How to Never be Nervous Around People

How to Never be Nervous Around People

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Identify negative issues 

If you want to feel more comfortable around others it’s important that you take small steps towards achieving your goal. By following these tips it can help you learn how to be less nervous around people.

First, you’ll want to identify what is holding you back when spending time with others. Most of the time, it’s insecurity that is the root cause of why you feel shy or awkward around others. If this is applicable to you the first step is to write down what thoughts you encounter when meeting others.

Question self doubt

Next, you need to question that thought. Write down all the reasons why you are good enough. Once you are finished, tear the negative thought from the page and hold on to the list and read over it regularly. While this exercise may sound corny to some, what this does is it makes you focus on a positive view of yourself. When you build the habit of questioning negative thoughts and focus instead on the fact that you are worthy, and that you do have much to offer to others, it is then that you can move on.

Start small

Now you need to build experience in socializing with others. You can begin by practicing with someone you feel comfortable with such as a relative or friend. Practice making small talk, and ask others to help you with your nervous mannerisms like if shuffle your weight during conversation. The goal here is to practice as much as you can because this experience can help you build confidence in the social skills needed to thrive in a wide variety of social situations.

Learn how to be less nervous in school

School is a great time to practice socializing with others. One of the best ways to do this is when you are walking down the hallway keep your eyes up and say hi to others. While some may not respond, others will see that you are being outgoing and will approach you. School also provides you with other avenues to meet people through small groups in class, school trips and clubs. Don’t be afraid to participate in after school activities as this is an easier way to talk to others and build more confidence.

Develop confidence to become less nervous in college

College is an exceptional time in your life because everyone is on the same playing field. You will find more people in university that share your same interests, particularly in your junior and senior years when you study your major. To become less nervous in college, take the initiative early and join clubs that appeal to your interests. At these clubs, introduce yourself to others. This is a great way to build confidence as some people are more receptive when someone else makes the effort to get to know them.

Learn to be less nervous at work

It’s vital that you develop self confidence and experience, because once you earn a job, these skills can help you feel more comfortable in your work environment. When at work, take the time to introduce yourself to others, even if they are not in your department. Invite a few coworkers to lunch or to spend time together outside of work.

This process may feel weird at first and you may make mistakes, but don’t let that discourage you. Not everyone will be receptive to your efforts, but it’s important to try. When you do, it helps you break out of your shell and gives you a better opportunity to make lasting friendships. 

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David Morin

I'm David Morin. I'm a social life expert. I'm featured in more than 20 self improvement and career sites and newspapers, among those Business Insider, Lifehacker and Thought Catalog. I live in Gothenburg, Sweden.