A while back, I was at a friend’s small house party. As I was making conversation, I hear a loud voice behind me.
“HELLO EVERYBODY, HOW ARE YOU DOING?”
Everyone turned their heads.
I (and probably everyone else) thought: “Wow, here’s a confident person”
But in a series of events, this person who had made such a confident approach turned out to be the most unlikeable person at the party.
As an example, he went up to my group of people and started talking. Pretty soon, it was obvious that he was more interested in hearing his own voice than others.
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