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Sticky Post By David Morin Posted in Personal development With 3 Comments Permalink

Won’t I lose who I am if I change?

Sticky Post By David Morin On May 18, 2018 With 3 Comments

I just spoke with a friend who lives in my house. She moved to the US from India a while back.

Because of that, she pronounces some words differently, so that sometimes people don’t understand her.

Here’s where we come to one of these interesting “peeks under the hood” of people’s inner workings.

She’s 1) SUPER motivated to be understood and to be successful in the US. But 2) Not very interested in changing her pronunciation.

I got flustered. To me, those two views don’t go together. So, I poked around until she said: read more

Sticky Post By David Morin Posted in General Social Skills With 2 Comments Permalink

Is it fake to build rapport?

Sticky Post By David Morin On August 13, 2017 With 2 Comments

Many believe that building rapport (that is – adjusting your behavior to the person you talk to) makes you less authentic because you compromise the real “you”.

I was also sure this was the case a few years ago. This belief kept me from improving my rapport building skills which in turn hampered my social life.

For example, I often used to think that “Being high energy in social settings is just who I am” and I sometimes annoyed people because I didn’t adapt to the setting. When I finally realized that I could also be a calm person without compromising who I was, my social interactions became much more rewarding. read more

Sticky Post By Viktor Sander Posted in Career, Popularity, Self Confidence With 78 Comments Permalink

13 Tricks That Will Make People Respect You More

Sticky Post By Viktor Sander On March 21, 2014 With 78 Comments

Welcome to your ultimate guide to commanding respect from others in all aspects of your life.

Here are 13 powerful methods you can practice to not only improve your confidence but to make others take notice and give you the respect you’ve been searching for. With these tips, you’ll be able to:

Gain more respect from your friends and peers
Command respect in your workplace
Find ways to respect yourself
Have the confidence to make long-lasting changes in your life

As you can see by the comments on this article, the methods listed here are powerful. You shouldn’t try to take all 13 on at once but instead focus on a single method first. Once you’re comfortable with that new skill, you move on and try another method if you’d like. If you can improve in just one of these areas, you will notice significant changes in how people treat you and how you view yourself. read more

Sticky Post By David Morin Posted in Dating, General Social Skills With No Comments Permalink

Interview with dating expert Kezia Noble

Sticky Post By David Morin On May 16, 2018 With No Comments

Kezia runs kezia-noble.com, she is one of the worlds leading dating experts and has helped over 100,000 men to overcome a multitude of sticking points and limiting beliefs.

You are known to give insightful and unapologetically honest advice. What’s one important truth that you teach your students when it comes to social life?

Never to become too available! It sounds kind of counterintuitive, because if you want to grow your social circle and make friends and connections, then yes, in the early stages you do have to be very proactive and say “yes” to a lot of invitations, even if you can’t be bothered or don’t really want to. However, at some point, you need to know when to value your time more wisely. People generally don’t like hanging out with loners or people who are just that a bit ‘too keen’ to come along to any gathering. This essentially comes down to the ‘abundancy’ attraction trigger. A person who is in demand in any area of their life will be perceived to have a higher level of value. Your presence will be appreciated a lot more if you don’t give it away too easily. read more

Sticky Post By David Morin Posted in Dating With No Comments Permalink

Interview with Hayley Quinn

Sticky Post By David Morin On May 4, 2018 With No Comments

Hayley Quinn teaches men and women a new approach to love which emphasizes personal responsibility, action, empathy and a belief that you can design the life you want to lead. She has been featured in media powerhouses like BBC One and Elle.

What’s the biggest misconception people have about becoming better socially, in your opinion?

That more is more. I think whilst a huge social circle and parties all weekend sounds aspirational – I believe it’s actually far more valuable to have close friends who you can rely on and gain emotional security. As well as recognizing that having time spent with yourself is equally as valuable. I’d advise anyone who is working on their social or dating life to still create time for reflection and themselves in order to keep a clear head about what’s really important to them. read more

Sticky Post By David Morin Posted in General Social Skills, Personal development With 2 Comments Permalink

The danger of high self-confidence and low self-esteem

Sticky Post By David Morin On April 20, 2018 With 2 Comments

I know this guy back in Sweden who’s very confident. He talks with a loud voice and has no problem taking up space.

Well, let me rephrase that: His problem is that he takes up too much space.

You see, he always has to be the center of attention. If he’s not, he doesn’t enjoy himself.

He has great self-confidence. In other words, he believes in his own social ability. He can take tell stories that catches everyone’s attention and he knows that he can make everyone laugh.

What he doesn’t have is self-esteem. (I’m not trying to play hobby psychologist here – he’s going to a therapist and these are his own words.) read more

Sticky Post By David Morin Posted in Personal development With 7 Comments Permalink

How to deal with hate and criticism

Sticky Post By David Morin On April 13, 2018 With 7 Comments

A week ago I tried setting up an ad on Reddit to promote our free training.

As you know by now, I love hearing what people think about SocialPro. Maybe that’s why SocialPro is so successful today. Naturally, I wanted to allow comments on my ad to hear people’s thoughts.

Checking in after a few hours, I was quite surprised to see the comments.

You can see all comments here: https://www.reddit.com/comments/7vqyks/heres_a_free_video_training_called_conversation/

It’s fascinating with hate comments like these. Because even if they are from people who don’t know me and clearly hates ads, they still make me sad and uncomfortable. read more

Sticky Post By David Morin Posted in Uncategorized With No Comments Permalink

Interview with Tripp Kramer of Tripp Advice

Sticky Post By David Morin On April 12, 2018 With No Comments

Tripp Kramer runs the blog trippadvice.com, helping guys get over social fears and find great women by being their most attractive and confident selves.

You were shy when you were younger, was there an insight or moment that triggered you to turn it around?

When I was 23 years old I was drinking on the weekends to meet girls. And one night I got so drunk, that I went up and approached a girl and it went terribly.

At this point, I realized that drinking was NOT the solution. I needed to figure out how to meet a girl and be sober.

To me, that seemed like a superpower because you could go up to any woman without having to rely on a crutch. I wanted the ability to talk to any girl at any time and have the chance of getting a date. read more

Sticky Post By Erin Elizabeth Posted in Relationships With 1 Comment Permalink

How to Never Run Out of Things to Say on a Date

Sticky Post By Erin Elizabeth On April 11, 2018 With 1 Comment

Is it possible to never run out of things to say on a date?

I mean, to an extent. It is possible to never run out of things to say on a date but only if you have a pre-set idea of what topics you could bring up, what possible questions you can ask, etc. Hence why I’ve created this article.

Take these questions with a grain of salt; you don’t need to recite them like a laundry list but you can use them as a safety net to have in case you run into the… dreaded awkward silence.

No matter how spontaneous or spunky you are, whether it is nerves or you are having an off day, going out on a date can be a nervous experience. read more

Sticky Post By David Morin Posted in Habits, Personal development With 2 Comments Permalink

The system I use to avoid bad habits

Sticky Post By David Morin On April 6, 2018 With 2 Comments

My friend Andreas came over from Sweden a few days ago. He works with me here in NYC.

His visit makes me really happy – and it’s so fun spending time with him and working together on something I love.

SocialPro has grown so much the last year. All in all, we are now 7 people in “Team SocialPro” and over 1000 new participants join our free training every month.

None of this would have been possible if it wasn’t for you.

This all reminds me of a great mindset a friend (thanks Simon!) taught me a while ago. read more

Sticky Post By Amanda Haworth Posted in Career, General Social Skills, Making Conversation With No Comments Permalink

3 Ways to Effectively Mingle at Networking Events

Sticky Post By Amanda Haworth On April 5, 2018 With No Comments

Ah, networking. You either love it or you hate it.

No matter which end of the spectrum you’re on, networking is undeniably an important part of “climbing the corporate ladder” in most fields of work.

Unfortunately for many of us, the key to successful networking is the ability to effectively mingle (a term which likely evokes a similar emotion as the word “networking”).

But mingling when it comes to networking events is not your average, everyday mingling. Mingling for the purposes of networking requires a different type of etiquette altogether. read more

Sticky Post By Amanda Haworth Posted in Career, General Social Skills, Making Friends, Personal development, Relationships With No Comments Permalink

How to Use Rapport Building to Bond Faster with Anyone

Sticky Post By Amanda Haworth On April 1, 2018 With No Comments

As humans, it’s in our nature to have the desire to be close with other people. This is why it can be such a detriment to our mental and emotional health when we are lacking in healthy personal relationships.

The term “rapport” describes a relationship between two people who have a good understanding of one another and who are able to communicate well. Learning to build rapport with other people can help you to bond quickly with virtually anyone you meet, and having this skill will benefit you in your career as well as in your personal and social lives. read more

Sticky Post By Amanda Haworth Posted in Making Friends, Popularity, Relationships With No Comments Permalink

3 Steps to Improve Your Social Life

Sticky Post By Amanda Haworth On March 31, 2018 With No Comments

As we continue climbing further into adulthood, many of us begin to notice that maintaining a social life becomes increasingly more difficult.

Unless we want our only friends to be our coworkers, we can no longer assume we will make friends in passing like we did in high school and college when our lives and schedules were constantly changing. Instead, we have to be intentional about where and with whom we spend our time.

If your social life could use some improvement, the following three tips will help you to add variety and depth to your boring or limited social spheres. read more

Sticky Post By Amanda Haworth Posted in Career, Personal development, Self Confidence With No Comments Permalink

The Introvert’s Guide to Personal Development

Sticky Post By Amanda Haworth On March 30, 2018 With No Comments

As introverts, we have a tendency to be keenly aware of our shortcomings.

We are our own worst critics, and if we aren’t careful we can easily slip into periods of depression as a result of what we perceive to be a plethora of imperfections.

But we can avoid these negative side effects of our introspection by creating personal development plans that provide us with a structure for turning our weaknesses into strengths.

Personal development plans are short- or long-term goals combined with an action plan for accomplishing them. These plans also include a list of resources to be utilized throughout the process and other components that improve the likelihood for success such as mentorship, accountability, and self-reflection. read more

Sticky Post By David Morin Posted in Personal development With 2 Comments Permalink

Why some succeed in life and others do not

Sticky Post By David Morin On March 30, 2018 With 2 Comments

How come some are successful at everything they do while others seem to not go anywhere in their lives?

Behavioral scientists know why, and have been able to attribute a lot of success in people’s lives to a concept they call “Internal Locus of Control”.

I have two friends who are both smart, driven and social. If you just hung out with them for a day, you wouldn’t notice any fundamental differences between them.

Still, one of them is wildly successful while the other one gets nowhere in his life. read more

Sticky Post By Amanda Haworth Posted in Career, General Social Skills, Personal development, Self Confidence With No Comments Permalink

How to Stop Overthinking Social Interaction

Sticky Post By Amanda Haworth On March 29, 2018 With No Comments

As an introvert with social anxiety disorder, I overthink like it’s my job.

I think about stuff, I think about why I’m thinking about it, and I think about why I think about why I’m thinking about it. (Have a headache yet? Me too).

Although it’s easy to make light of, in all actuality overthinking is not a lighthearted subject. The overthinker’s biggest obstacle is the ability to make decisions, and it’s far more damaging than people give it credit for.

The Function of Fear

At the root of our overthinking is one simple factor: fear. read more

Sticky Post By Amanda Haworth Posted in General Social Skills, Making Friends, Personal development, Self Confidence With No Comments Permalink

An Introvert’s Guide to Becoming More Extroverted

Sticky Post By Amanda Haworth On March 28, 2018 With No Comments

If you’re an introvert, then you understand that we are naturally more inclined to be reserved, guarded, and socially isolated.

This is not necessarily the result of poor social skills; rather, introverts feel rested and energized after spending time alone participating in more solitary activities, while extroverts draw energy from being around other people.

But you’ve probably noticed that the extroverts you know have lots of friends, a thriving social life, and seem to be generally more likable. According to VeryWellMind, extroverts are also less likely to have psychological disorders such as anxiety and depression.¹ read more

Sticky Post By Amanda Haworth Posted in Career, General Social Skills, Making Conversation, Making Friends, Personal development, Self Confidence With No Comments Permalink

How to Become More Socially Skilled

Sticky Post By Amanda Haworth On March 27, 2018 With No Comments

So your social skills need a refresher.

Maybe you’ve been out of the dating game for a while and you need to brush up a bit before you dive back in. Or perhaps your social life is in a rut and you need a little boost.

Either way, you’ve come to the right place. We’ve narrowed down an expansive list of social “do’s” and “don’ts” into three primary categories of social skills for adults:

Conversation skills,
Listening skills, and
Confidence

Every other social necessity you can think of can be found within one of these categories, so familiarizing yourself with the three umbrella skills is the quickest way for you to improve your social abilities. read more

Sticky Post By Amanda Haworth Posted in General Social Skills, Making Friends, Personal development, Popularity With No Comments Permalink

The Introvert’s Guide to Becoming Truly Likable

Sticky Post By Amanda Haworth On March 25, 2018 With No Comments

By nature, introverts prefer spending time alone just as much (if not more) than we enjoy spending time with other people.

But just because we may not choose to use our social skills as often as extroverts doesn’t mean we don’t have any.

Although our lack of socializing is by choice, occasionally we still find ourselves wondering if the reason why we don’t spend that much time with people is because other people just don’t like us.

In this article you’ll find a guide to being likable and putting those social skills (we do have them, I swear!) to good use. read more

Sticky Post By Amanda Haworth Posted in General Social Skills, Making Conversation, Making Friends With No Comments Permalink

3 Foolproof Conversation Starters

Sticky Post By Amanda Haworth On March 24, 2018 With No Comments

Many of us have found ourselves in that uncomfortable situation where we want to talk to someone (or maybe we don’t, but we know we should), and we have absolutely nothing to say.

On a normal day you can probably think of plenty of things to discuss, but as soon as it’s time to actually start a conversation– poof! It’s as if all your thoughts and ideas immediately disappear.

In these situations, it’s helpful to have a go-to list of conversation topics that you know you can rely on. Here we will share three conversation starters that work every time, no matter where you are or who you’re talking to. read more