way though, so I don’t know if it is of consequence. Does anyone know how I can tell for sure if she likes me?

  94. Alex

    So this girl I like got kinda close to me, she was sitting behind me bc we were on a ATV but I scooted up and she would still get close. Is this a sign?

    • Anonymous

      FOR SURE

  95. Anonymous

    So there’s this girl at school I like but I’m not sure if she likes me. We have a decent amount of thing in common, and gives some of the signs here but gives me mixed signals. She smiles and talks to me when we are talking together, but that seldom is the case, and I don’t know if she does that with all her friends or not, and we’ve also only ever really communicated in a group. Also, she is fairly critical of things I do, like me overreacting at stuff (I’m spontaneous; I do this often), giving a passing remark. And often in brief meetings with more people, like entering the classroom, while she holds the door we don’t even make eye contact. But when I enter a room and it’s just us, she smiles and waves. And she has made jokes and teases to me, but mainly in the past when we interacted more. I don’t quite know her well enough, and her lack of a phone makes it hard to connect. What should I do?

  96. ken

    she does majority of these signs but has a bf. what does this mean?

  97. Matthew

    Hey I’m Matthew,so there’s this girl in my class who I didn’t like before but then after sometime I developed some feeling towards her,she’s the kind of girl who always talk to other boys really close but when she is around me she turns into a different person, she will talk less with other boys and ask me some personal questions, her friends also asked me my thoughts about her, she also gave me something l liked before and if I remember correctly she hinted at wanting to hang out, but the main problem is that during class she always sits around a bunch of boys and like talk all the time so I’m not sure whether she has feelings for me or not . It’ll be nice if you can help me with this

  98. jacob

    hey so my name is jacob and theres this girl named chloe. we don’t really talk much but she laughs at my jokes (we are both in high school btw and also in 10th grade). does she like me??? she also asked for my phone number in history class and then facetimed me even though we were right next to each other. is she stupid, or does she like me?

    • charles

      hello jacob i am charles it is nice to meet you i am in high school but nineth grade and i have had that thing happen to me a lot where a girl asks for my phone numbr and facetimes me immediately and once or twice she asked to hang out with me outside of school and we did and dated so i would say to ask her out.

  99. Peyton Havens

    There was a girl in my class that would always ask me to sit by her. She also had a friend that sat by her, and when she was there the girl that I think liked me would always talk loud, even if she wasnt talking to me. When her friend would move somewhere else she would talk to me in a whispery voice, like she was telling me a secret. There was one time where she asked me who I think she liked in that class. I named off every single boy in the class but myself and when my face started getting hot, thank the lord, my friend came over to me and started talking to me. Was all of this a sign that she liked me?

    P.S. She wrote her number in my yearbook with a heart and she had wrote “Call me!”

    P.S.S. I am very shy and she is very loud and I get a feeling that she loves making me uncomfortable because she always asked me who I liked and she would hug me at random times. She would also touch my foot and put her foot very close to the no no squar(she acted as if she didnt know she was doing it). She would also do the mirroring thing and would fiddle with her cloths alot.

    P.S.S.S. We are both 13

  100. dawn

    she has a girlfriend and she has this move that she will ask me to hang out with her secretly but with the group. if her girlfriend will be there to listen the conversation her voice change its tone it will become casual voice but if we are the only one talking her voice is soft and minimize where usually she talks to others with loud voice. she most of the time invited me to hang out than other friends around but if her girlfriend is there she will ask one of our friends to follow because they will go ahead to the place of hang out and she will instruct our common friend to bring me in the place.

  101. Tyler

    Oh and also, me and her used to be totally comfortable with telling eachother about crushes on other people but now we don’t really do that. but sometimes i will walk by her and her friends and i will always hear a little bit of something like “i like–” and they’ll stop as i get close. is it because they don’t like me or what??

  102. Tyler

    Hey I am currently in highschool(freshman) and there is this one girl(lets caqll her zoey) right? and like everyday we talk, she laughs with me a lot. but she is mean to me a lot as well 🙁 i don’t understand this. Then i forgot to text her back and she got mad at me and now we don’t really talk much anymore. She even told me she liked someone else but i don’t believe it. Mostly because one day in my conditioning class she thought i didn’t notice but when i was bench pressing she was staring at me, and i made eye-contact back and she looked away casually. Does she have a lot of feelings for me or?…. HELP!!!

  103. Chetan

    I am seeing a girl from 4 months. We text every day but neither of us has ever expressed their liking towards each other. She tells me of her financial worries and I am taking care of that. Whenever I call her to meet she never turns it down unless if its an emergency. What and how should my next approach be. I dont like her but I love her and I am feeling scared that if I tell her this and maybe she refuses my heart will be totally broken. She is around 15 years younger to me.

    Kindly suggest

    • Viktor Sander

      It sounds like she might be with you because of her financial worries. I’m sorry to say that. It’s very hard to build a good relationship on a financial basis like that. You will just lose even more money if you keep waiting without knowing how she feels, and that will sting even harder.

      And remember that broken hearts heal too <3

    • Anonymous

      Umm, she might be a gold digger also how old are you

  104. Max

    Hi Mr.Viktor

    I hope you can answer me considering this situation.

    I actually found my crush talking to another guy on the phone. Could it be that she is interested in him or just friends?

    This girl actually do send some signals which shows that she is interested in me.

  105. she is confusing

    I dont know what she is up to:

    we met once before. she liked me i think. but i gave her too much attention. she loves the attention.
    but she is shy and was nervous on the date.

    the date was boring and i couldn’t look so much into her eyes. she did not ask or said as much as i did.

    she said it was a good date but i did nit believe her.

    so i kept texting her and told her how great she is.

    but she was very cold from after the date, responding very late very short etc…
    i wanted to meet again but she had only lazy excuses.

    then I ignored her for some weeks and now she came back.
    she is nice to me and initiates contact.

    my problems are 2:

    why doesnt she want to know more about me; we are only talking surface matters, a little bit flirty or about her.

    second: i asked her indirectly to go in a museum together. she said i should go on my own.(and i dont think that she didn’t get it). so i think she doesnt want to hang out in the near future.
    and i also complimented her.

    >so what i think is: i gave her attention before. she loved it.
    now i have the feeling that she only taps at my shoulder and screams her i am! look at me! im so interesting. please follow me.

    she does only enough so that i follow her and keeps my hope up but only wants attention.

    > what i dont get: how boring and shitty is her life that she takes so much effort only for a litle validation and someone is thinking about her.

    >> so my plan is to play it cool like ice the next 2 weeks and see what happens.
    it’s actually too childish for me anyways. i dont need her. would be nice nothing more.

    she is 17 im 20
    she is a 7 im too i think
    she has not many real options right now just like me

    we have a lot in common actually but we dont talk about it somehow.

    what do ? am i right?

    • Viktor Sander

      I think you’re right about her just looking for your validation. She does not seem genuinely interested in you, she seems manipulative.

      You are worth better.

  106. GIZ

    Well I have a coworker who recently started at the job the first day she left a bit of space but did acknowledged me and asked several questions. The next day she new I was a little upset about work and offered me a hug. She’s been there for about a week and has constantly hugged me since. Hugs when she wraps her arms around my weist to hugging me from behind we do text she has started the text and I have started 1 time I told her she was cute the next day meaning today she let her hair down and she was even more stunning! I text her to say I don’t want to be a bother but let her know she was beautiful today she waited about 10 mins replying that I’m not a bother with a 😉 however she has let everyone know she is there to work not make relationships. She also said she could use a hug from me last night but I live 1 hour away from work. My problem is I’m lesbian and she to me comes off as a straight woman so I’m a bit confused as to how I should take her gestures. She knows I’m a lesbian and she has never really replied with her preference. So should I take it as she is just friendly with me because she does not act like that with others or should I just let it ride out.

    • Viktor Sander

      She’s definitely flirting with you. She even invited you home to her saying she needs a “hug”. Wow. Can’t be more obvious than that without saying it out loud.

      Don’t think too much if she’s straight or not. It’s her actions that count and they tell you that she’s interested. You got this! But take it slow since it’s a coworker and make sure you don’t have a falling out if it doesn’t work out.

  107. Bob

    Hi.. I’m unsure just need a little help please
    Ok signs I’ve seen. I’m male ten years older than her when I mention this she says that’s ok nothing wrong with that..but no mention of friends she has the same age. She’s told me many intermate things like she’s more confident with the lights off things about her exes .when we touch by accident it’s a oops like I want to but not sure if I can .from her.. also she knows I’m married but she’s single .texting is equal in length and who’s first

  108. Max

    Mr.Viktor when a girl does not pass by you in university and doesn’t want your attention means that she is not interested?

    The girl and I don’t know each other.

  109. Anonymous

    I’m not sure you’ll get this, but I’m just gonna take my chance.
    So, she’s:
    1 openly talking about romance anI me and stuff (she’s an otaku, I just like anime.)

    2 facing me FULLY with her body when we talk. No problem with that.

    3 not texting me first at all, but the one time we texted, she was overly excited to chat

    4 giggling at my jokes.not laughing her life away, but she’s chuckling/giggling

    5 she genuinely smiles when we talk

    6 her pupils dilate… (I think so)

    7 she’s really interested in my talent (art)

    8 she’s always excited to help me with math and stuff (not sure that’s a sign)

    9 she plays with her hair,but not while we’re talking, when she’s NEAR me.

    10 she dosent start conversations when we’re close to each other, but when I start one,shes fully engaged in it, and at times, excited

    11 she gets close to me, no prob

    12 she dosent go out of her way to touch my shoulder and whatnot, but she let’s our feet and arms touch when we sit together

    13 she has no problem walking beside me/ intentionally trying to catch up to me or slow down so I can catch up to her

    14 eye contact? No problem.

    15 she asks me stuff like “what are you doing this weekend?” OR “what are you doing?” Like it’s normal

    I’m asking these because I’m going to ask her out (not on a date, for REAL) because we have UNUSUAL chemistry. We really… have a connection. But, I’m scared I’m just mistaking it for friendship. Your see, I have problems with overthinking stuff, and I’ve been weighing myself down by thinking about this all through my free time. I just want to ask her to be my girlfriend, she says yes, and I rest. Because I feel like my FRIGGING HEAD IS GOING TO BLOW UP. Whats your take..?

    • Viktor Sander

      Sounds like she really likes you. But ask her out on a date instead. Or even better, ask her out on some fun activity without even calling it a date first. Don’t set too much pressure up from the beginning.

      I highly advise against asking her to be your girlfriend just like that, unless you’re 15 years old or younger.

      • Anonymous

        well then! i AM 15, so i’m gonna do it soon… i guessed since we’re both not very popular (oof) she’s probably just like me: she’s really nervous but she’s trying to hide it… makes sense… but anyway, thank you SO MUCH for the help!

  110. Gage

    There is this girl who will make eye contact with me, she will hug me a lot and sometimes I see her face flare up red with blush when I’m around. Should I ask her if she likes me?

  111. Max

    So I have a crush on a girl but we do not know each other. We see each other in university. We have never been in a conversation. But I saw some signs and I felt that she like me but I am not sure. One of the signs is that when I stare at her, she looks at me. That actually happened quite often. Another sign is that we had an eye contact that maybe lasted 1.5 seconds until I finally looked away. Another sign is that when I was at class, I looked at the class window and I saw her looking at me from outside of the class. So to sum things up,I caught her looking at me more than once at least.

    I saw actually another sign, but I am not sure if it is a positive one. The sign is that she is avoiding me. Today I saw her on the bus stop, but when she saw me she decided not to go with the same bus me. She took the bus that comes after.

    I would really be glad if you would help me know if she like me or not so I can approach her.

    • Viktor Sander

      It seems she’s at least a little bit interested in you. But it’s weird that she avoided you at the bus stop. Was it that it was the wrong bus for her? Maybe she just felt ugly that day and got self-conscious. Or she’s weirded out by you staring at her so much. It’s impossible to know without talking to her.

      I think you’ll know better if you manage to start a conversation with her. There’s no harm in trying anyway, if she isn’t interested you can focus on other girls instead, and if she’s positive, that’s amazing. You’ll be glad you tried either way.

      • Max

        But why would she feel weirded out by me if I caught her glancing at me and darting her eyes eyes away when I look at her?

        I thought that is she is weirded by me she won’t even make eye contact wit me at any costs.

        What do you think about that Mr.Viktor?

        • Max

          I mean that I caught her glancing at me before the day of the bus incident when she avoided me.

        • Viktor Sander

          It’s hard to know why she looked at you, she could also look at you to see if you’re staring at her again.

          But it’s more likely she’s a bit interested, but since she avoided you, she must be very shy or self-conscious around you. So that means you need to take the initiative since she’d never dare to do it. Let me know how it goes 🙂

          • Max

            Mr. Viktor, next tuesday will be the last day I see her in university because we have a 2 months vacation. Do you think that she will forget about me and that she won’t have the same interest as before when we see each other back again in university after these 2 months?

            The problem is that we don’t know each other and I don’t have her on social media.

            Do you think she will lose interest in me when we see each other again after 2 months or that is not necessarily?

          • Viktor Sander

            Not necessarily, but she might see someone else in that time. You will be kicking yourself if you don’t try at least talking to her. And what if you think about her for all summer, but then in the fall, it turns out she was never interested in you? Better to know now.

    • Olivia

      I think she does

  112. Zackery

    Hey the girl I think is interested in me she tends to do thes things play with her hair, tuck her hair behind the ear, laughing, hold eye contact, she even talks about her family and how many kids she would like to have. I feel like she is interested but she don’t text me I have to text her, but i all get a reply with the same amount of word as mine, and do you think if she was interested she would attempt touches?

    • Viktor Sander

      Doesn’t sound like she’s super interested from what you said, she might just view you as a good friend. It’s hard to tell without more info.

      Even if she’s interested, she might not dare to try touching you.

  113. Anonymous

    So she often looks at me I look at her she does the mirroring thing and I do it back but we are both shy and rarley talk but if I’m having a conversation with someone else she will normally join in

    • Viktor Sander

      Too little information to tell. She could just like you as a friend.

  114. Edward

    I’m the same age as her but there hot boys in her school and I’m normal British boy but she’s Scottish like really Scottish and she only likes me 23% and I love so much and now I’m stuck so if you could help me that would very nice of youXD.and live nexst to her but boys don’t

    Pleas help me

    • Edward

      And what does it mean when a girl is all ways punching you and then 1day she stops but then the next day she is punching you again when you did nothing to prothoc her what doe that mean


      • Anonymous

        Does she punch you when you’re joking?

    • Anonymous

      How does the other 77% of her feel about you?

  115. Eddie

    Hen we first meet she said that she would never go out with me.But I tell her that I like her she still respond to my texts not as fast as I would like but do respond. She say that I should not text or call her but she call and text from time to time.To I texted her told her dam girl you are fine in the last hour but at least she didn’t curse me out on the phone or text.

  116. Anonymous

    Alote out those apply but she talks to all boys in my class but me, what does that mean?

  117. Anonymous

    She just looks at me. And her friends tease her indirectly when im around. She notices every time i look at her. But unfortunately we never had any conversation. so i don’t know if she likes me or not. What should i do first?

    • Anonymous

      Try talking to her! Confidence goes a long way!

    • Anonymous

      She looks at me and I look at her and she smiles sometimes but we never talked so what should I do

      • Viktor Sander

        Talk to her.


    • Anonymous

      she probably likes you try talking to her

  118. Emmanuel

    Don’t know if she likes me, she always find ways to meet me but hardly starts the conversation. She talks to other boys more but still keeps her attention to me whenever I show interest. Can u help me find out

  119. Chris


    So this is kind of long winded but I have to get this off my chest, I have a friend, we are best friends. So here it goes.
    We met acouple years ago, I work for her on the side even though I’ve done work for her in the past. As we moved forward on her project I kept a wall up. We have a lot in common our background and life story, but around last October we were hanging out with one of her employees at a bar talking about the design, I noticed she she sat beside me the kinda snuggled up to me. I thought that’s kinda strange. Then me her employee start playing a friendly game of foosball, she’s standing there with us yelling my name, saying come on you can beat him, really cheering me on but I was getting killed by this guy. We sat back down. Finished our drinks and so on. As we depart she gives me a big hug and a kiss on the cheek. Now keep in mind she’s always taking me out to lunch, buying me stuff and so on. Makes a big deal out of my birthday. So here comes thanksgiving, she tells me that she’s really thankful for me. She’s always giving me these looks. Well Christmas comes around and she sends me pictures of her in her pjs then of her and her husband, were both married, all in fun I’m thinking at this point. New Year’s Eve we hang out together because her husbands at work, lawyer. We are at another bar and a lady there assumes we are a couple and she doesn’t skip a beat. Goes with it. She calls me her frusband, bff, brother and so on, so we leave there go to another bar, very dark and quiet, we’re looking at videos on my phone of the days events and she snuggles up to me again. We end up back at her place, husbands home, seems alittle upset but we are all friends, as I’m leaving she begs me to go to a party with them, I told her I couldn’t and left, few days later she called me to meet her downtown because it was her birthday and her husband had to leave, on call, we hung out and shopped some. Acting like a couple. I giver her a card and acouple small gifts. Then they go on vacation, she calls me upset that her passport expired and that her husband and step kids were already there without her. She does call me to vent often and so on. Then she calls me one day to go to her rental property with her, saying she needed my help. I agree to go. Then next day her husband texts me saying he’s on call and ask if I could go help her. And I said yes even Though I already told her yes, so we go to her vacation rental property and go to town for supplies while a few other people are working and so on. Have a lot of fun just hanging out and shopping, later on that Night she tells me it’s her sisters birthday and that we are going to her birthday party, I agreed. Now keep in mind she made it a point to put me in the room beside hers, only thing separating our rooms is a door, we had started drinking some, I was already ready to go, I’m in her room and she says she needs to change, before I can leave she changes right front of me. The gentleman that I am I just turned my back towards her. We go to the party, I get out of her van and realized I left my jacket back at her place, she said she has just the thing, she hands me a poncho, as I’m tucking my shirt in she grabs me and starts running her hand down the front of my pants, I said what are you doing, with a big smile on her face she says I’m helping you tuck your shirt in…. then we go into the party’, I see her sister whom I’ve only met once, hand her her present from me, tell her happy birthday and so on, then I go outside, meet her sisters boyfriend for the first time and he says your chris? The chris? I’m like ya I guess, he’s says dude Lisa really loves you, looking at me dead in the eye, then I look at her sister and she says ya chris, Lisa really loves, she is so happy she has a big strong man like you in her life, I was floored at this point. We go on about the party, leave and go back to her place, alittle tipsy from the party, I’m laying in the bed and hear my door open, she comes in and says I’m gonna tuck you in….I’m like ok, she fluffs my pillows, blankets and so on and gets me a teddy bear out of her room and says sleep with this. At this point I still have my wall up. Being careful. Next day we work I’m getting ready to leave she tells me to come back into my room, turns off all the lights and we sit together in dark, she’s going on about how much stuff she has to get done, I pat her on the back then ask me to give her a massage. I give her a back massage then get ready to go. As I’m leaving she looks at me and says I love you. I tell her I love her also and leave, she looked really sad I had to go. Next day she sends me pictures of the weekend events and so on. Saying how cute… so we back to business as usual since but since then she’s gotten real touchy feely, doesn’t mind being in my bubble, she will also tell me how good I am, that I’m the best, and will tell her husband to let me do stuff because I’m better at it or that I know what I’m doing, even though he’s a great guy and very hands on do it yourselfer kinda guy, I catch her singing songs when we are alone together like wicked game by Chris issac.shes used the term soulmate and so on. Says I remind her of a movie star she had a crush on when she was younger, all of her friends know about me as well as her family like she talks about me. She will take videos and pics of me working and send them to people, friends and so on. She invites me out to eat with her and her husband and always sits beside me, he will leave us there together like he doesn’t mind or don’t care, nothing sexual has happened between us, I care for her deeply, she’s like my best friend , well it’s made me fall in love with her! And I wrote her a poem, gave it to her last week and she cried, leaned into me and said you know were both married right and that the universe was messing with us. I said yes but I just had to tell you how I feel. She always looks at me like she’s looking into my soul, whenever she’s going out of town she makes a excuse to see me before she leaves, and if I don’t see her for acouple days like weekend she always wants to meet up for lunch. I thought the poem would seal the deal or run her off but it did neither, she didn’t skip a beat. Still goes on like nothing but since when she looks at me it’s like she gives me this save me look. We do have a lot of fun together working or not. I can tell she doesn’t get that from her hubby, there’s more to the story but I figured it’s long enough. I know we are both married but I have never felt this way about anybody, not even my wife. I’m just waiting now to see what she wants to do. All the signs are there. I see it in her eyes smile and body willing to wait…. here’s the poem I wrote
    In every song I hear you should hear her sing
    In amazement at what she does can do and has done
    Wonder Woman super woman or just human
    I’ve never met anyone like her bet I never will
    I consider her perfect expressed it before
    In the beginning I put up a wall but a sea of emotions washed it away
    In short time or long time the wait
    This feeling what is it
    Maybe in another life or maybe in a future her
    The look in her eyes the feeling in mine
    Just friends why
    The lucky one to have this friendship or the pain knowing it can’t or can it
    The stories the times the connections
    She’s got the perfect life, she’ll say different me too or do we
    I don’t want it to end cause I know it will then be in short passing
    It’s not lust is it love
    What is it
    I’ve dreamt of her, I did again last nite.
    She’s a dream come true but a nightmare because
    I know I’m sane, is it a higher power
    She’s in my thoughts and she’s on my mind
    I want to climb the highest peek and screem her name because god knows I’ve yelled it in my soul many times
    She tells me her secrets I tell her mine
    Could I go on but of course
    Like a book that never ends but a poem that does.

    It’s just so crazy she made me fall in love with her but at this point I know she feels the same way but don’t want to mess things up between us. She treats me so different than anybody else, special attention. She’s always wanting my feedback on things even though she has it in her mind what and how she wants things. I feel like she puts me way up high on a pedistool, gifts, lunches, dinners and so on. I’m just a average joe. He’s a lawyer but tells me how smart and funny I am. She’s always hugging me, having me massage her or hold her. I can go on and on but that’s the jist of it. Help!

  120. Tim Bolton

    Usually when I’m hanging out with friends i notice her at the corner of my eye staring at me.

    She had a Instagram story saying “send a x if you don’t hate me” I sent it and she said that she would give a honest statement if I sent a pic of me I did and she said she misses talking to me and wished she had the same classes as me.
    Does she like me?

    • Viktor Sander

      Yes! Not sure yet if romantically or not though.

  121. Nothing.

    Okay… There is this girl that I like but I can’t figure out if she likes me back or she’s just being herself. She is sometimes taking my stuff like my hat, and she full on Sat on my desk… Weird because I have never seen her do any of these things. I don’t know if I’m being stupid or if I’m right and she does like me.

    • Viktor Sander

      Seems like playful teasing/flirting (unless it feels like bullying?). She at least has some interest in you.

    • Boi

      Boii she likes u

  122. Ellanor

    Im in college and there is this guy I’ve been talking to all semester. We have a lot in common and we vibe really well. We had a few classes together and we tease each other all the time. People say we are flirty but he hasn’t made a move, and hasn’t asked me out. We also text frequently but i can’t tell if he is just being a good friend or likes me more than that

    • Viktor Sander

      He’s most likely interested in you, but too insecure to make a move. Ask if he wants to go do some activity or something fun with you and see how it goes.

  123. Gabriela

    I have a friend and she seems to talk a lot about guys and her ex-boyfriend. But she is pretty touchy and gets really close to my face as a joke. When we talk we somehow end up holding hands kinda. And idk the overall vibe is pretty flirty the only off thing is that her friends say she is straight and she talks about guys. But idk, doesn’t body language say more than words do?

    • Viktor Sander

      You could try asking her if she’s ever been attracted to a girl. It’s a harmless question if she’s straight. And if she’s not or if she’s interested in you, you’ll notice on her reaction.

      Her actions definitely seem flirty. Worst case I think she might want to see if you are attracted to her to get a self-esteem boost. But I think it’s more likely she’s interested in you. But maybe she feels ambiguous about it also.

  124. Daniel

    Im in eighth grade and this whole year this one girl has always caught my interest she occasionally touches me and playfully slaps me along with a couple other things, she stares at me often and is always talking to me when we have the chance, i just dont say anything to her cause im scared ill mess it up in some way. What do i do?

    • anonymous

      if u like her too of course! but if ur to nervous just txt her if u have her number or get it from her friends or on social media. u can start there then once u think u can do it. go ahead start talking in person.

  125. L

    My best friend and me have been friends forever and recently she has been really flirty with me and even saying that she likes me but I kindly brush it off because ik she is joking well I think cause she’s been really confusing lately like she kissed me on the cheek the other day and she’s liked never done that and and we were texting the other day and she said she wants me all to herself and I really feel like she is just maybe joking with me but idk I tried to ask her about it but I chickened out 😞

    • Viktor Sander

      Wow. Seems as obvious as it can get. Unless she’s really mean and making fun of you or leading you on. But if she’s never been mean before + since you are best friends that seems unlikely. Don’t brush it off next time and go for it!

  126. Frye

    I’ve seen her looking at me but then she darts her head away the seconed I see her. And when she is around her friends she dosent really talk to me. But when she’s not with her friends she talks to me. And when she is talking she makes eye contact for a long time. I want to ask her out but i just want yo be sure she likes me

    • Anonymous

      Trying to find a crush

      • Anonymous

        A girl and I recently told each other we liked one another. Day after, she stops talking to me 😔

        • Viktor Sander

          Maybe she got nervous or afraid she’ll mess it up somehow? You never know what kind of issues someone else might have.

  127. Lavai

    My best friend and me have been friends forever and recently she has been really flirty with me and even saying that she likes me but I kindly brush it off because ik she is joking well I think cause she’s been really confusing lately like she kissed me on the cheek the other day and she’s liked never done that and and we were texting the other day and she said she wants me all to herself and I really feel like she is just maybe joking with me but idk I tried to ask her about it but I chickened out 😞

  128. Sandeep

    We are roommates sharing a different bedroom. She used to come see me when I am in the living room or kitchen everytime. We started hanging out, I see the signs mentioned in points 1,2,3,5,6,8,9,10,13,14,16,17,18,21,24,25,26,27,28,31,33,35,37 in her. She is making plans for the future but she is not coming out frequently now when I am in the room and also looking me from far but not approaching me.

  129. Alex

    What if she grabs my arm to take me to a place instead of just telling me or walking me there without contact

    • Viktor Sander

      It’s a good sign, but not conclusive on its own. It might just be the way she does with everyone she likes, romantic AND platonic.

  130. John

    There is this girl in my class ( sixth grade) and she always playfully punches me. Also, she ALWAYS asks if I would team with her in four square before she asks her friends. I don’t know if she likes me or not because, like I always say, middle school is confusing.

  131. Dev

    There’s this girl in my art class that I like (I’m in 7th grade). She is usually sitting next to me or asking me for help and when I see her for the first time in the day she’ll say my name in an excited high voice. She always laughs at what I say even if it’s not funny. Pls help me lol.

    • Julio Soto

      So this girl I work with, just told me she wants to be my best friend (I know, I got friend zoned). But I she feel wants to be more than friends. She playfully hits me, is nervous when she’s around me, and it seems like she forgets what she wanted to tell me sometimes. When we’re out, she constantly tells me to feel her hand because it’s cold. I may be looking too much into this, but I want to make sure the signs I’m seeing are somewhat true before I make a move.

  132. Brian

    This girl in my social studies class is always sitting by me and playing with her hair and glasses, I like her a lot but I don’t know if she likes me.

  133. Anonymous

    Thank you sir for your advice and replies.

  134. Cons

    There’s this girl in my class that I like (I’m in 7’th grade) she always stares at me but doesn’t smile we barley have conversation but she does blush around me sometimes what do I do please help

    • Anonymous

      I’m in the exact situation

  135. PHOENIX

    What if shes alwas laghing gigling or curling/playng with her hair and what if she pulls my hair p.s i am a guy and what if she says i love u or licks/bites hoer lips on a daily baises but alwas or at least just playfully and how do u tell if someone’s just blushing or has realy rosy cheeks p.s again im a thirteen year old boy but i’m still pretty mature enughf. a.k.a (teen)

  136. Luke

    Today she asked me to feel how soft her hair is at least 4 times. she always asks how She looks. we are coworkers in the food industry and she asked me to check if she had ketchup on her pants.she is always teasing me just making friendly cracks about things I say or do

  137. r bell

    A few questions:

    1) As far as teasing goes…is pretty much all teasing considered flirty, as long as it’s not mean-spirited? Example: making fun of your favorite sports team and poking at you for being quiet?

    2) How to interpret a woman staring at you, not breaking eye contact and not smiling?

    3) Same woman as the first two: so, there was a work social event for everyone in my department that she organized, and she asked me if I was going/tried to talk me into going. I didn’t go, and the next day she wouldn’t let it go that I didn’t come and kept talking about how I should have come and would have had fun. No one else reacted like this–one person said once that she thinks I would have had fun, but that was it. Everyone else went, so I was the only one who didn’t. This workplace is very big on “team” and relationship building, so…normally, I would definitely think this was a sign of interest, especially combined with some of the other signs, but it also occurs to me that she just could have been bothered that not everyone on the “team” came and that I like to do my own thing instead of acting like everyone else and trying to fit in.

    • Viktor Sander

      Interesting observations!

      1: It really depends on the context, it’s either a) flirting b) trying to be playful and have fun with you or c) bullying. It can also be some combination of those alternatives. What’s interesting with flirting is that it’s so ambiguous, it’s supposed to be hard to interpret.

      But considering signs 2 and 3, I think she might be interested in you because she’s giving you so much of her attention. Unless it feels more like bullying/trying to put you down? You should have a good grasp if she’s just mean-spirited or not. If she’s not, all of that attention she’s giving you definitely means something.

      • r bell

        Thanks, Viktor. I don’t think it’s mean-spirited or bullying. It’s more like what you wrote, i.e. I’m not sure if she’s just trying to get me to lighten up or if it’s more than that.

        How many signs do you think are enough to feel good about approaching a woman?

        • Viktor Sander

          You don’t really need any signs to go for it if you really like her. But at work, I would be a lot more careful since you don’t want to burn any bridges there. And you don’t have to “make a move”, you can just start talking more to her, maybe try to flirt a little bit to see if she likes it. If you get a positive response to the flirting, I’d consider asking her out on a date (or just a lunch/coffee so there are not so high expectations). And when she’s asking you to come to an event, you should definitely go if you’re actually interested in her.

          Best of luck!