David Morin

My Number 1 Technique to Never Run Out of Things to Say

Imagine you are talking to someone, and the topic you’re on slowly dies out… Awkward silence is approaching and it is like the conversation just hit a wall!

Luckily – there’s a simple mindset we can use to look at conversations in a different way. When we think of conversations this way, knowing what to say gets much easier.

You’ll be able to walk into almost any conversation and know that you won’t run out of things to say.

This mindset, or method, is called “conversational threading”. In this email, I’ll show you footage from real conversations where people used this method.

In the core of this method is the fundamental realization about conversations: They don’t need to be linear.

Let me show you what this means.

Say that you come across someone you’ve never met before. Somewhere in the conversation that person mentions:

“I work as a Project Manager for an international marketing firm, so I travel quite a lot”

Afterward the conversation lingers on and eventually, the topic you’re on dies out.

Now, you can go back to any topic of your choice from that simple mention:

  • “By the way, you said that you work as a Project Manager. Do you like your job?”
  • “You mentioned that you work with marketing. What sort of marketing are you working with?”
  • “Do you like traveling or do you get exhausted by it?”
  • “You mentioned that you travel a lot, where do you usually go?”

A real world example

Here’s what you will learn in the video:

00:15 – The solution to never running out of things to say
00:36 – Linear- vs Nonlinear conversations
01:00 – Won’t you come off as random switching the subject?
01:24 – Real life example of Conversational Threading
02:30 – How to best practice Conversational Threading
02:46 – The best thing about learning this

My main goal has never been to have loads of friends or to be around people all the time. I’d rather have a close circle of friends with people I’m able to hang out with when I’m up for it.

If you can relate to this, then I think that the emails you will get from me in the coming days will be a real game changer for you.

So, if I’d say it myself, we did something pretty cool.

During two years time me and a behavioral scientist, Viktor Sander, worked together. We developed a scientifically based program to change your social life for the better.

We talked to thousands of people and tested our material on them. We listened to their feedback, made changes, and tested again. This way, we’ve been able to create material that is, what I’d like to call “pretty darn good”.

Here are the current stats

There’s one thing, in particular, we’ve seen over and over among our readers.

Many of them thought they lacked “something”. Some had an irrational feeling that things just wouldn’t improve. Still, they’ve made amazing progress. As an example, here’s what one of our readers wrote:

“… I am a lot more confident in social situations. I feel I’m a lot less awkward and find making conversation and friends a lot more of a natural process, rather than thinking it was like cracking a code…”

Armaan Chana, London, UK.

Over time, many of our readers make amazing progress. Even those who told us they felt totally lost when they started off.

P.S. What’s holding you back socially?

We all got some baggage and from my experience sharing it is the first step towards conquering it.

I read and treasure all your comments and stories. Comment below!

Comments (17)

  1. Karolina

    I normally don’t have problems talking to strangers but I get uncomfortable when subjects die out.

    I think the conversational threading is interesting, but isn’t it a bit contriversal with the OFC method where I’m not supposed to be thinking about the next step, only being interested in what the other person is saying.

    Since you’ve been working with nervous people I’m wondering if you’ve got any methods to avoid blushing when being nervous. For me it occurs after during presentations mostly or drinking, and since I do a lot of presentations at work it’s causing me a bit of a problem.

    • Viktor Sander

      That’s a great observation Karolina, you seem to have understood our material on a very deep level that we didn’t explain enough.

      In short, I’d say OFC is very effective to reduce anxiety and nervosity. So when that is your main problem, focus on OFC. But when you are not that nervous, conversational threading can be of more use, at least for a while to learn how to find new subjects easily. I’m very interested to hear about your experience with the two “opposing” methods. Which one works best for you?

      I’m not that familiar with blushing yet. Have you tried OFC? I’m thinking that focusing outwards should reduce blushing since blushing is triggered by self-conscious thoughts. I will research this topic more closely and write an article on it in the future because you are not the first to ask.

  2. Debbie

    What is OFC?

  3. Anonymous

    It’s not so much what’s holding me back, but im finding it difficult to talk to influencers online. I’m following a lot of Instagram accounts which post meaningful comments and inspiring photos and I would really like to have a conversation about photography & more, with them. However, I feel like I don’t know what to say, in order to start this type of conversation.

  4. Anonymous

    HI David

    Although I still learn English. But I found a benefit in the conversation.

  5. Gui

    What about when we can’t think of anything to ask/talk about previous conversations? I mean, I have tried that before but it seems that sometimes I am so worried in not hitting an uncomfortable silence that my mind keeps racing and I can’t even think of interesting questions to make about previous conversations because my mind is so hyper…

    • David Morin

      Hi Gui, I see your problem. Conversational Threading is probably not that useful for you until you first learn to relax a bit more in conversations. Have you tried the OFC-method? I think that is a great starting point for anyone in your situation.

  6. Linus

    🙂 Viktor, Namaste.

  7. Linus

    David and Viktor are really the best. i made my brother Ivan subscribe to SocialPro.

    • Viktor Sander

      Thank you Linus, we try our best! 🙂

  8. Dylan

    I’m loving your blog so far, David, and I feel like I’ve barely even scratched the surface of what you have to offer as far as social skills go. You recommended sharing the baggage that we may be carrying and I came here to do just that 😬

    As a kid I always felt like more of an outsider than someone who knew the ropes of being sociable or fitting into my environment. I’m now in college and I fit in better than ever but i feel like I still lack in terms of being conversational. Maybe it was because of bullies from childhood or just not really clicking with classmates as I got older but I’ve kind of become a stoic with a kind of resting pissed face. I feel like this gives off a negative vibe to others that I’m dying to overcome.

    So far your advice seems awesome but I’m not anywhere near through with all your tips. What do you think is the most important article you have on your site?

    • David Morin

      Hi Dylan!

      Yeah it takes some time to catch up if you, like me, didn’t spend hours socializing every day as a kid:) Luckily, you’ll be able to improve much faster when you follow a proven system rather than trial and error!

      Specifically focusing on conversations, I think this guide will be valuable to you!

  9. jennieb

    thanks for the tips david 🙂 my biggest problem is that i just say stupid things when i dont really mean it. i would just want to be in control of what i say and enjoy talking with people more 🙂

  10. Mathis D

    This sounds really interesting, I will def try it out!

  11. Simon Wilson

    What’s holding me back is probably mostly that I don’t meet enough new people, I just don’t feel it’s worth trying until I feel I got a better chance. Because it takes so much energy to get to know someone and then you don’t even know if they are gonna want to hang out with you or if they are just gonna be “busy”. That’s why I read your material, I hope it helps to give me an edge!

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