We just got an email about getting stuck in the “listener trap”:
“[…] to make friends, we got to be interested in the other party, and people make friends with people who make them feel good about themselves. I believe I have done so, by being interested in others’ daily lives, and made new friends.
However, after about 6 months of “friendship”, these people turn to me as someone to talk to, as I’ll always seem to be interested in their daily affairs. The difficulty is that after listening to them talk, they don’t seem to give the slightest about my own daily affairs – they just want to talk about themselves. Most of my newfound friends are like this. I am afraid that if I start talking about myself, these friends would find me whiny and stop being friends with me!