For some of us, this may not come as good news: our social abilities affect virtually every aspect of our life.
Beyond socializing, even our personal and work lives depend on our social skills to meet the right people, communicate effectively, and develop relationships.
If your social skills could use some work, the following five books were written just for you.
1. Improve Your Social Skills
This book was not written by a social butterfly who has never experienced the social challenges that many of us face. On the contrary, Daniel Wendler has lived with the diagnosis of Asperger’s Syndrome since his childhood, and the advice he shares in his book are what allowed him to overcome the social challenges that the disorder presents. Not only have they helped him, they’ve helped countless others as well; visit this link to view his Ted Talk to get a preview of the type of insight you can find in his book.
Find Improve Your Social Skills here.
2. The Social Skills Guidebook: Manage Shyness, Improve Your Conversations, and Make Friends, Without Giving Up Who You Are
In this book, the author, Chris MacLeod, presents his belief that three core areas are what prevent people from experiencing success in their social lives: mental barriers (shyness, social anxiety, low self-esteem), undeveloped conversation skills, and a lack of friends or social life. MacLeod offers practical advice for improving upon each of these areas without sacrificing who you are.
Find The Social Skills Guidebook here.
3. Improve Your People Skills: Build and Manage Relationships, Communicate Effectively, Understand Others, and Become the Ultimate People Person
In his book, Patrick King seeks to transform even the most socially inept person into a thriving social butterfly. He focuses on each of the different aspects of socializing to help us better connect with people, build new relationships, and even improve on the relationships we already have.
Find Improve Your People Skills here.
4. Connected: The Surprising Power of Our Social Networks and How They Shape Our Lives– How Your Friends’ Friends’ Friends Affect Everything You Feel, Think, and Do
by Nicholas Christakis, MD, PhD, and James Fowler, PhD
This book, written by a Harvard professor and a political scientist, dives into the unexpected ways that your social circle impacts every aspect of your life. Every person you spend time with is impacting you, which means you’re also being affected by the people who impact them. Not only does this explain certain decisions we make (what we choose to wear, what we order at restaurants, and more), it also emphasizes the importance of who we choose to spend our time with.
Find Connected here.
5. Awkward: The Science Behind Why We’re Socially Awkward
by Ty Tashiro, PhD
Written by a person who struggled with awkwardness his entire life (and ended up becoming very successful anyway), this book is less of a step-by-step guide and more of an in-depth explanation of what makes us “awkward” and why. Dr. Tashiro explains that the same characteristics that make us awkward can also be harnessed to drive our success. If awkwardness is one of your primary social problems, this book can help you understand what makes you awkward so that you can develop a game plan for improvement.
Find Awkward here.
Our social lives (or lack thereof) have more of an impact on us than some may think. Taking the time to improve your social skills might just be the key to developing a happier, healthier, more successful you.
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