13 Jul 2018
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How to deal with setbacks in personal development

Sticky Post By On July 13, 2018 With 7 Comments

I just came back from a fun and interesting dinner with a course participant.

I coach him, and in return, he gives me feedback on our material.

We talked about group conversations. He told me about how he’d made great progress at first but then felt like he was back to square one. He asked for advice on what to do next.

It’s a great question. It’s something I’ve struggled with, too.

Luckily, by knowing what the curve of self-improvement looks like, we learn that those setbacks we experience are a natural part of what it takes to improve. read more

29 Jun 2018
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Can you have too little social anxiety?

Sticky Post By On June 29, 2018 With 5 Comments

Hi, what’s up?

I know a guy with ZERO social anxiety.

I think it’s because he lives a yogi lifestyle where he meditates several hours per day. (Meditation lowers anxiety.)

Without anxiety, he must have an amazing social life, right?

Wrong. He’s a living proof that social anxiety has a purpose.

The purpose of social anxiety is this, according to science:

The function of social anxiety is to increase arousal and attention to social interactions, inhibit unwanted social behavior, and motivate preparation for future social situations. (ref.) read more

22 Jun 2018
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How I deal with social fear

Sticky Post By On June 22, 2018 With 6 Comments

Back in the day, there was a huge festival in the Netherlands that I always wanted to go to.

So one year, my friends decided to go and I had my chance to join. But I didn’t.

I said it was because I couldn’t afford it. But the real reason was fear.

I felt too afraid to go there and meet a bunch of strangers and be in a brand new environment. I told myself “I’ll go another year instead”.

But later, the festival closed down, and my chance was gone for good.

Luckily, I later learned a new way to think about fear. (Therapists worldwide teach this way to help people take control over fear.) read more

29 Jun 2018
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“It feels like others judge me for everything I do”

Sticky Post By On June 29, 2018 With 4 Comments

Ever been at an event with people you don’t know, and when you’re about to say something, you feel like people will judge you?

Here’s what one of our readers wrote in the survey we did a few weeks ago (BIG thanks to everyone who helped us out):

“I find it difficult to start and continue conversations, and worry that everything I am doing is being judged by others.”

My strongest memory of this was at a dinner with a lot of other startup owners. I hadn’t achieved as much as they had, and I felt like a fraud. read more

11 Jun 2018
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Why you find your best friends at the nerdiest places

Sticky Post By On June 11, 2018 With No Comments

A friend and I took a walk in Manhattan the other night.

We came across this guy who had brought his huge telescope to the street.

He had it pointed at the Moon. He let us watch, and the detail was AMAZING!

He had a phone mount on his telescopes, which meant that I could actually film the moon with my own phone!

Here’s the clip I filmed:
https://socialpronow.vids.io/videos/489ad1bc1c13ea…

Isn’t it mind-boggling that you can hear us talking on a street corner in NYC, but feel like you’re next to the moon? read more

01 Jun 2018
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Is it bad to spend too much time with a friend?

Sticky Post By On June 1, 2018 With 10 Comments

I had a friend who I used to hang out with almost every day. Problem was, as the time passed by, I started to get more and more annoyed with him.

Why?

Well, he tended to talk a lot and wasn’t a very good listener. Over time, I started prioritizing other friends. Finally, it came to the point where I stopped returning his calls. (I still feel bad because of that, and I know that I should have tried to bring the issue up with him first.)

In either case, this must mean that hanging out with a friend every day is bad for the friendship, right? read more

01 Jun 2018
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The 11 Secrets of Highly Popular People

Sticky Post By On June 1, 2018 With 11 Comments

What are the hidden principles behind why some people are so popular?

Luckily, there’s an entire industry built around popularity: The movie industry. Movie creators know exactly how to make a character popular (or unpopular). By studying Hollywood creations like superheroes, we can unveil the secrets of highly popular people and learn how to adapt these principles to ourselves.

What is Popularity?

We define a popular person as someone who is admired, appreciated, loved and is someone who others want to hang out with. We recommend that you first define what popularity means to you. If you don’t, you may come to realize that you’ve lost sight of what you were working towards (and why you wanted it) in the first place. read more

29 Jun 2018
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How to Stop Blushing in Social Settings

Sticky Post By On June 29, 2018 With 2 Comments

We have all been there: suddenly, we are the center of attention, and our face is the first one to tell others how we feel about it. In social situations, blushing is one form of unconscious and involuntary expression that others could easily notice.

This is because the most significant factor of blushing is self-consciousness.

Thankfully, there are some steps to follow to silence this facial snitch.

Step 1: Identify the source

You are the best judge in determining what situations bring that sudden blood rush.

Uncomfortable events cause discomfort, and that discomfort leads us to blush1. Although blushing may seem unpredictable, it is just the opposite. If we are aware of our feelings of discomfort and/or anxiety towards certain situations before they occur, we can be prepared before the actual sensation begins. read more

31 May 2018
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Interview with Mark Rosenfeld on attracting people you deserve

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After struggling with shyness throughout high-school and early years of college, Mark turned things around in 2009. A few years later he started teaching confidence in life and dating.

In 2014, he started MakeHimYours.com, sharing what he learned to help women stop the frustrating patterns in their dating lives and start attracting the men they deserve.

06 Jun 2018
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Interview with Natalie Lue on toxic relationships and more

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Natalie Lue of baggagereclaim.co.uk teaches people who are tired of emotional unavailability, toxic relationships, and feeling ‘not good enough’, how to reduce their emotional baggage so that they can reclaim themselves and make space for better relationships and opportunities.

Would you like to tell us a bit about your amazing transformation back in 2005, which also was the starting point for your blog?

That summer, my life appeared to be imploding around me.

I found myself with yet another guy who was emotionally unavailable and “not ready for a relationship”, received a damning prognosis for an illness I’d been battling for 18 months, and my family relationships felt increasingly toxic, amongst other things. read more

18 May 2018
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Won’t I lose who I am if I change?

Sticky Post By On May 18, 2018 With 5 Comments

I just spoke with a friend who lives in my house. She moved to the US from India a while back.

Because of that, she pronounces some words differently, so that sometimes people don’t understand her.

Here’s where we come to one of these interesting “peeks under the hood” of people’s inner workings.

She’s 1) SUPER motivated to be understood and to be successful in the US. But 2) Not very interested in changing her pronunciation.

I got flustered. To me, those two views don’t go together. So, I poked around until she said: read more

17 Jul 2018
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13 Tricks That Will Make People Respect You More

Sticky Post By On July 17, 2018 With 83 Comments

Welcome to your ultimate guide to becoming more respected by others.

I am going to present 13 powerful methods you can practice to not only improve your confidence but to make others take notice and give you the respect you’ve been searching for. With these tips, you’ll be able to:

  • Gain more respect from your friends and peers
  • Command respect in your workplace
  • Become more respected in school or college
  • Find ways to respect yourself more
  • Have the confidence to make long-lasting changes in your life

As you can see by the comments on this article, the methods listed here are powerful. You shouldn’t try to take on all 13 at once but instead focus on a single method first. Once you’re comfortable with that new skill, you move on and try another method if you’d like. If you can improve in just one of these areas, you will notice significant changes in how people treat you and how you view yourself. read more