This is terrible advice

This is Terrible Advice

Over the years I’ve read so much terrible advice on how to improve socially. It’s not just that it doesn’t help – it can even make you worse off and hurt your social life. Here are some of the worst…

How Can You See if Someone Wants to Continue Talking?

I’ve gotten a bunch of questions from you like the ones below. So today, I want to talk about how to know if someone wants to keep talking – or end the conversation. “How would I know whether the person…

How Your Looks Affect Your Social Life

How Your Looks Affect Your Social Life

I often see statements like “Looks don’t matter” “It’s the inside that counts” This frustrates me because it’s not true. In reality, looks do matter (and everyone knows it). The first moment, the first second when we meet someone, our…

When Life Gives you Shitty Cards - Do This

When Life Gives You Shitty Cards – Do This

This guy made a life-changing realization, right here: “I spent years in therapy “because” I was too ugly to get a girlfriend. My therapist insisted I was using that as an excuse. I balked. Why would I make up a…

The fastest way to come off as self confident (Video + analysis)

The Fastest Way to Come Off as Self Confident (Video + Analysis)

A few days ago I told you about how I read books on self-confidence and thought everything would change. But then, when push came to shove, my brain froze. Nothing had changed. I basically got a really strong irrational feeling…

Research: Setting up goals won't help change your life, you need a daily “System”

Research: Setting up Goals Won’t Help Change Your Life, You Need a Daily “System”

I had just started my journey on “self-improvement” and had a very clear goal if who I wanted to be. My goal felt so real I could almost touch it. I was super motivated. I read books on the topic….

Should you “Be yourself”? (What does that even MEAN?)

Should You “Be Yourself”? (What Does That Even MEAN?)

I sometimes get this urge to strangle people who’s go-to advice is “Just be yourself”. Should I just be myself even if that puts people off? Should I be honest all the time, even if that makes people upset? What…

Research Shows Self Affirmations Don’t Work – Here’s What to do Instead

Have you ever had thoughts like these: “People will think [insert negative thing] about me” “No matter what advice I get, there’s just… something in me that’s not enough” “I don’t feel important enough to people” “Everything would be better…

This Guy is Proof You Don’t Need an “Interesting Life Story” To Be Interesting

I know a guy who’s not the traditional social type… at all. He doesn’t care much about his looks or what others think of him. He isn’t even that interested in making new friends. He just wants to relax and…

Turning People You Like Into Close Friends, Without Being Try-Hard

Turning People You Like Into Close Friends, Without Being Try-Hard

How do you keep in touch with someone you hit it off with without coming off as try-hard or awkward? You know, That person you had a lot in common with at that meetup The colleague you have a chat…

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