17 Jan 2019
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30 best jobs for people with social anxiety in 2019

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Welcome to the Internet’s most comprehensive list of good jobs for people with social anxiety.

We’ve divided the jobs into the following categories:

  1. Jobs you can learn on your own
  2. Jobs that don’t require experience or education
  3. Jobs that require formal education

Jobs you can learn on your own

Media and design

Graphic designer

As a graphic designer, you can work from home and would only need to contact your clients via email, skype or IM. Even if you work from an office, the majority of the time will be spent working on your own, with the exception of breaks and briefings. Because of this, it’s a popular job for people with social anxiety or introversion.

Average pay: $48 250 / $23 per hour. (Source) read more

10 Jan 2019
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How to tell if a girl likes you: 42 signs she has a crush on you

Sticky Post By On January 10, 2019 With 4 Comments

How do you know if a girl likes you or even has a crush on you?

My name is Viktor Sander. I’ve coached hundreds of men to have more success with women.

Here’s a list of 42 signs to help you understand how she feels about you.

1. Is she laughing at your jokes (even when they’re bad)?

This has always been a BIG GREEN SIGN of interest for me. I’ve seen it both in most of the girls I’ve dated and also in girls my friends have dated. If she got a crush on you, she will most likely think all your jokes are super funny even if they aren’t.

2. Is she mirroring you?

Mirroring means that her body language, posture, or even what she’s saying reflects what you said or did. So if you take a sip of your glass, if she’s mirroring that, she’ll also take a sip of her glass. Or if you cross your legs and she does the same, that’s also mirroring. read more

16 Jan 2019
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301 small talk questions to ask friends, grouped for EVERY occasion

Sticky Post By On January 16, 2019 With 2 Comments

I often get asked by our readers:

“What are good questions to ask friends?” and “What are funny questions I can ask someone?” “What should I ask to get to know someone?”

We decided to go ahead and make a mega list of not 100, not 200, but 301 funny, deep and interesting questions to ask a friend, someone you want to get to know better, or just to have fun.

Conversation starters

General conversation starters

Nice to meet you, what’s your name?

How do you know people here?

What brings you here?

Are you from around here?

Do you come here often? read more

19 Dec 2018
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20 ways to tell fake friends from real friends

Sticky Post By On December 19, 2018 With 7 Comments

How do you tell if a friend is fake or not? It’s not easy because nobody is just good or bad. We all got good sides and bad sides.

But in some people or relationships, the bad sides take over. And that’s when you got a fake friend.

Here are 20 signs that will help you tell your fake friends from your real ones.

1. Pay attention to how much they talk about themselves

I once had a “friend” who would call me almost every day to talk about his ideas and problems. I tried to be a good friend by listening to him and giving him my best feedback.

On some days I also had something on my mind I wanted to talk about, but there was never any space for me to talk. And if I did get to talk a little, he soon changed the topic back to him. read more

30 Nov 2018
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How confident people deal with self-doubt

Sticky Post By On November 30, 2018 With 1 Comment


When I was about to leave everything in Sweden and move to NYC, these doubts popped up in my head:

  • But what if I don’t make any friends?
  • What if I don’t like it there?
  • What if I don’t make any money?
  • What if I have to go back to Sweden and everyone sees that I’m a failure?

Here’s what I’ve come to learn about self-doubt:

1: Everyone has it.

2: Everyone who’s ever succeeded with anything has felt like this and followed their dream ANYWAY.

Life is about doing things DESPITE the feeling that we might fail.

Isn’t it crazy to let life be dictated by a fantasy voice telling us it won’t work?

And we go “Oh, yeah, you’re right, fantasy voice. I’ll ditch all my dreams because it might not work”. read more

19 Dec 2018
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Were they making fun of me behind my back?

Sticky Post By On December 19, 2018 With 5 Comments

In school, I felt like an outsider.

I saw how others connected and had a great time, while I struggled.

Take the other guys in my class for example. I often worried that they were making fun of me behind my back and it felt like it was them inside and then me outside. (We’ve written an article about how to spot a fake friend from a real friend over here.)

One day, a new guy came to class. After a week, he was closer with my classmates than I was after a year.

That “proved it” to me: There’s definitely something wrong with me! read more

05 Nov 2018
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How to stop fiddling (+ other habits that make us look nervous)

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This puzzled me for a long time:

I tried not fiddling, having more eye contact, having a better posture, and so on.

But it didn’t work!

As soon as I didn’t pay attention, I started fiddling again or I forgot about eye contact and posture.

One day, a friend told me about a principle Toyota uses to make cars. It’s called Genchi Genbutsu, and it helped me understand why I couldn’t stop fiddling.

So I’m probably missing some details here but the story of Genchi Genbutsu goes something like this: read more

09 Oct 2018
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“It’s like I don’t know who I am!” (How to find your identity)

Sticky Post By On October 9, 2018 With 1 Comment

How do you know who you really are?

Like, how do you know what your values are and what you really think and feel about things?

Here’s the comment that inspired me to write today’s text. It’s from one of our readers, Jaimie:

“As I am reading these articles and watching your videos (which are fantastic by the way!) I find myself thinking that, even if I do apply these principles to my social life, I will still struggle.

I actually don’t know what I think about things, or what I value and why. I have been such a people pleaser for so long, terrified of rejection, that I lost myself in it all. read more

17 Sep 2018
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Why bars and parties are terrible for connecting and what to do instead

Sticky Post By On September 17, 2018 With 2 Comments

Look at this email I just got:

“Many times I try to have more personal conversations in bars and at parties but people don’t want to talk about more personal things.

I asked someone what they did, whether they loved their job and what they would do if they could do anything.

They just said, “I don’t know, still thinking about it”. People don’t want to have deep and meaningful personal conversations in bars and parties, they just want to keep it light and have a laugh.”

This experience is spot on why loud bars and parties are so bad for connecting with people and getting to know someone. read more