How to tell if a girl likes you: 42 signs she has a crush on you

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How do you know if a girl likes you or even has a crush on you?

My name is Viktor Sander. I’ve coached hundreds of men to have more success with women.

Here’s a list of 42 signs to help you understand how she feels about you.

1. Is she laughing at your jokes (even when they’re bad)?

This has always been a BIG GREEN SIGN of interest for me. I’ve seen it both in most of the girls I’ve dated and also in girls my friends have dated. If she got a crush on you, she will most likely think all your jokes are super funny even if they aren’t.

Read more: How to be funny (for un-funny people).

2. Is she mirroring you?

Mirroring means that her body language, posture, or even what she’s saying reflects what you said or did. So if you take a sip of your glass, if she’s mirroring that, she’ll also take a sip of her glass. Or if you cross your legs and she does the same, that’s also mirroring.

Take note that mirroring is done subconsciously when she has a very good rapport with you. But it can also be done consciously if she really wants to impress you or bond with you. It’s a great sign either way.

3. Has she added you on social media (like Instagram, Facebook, Snapchat, or WhatsApp) after you met?

This one means she wants to stay in touch and is at least a little bit interested in you. It also makes it a lot easier for you to take initiative.

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4. How long are her texts or messages compared to yours?

Is she always giving you short answers, or is she giving you a small novel as a reply?

If her texts are about the same length or longer than yours, that’s great. It’s especially good if they’re longer than yours.

If you’re usually giving her long replies, but not getting the same in return, it means you’re probably too eager. In that case, it’s often good to step back a bit and try to match her better. Give her some space so she wants to come back to you again.

5. Is she teasing you?

Is it mean teasing or more flirty and light-hearted?

Most forms of teasing (even mean) are usually a sign she’s interested in you. I LOVE it when a girl I like tries to tease me. It means she’s trying to create a flirty vibe between you and that she wants a reaction from you. Just don’t take it too seriously and try to have fun with her!

6. Is she doing the “lean in”?

If she’s leaning in toward you, that’s a sign she’s eager to get your attention or get her message across. And in the best case, it also means she’s eager to get closer to you.

7. Is she getting “too close” to you compared to what is normal?

If you’re in a conversation and you feel like she’s edging closer to you, or as if she’s almost uncomfortably too close to you, that’s a good sign. It could mean she’s attracted to you and wants to feel closer to you both physically and mentally.

Take note that different cultures have different “personal spaces”. So, if she’s from a different culture than you, it might just be because of that.

8. Is she’s doing the “lip bite thing”?

Biting herself lightly in the lip is a flirty and cute (or sexy) signal. If she’s biting herself in the lip while you’re talking, that’s great. She’s probably into you.

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9. Is she smiling toward you?

If she’s smiling toward you from afar, that’s an invitation to approach her. Or she’s flirting with you. (I’m assuming you didn’t just forget to put your pants on when leaving home. I almost did that once, not recommended!)

If she’s smiling toward you when you’re in a conversation, that’s a sign she likes you. Especially if she has a light smile while you’re not even joking.

10. Is she doing “the lick”?

Is she licking her lips or teeth? This is similar to biting her lips, but a bit more subtle and less flirty. Still a good sign she might like you.

11. How much is she blinking?

If she’s blinking more than normal, that’s a good sign.

12. How large are her pupils when you two are talking?

If her pupils get large when you’re in a conversation, you’re doing something right. This one is quite subtle because pupil size is primarily determined by light levels, but secondarily attraction can also increase pupil size.

13. How long is she holding your eye contact?

If you notice that she’s holding eye contact slightly longer than normal, she’s probably interested in you. That kind of eye contact often feels more intense, and can even be a bit weird or uncomfortable.

14. Is she giving you a light smile when you get eye contact?

Say that you’re all standing in a circle, and when someone else is talking, you two get eye contact. Does she give you a slight smile? She likes you.

Same thing if you get eye contact at a distance, in a park or at a bar. A smile is like an invitation to start talking.

15. If there’s background music, what’s her body language and what is she looking at?

This sign is most useful at a place with some background music, for example at a bar or a club.

If she’s moving in rhythm with the background music and at the same time looking at you, that’s a sign she’s attracted to you. Dancing like that and looking at you is an inviting form of body language. That tells you she wants your attention and is trying to get you to make a move.

16. What’s her posture like around you?

Does she straighten her posture when she gets your attention or is close to you? That means she’s trying to make a good impression on you.

17. What direction is her body facing in a group?

If she’s facing you more often than she’s facing others in a group, that’s a sign she’s into you and values you more than others in the group. This is especially telling if you’re not even the one talking the most in the group.

18. Where are her feet pointing?

If her feet are pointing toward you, that’s a sign in the same line as if her body is facing you. She’s subconsciously focused on you which makes her feet point toward you.

19. Is she fiddling with or straightening her clothes, jewelry, or accessories?

This could be because of nervosity, but it can also be because she wants to look good in front of you. It’s a classic sign of attraction.

20. What direction are her palms facing?

If the palms of their hands are pointed in your direction that signals she might be interested in you. It’s a weak signal, but it’s still positive because it’s part of an open and welcoming body language she has toward you.

21. If you touch her, does she touch you back?

For example, if you touch her arm, does she touch you in a similar area later on in the conversation? If she does reciprocate your touch, that’s a great sign, but it also depends on if she’s touchy with most people or just you?

Also, shy girls usually don’t touch back because they’re so afraid of messing up.

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22. Does she touch you when you talk or in any other situations?

Common areas to touch are arms, shoulders, back, hands, or thighs. Hands or thighs are usually more intimate if she touches those.

23. Do you ever have “peripheral physical contact”?

Peripheral physical contact is when some part of your bodies are in contact with each other when you are doing something else.

For example, if you’re both sitting down and your thighs are barely touching each other. Or if you’re walking side by side and she grabs hold of your arm. That kind of passive physical contact means a lot and can build a lot of tension and attraction.

24. Is she giving you more of her attention than she’s giving others?

For example, if you’re in a group but she seems to direct most of her attention toward you. Or if she’s only asking you questions or if she’s laughing more than others at your jokes.

The more attention she gives you, the more interested she usually is in you.

25. Does she ever blush when you talk or get eye-contact?

She might just be shy, but she’s probably a bit extra self-conscious around you because she likes you.

26. Does she ever seem to look in your direction from afar?

Girls are often a bit sneaky when they want to check you out. They can make it seem like they’re only looking in your direction or just grazing you with her eyes. I’ve even seen girls using window reflections to check out a guy (and to check if he’s looking at them). Sunglasses are even sneakier.

So if she’s looking in your direction, especially if she does it several times, she’s probably checking you out.

27. Does she keep the conversation going when you stop talking?

What happens when you stop talking or can’t come up with anything to say? If she seems eager to get the conversation going again, that’s good. If she excuses herself, she may not be that interested.

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28. Does she always reply when you call, text, or message her?

Quicker responses are often a sign of interest. But many girls are so afraid of appearing needy that they delay their response even if they like you.

29. Who texts or calls first?

If she’s often the one initiating, that’s a very strong sign she’s into you.

But if she never calls or texts first, that’s a sign of lack of interest. In that case, it can be good to take a step back to see if she will take initiative when you don’t do it before she even has the chance.

30. How often does she text you?

Compare this to how often you text her. It’s the same principle as matching the length of her texts. She’s eager if she’s texting more often than you, and you’re eager if you’re the one texting more often.

31. Does she ever stammer, stutter, or forget what she was about to say in a conversation with you?

This could mean she’s a bit extra shy or self-conscious around you, which tells you that she might also be a bit extra interested in you.

32. Does she back off if you get a bit too close?

If she doesn’t even flinch when you get a bit too close to her personal space, that’s a sign she wants you close to her.

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If you take a step closer, and she backs off by a step, that’s a sign she’s a bit more reserved toward you.

33. Does she ever talk about things she wants to do with you or show you?

Planning or mentioning things they want to do with you in the future is a very strong indication of some sort of interest, romantic or platonic.

For example, if you’re talking about a newly opened restaurant and they say “We should go there someday!” or “I’ll show you how amazing that place is!”

34. How does she react when you discover you have something in common?

If she’s happy, that’s good. This sign is extra strong if it’s something very trivial, like that you live in the same part of town, that you’re the same age, or that you both like pizza.

35. Is she asking you any personal questions?

If she is, that’s telling you that she wants to know more about you and is interested in you. The more she asks, the better.

For example, asking about your plans for the future, your childhood, or just about your favorite food.

36. Has she asked about your plans for the day or the weekend?

This might just be empty small talk, but it could also be her trying to open a window where you can meet again and hang out. It’s more likely it’s a sign of interest if she brings it up near the end of the conversation.

37. Does she seem embarrassed if you two are the only two people left in a situation?

If she does but doesn’t do anything to leave the situation, that means she’s just a bit shy but still interested.

A classic example is if you meet her with her girlfriends at a bar, and then all her friends leave, but she stays. That’s perfect because it also means her friends approve of you.

38. Has she told her friends or family about you?

This one is most relevant once you’ve already started dating. But it’s such a huge sign of interest (and approval) that I thought it was worth mentioning. It’s even bigger if she’s from a culture where approval from the family is important.

If she’s told her family, it means she is visualizing and planning a future with you. Congrats!

If she just told her friends, that’s also great, but not as big as her family.

39. Has she ever offered you a massage?

Offering a massage is a nice thing to do, but it’s also a smooth way for a girl to get you both touching each other. (Remember to offer her one back. If you like her!)

40. Does your best friend like you?

Is she acting differently from how she usually behaves? Does she seem jealous or dismissive of other girls you might like? Is she suddenly extra touchy-feely? Is she unusually interested in your interests?

Those are all signs your best friend might have started liking you as more than a friend.

41. How do you know for sure if she’s interested?

You can’t really know for sure if she’s interested just based off of a sign in this list. But there are a few rules you can use to help you know:

  1. Is she regularly showing you different signs of interest?
  2. Does she act differently to others than to you? (So she’s not just flirty with everyone.)
  3. Has she shown any particularly strong signs of interest?

42. Are you still unsure if she likes you?

Write it down in the comments below in as much detail as possible for other commenters to help you out. I’ll also respond to a few of the most interesting comments. But I can’t keep up with all the comments alone, so try to help others by answering them too.

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  1. i love a girl called eunice and am a lesbian.she rejected me and she said she is straight.i was told by one of her many friends that she confessed to also be in love with me.that left me confused to why she reject me if that was the case.after lunch she would tell me how other people bad mouthed me and how she hates it when the talk about bad things related to me.she would even say that she wanted to tell them what kind of person i am but she couldn’t coz that would even give the more things to say about me.i even took a step to bring her stuff and in return she brought me stuff.she would even ask me personal questions and told her that i have already had my first kiss and in return she said she has never kissed anyone.she even told me how shy she is and how frustrated the person she will date will be coz she would not want someone to touch her that tickles her.i sometimes walk home with another girl called jersey who leaves close to our home but since we were together i told her we will meet a head.eunice jokingly asked if i would date a girl like jersey but i said she is not my type she has big boobs than usual she then asked if she wasn’t my type coz her boobs are smaller i then touched one boob and she blushed and asked shying away,’what did you just do’.the come the lockdown and we saw each other last during the end of march until she came to my home at mid june she had come to take my locker keys since i had her books in my school locker and she didn’t take them so this was her chance to go pick them.since i was busy and couldn’t accompany her as she wanted and that frustrated me coz i really wanted to go with her.after i gave her the keys she asked,’what should i bring you’,out of confussion and nervousness i didn’t ask if she meant the usual good stuff we brought each other and instead i told her to bring me some novels i left in the locker.she left and never came and am not sure if my request upset her.please help am confused.

  2. Hi Viktor,
    So here’s the situation. Almost every Saturday I go to a local pizza shop. There’s always there’s always these two women working the front desk. I’m really shy so at this time I don’t even know their names. One I will call Annie the other I will call Brandi. The one I think has interest in me is Brandi. So several months back I went into to pick up the pizza I ordered online. Annie says to me, “She’ll get your pizza for you like she always does” as she pointed at Brandi. Annie could have easily gotten it for me as she wasn’t doing anything and Brandi was finishing up taking an order over the phone. This type of thing has been going on for months now. Every single time I go in there Brandi gives me my food and I have seen Annie give people their food before. It’s almost as if they have something worked out between them that Brandi will give me my food. Last week Brandi and I locked eyes for a few seconds and I I recollect that her pupils were dilated. However,I was unable to see whether or not she was smiling due to her having to wear a mask due to the coronavirus pandemic. We really haven’t spoken much, but with the apparent arrangement between Annie and Brandi, I just can’t imagine that there is not some level of interest there. This Saturday I’m going to go in and finally learn her name and ask her out for coffee sometime. If you get time please let me know what you think. I’m really scared of rejection and don’t know if this is real interest on her part or if I’m just wanting her to be interested that much that I’m imagining it to be true

  3. It has come to my surprise when I was sitting under the shade of a tree just few meters away from our New Lecture Theater waiting for a class test when she stared at me for a long from the other side of a lawn.
    At first I couldn’t realized that she was looking at me but having a feeling that someone was looking at me so I quickly turned to see who was actually noticing me. As I turned over my shoulder my eyes caught hers but she pretend turned and look away into another direction. This reaction from her gave me a sensational feeling of approaching her.
    I stood from my sitting and walked across the lawn and reached her with a smile on my face. She also gave a smile when threw my hands for handshake. After shook hands I ask her if she mind I could sit close to her for chat. She agreed to my proposal of siting next to her but actually I was feeling little bit shy because it was my first time in my life time. The chatting was so fantastic.
    In fact, she do most of the talking while I was a good listener to all her sweet talks. At few times she tried to look directly into my eyes as if something important got lost in my eyes but I didn’t want that to happen and looked away. She also tried to touch me on my fore-arms while talking and off course I didn’t want to give in that easily as she expected.
    It was not long that every one arrived for the class test and I left her say good bye to her as she looked at me for the last the glance on my face as I walked off to joint my friends for test.
    When looking back to the 42 explanations on ” how to tell if a girl likes you” gives a insight on what has happened to me on that very day…thank you!

  4. So… I like this girl and we are in middle school together, we only had one class together this year and I make a lot of jokes at the table and she always laughs at them even if they’re kinda bad and don’t make any sense. I am not sure if she is just shy and wants to make a friend but she always seems to be really happy when talking to me and it’s always kinda awkward. About halfway throughout the year she decides to ask me to this summer camp thing for two people at a college since her mom had a pass or something. Around this time I didn’t know I liked her and I thought the feeling was just me wanting to be better friends with her. -_- Stupid me, so I said no since I don’t know about any plans my family had. She looked kinda said when I said no. I didn’t say “no” I just said probably not after she asked me. She looked down and quietly said okay. Kinda felt bad. One time when she was talking to me about something school related(it was about a canceled band trip since I didn’t know about it yet). While she was talking to me she was leaning in really close. I don’t know why, she had no good reason to go in so close. I was crossing my arms on the desk to rest my head on, since I was really tired in the morning. I looked up and said really? that sucks and looked back down because looking at her from that angle would have been ya know… kinda… weird? after a couple of seconds of looking at me, while fidgeting with her fingers she went back to her desk. I think she was being kinda awkward though, it was in the morning. I am not sure if she likes me or not since she is really friendly towards other people But she is also a shy person. Any ideas?

  5. i have a girl whos my best friend im 29 shes 23 but man is she pretth she has a boyfriend n i am married but she started callin me boo she texts me good morning boo every morning and her bf dont like me and i dont like him he feels like a competiton when she hang with me im bi and she says she aint but she even tells me she feels like im her side nigga cuz i would pick her up when her bf is at work an have her back before he gets back me n her cruise and we drink n talk so much and when we do she holds my hand and ive even took uer hand and kissed it she looked at me and smiled she always wants to hang out we have a song together that my boo song from usher lol oh and when i hang out with female friends she tells me she dont like them or shes a bad influence she says she aint jealous but i can tell because she would ask how long was i out and what time home lol but do you think she is into me she sending me all these signals man and idk i hope she does because i like her alot

  6. Hey, how’s it going?
    So pretty much I’ve been really confused on whether this girl I’m friends with likes me. I’ve known her for 3 years or so but have recently actually been getting friendly with her. She lives in another state close to mine, she’s related to my best friend (he knows I have feelings for her) and she’s never had a boyfriend. The only time I actually have contact with her is through gaming, she seems to laugh at most of my jokes (even the dumb ones) she doesn’t like me joking poorly of myself though. When I’m with her I catch her looking at me and doesn’t break eye contact, she’s usually smiling at me, but as I said idk she may just be friendly? Any advice would be appreciated because I really do wanna be with her..

  7. i think a girl (who i personally know) likes me, even though we can only talk over whatsapp… i mean, she actually chatted with me at 11PM… when i asked what she was doing so late, she replied chatting with u… also, when i closed off.. she said sweet dreams… im not even 18, so i have no idea whats going on… the whole whatsapp chat had a slightly romantic air to it… i wanna know what might be happening, or if im overreacting.

  8. So I’m bi and not long been single. I really like this girl, we do martial arts together but she is also my instructor and we are on the same instructor course. She is 22, never had a bf but she has experimented with guys also she says she is straight but I don’t think she is. We seem to have chemistry. So one day we were sat next to each other at lunch and she looks at me and says I love your eyeliner. Then I was eating cake and she said is it good so I said yeah do you want some so she picked up my fork and had some. She also said I love your necklace. I also touched her on the arm cz when I went to pack my stuff up we bumped into each other by accident and she said oh sorry but it happened again so I made a joke and said do you mind and laughed then put my hand on top of her arm. We did zumba together and her sister said wow J seems to have the moves so she then looks up and smiles. Also we were talking me her and her sister and one of us said something then she winked at me. In class she just keeps looking at me every so often. Then she was using me to demonstrate what we were doing… there were 4 other higher grades and another instructor to do it on. Then we did self defense. I was going to go with the other instructor but then the girl said actually you come with me we we worked on that doing demonstrations again. So she got to put me in arm locks etc. Then one point she had hold of me and she said it’s like we are holding hands isn’t that cute.
    she was showing me how to do something but she had me in arm lock and held me against her.
    We were sparring together and I accidentally fell into her twice I just misjudged my footing. We flirt alot when we are sparring together and laughing getting up close.
    I went to a new class and I got lost so she came out to find me. We were jogging round the room but she kept trying to race me and kept overtaking me so I would catch up and overtake but it was only me. Then we were sparring I touched her chest I didn’t mean too though but she was like you just my tits… so I laughed and said my bad but then she got me back and touched my ass and said I got your ass and laughed then she said something like I just keep touching you… I couldn’t hear properly cz I had my head guard on. She kept playing with her hair when was standing next to her. The other night I took a pad off her and like ran my hand along hers.
    One class we were playing a game and we had to have our arms round the person’s shoulders in a circle… I wasn’t next to her I was next to her sister but then she came in between us and put her arm round me and I put my arm round her but then she said actually I won’t join in but then she did. She laughs at me all the time and teases me usually cz I’m short or cz I’m clumsy. When we did the instructor course we were sat together in class and like we were touching alot not hands but our arms, if I moved away for a bit then moved my arm back to touch hers again… she didn’t move. Like if someone was like in my space like that I would move my arm or whatever unless I liked them. Then the afternoon we partnered up for a little bit then worked in a group with her. I put my hands on her waist and again she didn’t flinch. She also helped me with my top cz it goes past my knees.
    I was doing a kick and she said omg I’m so jealous can you teach me. She was telling us what we needed to do and looking at me so I started to subtly flirting like biting my bottom lip. Then after class I was putting my socks on and she started to walk over but didn’t so I went to get changed when I came back she said oh here she is. So I was putting my stuff away and she came over and I’m pretty sure she looked at my chest or she was reading what was on it. I had a jumper on but it wasn’t a baggy one like I usually wear. She said you did great tonight I like your kicks. Then she said thanks for coming tonight I need that cz you know I needed even number. Which there wasn’t until someone came in like 15 minutes late. I got the feeling that she was a bit flustered when I was biting my lip.
    One evening I left the hall for a bit and when I came back she was outside just us talking as I went back in I turned back to look and we just stared at each other so I smiled and gave her the up and down look and she smiled.
    We went out for food the other night with some of the team. If I touched her back or had my arm on the back of her chair she would lean back into my arm… occasionally. We were sharing a glass of wine and when I took the glass back I put my hand on top of hers and she kept trying to take my jumper off. She was looking after me cz I was a bit drunk but we were talking bout something and she said as an instructor I need to be professional. I was talking bout my ex bf wanting to get back together she was listening then I said that she turned away to talk to someone else. All the signs are there but she says she is straight. I’m so confused cz she keeps going hot and cold but I like her so much.

  9. So i have had a crush on this girl for a while now. We usually hang out in our friends truck where we are always cuddled up with each other and she occasionally tickles me or takes my hat of I have one. The only problem is we are both girls so would your signs still apply or would their be differences.

  10. This girl I have only known for month. Has been giving strong mix signals. She says she in a relationship but she never talks about the relationship she’s in. I don’t know if she’s making it up to see if I’d get jealous or what. She flirts with me 24/7 and always smiles and she hangs out with me a lot. She always try’s to be around me. And she really trying to get to know me like in general. But I don’t want ruin the friendship. Cause her friend is way more important than my feelings for her. I think she does have a feelings for me though.

  11. I got this girl at my new job she gives flirty vibes. Is always staring at me and smiling. She is always trying to talk to me every second she can. But we’ve only hung out twice outside of work. I don’t know she says she straight but I can’t tell. I mean acts like she has a thing for me.

  12. Help needed in understanding this girl !
    Long story short : So I started using an online dating app and matched with this girl . We talked and had nice conversations not just small talk but long ones too . Than after one week she was like : we should go try this place out . And I said I was down . But than we saw each other randomly at the same gym I never knew she was going to my same gym . So after two/ three times seeing her and recognize her I approach her and break the ice. In the meantime our conversations on the app died and never went out as she suggested maybe and I am assuming cause she felt a little bit unsecured after randomly seeing me . Nevertheless I keep seeing her at the gym and was able to talk with her a total of three times each time she took off her headphones and she was eager to talk to me , giving me some smiles and not just giving me short answers . Unfortunately I was never able to get her phone number or go out with her yet and now my only chance is the gym . I know she is kinda interested in me cause she previously suggested to go out with me and the few times I talked to her in person she was comfortable . I pretty much see her 2/3 times a week but it’s not easy to approach her cause of the environment and setting . Sometimes she walks by me or works out by me other times she makes eye contact from far away without me noticing her , but also sometimes she avoids me like for example I work out at a certain area and she moves to a different area , also twice she was doing her cardio workout behind me . Also I know she went out with someone else this past weekend ( saw an Instagram story not from her profile but from someone else ) which is cool with me cause we never went out yet so I don’t expect her to just wait on me . Overall what should I do ? Just try to approach her and ask her out now ?? I don’t want to waste more time as her interest may die if I am not able to talk to her , just need to find a good moment

  13. So I like this girl, but I’m not sure if she likes me.
    We got into a conversation recently, and she said I’m nice to talk to and paid me a few compliments. After that she started smiling at me everytime we made eye contact, and sometimes waving when I’m directly opposite her.
    I’ve caught her looking at me from afar a few times too, and when I look back at her for about 4-5 seconds she smiles and breaks eye contact

    Does she like me?

  14. Before we talk normally, but now when only the two of us are left alone there’s this awkward tension that you’d feel. And I don’t know but we can’t look each other that much in the eye anymore. I’m so confused

  15. Well, I’m friends with her and I like her. But I don’t know if she likes me back, I flirt with her a lot and one time it made her really speechless. But it didn’t end there, until she told be to stop, so I asked her if she felt uncomfortable and she told me she does not. But I felt as if I made her uncomfortable and well it’s like being busted. Although what makes me confused is she flirted with me afterwards. So basically we jokingly flirt with each other although for me when I flirt with her everything is real. Can you help me out, I don’t know what to do.

  16. Hey there chief, how are you?

    I’m in my forty’s, but I’ve been quite shy all my life. I’m interested in your opinion. There was a girl that once worked at my other job, whose in her mid-twenties. She once bought me chocolates during this Christmas/New Year’s holiday. This has never happened to me before and is usually the other way around. It kind of caught me by surprise. She is cute, but sometimes I think that she may be too young for me–although we do converse well. On her last day, I asked her out. She says, for what–for coffee? So, I went with it, and said, yes. She then says, “You have my number at the desk.” I’ve found out that this was a custom in Japan for a woman to give men chocolate for Valentines Day. She is Hispanic, so I did not know if it was a custom of hers or if she was just being a friend. I did not want to totally ignore her gesture. Please advise.

  17. So I work with this girl I’m 19 she’s 21 we work on seperate boats (there’s like 20 staff on each) but due to her boat having work done to it the staff were put on the other two and she was put onto the boat I’m on. So at first she was really shy and didn’t talk to me much which I found out later to be because she was scared of me and I was a bit nervous of her too. We’d justalk here and there in work as you do for the most part but the last 3 weeks have been different. She was fretting stressed one day and so I told her to go upstairs I got her a drink and just said to her to relax here for a bit (she was having a panic attack) and when she came back down I’d done everything for her. For the whole week after that we talked more often at work and she’d messaged me a couple of times just for different bits and bobs. In the last week she’s got very talkative jokes around with me. I’m not a very adventurous eater shall we say and so she’s made a list of stuff I haven’t had and is making it her mission to get me try things. She wants me to go to a restaurant with her and try things. She’s been getting very cuddly and often grabs my hand. Yesterday we were in break together I laid down on the sofa and she laid behind me there wasnt any touching but we were there for about half hour I slept for 20 mins. I found out she’d asked my friends if I seem confident and comfortable around her and she’s just recently started texting me asking me how I am and just having a general conversation I am very interested in her everyone at work says we’d be really good together but me being me overthink everything and just worry that she’s just messing around and doesn’t feel the same way probably being stupid here but yeah 🤣

  18. Met a girl a couple of months ago. Ask her out she never responded. Met her again last weekend. She came up to me & we danced a lot – We went to breakfast. She went to a party with me. I drove her home several nights. She left her friends to spend time with me. She kissed me lightly on the lips several times but no passionate kiss. When I moved in for a deep kiss & she said no. I kissed her lightly on the lips and backed off. She met me the next day for breakfast before we hit the road home. She picked up the check. She lives 4 hours from me. She laughed at me & we spent a lot of time together. At breakfast she showed me childhood pics and we talked. She seemed very interested. She gave me her phone number. She lost her husband 2 years ago. He was the love of her life. She is 62 and so am I. She was dating someone until March of this year that she said hurt her because they are no longer friends. Since we have both been home I have reached out several times. Her responses have been very short. I seem to be getting a lot of mixed signals. At first I thought she was interested but now I don’t know.

  19. So..I’m actually female and wondering if this girl likes me and isn t just being friendly. I met her at work over a year ago, and we got along right away. She knew shortly after we became friends that I am a lesbian, and she was completely supportive of it. There were a few things that stood out to me as possibly being more than friendly, but I could be wrong.

    1: She made it a habit of buying me little things, mainly snacks and drinks for work, and she even learned all my favorites so she could surprise me with them. When we would go out to eat, we would always fight over paying because we both wanted to buy the other person’s food. When it came to Christmas, she got me something to replace an item similar to it since the original had broken and I was very sad about it. Not only that, but the replacement one was much nicer and showed that she knew my interests rather well. She mentioned buying me a ring once as a joke (or so I thought), and a week later she shyly handed me a ring pop.

    2: She would take me out on little excursions, sometimes because she simply wanted a traveling buddy. She would go out of her way to take me to places I liked to go to (such as the mall) and would get overjoyed at the amount of enthusiasm I would show. We would go to the bookstore together despite her not being much of a reader, but she would always listen (and I mean actively listen, completely paying attention) to me go on about different books I loved or wanted to read to her or about the different stories I wanted to write. And whenever we would do something that was more towards her interests, she would still make sure I was enjoying myself.

    3: She would drive the half hour to see me just to hug me or bring me lunch. She always managed to find time in her busy schedule to fit me and did so without making me feel like she was squeezing me in. She would push other stuff out of her day to be with me. If she couldn’t actually be with me because she had to do something, she would text me or call me.

    4: We actually started texting each other a lot and started to have really deep, personal conversations. We would support each other during hard times and do our best to lift each other up and be encouraging. And during the good times, we were always each other’s number one fan. She was always so proud of me for things and would tell me. She would always be there if I needed a shoulder to cry on. Eventually, she started sending me selfies that I would gush over, and I returned the favor (nothing weird, just goofy faces or smiles). She would tell me how pretty she thought I was. One day, I gave her an actual photo of me from when I was in college, and she was RIDICULOUSLY excited.

    5: She started to compliment me a lot and even admitted that she tried to restrain herself in the beginning but eventually gave up on that and just let the love pour out. But they weren’t usually vague compliments. She would habitually compliment my mind and how I think. She would tell me (and others) that I was really smart, even calling me the “brains of this two person operation.” She told me I had natural beauty, something no one else has ever told me, and she was very specific in complimenting my physical features, specifically my eyes and my hair. She would always tell me how much she loved my smirk or my giggle. I would send her pictures of me smirking, and she would get excited. I would often compliment her with the same gusto because I honestly think she’s the most beautiful girl, inside and out. But compliments can be platonic.

    6: She started to get a lot more physical with me. It started with hugs that turned more into holding rather than a quick, friendly hug. We stopped doing the “tent” hug, and it always seemed like our bodies could never be close enough. She would wrap her arms around me when we’d go out places. Seeing us in the store, one might think we were dating the way her arm was draped across my shoulders and mine was around her waist, but again, that could just be a sign of really close friends. She started holding my hand at times; one time, she had my hand pressed against her mouth like she was going to kiss it, but her lips just rested on the back of my hand. Our texts habitually talked about wanting to hug each other and cuddle with each other. We would go to her apartment to watch movies and cuddle or to nap and cuddle. We would lie on her couch together with my head on her chest, and she would run her fingers through my hair or rub my back, sides, neck, and arms. Personal space was never a thing with her. She always felt like home to me. She told me she loves when I hold her in public, and the time I was holding her in front of my friends, she told me that meant a lot to her. I thought maybe it was because her knee was hurting and she needed the support, but maybe I’m wrong.

    7: She would stare at me a lot. She looked at me like I was the most precious person in the whole world. The love in her eyes was palpable. And eventually, I started to stare back, and we would just lock eyes for a while. I would completely get lost in her eyes, but I have no idea if she’s even on the same page. One time, she was staring at me, and I had to use my lip balm (because I always need to use it when I’m super nervous), and she was like “are you putting on lip balm??” I was kind of curious if she was staring at my mouth or not, but I suppose you don’t necessarily need to be staring at someone’s mouth to notice they are using lip balm.

    8: She called me her darling and referred to herself as my damsel in distress. She would say things about me needing to rescue her and other cheesy stuff, but I assume it was just a joke and she didn’t really mean it as anything more than that. I had my own little names for her, one specifically coming from a Metallica song, and she always seemed to like that. Sometimes, she would just outright call me “beautiful.” Like at work, she was yelling across the way “good morning, beautiful!” and my gay heart exploded into a million tiny pieces.

    9: She was always willing to help me with stuff even stuff that I felt was a bit awkward. For example, I pulled a muscle in my back and needed help putting some KT tape on it. She was more than willing to help even though I refused to completely take off my shirt despite her saying I should multiple times. (I thought it would be a little weird standing completely topless in front of the girl I like.) Her hands felt unusually warm during this, and she was very flustered and giggly about it. She always is down for helping me put my hair up if I need it; she seems to have a thing for running her fingers through her hair. With my wrist injury, I was unable to tie my shoes. She would always get down on one knee and have me plop my foot on her leg so she could tie them for me. Little things like that, she was always more than ready to be there for me.

    10: She started telling me she loved rather frequently, and I did the same. She told me she cared deeply for me. She would tell me things she loved about me, too. I know friends tell each other they love each other which is why I’m not sure if she means it as something more. Her actions definitely demonstrated that she cared about me.

    11: She talked about us moving away together and having pets together. She was even going to let me have a cat despite her being more of a dog person. She figured we could just live out our lives together if we didn’t find someone. To be honest, I stopped looking for someone else when she started getting so close to me. She was always telling me I could come stay at her apartment and sleep there if I needed to. She really wanted me to stay the night.

    And eventually, I did stay the night. We had something we were doing together in the morning so we figured it made logical sense for me to stay over. She went on one of her random cleaning sprees while I got comfy on her couch, watching funny videos as I did. She made it a point to let me know she was going to go brush her teeth, and she was in the bathroom for quite some time with no toilet flushing so not sure what that was about. She came out and immediately laid herself on top of me, her head on my chest. She eventually looked up and was staring at me again with the same heart eyes look as I laid there giggling away at some video. She told me she loved my giggle, and she kept staring at me rather than watching whatever I was watching. And then, she said it was time to sleep, and we both ended up in her bed. Now, she NEVER sleeps in her bed- always on the couch or the floor. But she and I were all cuddled up in the bed, my head on her chest and her rubbing my back and such like always. I got the feeling she was hoping for more than just cuddles, but I being the respectful lesbian that I am did nothing but cuddle the night away with my dream girl. I wanted to make a move, to at least kiss her, but I didn’t want to ruin things.

    After that night, she started to distance herself. I thought it was because she figured out that I like her, despite me not acting any differently than I had. So I confessed that, yes, I like her, and I apologized dozens of times. She told me not to be sorry, and she took it rather well. She is still rather distant, but it doesn’t seem like she is angry about that. I’ve told her that I wish I had made a move and that I want to ask her out but don’t know if I should. She said something along the lines about me always having all the words to say, but that actions speak louder than words. And she keeps mentioning the actions speak louder than words thing, but I’m not sure if that is directed at me or if she is saying that about people in general.

    All in all, I am hopelessly smitten with the girl, but I have no idea if she even feels the same. My anxiety is so terrible that my attempt at asking her out ending with me throwing up. I need to know if she feels the same before I try making a move. My friends say she does like me but wants me to do something about my feelings and not just say something. They say she is distancing herself because I didn’t get her hints to make a move that night. I think she just might be really friendly and I’ve possibly misinterpreted the whole thing; however, I am still slightly hopeful she feels the same because she is honestly my other half. This distance has been unbearable because we were each other’s support system, and now, we both are really struggling with our mental health. So, any help, thoughts, or advice would be greatly appreciated. I’m sure I sound like a lunatic, but we all do crazy things when we’re in love.

    • As a lesbian..46..YES 1000% into you..all you described obvious to me..
      Make the move..Your her 1st..she may be struggling for a reason youre not guessing. You being the respectful her..showed you ACTIONS as you pointed out her saying. You arent showing the ultimate action..she hinted. She may feel as you or worse..uncharted territory. Thinking you a lesbian will make that move..didn’t. Her thinking like you..does she really like me? Why doesnt she make the move familiar to her..not me? She may think rejected..tried hard but afraid.
      Remember your 1st time..who and your fears. She thinks your the expert..not her. Showed you ACTIONS…then you say here..she told you actions over words.
      Its right in front of you. She wants actions.
      I struggle with anxiety myself, so understand.
      Reading this both are in love. Both have fears making it real.
      Me? Shy and have fears..nervous if I like someone..but in your situation would have thrown it on with her. To me..your doubt.
      Also..when not casual sex (I learned young) deep emotional intimacy can be scary..I see how you ended your post here..regret, playing all things things over and over..blaming your self..2nd guessing and uncertain..fear of rejection..
      sex is very intimate when you feel deeply..But fear you do and rejection..your real fear I’m guessing. Take a chance? Good things happen or bad things.
      Take no chance..nothing happens. To me, you both show and silently scream take the chance! But neither will. You think respectful lesbian..I get that cause I am. But all you said..youre over respectful when her again ACTIONS so concise
      should leave you little doubt. She I bet isnt thinking “respectful lesbian I bet”
      But..I did everything to show her how I describe physical contact..the contact you explained..very intimate. Platonic..never goes that far..even your words to each other. Think of it this way..shes thinking..I’m being a respectful person and this confusing for me because my sexuality I’m realizing..I need her to not see me as straight but in love. But if a lesbian isn’t getting my ACTIONS..she isn’t into me. I gave her every single hint I can.

      Your night in even said doesnt sleep in her bed. Did..layed on you..eyes fixed on laugh at a video. Her time in the bathroom? Knew a final moment having you in bed..made sure perfect-breathe to appearance..=ready for more. You didnt take ACTION she wanted..=rejected.

      Ive never replied to any comment online. This the 1st. Because all you said and your deep feeling..obvious to me..I cared to. Go for it!
      You think it sounds to late..her distant you crushed..not to late..set up something not obvious and clever. And make that move..kiss a start. Will I bet you $100 bucks not knowing you..I’d win. The kiss will explode into long held passion and the rest..and maybe a long beautiful relationship.
      You now have nothing to lose..she told you ACTION..why ignore it? Over think everything I notice..your issue. Stop! She gave you all the answers.

      There are times to be the “respectful lesbian” for me thats when I know someone isnt gay. I’m mindful not to crush on or make others uncomfortable.
      This is NOT your case! I’m laughing because I see all you’re easily missing.
      I even cared to comment.
      Your ages tho..I’m wondering.
      My final word? Stop the respectful lesbian crap.
      🙂 Take my wont forget it.

      Your entire post says it all..but I see you read to much into everything..
      Your issue..
      so I’ll copy one section to make my point.

      “After that night, she started to distance herself. I thought it was because she figured out that I like her, despite me not acting any differently than I had. So I confessed that, yes, I like her, and I apologized dozens of times. She told me not to be sorry, and she took it rather well. She is still rather distant, but it doesn’t seem like she is angry about that. I’ve told her that I wish I had made a move and that I want to ask her out but don’t know if I should. She said something along the lines about me always having all the words to say, but that actions speak louder than words. And she keeps mentioning the actions speak louder than words thing, but I’m not sure if that is directed at me or if she is saying that about people in general.”

      Right here..You admitted you liked her..wished you made the move..
      her reply? Words..she told you..always using actions. Her message concise. You talk but never act. to your statement. She told you her frustration. Perspectives..your using yours..hers? She told you..but your confused as if she is being ambiguous “in general”..she was not ambiguous. Direct.
      Straight to you. Not a statement about people in general. Her past?
      You may not know. I favor actions over words myself. How I got burned many times..great words but actions that count dont match. Perhaps her experience plus fear in her first time loving the same sex. You say need to know for sure..She has given you all reasons to be sure! Yet you still are saying need to be sure. To me =her make the move. So you’re not vulnerable or rejected. To her=I told her actions…she is the lesbian and wont. I’m the vulnerable one. NOW this is important..been there.
      She is thinking..I bet..I dont know what to really do sexually with a experience. I need her to lead the way. Or embarrass myself…
      and look the one I’m madly in love with. She knows what to do..I dont. She now matter how I’ve tried wont. So, give up.
      My feelings should be obvious by now. But wont do anything about it.
      =rejection. Worn out trying and thinks it wont happen so just let go.
      See it in her mind? In the end you are honest..but she said you only give words, no actions. To seal the deal..she made obvious as hell in bed even.
      She may have been thinking, YES! Finally! And it didnt happen…
      A pattern with you..done with words. Wanted action clearly said..and still you are 2nd guessing even that. Will lose her. She said action..shut up and act! Stop rethinking every single thing in fear. Its so clear to me, a stranger. I can see her side better then yours! lol
      Think like her and her perspective instead stuck in your own..or never get her back. Distant can be a self protect technique…but time can give you insight. Emotions run high? Logic runs low. Maybe her reaction..better insight..thru your description…she let her emotions be actions..(again the word here) and to a lesbian..she may have been scared but never stopped her. Think of that.

      All in all, I am hopelessly smitten with the girl, but I have no idea if she even feels the same. My anxiety is so terrible that my attempt at asking her out ending with me throwing up. I need to know if she feels the same before I try making a move.

      Again..You need to know if she feels the same..what do you want? What both of you wont do..make the move. She made it clear..from words, thoughts, actions even physical..she loves you. Wants it. More then you even did. And a scarier situation for her..did. Yet you still say need to KNOW before making a move. She told you..specifically..your always using words no action. Actions speak louder then words.
      In fear STILL saying wont make a move but say need to know before making it..she told you. You’re not seeing that? Read your post! All her actions scream..I love you! and words.

      Boils down to you are in fear…anxiety? Brought on by fear. You want either her to make the move..or have her say fuck the hell out of me! lol..
      Not gonna happen. She doesnt need or want “respectful lesbian”
      She wants you to be the leader..and I said my guesses why.
      To her..she thinks..she made herself clear..that you have to know..
      but wont. And her you are on a sight saying you wont unless you know. do know. Ask yourself what you REALLY are afraid of.

      To find that potential love..deep is priceless..we all wish for. You’re blowing it…she isnt secure in her newfound sexuality..believes you are.
      She needs you to get that..and the sexual element..lots. I’d feel the same.
      Funny, I’m a lesbian..46yrs old..I see her side better than yours.

      Ive been you and her.

      I’m guessing you are young.

      I posted because..rare to find deep love and a connection you described…dont want you to blow it. So worried about you..ignore the major signals she gave you huge..over time..not a week.

      So I will remember me..if you make the move..and I dont mean negative. Take the chance!

      Hell, I’d give you my # if I could. lol

  20. When I first saw this girl that was speaking loud with my mum and has I arrivied she becomes silent and started staring at me,so we both make eye contact but she was looking At me normally and later she looked away.then when I greeted her,and she nod her head and becomes silent does she like me?

  21. Hi Viktor,

    So there’s this one friend who’s actually my friends sister that I started liking in the summer. The whole summer I would see a lot of her and we would even go to the beach together. We would be very touchy but not in a bad way, she would jump on top of me, rub lotion on my back and more. I would talk to her whenever we’re all together and make her laugh a lot. As soon as I found out she was talking to another guy by the time summer was coming to an end we both stopped keep in touch.

    We started talking again after we went out with a few friends and the days after we would message each other back and forth and even send each other messages/pictures of ourselves . I would compliment her pictures and say how good she looked despite her insecurities she had. I’m pretty sure I made it quite clear she’s attractive. I would ask her about her day and what not. I may have pushed it a bit when she was going out late and I had said just “message me when you get home safe” . All the signs for me was she liked me and even some friends that had been around us thought so too.

    There was also a time at my house where we were all watching a movie and she put her leg/foot on my lap. She would remove it once in a while but then put it right back on top, I even put it on my lap one time just to show she can make herself comfortable and I didn’t mind.

    I recently asked a friend to ask the persons sister if by chance they talked about me or if they actually like me. I would under the impression that maybe she was just being friendly and I read it wrong like every other girl I liked. He had told me maybe to cool my jets a bit and stop flirting for now and I don’t think she feels that way about you.

    At the same time I’m trying to focus on establishing my life. There’s a few things I don’t have which are crucial for everyday life. I have to think that this plays a important factor too. A girl doesn’t want to date a guy that’s not up to date with his life, especially at the age I’m at. I like to add she also a few years younger.

    Maybe it’s not in the cards yet or maybe she wanted me to be more aggressive, it’s really hard to tell.

    I’m trying to forget my feelings for her but don’t think that will ever happen because she’s always around. I will always like/care for her but I can say one good thing has come out of this. I’m a lot more determined to get the things I’m missing and I’m also trying new things that I should have tried before like cooking and what not. I’m not a model male but I think I will soon and maybe just maybe I’ll try for her when the time is right.

  22. This girl would always talk sexual in conversation with me. She always stands within my point of view. She gives me alot of eye contact. She gets angry if I dont acknowledge her when I’m talking to someone else (male or female). So I told her I liked her alot. Now she doesn’t talk to me anymore. Why?

  23. There’s this girl I like but I don’t knoe if she likes me. I’m a bit older than her. I see her almost every single day. I’ve liked her for like a year or maybe a year and a half but idk if she likes me back. It’s very hard to say she’s giving like mixed signals. We always make eyecontact tho sometimes she looks away and sometimes she dosent. She also ignored me and then she dosent again but she’s always been really nice to me. She seems really happy around me and her pupils dilate. She is just someone you’d dream of. She has beautiful mixed green and blue eyes and long brown hair. She is very beaufiul and also not to hide she has an amazing body shape you wouldn’t be able to stop staring at it. She also has an amazing personality. She is very similar to me. We have so much in common she probably dosent know. She dosent know much about me but I know loads about her. All of her friends smile everytime I come around they even said her name sometimes and that made me think maybe she likes me. She is very cute. She is like a angel but sometimes she could be a bad girl. My friends tell me that she probably likes me but idk if she does. I just wish she knew how much I like her I mean love. She made me better in so many ways. I’ve acually started to care about myself and other stuff and acualy have something to live for before life didn’t really mean anything to me I didn’t really have an amazing time I’ve experienced lots of bad but since she came that’s all I’ve ever wished for she made me smile once again and in very grateful for her I hope that she will like me back and wel be together one day so do you think she likes me back cause I’m very confused

  24. Ok so there is this woman at work that I’ve noticed in the past few weeks I’ve been working at my new job who continuously stares at me. Just me. She talks to everyone else but just stares at me so I’m sure she’s shy. Just to put it out there, I’m 19, she’s 20. When we did talk she asked my age and I said 19. She said, “well your pretty much 20 anyways.” Secondly, when she walks past and I look at her, she looks me dead in the eyes, but says nothing. When I do go talk to her, if she’s in a group of people her who body language changes and she’s focused on me. But when I’m working and she walks past which I see in my peripheral, she acknowledges anyone I’m by at the moment but not me. I’m sure she’s nervous. But recently we’ve been talking. I gave her my number 2 days ago. We work on different shifts. She works on the 2nd shift and gets off almost midnight sometimes while I’m on first and I get off at like almost 6pm. So the communication at the moment isn’t up to par because of our schedules. When I’m walking with her I may talk now and then but she stays talking and I listen. She shows very little eye contact but when she does, she looks into my eyes and swiftly looks away over and over and smiles regularly. Her body language show’s she’s nervous. When we leave, and I’m sure she knows the time I leave. If she’s ahead of me she walks fast but casually instead of stopping to talk. If I got to break or leave before her I feel her staring and I see her looking my way in my peripheral. From afar she’s always looking and we only engage in conversation when I start it. I like her and I’m sure she likes me but what do I do? Today i asked her if she wanted to talk; I meant as to get to know each other and she replied 15 mins later when her lunch break was 10 mins before with “talk as friends yeah”. She didn’t say no, nor blatantly reject me. I guess I’m just so eager to talk to her and learn her that I might be taking it too fast. So what does all of this mean?

  25. Hi Viktor, I have a serious question that I am hoping you can answer. I have a crush on my female classmate who I have been in a group with since the beginning of the semester(I met her on September). She happens to be an acquaintance (I barely know her, but we still talk). I heard that if I confess my feelings to a female I barely know, it may not be a good idea because she barely knows me and there’s a chance that she may feel awkward and turn me down. Is it a bad idea to confess my feelings to my female acquaintance? Or it would it be best for me to confess my feelings for her when she gets to know me better and we develop a friendship? An answer from you would be highly appreciated.

    • Sorry, I posted a comment about the female acquaintance and forgot to ask another question. Is it ok for me to ask my female acquaintance on a date or ask her if she would like to have a drink with me???

  26. Hello

    A couple of months ago on the bus from school, a girl a school year older than me (year 9, I’m year 8) struck up a conversation with me on a quiet bus (the buses aren’t normally quiet, but this was a later bus that not as many high school students get on). We had never met before this, but we do go to the same school. She has since spoken to me again. In fact, she says hello virtually every time she sees me and often stops to chat as well.

    Fast forward to Monday afternoon, I walked back from school with her because she struck up a conversation with me. We just spoke about this and that really and I enjoyed the conversation with her. Then, on Tuesday afternoon, she was sitting down on the bus and then as soon as she saw me, she moved her bag immediately so that I could sit down next to her and we had a chat then as well. I think she might like me as some of these things I have discussed could be potential signs, but tell me what you think – whether you think she does like me or whether we just like the attention we give each other. Look forward to hearing from you.

    • Hi, here is some advice, so she probably likes you by the way she is acting. Or she is just trying to be nice. Try to look for more body language or other ways to show she likes you. (:

  27. i’m a female and my very close friend is also female. there have been many situations where i felt like she was flirting with my but idk if that’s because we’re so close or because she likes me. one day us and our friends went out and she kept staring at my lips and was in a really good mood. i’m pretty sure she acts differently with me than she does with others. like she smiles at all of our friends but for some reason i feel like it’s more intimate when she smiles at me or makes jokes with me. i just really want to understand what her actions or her words are implying because we are both straight. we talk about boys with each other and neither one of us gets jealous or at least she’s never shown signs of jealousy when i talked to her about other guys. she usually smiled when i talk to her about this type of stuff, same as my other friends. i haven’t really payed attention to her eyes but if her pupils dilate when she looks at me, does it really mean she likes me though? and does the way she hugs me indicate anything as well? oh lastly she’s the type of person that has many ways of saying i love you to a person when like texting (btw she never writes you in text). for ppl she’s not close with she usually doesn’t say i love you or she says ly or i luv uuu, something like that. she rarely ever sends ppl i love u or love u (they r basically equivalent). for me though, she sends me love u (as do i though) even when i just text ily or ly. and she always sends me a red heart beside this. u think she does this to other ppl because it doesn’t really seem like it. someone send sum help please…

  28. So….I don’t usually do this but…I recently met someone I felt drawn to and her and I clicked because we both like the same things and in someways we mirror one another on terms of mental and emotional side of things. We’re both overthinkers and overanalyze things. We both don’t have a lot of friends….just a few.

    She would drop a hint or two on the things she likes such as strawberries and the sound of rain. I personally love the sound of rain. We’ve been asking each other back and forth questions such as,what kind of music you listen to? How do you recover from a broken heart and she would ask me how she looks with her new hairdo and I would compliment her wholeheartedly.

    Lately she would give a big smile whenever she sees me and laugh while greeting me and also give me these high fives and I would playfully tease her and she would playfully hit me….of course I’ve decided to ask her out…but I may be slow here but I just need a second opinion here….is this girl interested in me because I am interested in her based on how we mirror one another.

    • I just got out of a relationship a year ago, and my female workmate gave me advice and we texted/chatted each other a lot during those times I was recovering through the breakup. She’s a very positive person, cheerful and easy to talk to. 4-5 months after my breakup, I started to have this little crush on her, we went out a lot, with all of other mates, but sometimes just the two of us. Just as two friends. I feel very comfortable with her, always would ask her life/love/work advice. I’m femme/bisexual and she’s also had an ex who was butch. Both of out last relationship was with the same gender. She was also one of the reason I recovered from my breakup, when my crush turned into attraction, I stopped constantly talking to her, texting because I don’t want to ruin our friendship, and to also stop myself to fall for her. I also stopped going out with my workmates, but we still remained as close friends, I’m now on a different shift, so there’s not much time to hang out. We would share tv series recommendations/diet/beauty tips, so we still remained in contact but not much like before. I would give her food, and she would also give me some too. She denies were close, but that’s her way of teasing me, but she was concerned for me at times. So, recently we were on a trip for a few days, and during commute time, there were physical contacts, like our arms brushing against each other, and me leaning to her, there was also couple of times my head was falling over due to sleep and she held it and even put it on her own shoulder. We even slept on a same bed for 3 nights, and the AC was too cold so I tucked in closer to her, and I felt she even put her legs closer to mine for warmth. During those commute times, (there were 5-6 hours drive) we were leaning to each other, and she didn’t flinch when I get closer to her, out arms and thighs would touch. There was also a time she would put her arms on my shoulder, when we walked or just while talking, she would also lean in to me as we were checking photos on my phone. She would also laugh at my jokes and even on my dumb moments, and even before she would tease me a lot as well. My instincts tells me she was just being friendly, but I don’t remember that she was also touchy feely With or other workmates, like she was with me for those past few days. There were also times she was looking my way, when I turned my gaze, she looked away. I can feel she was also watching me. Now I am confused, if she also was attracted to me in a way, or should I just continue our friendship and not ruin it. This little crush has now turned into an attraction. Was I just imagining those things or there’s a spark between us?

  29. Last week I sat with my friend and his sister, we were sat around on the floor and she would smile at Me and I would smile at her as on was talking then she would smile more and her feet were pointed in my direction and she kept playing with her clothes and playing with her hair sweeping it back behind her shoulders and I shared my progress workout pictures with my mate which he shared with his sister and all of a sudden she is putting likes on my Facebook pictures but on the other hand she would go to the kitchen with her brother when he would be refilling our drinks, but then also stayed in the room with me once and i started lifting my Weights so she stood up and started lifting weights with me and showing off her muscles, I’m slightly confused and don’t know what to make of it ? Can anyone tell me what the hell is going on here

  30. Ok so I might need some help. There is this lady that I like that would usually glance and stare at me whenever I would usually talk, even when the other person is talking directly to me. The first time I caught her staring at me, I noticed her pupils expanded when I caught her ( eye contacted last for about 2-3 seconds) Could this be a good sign? Help? I really like this lady.

  31. So I’ve met this girl a couple weeks ago. She’s 28, I’m 30. She’s super laid back and I’m extremely interested in her. But I don’t want to be too clingy. She has friends that are local friends of mine. Most of them are guys. She’s the type of girl that gets along better with guys more than girls.

    She just broke out of a relationship with her fiance like 4 months ago so I don’t know if she is in rebound mode or what.. You all can judge by some of the tales below.

    She’s gone out of her way to add me on snapchat, and Twitter.she messages me maybe once a day. For the past 7 days now. And it’s hard to distinguish what she means by it..

    Now.. With what you’ve read so far it may seem she’s interested… But she does this with most of her guy friends that are somewhat acquaintances/friends of mine. So I’ve been trying to distinguish if I’m the Black sheep without being too obvious but it’s been extremely difficult without fully putting myself out there on a plank.

    When she sends me messages, I try and be sure that I wait to respond. Sometimes 5 minute, sometimes longer because she does the same..

    So a little story that happened yesterday and I don’t quite know what to make of it…

    She has a cat, and so do I. She took a picture of her cat on snapchat and I responded to it “my cat needs a friend, can I borrow?” she responds “only if I come with”.

    Now, I didn’t know if that was a (to be with me, or to be with the cat) joke or if she is just playing mine games. She definitely has a joking personality so I took it with a grain of salt and responded. “What a bargain! You wouldn’t like it where I live though, most people around where I live are jerks.” she responded “They are here as well”

    She’s called me “adorable” in front of her guy friends before when looking at a picture of mine. And I don’t quite know what she means by it.

    I don’t want to sound conceded and all, but I’m a somewhat attractive guy and I take care of myself. So I don’t quite know how to take a lot of things she says.

    She’s definitely different from any girl I’ve dated in the past.

    When she is around her guy friends, she jokes with them as well because she doesn’t want to single them out. Or at least that’s what I think. She’s kind of thoughtful in that way. Or again, at least that’s what I think..

    So my I’m stumped. I don’t want to cross the line and make things awkward Between us and possibly ruin our current friendship because I really like the girl. At the same time, she’s extremely attractive and I’m sure some of these other guys are trying to compete against me.

    Any tips of what I can do to find out if she really likes me? Or maybe just your thoughts on this whole situation and what you think on how I should continue this relationship. My ultimate goal is to not lose friendship with her. But I’m afraid time is running short to become anything more.

    If you have any questions just ask

    • She likes you for sure. She’s been VERY clear. It’s time to make a move, but you have to be ready to let her go if it doesn’t pan out. You can’t always both keep her as a friend and as a romantic interest. And that’s okay. There are many good women out there for you.

      Not sure if I’d say she has a crush on you though since she also seems flirty with other guys. She’s probably open and looking for her best options right now. But that’s all the more reason to go for it if you like her.

  32. My crush and me sitting opposite to each other in my tution but she didn’t see me but she see straight notmre but some times me and her eye contact for 1 or 2 sec is this the symptoms does she likes me or not ?

  33. Theres a girl in my school, she sometimes get stuck with her eyes on me and when she realizes i have seen her she keep looking at me for a couple of seconds without saying anything and then just looking away. Some days when I finish class and are about to head home and she is in the hallway she is trying to block the hallway so I can’t walk pass and when I go towards her and tries to go through she kinda starts a “fight” with me, exactly like she is trying to hold me back. It happened when I stood in a doorway, she saw me standing there and then from no where she comes from behind and bump her boobies right into my left elbow while I was talking with my teacher and when I was walking in the hallway she rushed pass me and spanked me at my ass and then laughed. When I’m around her she always pull her pants up even tho she doesn’t need to and sometimes even holding her hand at her ass. Once when I sat in the hallway and listened to music she came and start scratching my hair with her long nails and said ”aww lil cat”. Why is she doing this? She wants a serious relationship or is she just out for sex??

    • I think she wants a serious relationship but shes not sure if u feel the same or not .she wants to know ig by having sex with u so that she dont end up hurting herself

  34. So yeah.. Hey there ^^’

    Um, so I’m a bisexual girl (which is kinda new for me heh) and there’s this girl… I could actually call her my best friend but… Yeah I like her. A LoT. More than I probably should do. The problem is that I feel like I never understand her, we always stare at each other for like 10 seconds everytime our eyes meet. And she knows I’m not like that with my other friends… And I’m clearly becoming sick about this ’cause that may sound cringe but I’ ve never loved anyone that much before and I feel like my life would be a waste if she lets go of me…That’s why I can’t bring myself to tell her about my feelings. I’m always seeing nightmares about her rejecting me and I can’t stand it anymore… If it happens for real idk how I’d react if I don’t actually stop breathing haha… I’m not suicidal btw but I just can’t imagine a life without her and I don’t know what to do anymore :D…

  35. Hey thank you but there is a problem there is a girl that likes me but I can’t talk to her when she is around her friends and I don’t know what to do

    • I had the same problem when I was in 7th grade (Im in 9th now). Me and this girl goes in same school and same class. When I started 7th grade we fell for each other but we never and I mean never talked to each other in school we just talked over Snapchat and the times we met. Later one day at Christmas when I woke up I got a snap from her and I of course thought it was like “good morning baby” or something in that way but no, she said it was over and she didnt even call or let me meet her she just wrote it over text which made me real sad and since that day in December 2017 we haven’t talked at all and imaging going with her in your class in 2 years and don’t say shit to each other, for real hella awkward. I either don’t know why it is like this, that me and her doesn’t talk at all or that you and “your girl” doesn’t talk.

  36. so there’s this girl that I used to really like, and still kind of like (willing to date still). it all started at the beginning of this school year (we’re both juniors), and she saw me in her class. We had both sat in the same lunch group last year, and were acquaintances, but not really friends. she decided to pick the seat next to me during the first day this year, despite having her friends in the class that she could have sat with. after a bunch of talking, we have gotten pretty close in the past few months. one of our mutual friends invited us to her party a month ago, and I remember her following me around the entire time, and soon I found her taking me to a bench in the backyard away from everyone else at the party. we talked for more than an hour, and this was at the point where I REALLY liked her. her and I are opposites, she is loud, outgoing, and the fun type, where i’m the quiet, collected, and nerdy type (though once i get out of my shell im not too nerdy). Things after the party were going well, and we went to homecoming as dates, which she made clear that I was her date multiple times. At the dance, she was really touchy with one of my other friends that had a girlfriend, like more than she was with me. my friend pointed it out to me and we realized that it was excessive. After that, things went back to how they were before the dance, her being flirty here and there, but nothing major. She makes the ocassional joke where I’m her “one and only,” and seems like she likes me a little, but I really don’t know if she is interested to be more than friends. after the homecoming thing, i realized i can never be sure. a lot of these signs hit the nail on the head but whenever i think of anything being a sign i think of what she did at homecoming.

  37. Well,I kinda got attracted to this girl and I’ve no idea how to tell her,I mean I feel like she likes me though I’m not sure enough,
    Don’t wanna mess everything up

  38. I have a crush on this girl but not sure if she feels the same. She teases me about me being on lock down with my ex every time I see her, wants to help me out all the time and mentions “I’ll do it for you” but I don’t know if I’m being viewed as a friend or something more. How do I know without asking her. I’m worried about an embarrassing outcome. Thanks in advance


    • Ask her for a movie or something and see how she responds if she says yes without hesitating then shes interested and if she says no and dont suggest any other day then its time to move on bro

  39. So there’s this girl I met a few weeks ago we hung out a few times and I ended up staying at her house twice the second time we had sex and everything was going good until the last two days she wasn’t texting as much but she did call the last two days and she has always called me cute and everything it was going perfect just not sure if she is ghosting me or what’s going on

  40. This gal always smiles whenever I’m around her, and if I ask her any personal question about her, she most of the time smiles and some times ask why do I want to know?
    I’ve asked her for the umpteenth time if she has a boyfriend or not, all she does is smile at my question.
    She doesn’t start conversations, and if I message her she hardly reads it let alone reply and I feel I’m too obsessed with her.
    I have asked her if I’m choking her with calls and messages so I can stop communicating with her, but she never answered. Yet she won’t return my missed calls or WhatsApp messages.
    Can you say this gal loves me and is hiding it, or using me to heal emotionally.
    PS – We only see in class on Saturday or Sunday.
    Thank you

    • She dont wanna hurt ur feelings cause she know exactly how bad that shit hurts so she just smiles or she has confused feelings for u

  41. We sit next to eachoter in 7th grade and she smiles at me , flirts with me like everday , touches my arm , gets close to me , asks personal questions snd always exposes her female assets to me Does she like me ovwr text she always likes to use the laugh says goodnight to me in sport i picked her to be on my running team and she seemed tremendously happy

  42. Hey man,
    I think a girl in my class has a crush on me. She Laughs at everything I say,she plays with her hair a lot,looks at me and smiles and always seems nervous when I’m around. We recently started texting each other but she has never text me first or initiated any conversation. I always text first and because of this I’m unsure if she likes me or not.

  43. Hi everyone.

    I recently got speaking to an ex colleague. I’ve always had a thing for her. We started hanging out and got on really well. I kissed her and she went cold and frinedzoned me. She was seeing somebody else. I then didn’t contact her for around a month.

    She got back in touch and we started hanging out after calling things off with the other guy. We have since spent a lot of time together. She invites me to hang out all the time. We are getting on so well. Loads of 1-2-1 time, laughing, eye contact, touching legs when sitting closely, walking closely, mutual teasing, trip away to a spa hotel,jokes about joining her in the shower, making future plans etc.

    I really like her but the fact that she friend zoned me makes me doubt whether she has feelings for me.

    I need some advice before making a move again or at least telling her? I need to say or do something but need an outsider’s perspective.

    Thanks very much.

  44. The girl I like asked about my shirt size and when I asked her why she asked she told me that she just wanted to. Is this good or bad?

  45. There’s this girl at my school that I barely know but we always seem to bump into each other especially near classes and at the cafeteria. I thought it was a coincidence but then one day when I walked in to the cafeteria she suddenly turned around and we made eye contact. Ever since we always just keep bumping into each other. I think she like me but I’m not sure. Any advice?

  46. I met a girl and we had a smooth conversation for the first three days. On the fourth day I told her my feelings towards her but her response was time would tell if she likes me. I sent her more texts and get a very little reply once In a while. I always call her. I don’t think she had feelings for me.
    How else do I know if she does?.

    • I think she does when she says TIME WILL DETERMINE because she wants to act like shes all over you and doesnt want to look desperate or on your level and also i wouldnt text her or call her too much if she doesnt reply that jus really unatractive

  47. She touches my arm and touches me while im having a conversation with her she also gets realy close and she knows that i like her but i have no idea if she likes me

  48. This girl in one of my classes told me that a different girl likes me but I’m still not sure. The girl that is possibly interested in me doesn’t really talk to me. How do I know that the girl in one of my classes is telling the truth? Please help me out.

  49. So it was this one girl in high school she had a boyfriend or what ever but in my 5th block she would always come sit by me and be flirty and touch all over my face one time she even told me to tell her how her massage skills got and she started massaging me randomly, she had like a friend girl in that class but she talked to me way more then her

  50. What if she can be touchy and seems to be good friends and nit picks at some things. Also, what if you think she likes your friend and touches her hair around him. She seems to act like good friends around both of us, She also never starts conversations.

  51. So there’s this girl I like but got over of and I thought she like me because she gave a lot of sights that she did but then she started talking about other boys and saying will I date this person or this person is so cute. So I overcame my likening for her but you I’m stil not sure if she liked me or not

  52. I never ask women out because rejection is always guaranteed – there is no chance of any woman ever agreeing to go out with me. Women send signals to men they are attracted to – and not to those they are not. I have never gotten a signal from a woman; in fact women have always completely ignored me. Since there is zero evidence that any woman has the slightest interest in me as a boyfriend, I have concluded that I am simply not attractive to women, and therefore it is not worth approaching in the first place.

  53. I did propose to her once to get into a relationship,but she said she is not intrested in relationship as she wants to focus on studies first. Later on when i approach her many times she started hating me. Later when i maintain a distance from her she said to her friends that she is having respect for me as i stopped disturbing. She asked me to wait for 2 years. She said i should not talk to her till then. But when she gets to know that im sad she approach and asked why im sad and asked me not to be sad as people thinks that she is the reason behind my sadness. After that,she likes to make me feel jelous of her being friends with other guys. She makes me feel jelous and she likes to make me feel angry but she laughs at me and smile. Other than that,she do have eye contact with me often.she laughs to my jokes.

  54. Ok. I’m in a very difficult situation. I am a bisexual teenager, and there is this girl that i like. Now recently her and her friend have been looking. For one the girl looks at me often, and her friend is quite suggestive about things. For example we were in class together, and she then said “OMG my bra is digging into my back.” I respond with “Maybe its you r wire?” and then she says “Oh yeah! Thanks”. Now the girl is more subtle about things but sometimes her friend makes the occasional suggestion. Does that mean that either of them like me? Also the girl knows i like her but i don’t like her friend, just as a classmate.

    • How do you mean that her friend is suggestive of things?

      It seems like there might be some interest from the way she is looking at you so often, but you haven’t written about any strong signs.

  55. Hey guys how’s it going? So I take my siblings to wanna every Wednesday night, and there’s this girl that I see often when I go. There have been 3 occasion’s where we make eye contact and I notice she will continue to look towards my direction, but she won’t smile. What would this be indicating, if indicating anything at all? I’ve even noticed show look at me and I catch it in my peripheral when I’m not looking at her. You guys help would be much appreciated, thanks!

  56. There is this girl who is a trainer at my store and whenever we see each other, she gets almost excited. I saw her again yesterday and we were talking for a while and at one point she played with her hair that was in a ponytail. We were talking about life and personal stuff and she mentioned that she’s single. She then asked if I was working again when she was coming back on Friday. I sent her a friend request on Instagram and she accepted and followed me back the same day. I’m not sure if she is into me or not.

  57. Calls me and even brings me food but seems hella reserved when she comes over. There isn’t any physical contact. I am just a friend?

  58. This girl i kind of like and some of them are present mainly the laugh at bad jokes this happens only for me not sure if she like me.

  59. This girl i kind of like and some of them are present mainly the laugh at bad jokes this happens only for me not sure if she like me

  60. Hi
    I’ve read all the signs and some of it are present. But I have a big and different question. This girl I like, she often teases/flirts with this other guy and sometimes with other guys. Yes, she sometimes flirts with me too. How do I know if she likes me or does she likes someone other than me? Ty in advance?

  61. I’m in college right and In my class this chick seem to notice me first, and she engaged the first conversation with me and ever since that she’s showed me all these signs that she’s interested in me but then she said today that she doesn’t care if her and her “boyfriend” break up. So I’m confused on this whole situation, cause I don’t want to start liking her and then have my hopes up on something coming of me and her happening but then I don’t want to lose a chance with her either if that makes any sense, like today she happen to follow me around and is always touching my hands and playing footies with me and wants my attention more then any one else’s and I’m just so confused with her, like she’s making long eye contact with me and is always leaning on to me and I don’t push her away, cause I act as if I don’t know she has a bf but that’s probably a bad thing cause she seems to be more interested in me then him cause when she’s with me she’s happy but when she texts him she seems upset cause he doesn’t seem like he’s a good guy I guess you could say, but I don’t push her away either I just go with it and I lean on her to and I rest my forearm on her leg cause that’s how close we get and she even held my hand and was watching over my shoulder what I was doing, and I kind of need help and someone to talk to really, haha I’ve had a gf for over 6 years but broke up two years ago, and I feel like a idiot cause I can’t read her signs

    • Yes, she’s interested. If she’s showing you that much attention. Start small. Ask her out for coffee or something. See where it leads. All the signs are there. If you don’t make some kind of move soon she may move on. Coffee then ask her on a real date. Your both adults. You don’t know how deep the water is unless you jump! Good luck my friend.
      Try this….. text her one morning, hey “her name” I hope your day is as beautiful as you are! See what kind of response you get. I’ve used it and it’s amazing the positive feedback you will get.

  62. I’m currently in the 10th grade and me and this girl I like are in all the same classes. on the first Friday of school, she started making eye contact and trying to get close to me. she was laughing at some things i said even if it wasn’t really a joke and just some silly comment I made on something. Fast forward a couple of weeks and we have the first dance. she’s rather shy so she didn’t come up and ask me to dance, but her and her friend were looking at me across the gymnasium. She came over to my friend group and we all had a chat. she may have been trying to get close to me but i’m not entirely sure. I’ve been looking for signs and her pupils dilate, she blushes and rarely tries to make physical contact but it does happen.

  63. Hi so I have a huge crush on a female co worker, but I’m not sure if she likes me like that. We sit next to each other at work, we talk alot but I usually start the conversation. Once and a while at the corner of my eye I see her sneak a glimpse. But the main thing is I asked her for her number but she never gave it and our other co worker friend is the only one who has her number.

    • She does NOT like you. This comment is coming from a woman. If my coworker asked for my number i would be THRILLED. Shes not, she doesnt like you

  64. Hiya,
    so I have made a new friend and I’m starting to like her a bit…more but I’m not sure if she does or not; I recently broke up with someone else so I’m not sure if that’s where I’m getting all these signals from or whatever.
    Anyway we message semi-frequently, we frequently hug and sometimes we do stare into each others eyes but still, I’m really shy and am aware of my very low self esteem and want to be 100% sure she likes me before making a move or anything. Please help someone and if you need any more details you can ask. Thanks

  65. There is a girl in my office we have long eye contact when we both suddenly or unknowingly look at each other, and a short eye contact when we get caught looking each other. I had only 5-6 conversations for few seconds with her but she always smiled. Once I gave her complimented she was flustered and even forgot a thanks. Once she forgot her bottle at her desk (note she never forgets her bottle) I reminded her bottle again only smile not thanks, then she forgets it 2 more times in 2 weeks. I don’t know she is in to me or not ,she occasionally gives smile not everytime, maybe I never smiled first that is the reason. plz help me

  66. Okay so one of my good friends knows I like her but a few months again she said if it wasn’t for me dating your cousin and the small age gap I’d go for you , which is only 2 and. A half year difference I’m 20 she’s 23 but here lately she texts me all day and asks how’s my day going and send exclamation points and smiling faces when I text her and stuff but how do I know I she’s into me Bc we don’t get to see each other much in person but we talk everyday and have been for years now

    • Trey sounds like your in the friend zone, years? Work your magic. Try backing off some. See if that draws her to you more. Be mysterious. Don’t always text back so quick and so on. There’s a lot of info online on how to get out of the friend zone. Good luck

  67. There is this girl in my neighborhood she touches my hand, she smiles at me, she invited me to her grandma’s house one day pls is she in love with me

  68. Hi, so I met this girl at work. She is extremely attractive, and seems incredibly smart. She took an interest in my tattoos, and how they could tell someone’s story. I’m not gonna lie here she wasn’t wrong about a lot of what she said, and I found that really attractive as well. Well I asked her to get whatever information she could to see if she was as good as she thought, and she grabbed my arm to inspect closer. While she was doing so she had a very big smile, and bit her lip. I know many girls find the bad boy act, and tattoos to be attractive, so I didn’t think a lot about it. We talked about some personal things, and got to know each other a bit better. I was mostly wondering what I could do, or say, that could indicate she is somewhat interested in me. Thank you in advance.

  69. Hello, I just wanted to know if a girl I like likes me. She is very touchy, and we usually hug and sometimes she’ll grab my hand to hold it. Sometimes she stares at me for a little longer than usual, and she likes to write her name on my arms. Thanks, Connor

  70. Hi Mr.Viktor

    there’s this girl in my class she keeps staring at me i don’t know if she likes me. my friend told me she has a crush on me but i don’t believe it. she smiles when walking past me and now she looks down did not bother to look at me. i’m confused i wanted to smile at her

  71. So my admirer just told my that she liked me or her friend did so dose that mean she has a crush on me or like likes me. Do both of them like me or the one who sent me notes? Ps I’m year 5 she’s yer 6 don’t know if that matters or knot?

  72. Hi,I’m a 30 year old male and I met this young beautiful lady and we talked for a lil while and she talked about her job and what she wants to do.I then told her my name,she told me hers and I aske for her numbers that she gave to me and said “you can me anytime”.
    I called the next day and she picked up we talked for about 2 to 3mins as she asked about my family

  73. Hey, fantastic list! I would like your opinion though. I’m a high schooler and at my new school I met this girl who I thought was cute and we were in the same group in cooking class. I would always make awful jokes and she would laugh and she asked me personal questions once and waved at me in the hall. Then I got moved to another group and I get scared to make eye contact with her and I think she said scared too because in the hall we never make eye contact and pretend we are doing something else. Is she just nervous and should I just go for it??

  74. Thank you! But I want to know a few things can you please help me out?i study in class 10 and there is a girl whom I pruposed . Now she talks to me but she also talks with other guys infront of me and sometimes even her ex boyfriend.she also waits for me until I leave and she is interested in my family and friends.she smiled when she came to know that in class 11 we would be taking the same stream .she also stated at me . Whenever I talk to other girls after that she ignored me for a day or two maximum.Does it mean she loves me?

  75. Hi Viktor!

    I am totally in a confused state with a woman I been dating and talking to for a while.

    I’m 43, single parent and recently divorced (9 months actually) after a decade marriage. Currently, I am jobless, however I believe it’s just a phase of misery and shall pass too.

    The woman I’m talking about is 41. Works with an airline. She is also single parent, by her child suffers autism and living with her parents. The husband is kind of an asshole and abandoned the kid and her in a way. The husband also had an extra marital affair. She is now separated from her husband for last 4 years, however she also fell in love with a man afterwards who she thought was an ideal man. Because of her autistic child he later got cold feet and could go further with the commitment towards her as a spineless man. A sad story indeed, twice heart broken for a great girl like her…A total keeper and a marriage material.

    We met on tinder and we instantly built a connection. Over a period of time I developed very strong feelings for her and would like her to be my life partner. I confessed it to her too, however she said at that point that she is not thinking anything beyond good friendship. Also she is looking for a settled guy so that she can quit her job and focus on her child. Unfortunately, at this point I am not really that settled guy, but I know I have too much confidence and capabilities to bounce back. The problem is she keeps on telling me that she has stopped looking for guys and out from tinder. She gets desperate to speak to me, chat with me like crazy and also shown signs of jealousy and irritation when I speak of other girls and dating them. She likes to keep me that I still want her and be around her. She sometimes says misses me a lot and sometimes we tend to make future planning and monetary calculations like a family. She has couple of times told me she’ll wait for me. Sometimes out of desperation to keep me she even said she can sleep with me if that makes me happy. But, somehow we get distracted again and go back to the friendzone. We are not able to move forward beyond this. I also kind of given up hope that we can’t be beyond friends. I really like this girl and I have the balls and courage to keep her and her child happy and work together as a unit along with my child.

    Please give me a clue as to what’s happening here, any advice, guidance?


  76. There is this girl for the past two years we were kinda friends and she ended up touching me or something and she immediately said she was sorry and I said it was fine and more recently we were in the library together and this other guy was saying things behind her back an I told her over Instagram which she requested to follow me on and she said she didn’t really care what he thought and thanked me for telling her and also in the library she was with one of her friends and she told him that she couldn’t tell him who she liked and It was very loud almost like she wanted me to hear it an they came over to me and pulled me into the conversation and she ended up putting her arm around me to show her friend something and I have so many mixed signals but I catch her looking at me all the time someone please help me with this situation I want to tell her how I feel and I am lost on how

  77. So there is this woman I’ve been interacting with over the past two years and about 7 days ago she made it very clear to me she’s interested, over the past 2 years I noticed subtle flirting but didn’t think anything of it till now. After she made the obvious comment we have been talking a lot but she ya been slowing down over the past couple days. Things are complicated on both ends. I’m going through a divorce and she’s still married but not 100% happy. Not sure if I’m reading into things with her not talking as much or if it’s her backing off.
    Any help on this would be appreciated. Thank you

  78. When I go over to this girl’s house we sometimes go outside, we sometimes go in her room, but she always asks me one same question when she is sitting close to me. The question she always asks is “who do you like?” I always answer with I don’t know, but just a few days ago she said “do you wanna know who I like?” I said “who” she said “I can’t tell you” does any of this mean she likes me, or not, because I really like her.

  79. Hi

    I actually have a question and I hope I can get a reply because it is really concerning me.

    There is a girl I like, but the problem is that she has a boyfriend.

    When interacting with her I got two different signs, a positve sign and a negative sign.

    The positive sign is that she did stare at me a couple of times and usually smile when we greet each other.

    The negative sign is that she ignored me and she acted as if she didn’t see me. That actually happened once.

    My question is: Does she have a crush on me or should I move on?

    I hope I can get a reply


  80. Hey,

    Okay I had made a change to my new local pub for 2 months due to old one has gone crap cause new management. So, at this pub there is this bar maid and she is okay person & I got to knew her and the owners…

    Anyways, when the owners went on holiday the bar maid has a daughter that started to do some work to help out her mom and probably extra money…

    A bit information about this girl, she turns 18 in next week, she went to same high school and recognised me & I am 21 coming 22 in November… I knew this from social media. But, I never had her on social media – no longer then month. How we got both each other on social media, it was a bit weird she found me on Instagram and when I questioned her about it the following weekend. She goes “oh I am trying to be noisey on my page but I was private and she Had to follow me” so I kinda noticed that she was stalking me. Few days later, we added each other on more social media platforms and speaking on that too…

    This weekend, I went to pub and she was there with her mom, sister, sisters her gf and mates they was going to small town that she might can get into this club, mom never came until before the pub closed so she had one pint. Her sister invited me to come and said that the girls coming aswell, anyways she couldn’t get into the club, so me and her end up going to pub just down road until the club closed… I would say it went well but no touch betweens (I think it was better off, as the age).

    Before I went with them, her mother was warning me saying that she only likes me as friend but she was there and she moaned at her mom & walked away, I think her mother is protecting her?

    I said to her today that I got her present for her bday and I would like to meet her on the weekend before she goes on holiday with her family for her bday. I went best thing is not to mention that I got her about the present due what she said on the weekend, then she goes she was only be honest….

    I been giving her far amount space on social media…

    I dunno how to do next or if she interested?

  81. So I have this girl and we’ve hung out all summer I’ve been to her house a lot and she’s always asking how’s work and what I’m doing later she wants to hangout every week. She tickles my arm and touch my arm and at my job I said that I had to go back in because it was busy she said they will be alright she touched my face Also. She would call me brother, she said hey brother with a hug pitch voice and turns her head and she would call me baby and daddy on top of that

  82. There’s this girl in my school that everytime i see her or she sees me she always starts talking. She has given me a nickname. what does this mean.

  83. What if a girl makes my food and cold drink ort even if she has another.
    Whenever i say her about relationships with me. She says i still like the boy which have cheated her. I have no feeling for other. And she also smiles when i tàlk to her.
    But she says u r my best friend ever. Does she likes/loves me?

  84. She does hit me playfully sometimes but she is usually franks with her other friends . She also tries to make my connections to other girls crush wise and when i react in an angry manner she continues to do it … Dunno if she’s testing.
    We have a lot in common… literally a lot . She also thinks we have a lot in common but i am not getting the message from these signals.

  85. l told her l love her en she said she couldn’t love anyone in our group including me coz we’re all cheaters maybe except me but am confused by her words and actions that make me think that she loves me

    • Nothing you’ve described indicates that she loves you. What you described is the opposite. But maybe there’s more to the story?

  86. She always try to show me that she hates me she always telling my best friend that I’m the bad guy she ever me..she always see the bad in me and never see the good one after all imt showing her my good side ..Always talked bad things about me to my best friend.never ever reply to my text also blocked me..When ever she sees me she wrinkle her face with bad expressions that shows that she hates me ..Also many time she told .
    My friend that she hates me more than she hates anyone

  87. So, there’s this guy. He had asked out another girl but she said no.then suddenly he started talking to me a lot in class and he keeps touching my a light little pat kind of thing.then one day he touched my shoulder.then in my school bus I usually talk to my friend who is 2 years younger than me and one time he randomly out of nowhere he says “don’t you hang out with that girl in your bus?” Then a few days back I had gotten and extra hair tie to keep my chart paper. Then i went home I couldnt find it so I’m like “ok, big deal who even cares” then the next day I went to the class shelf to take my notebook he’s just playing with it and I’m just like,”it’s mine(name) could I have it back?” He’s like ,” heyyy, I like this its fun to play with could I keep it for some more time?please??” OK so I don’t know if he likes me or not but yeah..

  88. Hello, I know a girl at the gym that I didn’t talk to her yet and this girl always make eye contact with me after every sets and everytime she walks beside me or infront of me, she take her phone from her pocket immediately and do anything in the phone ro avoid the eye contact even if she is close to me, she is trying to avoid the eye contact till I walk in another area .. what is that means ??

  89. I was at a party one night and this girl I had met a month are so ago seemed excited to see me. We walked past each other my best friend she she turned and smiled at me. I noticed her looking at me and kinda smiling across the room. Then we started talking face to face sitting down. She kept making the intense eye contact with me. Making excuses to hug me. I sit in her lap. She kept mentioning her hair. She took a pic and posted it on fb a day are so later with a few others of other ppl from that night. She danced on me kept stickn her ass out when I would walk by. So am I in are no. I’m very obviously to stuff like this. But it was that eye contact u can feel u know

  90. So was hanging around a girl for almost a year we got along pretty well a lot in common caught up maybe once a week for drinks and the some fun time as you do. I started to like her a lot but she didn’t won’t to commit so I said good bye and stopped talking to her. About 5months went by and I randomly messaged her she was a little surprised but replied back with in a few hours which surprised me so I invited her to a day festival, went really well like the 5months of us not talking didn’t happen I stayed at her house but nothing happened. So I invited her out for a mid week date kept it casual but fun of course see what the vibe was like, night went well again there was laughter, touching, eye contact then smiling. Then I went to give her kiss and she said she hadn’t changed her mind about us, I said cool and hugged it out and left. Next day she texted me saying “thanks for last night I had a lot of fun was really cool, have great weekend and holiday. We sent a few more texts with jokes and laughter and she seemed pretty happy. She went away for the weekend and that week coming I was going away. Haven’t heard from her and I haven’t texted her!! What you reckon people??

  91. I’m in ur 10 and some girl always says ur ugly to me which is weird cause I get called attractive by other girls to she said ur ugly then she said ur not ugly your good looking then she said I hate you then she said let’s be friends she always licks her lips and always stares at me and even bite her lips sometimes so please can someone tell me if she likes me because shes really mean to me but at the same time she always sais stuff like you good looking you just annoying I hate you I like you your good looking i just hate you and dont forget the staring and lip biting

  92. my female colleague started with a crush on me by telling her friends that she found me fascinating and a sweet heart. some time passed and now she said that a major date would make her uncomfortable. however, she still wants me to work with her at school. it seems we moved from colleagues to friends to dating and back again. this woman is 52 years old, 2 children, divorced for 14 years. our first date she used most of the above signs. I covered her classes while she was undergoing surgery. The problem this is a middle school. Parents, teaches, and kids want to play cupid. I would like to get back on the right track. some people said that i should remain the gentlemen and help her as needed. She is an art teacher and i am a science teacher. She is electric , smart, full of life. How can I reduce her level of feeling uncomfortable without becoming natty. We AE both mature adults. We have a firm foundation in who were are. I wonder has she become uncomfortable if she opens that door and it scare the crap out of her

  93. I am 8th grader and clown of the class , but i have twice observed two girls starring at me while i an just sitting and doing my work and once one even made an awkward eye contact with me that was so awkward that i turned in other direction!!

  94. so, i like this girl called elle. last night we met for the first time. we had a good long conversation and she enjoyed it, i am like unsure if she likes me cause she said she doesnt date year 7’s. but then i wrote a long paragraph to her about me wanting to show her that i aint like those ugly ass year 7’s. how do i know if she wants ins and like what signs is there for her showing that she wants ins or not

  95. Kazeem
    There was this girl i met on my way to the City i was together with my friend and my friend notice the girl was stearing at me. So i try to go After her luckily she branch in a Boutique but so good she gave me her number After our discussion and i told her am going to call her but she said she don’t like calling that she prefer i Text her true whasapp…After 1 week we met for the First date,to be honest i really like this girl so am always being eager to Text first” i sent her a Text message like this=your absence agonizes and hurts me, everything I see, hear or do reminds me of you. Distance is cruel, very cruel.
    As I´ve said everything reminds me of you. The flower shop in the corner: the chair at the restaurant…please call me when you are free” just wanna hear your sweet Voice on phone. MY LG Kazeem?
    But did not reply me back. I don’t want to do next i need some help.

  96. So I had this girl who recently was working with me on a project for about 8 months now. Recently going through family issues and she was really supportive of me, often telling me to stay positive. We only hanged out alone once but she was quite friendly and stuck quite close to my personal space as well. She kept hanging around my side during group work and often laugh at my snide remarks or just a casual comment when I wasn’t the most talking one in the group. I just find her eyes twinkle abit at times when both of our visions collide. I’m not really sure myself, but is it possible?

  97. She touches my shoulders,hands
    She seats too close to me
    She smiles at me
    She likes being playful
    She likes a shaming me
    Defends me
    Shes the first to type gudnyt in the chatting

  98. There’s this girl. When I talk to her, she is facing towards me. I do see her smile in conversations. But one time she asked me to give her signs on a boy liking her and implied it was me. She usually seems happy when talking to me. I haven’t seen her act the way she does around other guys. I asked her to hangout once and she said yes. She brought a friend but she said she was fine if it was just her and I. When I was hanging out with them, a girl I know passed by and I told them that I knew them. The girl asked me if I like her, I said no and she said she would have been excited. Her pupils are slightly larger when talking to me. Oh and when we met she asked for my Instagram.

  99. I don’t know wether my girl likes me or not because she don’t often call me and I think she don’t likes me.she is not caring too.

  100. I have a similar situacion in my job. This girl always bothering me touching me. Smiles at me she dances she sings at me and looks at me. I keep my distance cause i know she has a boyfriend. But her smile her personality and she makes me smile with her clowness.She said why you looking at me i got a boyfriend.The problem now is everytime i see her i feel diferent.I see her with other eyes but she has a boyfriend.Oh boy i am in trouble. Someone advice me.

  101. Thank you so much eat really help because I think a girl likes me and I want to know if she does like me. And those answers help me out a lot. Thank you so much I might actually find the love of my life.

  102. There was this girl today. She randomly said hi to me and asked how things were going. Me and her barely know each other so I don’t get if she was doing it just to be nice or what? Technically she did walk with me to the bus for like a minute.

  103. There’s this girl who’s naturally a people person, and she’s quite friendly with everyone. Whenever possible, she may lean on me if she’s sitting next to me or even put her head in my lap. I can’t tell if she simply sees me as a very close friend or something more than that. Help?

    • It’s a very affectionate signal. Unless you have some kind of brother/sister or father/daughter-dynamic, I’d say she’s romantically interested to some degree. But I need more details about your relationship and her behavior around you to tell for sure. Also if she does the same to anyone else.

  104. I work with this girl and i rewlly like her. But im lost and confused . i heard she doesnt like the type to try hard i had a friend ( girl ) talk to her and basically got to the point of her telling her i liked her and we all work together . well the next day we didnt talk for 2 work days and some …. And also she kinda said i was making her ” uncomfortable ” i guess well today at work we talked and laugh alot and she kept touching me calling my name even when their was many other workers. Im just confused how she goes from that to touching and talking an laughing alot with me . then she finds me on fb and adds me the same day . i really like her and i wish i had the answers.

  105. I also forgot to say is that also when we text or call she will ask if got home safe, to drive safe or she would tell me hey there are cops here so be safe. Also she will text at random to go with her to get a drink from Quick Trip witch is a gas station if you aren’t from the Midwest.

  106. There is a girl that I like but don’t know if she likes me cause she does have a boyfriend and kid with him. But there are something she does I can’t tell what is trying to get at. Like she call me first basically ever day around the same time asking me what am I doing, are you hungry, you can come over if you want, or ask me if I want to go like the store with her. Cause I know she does not like to drive places alone. Also we almost text everyday and it goes back and fourth on who texts first. Are family and friends are always making jokes that we are dating cause we are almost always together 24 hours of the day. She also told me about her past and her family, her dreams that’s she wants to do. And she knows my dreams and always tells me to go for it and I tell her the same with her dreams. We also have meaning conversations. But at the same time she tells me stuff about her boyfriend and ex’s on what they did that made her mad and others like the things she like about them. And she also she I pay more attention to her then her actual boyfriend. But the big problem is the girl I like is my best friend girlfriend. So lastly I don’t know if she is just using me to babysit her kid or if she actual likes me. So could use all the help I can get.

  107. I got this lady she constantly holds my minds for so much long time each time we both shake hands.she even invited me to her place of work for a visit, but I know she likes me but I am still unsure if she wants a relationship with me because she’s married.she replies my text as soon as she sees it. But if I don’t call or text her she wouldn’t call me back neither. But whenever we meet she starts complaining that I don’t have time for her.i am confused I don’t know what’s she’s doing because whenever she gives me a hand shake I can feel the way she holds on to my hand for a long time.

  108. I go to college and there is this girl that I like. I caught her staring at me 3 times, the last 2 times she immediately looked away. And when I was signing up for classes, she had a friend with her, they made it very obvious that they were both talking about me, and even giggled (we sat on the same table and she was right in front of me) She even offered to help me out by asking if I needed help.

  109. I never approach women, even the ones I find very attractive. People say I’m good looking, dress well and have a great sens of humour, etc., but since I don’t see any of those traits in myself, I’ve always felt thar since women choose from among guys, there’s no way any woman would ever choose me.

  110. Hi Viktor. I have a girl I like and she teases me sometimes and some other stuff but I am not sure if she likes me or not. I also don’t want to tell her I like her because I feel not ready. I think that my sister likes someone because she always brings him up and my friend too. How can I find out if she really likes me and how can I tell her?

  111. My friend was chatting to the girl in question, when my name was mentioned she apparently blushed and smiled. Is this a good sign?

    • That’s a great sign! But kind of hard to say anything for certain without any more info about your relationship and other signs she’s shown.

  112. I am not sure if she likes me
    She clutches the chair tightly when she sits opposite me but she patiently listens to me
    Her eyes get teary when I say I feel for her and then in the end she says she does not feel the same
    She tells me she does not have interest in me but spend hours listening to me
    She fights with me often or does small things to irritate me
    She gets angry with me but after a period time has an out burst

  113. Hi Viktor, I forgot to tell you that another day I was at a traffic light stopped and I saw through a glass that she stood behind me, but did not approach, when the traffic light opened I continued, but later I stopped to cross, and I saw her following me. Another day I went to work and she saw me on the other side of the street, and accelerated the passage to prevent me from reaching her. Upon entering work, I told her to wait, I wanted to talk to her, and she accelerated and said: I can’t now, I have to talk to I don’t know who.

    • That’s a bad sign, she might not be interested in you the way you think. But she might also just have been very busy that day.

      If it was you on the comments below (please use a name/pseudonym so I can identify your comments), she sounds like she was flirting with you before. But maybe she lost interest in you for one reason or another? Unless this incident was just a one-off and she’s back to her normal flirtiness.

  114. Hi Viktor, three months ago I started working in a company, the fact is that the interview was made by two people, and one of them is the girl in question. I went to work by bus, and one day when I arrived at the bus stop, there she was, she told me that her mother lived in my neighborhood, and that she sometimes went to eat at her house, obviously we sat together; She showed me photos of her daughter, and asked me if I had children, and what my wife worked on, so we talked half an hour of the journey in a fluid way. So up to three times, we went together on the bus, and all right, the conversation was fluid. At work, I noticed that she looked at me a lot, even one day I tested her and held her gaze, and she held me a lot, until she finally looked away. When we met at the cafe there at work, she looked at me and tried to get my attention by commenting such as: look Alice and I are dressed in black, and laugh nervously, then I said that she did not have a new house like the other girl , and then she touched my arm and left. Another day after leaving work I approached her and said “hello fashion girl” and she smiled and touched my arm again, we walked together talking about a trip she was going to do and she told me that she wanted to see how a tattoo was done, and I ask her where she would do it, I suggested it in the lower back, she indicated me raising her leg than her ankle. Another day I hesitated her telling her that the dress she was wearing was fashionable because I had seen two girls wearing the same dress that same morning, and the next day she put it on, I said it: let’s see what I told you about that dress, and she smiled and told me that it was impossible that I had seen it because …… I have hesitated enough, and she was looking to meet me in the hall, I was saying something and she was walking like a peacock and she looked at me like arrogant. one day when we left work I told her not to chase me jokingly, and the next day she was going into bathroom and turning her head looked at me and stuck our her tongue playfully. The fact is that she sends me confusing signals, I went to her office for two days to tell her where to go when she went on vacation, and she became nervous, another day she told me that she had a lot of work and that she could not look on the internet, that she pointed it out but she was busy, I told her bad girl, and she smiled and told me that I was tanned. I don’t know, she touches my arm a lot, it smiles at me, looks for the encounter, … but then avoids talking to me and being alone with her is complicated for me . One day I took her a cake that I had bought on a trip for the coworkers, the next day she forced the meeting in the hallway and approached me leaning towards me, he touched my arm and said: “How delicious”. Anyway, day in day out is happened this, and I’ve only been three months. The worst thing is that I want to talk to her, but she avoids me.

  115. Hey Viktor, if you still check this regularly, I would like some advice
    I work at a bagel shop, and I became friends with my coworker about 6 months ago. We make jokes and laugh all the time and recently I started to actually think of her as a potential girlfriend. I especially became interested when my coworker and the friend she got hired talked about guys they liked and boyfriends. They made it clear that my interest has never dated and is free now. One of my coworkers has special needs, and once asked in front of all of my coworkers (more than once actually) to both me and my interest if we would be interested in or say yes to a date, though it was always in a rush time (lots of customers and with our orders in the “red zone”) I did catch a quick and nervous glance in my direction. This is from a week ago: At work I like to keep things private, but my boss made me and all of my coworkers write our phone numbers on a piece of paper so that we can all contact each other in the case of something. That day I got a call from a phone number I didn’t recognize, but I had a hunch. I was partially right: I actually got unwanted attention from another coworker of mine that was brought in by the original one I mentioned. She must have been putting in my contact information and accidentally called me, because it was on her break that the call went through. When I went into work the next day a few of coworkers my age had created a group texting chat that I was a part of. I decided not to text anything because I hate group chats, but my coworkers chided all day for me to check my phone. On two days later, the coworker I am truly interested in sought me out personally. She texted my number saying she was bored and wanted to talk to me. In the past she had asked if I was on social media or anything, but her friend/coworker asked too. I am not though. I had never given her my number, and I the feeling is mutual, I don’t know how long she has been waiting to acquire it. But it did not take long for her to utilize it. I’m a little bad at responding to texts, and my phone is slow, so I only received it the next day, but I made an effort. I gave her my personal number and apologized, and that night she wanted to talk with me again. We texted and shared stories and interests for six hours, well into the night. I tried to give her easy excuses, to gauge her interest, but we continued until I was falling asleep. I had a great time, and we genuinely have a lot in common. I really want to tell her how much I enjoyed it, even though I already said I had a good time. I just don’t know if she was really “bored” and that is the only reason she wanted to talk with me. She talked with me for an hour the next day, but no word later, and nothing the next day either. I’m wondering if when we talked, even though we talk and share all the time at work, I shared in a way that made her think “no, he is just a good friend” because frankly, I think there is potential here. I will see her tomorrow, I just don’t know what to expect. I’m not doing anything different though, same old me. I might ask if she usually texts until 1 AM with people, see how she reacts.

    Anyway, if you still do check this comment section, please give me your insights. I really feel we have a connection, but maybe she sees me as a fun friend, that’s my questions.


    • Update, I was right, the feeling is mutual, we figured it out this evening, what a thrill. I just feel like an idiot for not making a move sooner. Thanks for the tips in the article, and for reference this reply is 24 hours after the original post, so Viktor didn’t really have the chance to analyze my situation

      Well, just gotta keep it going now I guess,

  116. I work at Starbucks and there is this coworker I’m interested in. There are times that she will hugs random objects when only the two of us are engaging in a conversation during work. Once, she was hugging this bucket that we use to store leftover coffee beans out of no reason. And the other she took and hugged a transparent trash bag filled with empty pastry containers and used parchment papers in the midst of talking.

    She dresses well since day one I met here and is bubbly to everyone, so I cannot really tell if she’s interested in anyone. I don’t want to get the wrong idea of her actions, I also don’t wish to be so into her before getting a clearer picture. I really need some help, do you have any ideas if her actions meant anything?

    • It’s very unclear to me too from just that sign. Especially if she’s bubbly to everyone. Any other signs?

      • Thanks Viktor for replying. I never really pay attention to any special signs because I myself, is quite shy. And I tend to get nervous and slide away after a while if there is only the two of us. Is there any way I could test her out secretly and look of signs of interest? Would really appreciate it.

  117. There’s this girl I like and she’s really someone I’m into but she’s tough to figure out from these tips. They are great but A. She doesn’t wear fancy clothes only normal clothes B. I can’t tell how her personality changes when we get one one time. My main problem is telling her I have feelings for her I’m to afraid from rejection please help me find a way to tell her thanks.

    • There is a girl I like in the gym and one day I was on the treadmill and she got on the treadmill next to me even though there was loads of empty treadmills and while I was running she started a conversation with me and then she has come over to me and wanted to be in my company a few times since and then I asked her if she had any plans and she said no and then when I said I was going out drinking she said that she likes to go for a meal and a glass of wine was she hinting at me to ask her out

      • Wow nice one! She was most definitely interested in getting to know you more. I hope you see her again.

  118. It’s a woman I meet back in February this year. We agreed to be just friends, but my feelings for her have grown, not sure if hers has as well, most of the signs you speak of are all there, but she keeps telling me she not ready for a relationship, I don’t ask and have never told her how I feel, but she keeps reminding me of this on a regular bases.
    What’s worse for me is I know currently she has had a Fwb going on with another woman, she tells me it’s just fun as that’s all she after, but then keeps inviting me every where she’s going, the smiles the dancing the touching is all confusing me, she acts like she wants more than Friends but then tells me she is not ready for a relationship.
    Haven’t just been friendzoned, reading into the situation wrong as I have feelings, or is it just a matter of time, let her so her thing and wait and see, or is it time to man up and tell her how I feel

    • She could very well be attracted to you, but still not interested in a relationship. She could also just like the attention you’re giving her.

      I think you should emotionally prepare yourself to move on. Make your move, but be ready to get rejected. And then move on to greener pastures.

      The worst thing you could do is to keep waiting for her to “get ready”. She might never get ready for something serious with you, and then one day she’s suddenly ready when she meets someone else.

      I’ve been there. Waiting for someone to get ready, who never got ready – for me. It’s the worst.

  119. Hi Viktor,
    I recently met this girl online and I recently asked her out on the date and she agreed. We both went for lunch and she asked few questions for me but I kept the conversation going and it was chill. After lunch, she asked me places to eat and I told her maybe next time we could go and she seemed good about it. I asked her about her schedule for the week and she said she would let me know. After the date, I texted her and said I had a good time and asked when she was free. She did not respond after 1 day. SHould I wait or is she just not interested?


    • She’s not interested I’m afraid, but she’s probably afraid of rejecting you because she doesn’t want to hurt your feelings. There’s also like a 5% chance she’s just really busy, but I wouldn’t hold my breath for that.

      Keep looking for someone better, you got this!

  120. I have met a girl and we both get on really well and I have some sort of feelings for her. She displays many of the green signs in this article and she has suggested that we meet up again and get something to eat / her come to my place. I think we are both okay with just being friends at this moment. I am a very anxious person and overthink a lot so I am anxious about my next steps in talking to her. How can I create this friendship and take the initiative to invite her to do things and get involved with each other’s lives? How can I keep the conversations interesting without letting anxiety take over and how can I become a interesting person she wants to be around, although I know she likes being around me anyway I don’t want to screw it up. She compliments me to me and other people so I assume that’s a sign she likes me even as a friend?

  121. Hi Viktor,
    There is a girl I had interest in, but later on she started showing feelings which I knew she was interested. After a while, she started pretending as if she was not interested, or even making me jealous. The first time we met, she called her brother who was my friend back in university, to let him know I was with her. Recently, I told her I don’t think I can date her, that we should Just be friends (via text/chat), and her reply was: “let me first give you a hug, thank you very much”.
    Her next chat immediately after that was: “how can I invest in cryptocurrency”, which she knew somehow that I am very good and knowledgeable in that area.

    Could she still be interested in me, or she felt rather heartbroken or happy that I said I can’t date her?
    Or could her interest in what I like be a means to get my attention back to her?


  122. I’ve known my female friend for a minute I recently told her I like her she said”I like the relationship we have now it’s not really a good time for me to change it”. Any suggestions if she likes

  123. Hi.
    A girl I work with is throwing my head all over. Started with a work do last year, she sat with me, legs over mine, took my hand to drag me out to the smoking area,pulled my hand around her waist to her arse, proper flirty. Then as nights go on she socialises with her friends and I do mine. Over the past few months she would every now and then pass a comment to me regarding pretty much anything. A week or so ago she added me on Instagram, and she has no other guy from work on there despite working closer with them. I decided to drop her a message 2 days ago as a response to something she randomly showed me at work, and her responses went almost straight to innuendos and clearly pretty raunchy related stuff, but denies all knowledge of anything that happened at the party last year. Messages go from wanting me to be ‘exciting’, some teasing but also an occasional short message and long between replies. I don’t know if I’m onto something here or if I’m just being used as a way of getting attention. Thanks

  124. There is a girl in my high school, we have talked just a few times and she seems nice to me. The thing is that we don’t get to talk much. What I have noticed that she does greet me with a nice and cheerful ‘hi!’ unlike the way she greets her other guy friends. Her guys friends also tell me that she thinks that I am a smart guy. I like her a lot and I just want to know for sure that whether she like back or not? Is she just friendly or is there a chance for something more?

  125. One of my best friends is showing loads of signs but I’m not sure if it’s just coincidental. She put her legs on mine the other day when we were sat next to each other in class and cuddled me and hugged me whenever there was an opportunity e.g. I was saying oh no I might have to do the 800m on sports day and she quickly grabbed me and said “oh (my name)” and squeezed me gently I don’t know how long it would have gone on if I hadn’t pulled away. Then later she kept leaning into me and then put her hand on mine and was teasing me a bit and then she kissed the air near me in a kind of jokey way (“mwah”). I was really nervous and kept pushing her off in case people saw us (we were in a lesson) but I don’t know if she’s just like that with everyone or it’s just like banter because we are close friends or anything?

  126. I’M a female and I was at a dealership and the finance manager shared some personal information with me. She told me she was divorced, she had a daughter, she didn’t do church, and she would like to do lunch sometimes. She gave me her
    direct number at work not her cell number. Do you think she want a friend or lover.

    • I doubt it was purely friendship. But it could also have been business, maybe she’s part of some MLM-scam she wanted to recruit you to.

      Did you get any flirty vibes?

  127. We are swim mates, she is 4years younger than me and I think she likes me, do you think this age difference can be uncomfortable for her?

  128. I suspect she’s a bit older and I think she knows it too. But I’m not sure of what she’s up to. She greets me whenever she sees me, but initially, her greetings weren’t always audible enough. I think it’s because I was not responding at first, but since I noticed and started responding, she’s been greeting loud and clear. It even feels like she may be looking for a way to talk to me, but I’m not sure.

  129. Hi.was there for her in a breakup.shes always texting me.comes over when im out.laughs at alot of things i say.when shes down she always txt me.shes just started to go on a thew dates with a guy but just says i will see were it goes.tells me when shes been crying.if im out she always looks over then comes across aswell.just not sure how she feels.

  130. Few signs shows she likes me. But some times i feel that she is not sexually attracted.
    Some times i linger my hand on her external thigh she dont take my hand off even. But sometimes she dont sit with me in front seat.
    I dont know is she intrested sexualy or no.
    She smiles, lock eyes, sometimes her body language shows she is into me. But i am not 100% sure. please

  131. How do I know if she’s into me like the other day I was texting this girl inviting her to come over to cuddle and watch movies with me she said lol ion wanna tease you with my body with a ? what does this mean?

  132. Sir, I got a question about you men please help as much as you can. 1 of my men friends while alone will not smile at me but around his friends he will. I have a broken foot his friends asked how I was doing and I said I’m getting over a broken foot they said we heard I smile and said OK. His friends while we are at places will be talking then looks over at me a lot.I have walked past him on 28th of June and looking down looking at him out if corner of my eye smiling around his friends my friend said as soon as I walked past him he looked and smiled at me. We’ve in the past 4-5 years ago flirted locked eyes and he tapped my rear 4 times I acted like I tripped to get him back I said sorry he smiled said it was fine. Last 2 years we both have been not talking as much we both went through a divorce but now things is coming back around like it was the looking the smiling. What is your opinion please help ease my mind.?????

  133. Hi

    I actually have a question that concerns me. I sometimes get bullied by my friends at university. It is not physical bullying. It is actually verbal bullying.

    The problem is that I got bullied in front of my crush, but I try my best to answer and argue with what they are saying. Do you think that she is not interested in me anymore because of that?


  134. Ok. I like a like a girl in my university. But iam not sure if she too like me.she do the lip biting thing. She tries to keep the conversation going even if I have stopped talking. I also told that I like her and in future i want her but she always she i’ll do whatever my parents say..but she always laugh when I say that I like her and need her… What should I do??

  135. She always seems interested in what I have to say, has a nickname for me, laughs at pretty much every joke I tell, and she said I should work the exact same days she does after school.

  136. Hello i was actully curious been talking to this girl and everything goes smooth and we laugh and talk about everthing, but recently shes been really touchy,touching everytime and sometimes when our hands collide she touches my hands or our legs or very close that we touch each other and she likes to put her arms on my shoulder sometimes when i do mean joke but its all jokes it doesnt hurt but shes been touchy alot, and for testing her i saw a girl where we where and i said oh shes hot and she said hey im right here and she started to laugh.
    I dont know if it was a joke or maybe it kinda affected her i dont know but we do have alot of fun together but the thing is she has a boyfriend so im kinda confuse ?? I did ask her if she realize thats she touches me alot but she said im her best friend ?? Is she indenial ? Is there something building up.

    Thanks for the advice

  137. Ok so I like this girl from work. Whenever I pass by or talk with her she’s always prolonging her eye contact, smiling at me a little longer than normal, and she’ll always shift more towards me when we’re talking to each other or in a group of people. Also our conversations are always long and back and forth. I’ve NEVER been able to talk to other girls the way I’ve been able to talk to her. I notice that she doesn’t do this a lot with the other guys that she works with or talks to. I’m not sure if she actually does like me or if this is just her personality?

  138. Ok, so I like this girl who I semi regularly work with. Whenever I pass by her or talk to her she will hold eye contact with me for almost the entire time I’m with her, she will smile at me for most of the time I’m talking to her or whenever I pass by and she’s ALWAYS facing me when we’re talking. I notice that she doesn’t do this a lot with other guys that she works with. I’ve wanted to ask her out for the longest time but things always seem to get in the way. I’m not sure if she actually does like me or if this is just her personality?

  139. theres a girl i like and she gives a lot of signs that she likes me: the teeth lick, the lip bite thing ect., but she says she likes me almost as a joke, does she really like me?

  140. She like says she won’t date me but she like play hits me and she but her hair in my ear and lately she’s been real nicer and she gets mad for me having another girl bestfriend. So like something tells me she likes me but she won’t amit it yet is it best if like i don’t talk to her for a while.

    • She most likely likes you, as Viktor said, most shy girls will say that its a joke or play it off, but since she gets mad if you are best friends with other girls, bites her lips , etc., you should straight ask her, however this might come with a mild risk as she wont know how to respond as she doesn’t want to ruin the friendship between both of you, you should start a casual conversation and try to transition little by little to the question.

  141. I have a crush since the first day I saw him in 2017 and since then thing got weard, we are seeing each other at church, he is married but I cant help it I like this man, he always sits infront of the church and me at the back we hug sometimes, talk somethimes I even told him I have a crush on him and he was not angry at me just said maybe as a father but I told him no not at all. And he does not mind me being close to him or he to me and I once accidently touched his leg while sitting I thought I am going to get shouted at but he kept quite looking at me and I was looking at him, what a moment but we just carried on listening to the Priest.

  142. Okay, so I like this girl and I have her on Snapchat and we’re #1 on each other’s best friends list and we have a 100 day streak and within them 100 days, we’ve hung out 3 times and we’ve done things together (sexually). But she calls me her “bestfriend forever” and all kinds of other things like “you deserve the world” and “you’re the sweetest guy I know”. I don’t know what to think about everything, I have more information if someone can help me out

  143. this girl i like, she teases in the conversation, strong eye contact, she laughs at me if we just look at each other,feet pointed to me, she straightening her hair while we talk, she talks about her family to me a lot, even talks about her future education, kids, etc… seems to be open and closed case but i dont want to mess up a good friendship if she actually dont want to move it up a level.

  144. I work with this girl, she always takes time to ask about out if work things like if I live local and how old am I, and the other day I caught her grinning at me as I passed her.
    Two minutes after, she came to ask me something and places her hands on my hips from behind and I was quite surprised.. lol.

  145. She texts me everyday and will text all day long!
    She is always there when I need advice and to help me get through something.
    She is always telling me how sweet and nice I am.
    She is always laughing at things I say.
    She is aware of my divorce and ever since I moved out, is now happy and will FaceTime me.
    We talk on the phone for almost an hour sometimes more.
    She always asks how I’m doing.
    She always texts or calls me when she is frustrated or wants to vent.
    She says she is very appreciative of things I do for her and always being there for her.
    She went out of her way and out a lot of thought behind getting me a gift.
    She tells me she is trying to pay more attention to things I say and how much I pay attention to her.
    She is always telling me how great of a guy I am.
    She lets me know when she does things or when she gets home etc…

  146. Okay so I’m gonna jump right into it. There’s this Starbucks I regularly go to and I’ve grown to know many of the employees but one in particular is obviously my favorite. She was the first one to ask me what my name was. We started talking each time and there seems to be some sort of connection. we both get more visibility excited to see each other every time I go through the drive thru. Yesterday we hit a new level of excited. I drove through after work like I always do because Starbucks takes all my money but I pull up to the window to pay and she’s standing in the background and as she sees me pull up she waves super excitedly at me(yes I’m sure it’s directed towards me I was the only one in her line of sight) then runs over to the window disregarding the paperwork she was doing also stealing the drive thru from who was running it. She says “what’s up sunglasses! I haven’t seen you in a while!” (She actually has a nickname for me) she then proceeds to tell me she started working nights and I should come in sometime. We ended up holding up the drive thru talking (it was both of us not just me). Today I did my usual and went after work. She happened to be working again she then proceeded to steal the drive thru window again and right as I pulled up she said “HEY QUEEN” super excited. She said she liked my new rainbow watch band and asked if I was going to the pride parade BUT THEN SHE ASKED ME IF I HAD A SNAPCHAT. So obviously I gave it to her because I was gonna ask her for her number at some point I just didn’t wanna scare her off or anything. I asked her if she was working tomorrow and she said she was working close. I told her that I would keep that in mind (super mysterious I know lol) and she’s like “alright see you tomorrow then :)”. We snap chatted almost instantly and she kept sneaking to use her phone while she was at work.

    • Well, I really fancy a male barista at my local branch of Starbucks so you’re by no means the only one!

      I get the distinct impression that some of his male colleagues think the situation is hilarious, though I must admit I have no idea whether they’re poking fun at me, him or both of us.

      Today one of these men told me I was a “VIP” customer and plastered a huge, exaggerated grin on his face.

      This was RIGHT IN FRONT of the one I like.

      So I just said that if I was a “VIP” customer, did that mean I could get a discount? 🙂

  147. Hi Mr Viktor please answer this so this girl that I like she will always play fight with me even though she does it With other boys then she will try to get me in trouble like she say that to the teacher that I kick her even though I didn’t kick her and today she ask do ever had girlfriend and I say no then she ask if I want a girlfriend and I say stupidly say no and then one time she that this girl like me even though I don’t the girl I don’t know if she like me please help me!

  148. Hey .. I live in an environment where it is almost impossible to meet with my girlfriend.. I know her from 8 year but we fell in love in 2017 end. She likes me as she tells me but she always remain reserve due to religious belief and she is unable to text me everyday because she has no personal mobile.. she still pretend to love me . She also cant able to tell to her family and whenever i am angry on her often she says sorry to me. But she is not much interested in love talks but interested in general talks. I dont know what but just i want to know that does she loves me or not.. she is not jealous when i talk to other girls but she says that she trusts me and i’ll not leaving her anyway. We both are 18 years old.

  149. Hi my name is MXO Handebe . And I have a crash in my church her name is ALWA , she very full of her that girl I’m telling you man. One day it our second seveys in Church. She was sitting next to me busy with her phone whatapping during the surveys, So I was looking through her phone just to see who is she talking to ….what she said to me was very very hurtful. She said “HEY you what are you looking through my phone , stop look through my business boy” then I stopped looking as she told . Then I saw a pic of WEED on the a plant .And she said it again”HEY you are doing it again MFTHU” she said mixed imotion ….I don’t why . Then her friend then told to stop what to me , while her friend was telling to be nice . I was still looking through the phone , then I saw her sexy pic nigga yooo?????? . Her friend saw me acting all funny after looking through the phone , I may say she saw that crazy about ALWANDE .Her friend told me to tell she’s beautiful, ALWANDE was say that I will slap you ….in a fun way , she was like I’m joking while saying that . I just blashed and kept quiet….then I told my homie AVELA he said there one chick between whose crashing on me . I was maybe her friend not her . But ALWANDE eyes too????

    But please there is more of the story it tooooo looooooong


  150. I met a woman I text her she don’t text me back it takes a while she does not have eye contact once in a while she.does but I am intrigued she will let me message her legs and feet with oil what do u think

  151. Okay so we talk on Snapchat and sometimes after swimming she will send me pictures of her by the pool she will answer my snaps sometimes right away and other times it will take her a bit. Also sometimes her friends will send me a picture of her when they hang out but she really gives mixed signals. We did talk at school to because we had all the same classes and one time we locked eyes for a long while then she turned away. Another time and a party the song single ladies came on when I was by her and her friends were pushing her telling her she needs to dance because she is a single lady. I really like her and I don’t know what to do because I want her to like me. She gives a bunch of mixed signals like sometimes she will talk then she won’t and I’m not the hottest guy at our school but I want a chance with her if it’s possible and if she at least kinda has a thing for me. I could really use your help.

  152. So I’m High school with not a lot of friends and there’s this girl I like . To be honest we don’t talk much, she sits in front of me in one of my classes and the girl I like turns around and puts her elbow on my desk (she like rests her head on her fists ) while she’s following along with the book that our teacher reads even tho she know that I’m close to her and sometimes she draws stuff on my paper or arm ( I don’t know what that means). At lunch she has a lot her own friends and prefers to sit in a different table with me even tho there’s only 1 more person sitting with us. Is it just that she feels bad for me for not having enough friends or what?

  153. A girl sat next to me in a lesson at school and started asking a lot of very personal questions. I am not sure if this is a good sign that she likes me though, because she accused me about liking her friend (although I don’t) a while ago when she sat on the same table of me. This was in a sort of jokey way though, so I don’t know if it is of consequence. Does anyone know how I can tell for sure if she likes me?

  154. So this girl I like got kinda close to me, she was sitting behind me bc we were on a ATV but I scooted up and she would still get close. Is this a sign?

  155. So there’s this girl at school I like but I’m not sure if she likes me. We have a decent amount of thing in common, and gives some of the signs here but gives me mixed signals. She smiles and talks to me when we are talking together, but that seldom is the case, and I don’t know if she does that with all her friends or not, and we’ve also only ever really communicated in a group. Also, she is fairly critical of things I do, like me overreacting at stuff (I’m spontaneous; I do this often), giving a passing remark. And often in brief meetings with more people, like entering the classroom, while she holds the door we don’t even make eye contact. But when I enter a room and it’s just us, she smiles and waves. And she has made jokes and teases to me, but mainly in the past when we interacted more. I don’t quite know her well enough, and her lack of a phone makes it hard to connect. What should I do?

  156. Hey I’m Matthew,so there’s this girl in my class who I didn’t like before but then after sometime I developed some feeling towards her,she’s the kind of girl who always talk to other boys really close but when she is around me she turns into a different person, she will talk less with other boys and ask me some personal questions, her friends also asked me my thoughts about her, she also gave me something l liked before and if I remember correctly she hinted at wanting to hang out, but the main problem is that during class she always sits around a bunch of boys and like talk all the time so I’m not sure whether she has feelings for me or not . It’ll be nice if you can help me with this

  157. hey so my name is jacob and theres this girl named chloe. we don’t really talk much but she laughs at my jokes (we are both in high school btw and also in 10th grade). does she like me??? she also asked for my phone number in history class and then facetimed me even though we were right next to each other. is she stupid, or does she like me?

    • hello jacob i am charles it is nice to meet you i am in high school but nineth grade and i have had that thing happen to me a lot where a girl asks for my phone numbr and facetimes me immediately and once or twice she asked to hang out with me outside of school and we did and dated so i would say to ask her out.

  158. There was a girl in my class that would always ask me to sit by her. She also had a friend that sat by her, and when she was there the girl that I think liked me would always talk loud, even if she wasnt talking to me. When her friend would move somewhere else she would talk to me in a whispery voice, like she was telling me a secret. There was one time where she asked me who I think she liked in that class. I named off every single boy in the class but myself and when my face started getting hot, thank the lord, my friend came over to me and started talking to me. Was all of this a sign that she liked me?

    P.S. She wrote her number in my yearbook with a heart and she had wrote “Call me!”

    P.S.S. I am very shy and she is very loud and I get a feeling that she loves making me uncomfortable because she always asked me who I liked and she would hug me at random times. She would also touch my foot and put her foot very close to the no no squar(she acted as if she didnt know she was doing it). She would also do the mirroring thing and would fiddle with her cloths alot.

    P.S.S.S. We are both 13

  159. she has a girlfriend and she has this move that she will ask me to hang out with her secretly but with the group. if her girlfriend will be there to listen the conversation her voice change its tone it will become casual voice but if we are the only one talking her voice is soft and minimize where usually she talks to others with loud voice. she most of the time invited me to hang out than other friends around but if her girlfriend is there she will ask one of our friends to follow because they will go ahead to the place of hang out and she will instruct our common friend to bring me in the place.

  160. Oh and also, me and her used to be totally comfortable with telling eachother about crushes on other people but now we don’t really do that. but sometimes i will walk by her and her friends and i will always hear a little bit of something like “i like–” and they’ll stop as i get close. is it because they don’t like me or what??

  161. Hey I am currently in highschool(freshman) and there is this one girl(lets caqll her zoey) right? and like everyday we talk, she laughs with me a lot. but she is mean to me a lot as well 🙁 i don’t understand this. Then i forgot to text her back and she got mad at me and now we don’t really talk much anymore. She even told me she liked someone else but i don’t believe it. Mostly because one day in my conditioning class she thought i didn’t notice but when i was bench pressing she was staring at me, and i made eye-contact back and she looked away casually. Does she have a lot of feelings for me or?…. HELP!!!

  162. I am seeing a girl from 4 months. We text every day but neither of us has ever expressed their liking towards each other. She tells me of her financial worries and I am taking care of that. Whenever I call her to meet she never turns it down unless if its an emergency. What and how should my next approach be. I dont like her but I love her and I am feeling scared that if I tell her this and maybe she refuses my heart will be totally broken. She is around 15 years younger to me.

    Kindly suggest

    • It sounds like she might be with you because of her financial worries. I’m sorry to say that. It’s very hard to build a good relationship on a financial basis like that. You will just lose even more money if you keep waiting without knowing how she feels, and that will sting even harder.

      And remember that broken hearts heal too <3

  163. Hi Mr.Viktor

    I hope you can answer me considering this situation.

    I actually found my crush talking to another guy on the phone. Could it be that she is interested in him or just friends?

    This girl actually do send some signals which shows that she is interested in me.

  164. I dont know what she is up to:

    we met once before. she liked me i think. but i gave her too much attention. she loves the attention.
    but she is shy and was nervous on the date.

    the date was boring and i couldn’t look so much into her eyes. she did not ask or said as much as i did.

    she said it was a good date but i did nit believe her.

    so i kept texting her and told her how great she is.

    but she was very cold from after the date, responding very late very short etc…
    i wanted to meet again but she had only lazy excuses.

    then I ignored her for some weeks and now she came back.
    she is nice to me and initiates contact.

    my problems are 2:

    why doesnt she want to know more about me; we are only talking surface matters, a little bit flirty or about her.

    second: i asked her indirectly to go in a museum together. she said i should go on my own.(and i dont think that she didn’t get it). so i think she doesnt want to hang out in the near future.
    and i also complimented her.

    >so what i think is: i gave her attention before. she loved it.
    now i have the feeling that she only taps at my shoulder and screams her i am! look at me! im so interesting. please follow me.

    she does only enough so that i follow her and keeps my hope up but only wants attention.

    > what i dont get: how boring and shitty is her life that she takes so much effort only for a litle validation and someone is thinking about her.

    >> so my plan is to play it cool like ice the next 2 weeks and see what happens.
    it’s actually too childish for me anyways. i dont need her. would be nice nothing more.

    she is 17 im 20
    she is a 7 im too i think
    she has not many real options right now just like me

    we have a lot in common actually but we dont talk about it somehow.

    what do ? am i right?

    • I think you’re right about her just looking for your validation. She does not seem genuinely interested in you, she seems manipulative.

      You are worth better.

  165. Well I have a coworker who recently started at the job the first day she left a bit of space but did acknowledged me and asked several questions. The next day she new I was a little upset about work and offered me a hug. She’s been there for about a week and has constantly hugged me since. Hugs when she wraps her arms around my weist to hugging me from behind we do text she has started the text and I have started 1 time I told her she was cute the next day meaning today she let her hair down and she was even more stunning! I text her to say I don’t want to be a bother but let her know she was beautiful today she waited about 10 mins replying that I’m not a bother with a 😉 however she has let everyone know she is there to work not make relationships. She also said she could use a hug from me last night but I live 1 hour away from work. My problem is I’m lesbian and she to me comes off as a straight woman so I’m a bit confused as to how I should take her gestures. She knows I’m a lesbian and she has never really replied with her preference. So should I take it as she is just friendly with me because she does not act like that with others or should I just let it ride out.

    • She’s definitely flirting with you. She even invited you home to her saying she needs a “hug”. Wow. Can’t be more obvious than that without saying it out loud.

      Don’t think too much if she’s straight or not. It’s her actions that count and they tell you that she’s interested. You got this! But take it slow since it’s a coworker and make sure you don’t have a falling out if it doesn’t work out.

  166. Hi.. I’m unsure just need a little help please
    Ok signs I’ve seen. I’m male ten years older than her when I mention this she says that’s ok nothing wrong with that..but no mention of friends she has the same age. She’s told me many intermate things like she’s more confident with the lights off things about her exes .when we touch by accident it’s a oops like I want to but not sure if I can .from her.. also she knows I’m married but she’s single .texting is equal in length and who’s first

  167. Mr.Viktor when a girl does not pass by you in university and doesn’t want your attention means that she is not interested?

    The girl and I don’t know each other.

  168. I’m not sure you’ll get this, but I’m just gonna take my chance.
    So, she’s:
    1 openly talking about romance anI me and stuff (she’s an otaku, I just like anime.)

    2 facing me FULLY with her body when we talk. No problem with that.

    3 not texting me first at all, but the one time we texted, she was overly excited to chat

    4 giggling at my jokes.not laughing her life away, but she’s chuckling/giggling

    5 she genuinely smiles when we talk

    6 her pupils dilate… (I think so)

    7 she’s really interested in my talent (art)

    8 she’s always excited to help me with math and stuff (not sure that’s a sign)

    9 she plays with her hair,but not while we’re talking, when she’s NEAR me.

    10 she dosent start conversations when we’re close to each other, but when I start one,shes fully engaged in it, and at times, excited

    11 she gets close to me, no prob

    12 she dosent go out of her way to touch my shoulder and whatnot, but she let’s our feet and arms touch when we sit together

    13 she has no problem walking beside me/ intentionally trying to catch up to me or slow down so I can catch up to her

    14 eye contact? No problem.

    15 she asks me stuff like “what are you doing this weekend?” OR “what are you doing?” Like it’s normal

    I’m asking these because I’m going to ask her out (not on a date, for REAL) because we have UNUSUAL chemistry. We really… have a connection. But, I’m scared I’m just mistaking it for friendship. Your see, I have problems with overthinking stuff, and I’ve been weighing myself down by thinking about this all through my free time. I just want to ask her to be my girlfriend, she says yes, and I rest. Because I feel like my FRIGGING HEAD IS GOING TO BLOW UP. Whats your take..?

    • Sounds like she really likes you. But ask her out on a date instead. Or even better, ask her out on some fun activity without even calling it a date first. Don’t set too much pressure up from the beginning.

      I highly advise against asking her to be your girlfriend just like that, unless you’re 15 years old or younger.

      • well then! i AM 15, so i’m gonna do it soon… i guessed since we’re both not very popular (oof) she’s probably just like me: she’s really nervous but she’s trying to hide it… makes sense… but anyway, thank you SO MUCH for the help!

  169. There is this girl who will make eye contact with me, she will hug me a lot and sometimes I see her face flare up red with blush when I’m around. Should I ask her if she likes me?

  170. So I have a crush on a girl but we do not know each other. We see each other in university. We have never been in a conversation. But I saw some signs and I felt that she like me but I am not sure. One of the signs is that when I stare at her, she looks at me. That actually happened quite often. Another sign is that we had an eye contact that maybe lasted 1.5 seconds until I finally looked away. Another sign is that when I was at class, I looked at the class window and I saw her looking at me from outside of the class. So to sum things up,I caught her looking at me more than once at least.

    I saw actually another sign, but I am not sure if it is a positive one. The sign is that she is avoiding me. Today I saw her on the bus stop, but when she saw me she decided not to go with the same bus me. She took the bus that comes after.

    I would really be glad if you would help me know if she like me or not so I can approach her.

    • It seems she’s at least a little bit interested in you. But it’s weird that she avoided you at the bus stop. Was it that it was the wrong bus for her? Maybe she just felt ugly that day and got self-conscious. Or she’s weirded out by you staring at her so much. It’s impossible to know without talking to her.

      I think you’ll know better if you manage to start a conversation with her. There’s no harm in trying anyway, if she isn’t interested you can focus on other girls instead, and if she’s positive, that’s amazing. You’ll be glad you tried either way.

      • But why would she feel weirded out by me if I caught her glancing at me and darting her eyes eyes away when I look at her?

        I thought that is she is weirded by me she won’t even make eye contact wit me at any costs.

        What do you think about that Mr.Viktor?

      • It’s hard to know why she looked at you, she could also look at you to see if you’re staring at her again.

        But it’s more likely she’s a bit interested, but since she avoided you, she must be very shy or self-conscious around you. So that means you need to take the initiative since she’d never dare to do it. Let me know how it goes 🙂

      • Mr. Viktor, next tuesday will be the last day I see her in university because we have a 2 months vacation. Do you think that she will forget about me and that she won’t have the same interest as before when we see each other back again in university after these 2 months?

        The problem is that we don’t know each other and I don’t have her on social media.

        Do you think she will lose interest in me when we see each other again after 2 months or that is not necessarily?

      • Not necessarily, but she might see someone else in that time. You will be kicking yourself if you don’t try at least talking to her. And what if you think about her for all summer, but then in the fall, it turns out she was never interested in you? Better to know now.

  171. Hey the girl I think is interested in me she tends to do thes things play with her hair, tuck her hair behind the ear, laughing, hold eye contact, she even talks about her family and how many kids she would like to have. I feel like she is interested but she don’t text me I have to text her, but i all get a reply with the same amount of word as mine, and do you think if she was interested she would attempt touches?

    • Doesn’t sound like she’s super interested from what you said, she might just view you as a good friend. It’s hard to tell without more info.

      Even if she’s interested, she might not dare to try touching you.

  172. So she often looks at me I look at her she does the mirroring thing and I do it back but we are both shy and rarley talk but if I’m having a conversation with someone else she will normally join in

  173. I’m the same age as her but there hot boys in her school and I’m normal British boy but she’s Scottish like really Scottish and she only likes me 23% and I love so much and now I’m stuck so if you could help me that would very nice of youXD.and live nexst to her but boys don’t

    Pleas help me

  174. Hen we first meet she said that she would never go out with me.But I tell her that I like her she still respond to my texts not as fast as I would like but do respond. She say that I should not text or call her but she call and text from time to time.To I texted her told her dam girl you are fine in the last hour but at least she didn’t curse me out on the phone or text.

  175. She just looks at me. And her friends tease her indirectly when im around. She notices every time i look at her. But unfortunately we never had any conversation. so i don’t know if she likes me or not. What should i do first?

  176. Don’t know if she likes me, she always find ways to meet me but hardly starts the conversation. She talks to other boys more but still keeps her attention to me whenever I show interest. Can u help me find out

  177. Help!

    So this is kind of long winded but I have to get this off my chest, I have a friend, we are best friends. So here it goes.
    We met acouple years ago, I work for her on the side even though I’ve done work for her in the past. As we moved forward on her project I kept a wall up. We have a lot in common our background and life story, but around last October we were hanging out with one of her employees at a bar talking about the design, I noticed she she sat beside me the kinda snuggled up to me. I thought that’s kinda strange. Then me her employee start playing a friendly game of foosball, she’s standing there with us yelling my name, saying come on you can beat him, really cheering me on but I was getting killed by this guy. We sat back down. Finished our drinks and so on. As we depart she gives me a big hug and a kiss on the cheek. Now keep in mind she’s always taking me out to lunch, buying me stuff and so on. Makes a big deal out of my birthday. So here comes thanksgiving, she tells me that she’s really thankful for me. She’s always giving me these looks. Well Christmas comes around and she sends me pictures of her in her pjs then of her and her husband, were both married, all in fun I’m thinking at this point. New Year’s Eve we hang out together because her husbands at work, lawyer. We are at another bar and a lady there assumes we are a couple and she doesn’t skip a beat. Goes with it. She calls me her frusband, bff, brother and so on, so we leave there go to another bar, very dark and quiet, we’re looking at videos on my phone of the days events and she snuggles up to me again. We end up back at her place, husbands home, seems alittle upset but we are all friends, as I’m leaving she begs me to go to a party with them, I told her I couldn’t and left, few days later she called me to meet her downtown because it was her birthday and her husband had to leave, on call, we hung out and shopped some. Acting like a couple. I giver her a card and acouple small gifts. Then they go on vacation, she calls me upset that her passport expired and that her husband and step kids were already there without her. She does call me to vent often and so on. Then she calls me one day to go to her rental property with her, saying she needed my help. I agree to go. Then next day her husband texts me saying he’s on call and ask if I could go help her. And I said yes even Though I already told her yes, so we go to her vacation rental property and go to town for supplies while a few other people are working and so on. Have a lot of fun just hanging out and shopping, later on that Night she tells me it’s her sisters birthday and that we are going to her birthday party, I agreed. Now keep in mind she made it a point to put me in the room beside hers, only thing separating our rooms is a door, we had started drinking some, I was already ready to go, I’m in her room and she says she needs to change, before I can leave she changes right front of me. The gentleman that I am I just turned my back towards her. We go to the party, I get out of her van and realized I left my jacket back at her place, she said she has just the thing, she hands me a poncho, as I’m tucking my shirt in she grabs me and starts running her hand down the front of my pants, I said what are you doing, with a big smile on her face she says I’m helping you tuck your shirt in…. then we go into the party’, I see her sister whom I’ve only met once, hand her her present from me, tell her happy birthday and so on, then I go outside, meet her sisters boyfriend for the first time and he says your chris? The chris? I’m like ya I guess, he’s says dude Lisa really loves you, looking at me dead in the eye, then I look at her sister and she says ya chris, Lisa really loves, she is so happy she has a big strong man like you in her life, I was floored at this point. We go on about the party, leave and go back to her place, alittle tipsy from the party, I’m laying in the bed and hear my door open, she comes in and says I’m gonna tuck you in….I’m like ok, she fluffs my pillows, blankets and so on and gets me a teddy bear out of her room and says sleep with this. At this point I still have my wall up. Being careful. Next day we work I’m getting ready to leave she tells me to come back into my room, turns off all the lights and we sit together in dark, she’s going on about how much stuff she has to get done, I pat her on the back then ask me to give her a massage. I give her a back massage then get ready to go. As I’m leaving she looks at me and says I love you. I tell her I love her also and leave, she looked really sad I had to go. Next day she sends me pictures of the weekend events and so on. Saying how cute… so we back to business as usual since but since then she’s gotten real touchy feely, doesn’t mind being in my bubble, she will also tell me how good I am, that I’m the best, and will tell her husband to let me do stuff because I’m better at it or that I know what I’m doing, even though he’s a great guy and very hands on do it yourselfer kinda guy, I catch her singing songs when we are alone together like wicked game by Chris issac.shes used the term soulmate and so on. Says I remind her of a movie star she had a crush on when she was younger, all of her friends know about me as well as her family like she talks about me. She will take videos and pics of me working and send them to people, friends and so on. She invites me out to eat with her and her husband and always sits beside me, he will leave us there together like he doesn’t mind or don’t care, nothing sexual has happened between us, I care for her deeply, she’s like my best friend , well it’s made me fall in love with her! And I wrote her a poem, gave it to her last week and she cried, leaned into me and said you know were both married right and that the universe was messing with us. I said yes but I just had to tell you how I feel. She always looks at me like she’s looking into my soul, whenever she’s going out of town she makes a excuse to see me before she leaves, and if I don’t see her for acouple days like weekend she always wants to meet up for lunch. I thought the poem would seal the deal or run her off but it did neither, she didn’t skip a beat. Still goes on like nothing but since when she looks at me it’s like she gives me this save me look. We do have a lot of fun together working or not. I can tell she doesn’t get that from her hubby, there’s more to the story but I figured it’s long enough. I know we are both married but I have never felt this way about anybody, not even my wife. I’m just waiting now to see what she wants to do. All the signs are there. I see it in her eyes smile and body willing to wait…. here’s the poem I wrote
    In every song I hear you should hear her sing
    In amazement at what she does can do and has done
    Wonder Woman super woman or just human
    I’ve never met anyone like her bet I never will
    I consider her perfect expressed it before
    In the beginning I put up a wall but a sea of emotions washed it away
    In short time or long time the wait
    This feeling what is it
    Maybe in another life or maybe in a future her
    The look in her eyes the feeling in mine
    Just friends why
    The lucky one to have this friendship or the pain knowing it can’t or can it
    The stories the times the connections
    She’s got the perfect life, she’ll say different me too or do we
    I don’t want it to end cause I know it will then be in short passing
    It’s not lust is it love
    What is it
    I’ve dreamt of her, I did again last nite.
    She’s a dream come true but a nightmare because
    I know I’m sane, is it a higher power
    She’s in my thoughts and she’s on my mind
    I want to climb the highest peek and screem her name because god knows I’ve yelled it in my soul many times
    She tells me her secrets I tell her mine
    Could I go on but of course
    Like a book that never ends but a poem that does.

    It’s just so crazy she made me fall in love with her but at this point I know she feels the same way but don’t want to mess things up between us. She treats me so different than anybody else, special attention. She’s always wanting my feedback on things even though she has it in her mind what and how she wants things. I feel like she puts me way up high on a pedistool, gifts, lunches, dinners and so on. I’m just a average joe. He’s a lawyer but tells me how smart and funny I am. She’s always hugging me, having me massage her or hold her. I can go on and on but that’s the jist of it. Help!

  178. Usually when I’m hanging out with friends i notice her at the corner of my eye staring at me.

    She had a Instagram story saying “send a x if you don’t hate me” I sent it and she said that she would give a honest statement if I sent a pic of me I did and she said she misses talking to me and wished she had the same classes as me.
    Does she like me?

  179. Okay… There is this girl that I like but I can’t figure out if she likes me back or she’s just being herself. She is sometimes taking my stuff like my hat, and she full on Sat on my desk… Weird because I have never seen her do any of these things. I don’t know if I’m being stupid or if I’m right and she does like me.

  180. Im in college and there is this guy I’ve been talking to all semester. We have a lot in common and we vibe really well. We had a few classes together and we tease each other all the time. People say we are flirty but he hasn’t made a move, and hasn’t asked me out. We also text frequently but i can’t tell if he is just being a good friend or likes me more than that

    • He’s most likely interested in you, but too insecure to make a move. Ask if he wants to go do some activity or something fun with you and see how it goes.

  181. I have a friend and she seems to talk a lot about guys and her ex-boyfriend. But she is pretty touchy and gets really close to my face as a joke. When we talk we somehow end up holding hands kinda. And idk the overall vibe is pretty flirty the only off thing is that her friends say she is straight and she talks about guys. But idk, doesn’t body language say more than words do?

    • You could try asking her if she’s ever been attracted to a girl. It’s a harmless question if she’s straight. And if she’s not or if she’s interested in you, you’ll notice on her reaction.

      Her actions definitely seem flirty. Worst case I think she might want to see if you are attracted to her to get a self-esteem boost. But I think it’s more likely she’s interested in you. But maybe she feels ambiguous about it also.

  182. Im in eighth grade and this whole year this one girl has always caught my interest she occasionally touches me and playfully slaps me along with a couple other things, she stares at me often and is always talking to me when we have the chance, i just dont say anything to her cause im scared ill mess it up in some way. What do i do?

    • if u like her too of course! but if ur to nervous just txt her if u have her number or get it from her friends or on social media. u can start there then once u think u can do it. go ahead start talking in person.

  183. My best friend and me have been friends forever and recently she has been really flirty with me and even saying that she likes me but I kindly brush it off because ik she is joking well I think cause she’s been really confusing lately like she kissed me on the cheek the other day and she’s liked never done that and and we were texting the other day and she said she wants me all to herself and I really feel like she is just maybe joking with me but idk I tried to ask her about it but I chickened out ?

    • Wow. Seems as obvious as it can get. Unless she’s really mean and making fun of you or leading you on. But if she’s never been mean before + since you are best friends that seems unlikely. Don’t brush it off next time and go for it!

  184. I’ve seen her looking at me but then she darts her head away the seconed I see her. And when she is around her friends she dosent really talk to me. But when she’s not with her friends she talks to me. And when she is talking she makes eye contact for a long time. I want to ask her out but i just want yo be sure she likes me

  185. My best friend and me have been friends forever and recently she has been really flirty with me and even saying that she likes me but I kindly brush it off because ik she is joking well I think cause she’s been really confusing lately like she kissed me on the cheek the other day and she’s liked never done that and and we were texting the other day and she said she wants me all to herself and I really feel like she is just maybe joking with me but idk I tried to ask her about it but I chickened out ?

  186. We are roommates sharing a different bedroom. She used to come see me when I am in the living room or kitchen everytime. We started hanging out, I see the signs mentioned in points 1,2,3,5,6,8,9,10,13,14,16,17,18,21,24,25,26,27,28,31,33,35,37 in her. She is making plans for the future but she is not coming out frequently now when I am in the room and also looking me from far but not approaching me.

    • It’s a good sign, but not conclusive on its own. It might just be the way she does with everyone she likes, romantic AND platonic.

  187. There is this girl in my class ( sixth grade) and she always playfully punches me. Also, she ALWAYS asks if I would team with her in four square before she asks her friends. I don’t know if she likes me or not because, like I always say, middle school is confusing.

  188. There’s this girl in my art class that I like (I’m in 7th grade). She is usually sitting next to me or asking me for help and when I see her for the first time in the day she’ll say my name in an excited high voice. She always laughs at what I say even if it’s not funny. Pls help me lol.

    • So this girl I work with, just told me she wants to be my best friend (I know, I got friend zoned). But I she feel wants to be more than friends. She playfully hits me, is nervous when she’s around me, and it seems like she forgets what she wanted to tell me sometimes. When we’re out, she constantly tells me to feel her hand because it’s cold. I may be looking too much into this, but I want to make sure the signs I’m seeing are somewhat true before I make a move.

  189. This girl in my social studies class is always sitting by me and playing with her hair and glasses, I like her a lot but I don’t know if she likes me.

  190. There’s this girl in my class that I like (I’m in 7’th grade) she always stares at me but doesn’t smile we barley have conversation but she does blush around me sometimes what do I do please help

  191. What if shes alwas laghing gigling or curling/playng with her hair and what if she pulls my hair p.s i am a guy and what if she says i love u or licks/bites hoer lips on a daily baises but alwas or at least just playfully and how do u tell if someone’s just blushing or has realy rosy cheeks p.s again im a thirteen year old boy but i’m still pretty mature enughf. a.k.a (teen)

  192. Today she asked me to feel how soft her hair is at least 4 times. she always asks how She looks. we are coworkers in the food industry and she asked me to check if she had ketchup on her pants.she is always teasing me just making friendly cracks about things I say or do

  193. A few questions:

    1) As far as teasing goes…is pretty much all teasing considered flirty, as long as it’s not mean-spirited? Example: making fun of your favorite sports team and poking at you for being quiet?

    2) How to interpret a woman staring at you, not breaking eye contact and not smiling?

    3) Same woman as the first two: so, there was a work social event for everyone in my department that she organized, and she asked me if I was going/tried to talk me into going. I didn’t go, and the next day she wouldn’t let it go that I didn’t come and kept talking about how I should have come and would have had fun. No one else reacted like this–one person said once that she thinks I would have had fun, but that was it. Everyone else went, so I was the only one who didn’t. This workplace is very big on “team” and relationship building, so…normally, I would definitely think this was a sign of interest, especially combined with some of the other signs, but it also occurs to me that she just could have been bothered that not everyone on the “team” came and that I like to do my own thing instead of acting like everyone else and trying to fit in.

    • Interesting observations!

      1: It really depends on the context, it’s either a) flirting b) trying to be playful and have fun with you or c) bullying. It can also be some combination of those alternatives. What’s interesting with flirting is that it’s so ambiguous, it’s supposed to be hard to interpret.

      But considering signs 2 and 3, I think she might be interested in you because she’s giving you so much of her attention. Unless it feels more like bullying/trying to put you down? You should have a good grasp if she’s just mean-spirited or not. If she’s not, all of that attention she’s giving you definitely means something.

      • Thanks, Viktor. I don’t think it’s mean-spirited or bullying. It’s more like what you wrote, i.e. I’m not sure if she’s just trying to get me to lighten up or if it’s more than that.

        How many signs do you think are enough to feel good about approaching a woman?

      • You don’t really need any signs to go for it if you really like her. But at work, I would be a lot more careful since you don’t want to burn any bridges there. And you don’t have to “make a move”, you can just start talking more to her, maybe try to flirt a little bit to see if she likes it. If you get a positive response to the flirting, I’d consider asking her out on a date (or just a lunch/coffee so there are not so high expectations). And when she’s asking you to come to an event, you should definitely go if you’re actually interested in her.

        Best of luck!

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